Condom normal usage

standardg60

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119255906#Comment_119255906

Actual headaches or they started telling the missus not to bother trying?

Big Bag of Chips

A number of off-topic posts have been deleted.

@Gant21 I ask you specifically to read The Forum Charter. I have deleted a number of your posts today that were below the standard of posting expected in this Forum.

sprucemoose

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058251776/condom-normal-usage

eh, you sure you know how things work though?

WildForest

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119269467#Comment_119269467

I qualified my first post by saying I cover up quicker depending on OH's cycle. It is not a million miles of the rhythm method but with protection at the end...and less mess. I googled after reaction to the post and there are a number of studies in this area including one from the RSCI. The age profile of participants in the RSCI paper are in their 20s to early 30s.

Are my reading comprehension skills betraying me or do people actually stop mid-ride to put a johnny on?

shesty

The snip.

On your wife's behalf.Trust me.Condoms do fail, no matter when they go on.

artvanderlay

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058251776/condom-normal-usage

Midway??? That sounds crazy. Put it on at the beginning! Married 20 years, no kids and don't plan on having any :)

notAMember

OP, What you're doing is combining two contraceptive methods there, rhythm method and barrier method, which is very effective, more effective than using one method alone.

You could consider the snip just to stop tracking or buying condoms, and also in case the cycle starts to change closer to you getting to your 50's. But if you're well aware of your own body and your wife's body and cycle, midway works fine when you're aware of the cycle phase. (that's the rhythm method) . Kudos to you on being in tune with your wife and her body by the way. Plenty of men don't have that awareness or consideration.

For the incredulous commenters who are shocked, I wonder if any of you change position or adjust. Because it sounds more like 30 seconds in one position, wham bam and you're done. Condoms can slip or tear if they are on for too long, or if there is a position change and they are readjusted.

Donald Trump

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058251776/condom-normal-usage

OH believes condoms should go on at the start or near enough and I work on a different policy

How exactly have you managed to get this far and still declare to be each using different "policies"?

Unless your missus has the different "policy" for some other fella!

Mobius2021

In a LTR I don't understand why you're not looking at other options and ditching the condoms.

My wife and I are not big fans of condoms, as a guy I certainly notice a huge difference and she does too. It's much more intimate without and putting on a condom breaks the flow of things. We both did use condoms of course for one night stands, friend with benefits, that kind of thing before we met.

Apart from the first few times we had sex and after each of our two kids being born (as you can't go back on the pill right away) we have never really used condoms much.

After kids number two I got the snip and it's great. No condoms and no need for the pill either.

artvanderlay

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119318698#Comment_119318698

Well you can change condoms with position changes/breaks in action. That's what I do. Going a lot longer than 30 seconds too :) Never had any problems. I think I'm a bit of a freak because I prefer sex with the condoms (extra thin though). I don't view it as a chore at all, and keeping things up is not a problem (ahem!). Wife didn't really like the effects of the pill, and I didn't want her putting anything into her system that was not good for her, so I view contraception as my responsibility. In the words of Pat Mustard "I'm a very careful man, Father". I'm also grateful for the sex, so it's the least I can do :)

ElizaBennett

Sounds like there is a variety of approaches on here. Im in the condom on midway camp. Late 40s female, long term partner but my ex husband and I did this too. Basically my GP is ultra conservative and cut me off for oral contraception at about 43.. but that's another annoying story. Couldn't stomach the idea of putting something that sounds like a torture device permanently inside me ( the coil.. eek!) So we don't have options. I have no problem with how we conduct business. We get down to proceedings, maybe for 10 to 15 minutes, changing position, etc, then he goes to put the condom on while I look at him admiringly, maybe touching or kissing him, and then into the final phase which is much more busy and intense, shall we say. It works for us. Very well.

CrookedJack

OP I'm confused, when I first read your post I thought you meant "Midway" meaning after foreplay but before penetration. But others seem to assume you mean halfway through penetration, approaching climax. Although now I think of it maybe when in a long-term marriage with kids the foreplay part is non-existent?

If it's the case of midway through penetration, then that sounds mad. Building up all that lovely pressure and erotic tension to then have to stop, root around for a packet and fumble it on, all while you both start cooling down. Also, you know there are days where you might just enjoy it that bit too much and "beat the buzzer" so to speak.

At the end of the day though, if she wants it on from the start surely that's her choice? Why would you not want to do it, if it makes her more comfortable? I mean I imagine there are plenty of couples in their forties with kids who don't have sex at all, you're probably quite lucky in that way and should try to protect the romantic feelings you both have.