Guys describing previous sexual encounters, so to speak

Hah me too - I am male and have never suspected otherwise - but I almost exclusively a sitter. Should I be rethinking my pronouns? Am I one of those "They" types now?

banie01

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117953409#Comment_117953409

You, me and Luis Suarez and Lionel Messi 😉 (guess he isn't so Messi after all)

Not bad company to be keeping and certainly proves that Females can compete at the highest level!😂

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/sport/football/article-4313418/Lionel-Messi-Luis-Suarez-reveal-pee-sitting-down.html

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117952530#Comment_117952530

Cisgender means you are comfortable with the gender assigned to you at birth, so I’m told by the people on the radio and that! It means you’re not trans. I’m being careful. 😁

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117952558#Comment_117952558

It’s only that one guy, yes extrapolated to guys in case there’s a multitude of the like out there 😂 which I doubt.

highdef

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117953244#Comment_117953244

I don't get why, as a male who has always been a male (and I doubt I will change that), I can't be just called a male or a man. I am now given a newly used label of "CISGender male". I'm a man, simple as. I don't need extra labels to describe who and what I am, biologically. You can call me a gay man if you want to introduce sexual orientation into the equation (if it's fitting for the conversation being had) but I'm sticking to the biological sex that I actually am.

Should I decide in the future that I feel I should be female and wish to identify as such, I will go and get my biological sex changed to physically match my newly found identity. I think that if I identify as a woman whilst still being a biological man but then I go and sexually penetrate a woman (or man) using my male genitalia would go completely against my identity - I'm probably thinking way too much there as it's way more likely that a biological man who identifies as being a woman would never even dream of carrying out an sex act of that type as that would go absolutely and completely against their identity but I'm willing to learn.

"CISGender male" sounds like another way of saying "Non-transgender male", to me anyway. So instead of just being called a man, I'm now called a man that is not transgender. More labels! Not sure if others agree?

I've no issue if someone transitions from being a male to a female or vice versa. I've no issue with anything a person decides to do with their bodies. My only stipulation is that a person is nice to others, does not harm or harrass others and is otherwise not an arsehole.

Ash.J.Williams

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117953051#Comment_117953051

i believe there is a kink regarding handing over of your credit card, it's most definitely not something that would do it for me nor would i imagine the other party would be all that thrilled either :)

The only detail I, personally, would be interested in is getting confirmation that I am, in fact, bigger that the rest.

The irony is that fully inflated, so to speak, they are all similar size, slightly different shapes. Facial and other features vary much more.

🤣🤣🤣

mrcheez

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117952493#Comment_117952493

glad I'm not the only one... I've given up on humankind in the last couple of years, though I hear the Amazon indians are actually still capable of communicating in standard format

AckwelFoley

What?

You have a cist?

Sonics2k

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117953696#Comment_117953696

You can be called a male or a man, pretty sure nobody has said otherwise. Cisgender (a term I never really use to describe myself) is just another way for someone to say it. If you see someone say it, you know what it means and can move on. Why let it bother you in the way it clearly does?

It's not even the topic of this thread, which is already bizarre enough.

Fandymo

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117953127#Comment_117953127

100% agree.

Mad_maxx

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117953814#Comment_117953814

Because its political language and I won't be a pawn in some activists game

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117953683#Comment_117953683

It’s not necessary to use the term cisgender as liberally as you do in the OP. It’s a useful term when one wants or needs to clearly distinguish between someone who was assigned female at birth and identifies as a woman, and transgender people who identify as women (distinguishing between “women” and “trans women” is clearly freighted with the hurtful implication that trans women aren’t women).

There’s nothing in post that necessitates that, and as we see, has just invited a lot of tedious and irrelevant discussion about gender terminology.

As far as the topic goes, i think it’s weird for anyone to do that with a new partner.

EmmetSpiceland

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117953731#Comment_117953731

Haha, that may well be true, generally speaking, RTS but, let’s face it, when you’re packing both length and girth you’re going to stand out.

All that “all the same” talk is just smallies trying to reassure themselves. Like that talk that the average size, on the horn, is 4.5 - 5”. Or when you hear them say that 5’9, or 10, is “average height”. Has to be closer to 6’ by now. I wouldn’t like to be some 5’9er sporting a 5 inch horn going “out and about”. Talk about a bum deal! No, thank you.

Feisar

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117953731#Comment_117953731

More of a grower than a shower myself.

Burt Renaults

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117953096#Comment_117953096

It's a stupid word that I would only use if I wanted to annoy the kind of people who get annoyed about the existence of trans people.

85603

I am eating chips.

honeyjo

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117953051#Comment_117953051

This post made me roar with laughter. Thanks OP.

Rothko

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117953285#Comment_117953285

It probably is. The only people who use it unironically hate women.

highdef

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117953814#Comment_117953814

Yeah, it may seem bizarre that this thread is talking about people labels when the thread is supposed to be about a woman describing a strange experience of a friend with a guy but the first line of the thread was "I’m of the cisgender female persuasion" - From the onset, I couldn't understand what that term actually meant and when I was educated about it here I then couldn't understand the relevance of why the OP needed to even mention this as it's not connected with her friends unusual experience with another man.

It would be like me walking into a room full of people whom I don't know, with a task to tell them a story about two other people who they also don't know. Instead of opening with the story about the two other people, I begin with "I'm a homosexual man and was born as a male......", followed immediately by the story about the two other people. I'm pretty sure most of the audience would be thinking along the lines of "Why the hell did he tell everyone he's a gay guy and isn't trans? What has that got to the with the story he told us?"

archfi

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117953683#Comment_117953683

Observed not assigned.

There's no sorting hat in the maternity ward!

Wibbs

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117954351#Comment_117954351

I would say much of this self identity stuff is akin to horoscopes and lifestyles in that people feel the need to feel important and feel part of a larger group and to guage if you're inside or outside of that group. So in the 70's or whenever someone might come up and apropos of feck all tell you they're a pisces or whatever and continue on with normal conversation. Or the tired cliche of vegans always telling you they're vegans and so on. Or goths, rockers doing similar with tribal dress. Human nature. We're a social animal that wants to fit into some affiliation and be generally accepted, or at least seen by wider humanity to some degree. We love labels to describe each other and especially ourselves. This is most seen in adolescents as they try on different labels to work out which one fits. Most don't and they become slightly updated versions of their parents. This gender stuff just happens to be fashionable at the moment so you see more doing it. Doubly so online where trends and fashions transmit more quickly and you also have minority tribes looking much larger than they are influencing that.

highdef

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117954399#Comment_117954399

Good post! Perhaps I'm the oddball in that I'm very much not a label person. The clothes I wear are usually cheap brands such as Pennys or Dunnes. Never one for anything branded. If I wear something with an "expensive" label on it, I wouldn't have bought it for the name. It would simply have been because I liked the look of the piece of clothing. I'm not short of money, I could easily wear nice fancy suits or whatever but I've no desire to be part of a group or to be fashionable, just to try fit into a particular tribe. I cut my own hair myself as I don't feel I need to have a certain "style" of hair. A 4 on top and 1 or 2 on the back and sides every 6 weeks or so and I'm sorted and it costs me nothing.....Haven't paid for a haircut in well over 20 years! I live in what would be called a very large detached (by Irish standards) house in a rural part of Kildare. No need for a house that size most of the time with only 2 humans living in it but we have friends and family down a lot. Would rather have loads of space in the country than be in a little 2 or 3 bed house or apartment with hardly any land (if any at all) - much better for the heart, mind and soul and away from the increasingly levels of shittiness in Dublin city.

If I were to meet a new group of people and began talking to a person who tells me near the beginning of the conversation that they are a trans man or woman, I would find that very strange, unless it unlikely came up so soon as a topic in conversation just by chance. I don't bring up my sexuality when meeting new people nor do I tell them that I was born a male and have remained as a male ever since and am happy to be a male. If someone were to tell me that, alarm bells would ring in my head and I'd know that our personalities would clash. I'm laid back, I hate gossip, I hate people with silly agendas. Not fond of people who are hypocrites by behaving in such a manner like complaining about people driving their fossil fuel cars in the city centre on social media followed by another post of them in a swimming pool in the south of Spain saying they're so tired as their flight (in the fossil fuel guzzling jet plane) was delayed for an hour.......that's a very generalised example that I just made up now, BTW!

I do like hanging out with friends, getting takeaway, getting drunk, watching movies, having the craic. I may get some negative feedback on the following but all of my group of friends are as laid back and carefree as me. None of us smoke, none of us are vegan or vegetarian, none of us care about who or what kind of gender, sexuality, etc that a person is as long as they good are craic to be with, aren't a dick to others. In short, none of us are part of any sub groups and so none of us are "branded". There is one thing that we all agree on though....we all HATE Apple!

Now that's a rant!🤗

touts

Cisgender is one of those very useful words in a conversation that allow you to know there is 5 minutes of bullshit coming and you can tune out. The OP was good enough to use it after just 4 words.

km991148

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117954722#Comment_117954722

The irony is the amount of angry old man bullshit on this thread..

Regarding the topic - the guy sounds strange with some insecurities or need to boast - and then trying to somehow justifying it by claiming he thinks that what women want.

Want to know what people want? Just ask them..

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117953814#Comment_117953814

It’s After Hours After All 😂

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117954654#Comment_117954654

Sent from my iPhone

😉

jester77

So a label for something that never required a label. People are over thinking and over analysing way too much these days instead of getting on with life, just ignore the racists and bigots and life will be a lot simpler.

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117952506#Comment_117952506

This is very true.

Although that night of passion I had with Beyonce and her sister together really did happen.

"Cisgender" just another label to add to the pile, brought to you by people who claim they hate labelling people. They don't get ironing either.

Not true. Ive known many a CSI Lady person who loved to do a spot of ironing.