Partner watching porn

Pissy Missy

Watching coronation street at the moment and Sally wants to take a break from Tim because she found out he was watching porn, what would you do if you found out your partner was watching porn? My ex used to watch it but I think I just got used to it but initially I was put off by the fact he was into it while in a relationship with me, as if I wasn't enough. What are your thoughts?

Jequ0n

I think you will struggle to find someone on boards who indulges in such filth.

Miadhc

Coomers assemble.

BaywatchHQ

I wouldn't know due to being an incel but I would still watch porn even if I had a girlfriend. When I get in the mood I lust after specific things for example I could be lusting after a busty red head or a 50 year old milf. Porn allows you to meet those desires. I suppose some people may just enjoy sex as the act but for me I like to get off on specific things depending on the mood I am in.

This may be a symptom of long term inceldom as my sex life has been porn, I've never known a normal life. This is why inceldom should be considered an official illness as it prevents you some developing normal sexual relationships.

Still stihl waters 3

If I was married to Sally I'd also pick porn over hitting her with the purple mushroom headed yogurt splasher

NedsNotDead

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119425524#Comment_119425524

Honest question. Does anyone on Boards actually buy into your nonsense

Dial Hard

I'm a chick. I'm in a relationship. I watch porn. I have absolutely zero issue with my partner doing the same. It would only ever be an issue if it was directly impacting our sex life. It's never happened me but some couples do run into problems whereby one partner would rather watch porn than sleep with their other half, can't achieve orgasm through "real life" sex etc.

Larbre34

I know many women do enjoy porn too, but for the avoidance of doubt and lest anyone be naive, the number of men who will avoid the opportunity to watch porn and masturbate to it, has to be less than 5%, maybe less than 1%, in a relationship or not.

So if thats going to be a deal breaker for any woman (or gay man partner), save yourself the grief and never get into a relationship with a man.

AndrewJRenko

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119425518#Comment_119425518

A bit harsh on Corrie.

Brid Hegarty

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119425539#Comment_119425539

Well I'm glad you're finally asking an honest question. Why wouldn't we buy into it? It's quite likely true. Are you implying he's making it up?

Potential-Monke

As long as it doesn't affect the relationship, there's zero harm. What they're googling may be worth a look, but I'd urge you to ensure you know the top 10 porn searches before jumping the gun (Hentai took top spot last year!).

Jequ0n

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119425783#Comment_119425783

I agree that I’d be far more interested in the genre of porn that was being favoured.

Real Donald Trump

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8hdbns1Xdk0

Nice

[Deleted User]

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119425775#Comment_119425775

You and Baywatch would be perfect for each other

As for the OP's question it isn't a deal breaker for either of us, OP but understand that you might feel differently.

Gant21

It was Turkish mickeys last week, now coronation street mickeys. Op mickeys are giving you problems.

Hello 2D Person Below

Everyone with internet access watches porn.

The real question is, how many Boardsies watch it with their partner?

gary550

I'm with tim on this one, I'd rather watch porn than f*ck sally.

would I watch porn in a relationship? no idea. If my missus was letting me give her the best 2 minutes of her life 5 times a week probably not.

Leg End Reject

Does anyone with access to the internet not watch porn?

Porn can be watched with a partner to rev the engines, solo for "self care", or to indulge in fantasies you have no interest in experiencing.

It wouldn't be something that would bother me, although I'd be curious in seeing what piqued a partner's interest.

riclad

Men watch porn, women watch porn. Also you might watch porn cos you like a porn star or you like lesbian porn, just cos someone watchs porn does not mean they don't love you or care about their partner. Porn is not an emotional thing, it's like women watch love Island or reality TV. Everything in moderation, if it's at the point where its effecting your relationship in a bad way or making you not want to have sex with your partner then it's a problem. Also some couples watch porn together. Young people are not used to having acess to porn free anytime all you need is a smartphone is say probably 90 per cent of people under 60 watch porn , this is not the 90s when you actually had to go to a sex shop to buy dvds or magazines . If a woman thinks her bf does not watch it, she's naive or innocent or she's has no idea of how men think

2 weeks ago there was a letter to Newstalk I'm an adult Podcast, from a man, he said I watch porn 4 times a day and **** , is it too much, its at the point where I don't want to go out with drinks with friends. Am I addicted to porn do I have a problem , he works from home for a tech company. He probably does it during work hours. He had a girlfriend a year ago and split up with her

Is not cheating to watch porn. Of course if your bf watchs porn rather than have sex with you it's a problem. It's like smoking or drinking to excess it can have negative effects on a relationship if its taken too far,

Badically 90 per cent of humans watch porn , if they have easy acess to it, on phones or laptops

Porn is like a fantasy it's should not effect a relationship for most people I think gen z got most of their sex education thru watching porn whether that's a good thing is another topic porn allows people to see their fantasy

the average person will probably never be in a threesome with 2 beautiful women who are ready to try anything for example

If every woman split up if they caught thier bf watching porn 90 per cent of people would be single , I heard a female celeb on a comedy interview podcast randomly say go to website X if you want to watch good porn it's free

Men watch porn it's like women watching reality TV or a soap it should not big deal unless it's having a negative effect on your relationship

I would slightly change the sentence "Is not cheating to watch porn.". I would say that it is not _ automatically _ cheating to watch porn. But the actual boundaries in each relationship can only be set within that relationship. And if someone clearly indicates that porn is a boundary than indeed watching porn is cheating.

So to answer the OP about what to do if you "catch" your partner watching porn - the question would be have you already informed said partner that porn is an issue for you? If not - then you should inform them of this upon catching them. If yes - then they have "cheated" on the boundaries of your relationship and only you can decide what to do with that.

What I would say is that the "It's like I am not enough for him/her" thinking is not generally a safe way to think. Porn often serves different impulses or immediate impulses. Even in the most fulfilling and exciting sexual relationship therefore - a person may still engage with porn. Just like you could live with the best chef in the world who is constantly making you wonderful meals and you still might find yourself craving a McDonalds once in awhile.

In the end - as with most things in relationships - communication is key. Have to say that I am a guy who gets absolutely no titillation from watching porn alone. If I watch it I watch it only with my partners - and we generally subscribe to and pay for our porn rather than watch anything "free" on the usual porn websites.

Stone Deaf 4evr

In the interest of clarification, when people say 'watch porn', I assume they mean that they're mastubating as part of watching?

because if they're not, and just looking at it in the same way you'd casually watch a sitcom or something, then yes, I would consider it very odd.

Turquoise Hexagon Sun

Men are so visual we can be mildly turned on by multiple women we see on the street per day. Being in a relationship may temper that temporarily but not really. If I was a woman and my BF or husband wasn't watching porn, I'd be worried.

No woman is so special that they're going to undo 100's of thousands if not millions of years of biological evolution. Marriage and monogamy are relatively new things introduced into the human race and society. In many ways they're antithetical to men's biological urge to pro-create and potentially with many different partners. But, we live in a civilized society. We know children are best raised by two parents. We know non-monogamy hurts our partners.

Porn, although not perfect and can be detrimental if consumed too much is preferable to non-monogamy and acting on urges to have sex with many different women.

Why do people think that the most beautiful and highly sought-after women in the world still get cheated on? Because men, no matter who you are, still want other women. Some men will act on that and cheat. Others will withdraw into the fantasy world of porn.

o1s1n

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119425524#Comment_119425524

Do you have a big shoehorn at home with the word INCELDOM written on it?

NedsNotDead

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119425775#Comment_119425775

@Brid Hegarty Don't worry Brid. I don't buy in to your crap either

Grayson

There was a prospective study in a university a while back where they wanted to compare attitudes between people who watch porn and those that have never seen it. The problem was that they couldn't find any me who had never watched porn.

I actually wrote a paper on the history of porn (It was based on marketing and innovation). Every time any new technology comes out, people find a way to use it to view naked pictures of people. And they're very quick in finding a way to do it.

Ekerot

I haven't watched porn in well over 10+ years now. I'm not really sure what happened, just one day in the midst of puberty (16) I thought "How long have I've been at this?" and realized probably when I was 6.

I abstained from both porn and **** for a year (no easy feat) just to try and beat the habit (lol), and I did. Not sure ho

I feel better without it in my life though - can't say most of the women I've been with weren't chaste about the subject. They consumed vast quantities more than I ever did.

CGI_Livia_Soprano

You started watching pornography at 6?

pauliebdub

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058257352/partner-watching-porn

That Sally character has had so many affairs and men on the go over the years that its a bit rich of her to get a hump over current boyfriend watching porn.

Ekerot

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119429379#Comment_119429379

I did yeah, mind you it was the premium adult channels on sky, but porn all the same.

bad2thebone

My girlfriend watches porn, she's facinated by the female to male pornstars. She's a latent lesbian as she describes herself, bi I suppose in a better sense of the word . She even has a few favorite female to male pornstars.

But I have no issues with it, none of my business really what she does as I have no ownership of her down time or any time for that matter. We share time together and we're quite conservative in values in most ways but it's no big deal. If I'm not around and she's feeling like an aul indulgence, it's her right and she's not harming anyone. Nor is she creating any imbalance in my sense of security in the relationship.

Greyfox

I think asking a man to never look at porn would be like asking a man to travel to the moon on a bicycle.

I look at porn 3 or 4 times a week, every now and then I feel the urge to look at it more and when this happens I know I need to avoid it for a while. If I look at any more it's 100% guaranteed to have an effect on my sex life.