Condom normal usage

WildForest

Have followed boards for years but haven't posted for a few years so had to set up a new account. Had a discussion yesterday with the OH regarding normal usage of condoms. Before anyone comments I understand reproduction and how things work - married with kids in 40s. OH believes condoms should go on at the start or near enough and I work on a different policy - the Just in Time method or well past midway. So for those in a similar situation LTR etc. what's your policy.

Corolla1990

Unless both party have a reproductive problem you can get pregnant by pre-cum. So how can you put it on midway?

It should go on before any action starts. I don't know if you are trolling but someone mid 40's with kids should know this.

lawred2

I'm a midway man myself.

That or pull it out.

40 years of age and three planned kids. No accidents.

WildForest

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119249679#Comment_119249679

Thanks. There is always one that thinks everyone is trolling.

Gant21

Definitely just stop and wrap up and go again before you fire.

Feisar

What planet are ye lads on.

cj maxx

Always as soon as you know its gonna happen and are hard. If you're in a LTR and there's other contraceptive options, why are you still using condoms?

WildForest

Have used other methods previously but some didn't agree and OH not that keen on hormonal. Use to be able to follow the cycle more regularly, which gave a indication of when to cover up quicker, but not as easy now. Would have presumed condom usage was common enough in the 40 to 50 age group. But maybe not.

giveitholly

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119250082#Comment_119250082

Getting the snip is the only answer,you will not regret it

cj maxx

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119250082#Comment_119250082

Ì know of women who just don't like that sensation , but I would have thought that people in their 40's in a LTR would have moved past that. But if other methods don't work, put it on as soon as you start. I could never stop. Mid fu.ck to put one on. Just me.

Gant21

Is ltr some LGBTQIA’s+?

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Victor

LTR = long term relationship

Jequ0n

I don’t understand why you’d put on a condom mid way. You are still risking pregnancy and are ruining the sex by interrupting in the middle to wrap up.

Wezz

Unless you are both ok with another baby I’d be putting it on at the start. Not work the risk of stopping midway.

but if your family is complete I don’t understand why you wouldn’t just go for a vasectomy.

Dial Hard

My policy on condoms is that they suck and there's no way I'd be using them in a committed relationship (female, 40, btw).

One of the reasons they suck is the very one you're dealing with - having to figure out when to put it on, interrupt the proceedings to do so, etc etc.

If your wife can't/won't do hormonal contraception there are other options out there that both of you can explore. Copper coil for her, vasectomy for you, etc.

I actually can't think of anything worse than being with someone long term and still using condoms. They just kill any iota of spontaneity around sex. It's a happy day indeed for me in a relationship when we do the "get tested and ditch 'em" thing.

Gant21

Coitus interuptus is the only way now

ted1

Mid 40s with kids ? No reason not to get the snip.

best €400 you will ever spend.

colly10

Same, always been midway. 39 with no unplanned kids

Markus Antonius

Abstinence is the safest way

Jb1989

I thought aids and other diseases came from unprotected sex too, and it was the norm to put condom on from first penetration.

I'm surprised not to have seen this mentioned.

Always put on at the beginning here, or else not at all.

My personal opinion though.

Padre_Pio

Always did it halfway or near the end.

No happy accidents after 10 years or so..

Maybe I'm the problem

Dial Hard

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119255284#Comment_119255284

They're married. I know people cheat but for the most part, people in committed relationships will trust that their partner isn't putting them at risk of STIs.

Loafing Oaf

dodgy joke deleted, forgot this was RI forum...

Pissy Missy

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119255284#Comment_119255284

In a LTR you'd be hoping there would be no STDs from your OH, though seeing as 50% of ppl cheat you're prob right

Pissy Missy

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058251776/condom-normal-usage

Men can start getting the pill now so if you haven't tried it, there's an option for you. Risky sex is not worth the possibility of having another child unless you're prepared for it

Dial Hard

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119255886#Comment_119255886

No they can't, that never even made it to the market. Clinical trial was stopped because some participants were getting headaches, basically.

Pissy Missy

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119255906#Comment_119255906

Rage 🙈

ted1

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119255284#Comment_119255284

It’s with his wife. I don’t think STDs are an issue.

Tefral

Honestly I never in my life heard of being in the middle of penetration and then putting a condom on..

I can understand no condoms during foreplay but once that finishes and your ready to stick it in, thats when the condom goes on in my mind.

RojaStar

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119266656#Comment_119266656

Me neither, talk about ruining the buzz! At the start or not at all as someone said. I'm quite taken aback that this is even a thing 😂.

AgentCluedo

Younger days and pre marriage there was not a chance. It was a case of all bases covered. Married and older now and midway most of the time. Two bites at the cherry!