Guys describing previous sexual encounters, so to speak

I’m of the cisgender female persuasion, so to speak; have a similar friend who encountered an otherwise perfectly decent etc cisgender heterosexual male, somewhere in his 30s during lockdown. Was surprised to hear from her that the guy had said during a “romantic encounter” “ I thought girls like that sort of thing”’ when it came to describing how he had interacted with a quite series of previous encounters with females, with each detailed as per name, nationality, what happened etc.

Bit of a fetish, my friend thought.

tdf7187

What?

lintdrummer

I'm not up to speed on all this woke terminology. Is a cisgender female a straight woman?

green daries

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117952491#Comment_117952491

What he said!

Atlantic Dawn

There's some people can be going in to their 30's and still waffling out of them like Jay from Inbetweeners about their escapades with females.

mrmorgan

this makes no sense

Ficheall

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058210898/guys-describing-previous-sexual-encounters-so-to-speak

This sounds like you're complaining about something, but it's unclear what it is.

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117952493#Comment_117952493

I’m just in training myself, lol! I’ll translate as this: I’m female and my female (non romantic) friend encountered a guy in his 30s who reckons women love above all to hear of the litany of previous sexual partners of her new male one. That’s basically it.

Girls are generally turned on by detailed intimate talk of the previous encounters. I think I got that right.

Dont quite know if my friend agreed about this, but Whole I might find it kinky I’d have my serious reservations about break-down of discretion, re h that name etc were disclosed. Think that was part of the kink/pleasure.

green daries

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117952514#Comment_117952514

Right well explained cheers.

Jasus hes weird kink wouldbe a mild descriptionin my view

Correct me if I'm wrong, but "guys" of the adult persuasion don't describe their previous sexual encounters in any detail. Full stop.

highdef

Does cisgender female persuasion mean straight woman? What is cisgender? Sounds like a marketing term.

I'm a male who is sexually attracted to males only. What's the term of the day to describe me? I'm fine with short and sweet "gay". Do I now need to describe my sexual orientation with a plethora or multi syllable words, some recently invented, to avoid being classed as homophobic, hetrophobic, sexist or some other popular sociatal classification that I've perhaps never known to have existed?

Ficheall

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117952514#Comment_117952514

Maybe he encountered one girl who enjoyed it, and then extrapolated to girls in general. Might sound unreasonable of course, but you've extrapolated from this one guy you heard about to "guys", when "people" or "cisgender people" would have done as well, or even "people from Tipperary*", or "people who drive Toyotas*", or "people with blue* eyes" (*adjust as appropriate) which would have been less generalising...

CGI_Livia_Soprano

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117952529#Comment_117952529

Not that you'd know, mate.

Fandymo

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117952491#Comment_117952491

I believe OP is a woman who has a friend, who is also a woman, who was riding a lad who was telling her about past women he had rode, from around the world, as some kind of foreplay/dirty talk during sex.

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117952529#Comment_117952529

Can’t say that’s the case, dude. A bit of idle boasting about prowess when it comes to the old ‘beast with two backs’ is part and parcel of male culture. Perfectly normal. I suppose a lad might be hesitant to describe previous sexual encounters when his previous sexual encounters involve having a wänk sock like a leprechaun’s surfboard stored under the bed.

spurious

I bet that has the ladies lining up, knowing he will be waffling about you to the next one.

whisky_galore

Does this anecdote have a point?

faceman

On the plus side, at least we are clear on the gender and sexual preference of the people involved. That's the most important bit.

But yeah, it sounds like this lad is a tad young and immature. Maybe the OP is too if they're asking the internet.

Ah life, just wait till you get older and you realise we learn nothing in life, bar the best places to get coffee and tacos.

Ash.J.Williams

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117952493#Comment_117952493

Cis is what woke people call normal people these days 😊

Gregor Samsa

@[Deleted User]

I might find it kinky I’d have my serious reservations about break-down of discretion, re h that name etc were disclosed. Think that was part of the kink/pleasure.

Yes, this is part of the whole new GDPR fetish scene. One of you plays the Data Controller, one of you plays the Data Subject, and you disclose personal data such as names, email addresses - and if you're particularly kinky, the last 4 digits of credit cards. Just remember to have a safe word in case anyone takes it too far and utters a PPSN.

Cisgender means you identify as your assigned birth gender.

Basically, I was born a man and I identify as a man. Or a woman born a woman who identifies as a woman.

Or as I like to say, a sit down wee, or a stand up wee.

highdef

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117953096#Comment_117953096

Cisgender is a horrible world. I find it derogatory and insulting that I am being labelled with this new word to describe being a male who identifies as a male. Fair enough if I get my micky and balls removed and replaced with some sort of fanny plus get breast implants, then it would be reasonable enough for me to identify as a female but I could never describe myself as being female when I still have my meat and two veg.

For me to identify as a female is like me saying that I identify as a cat. Can I be legally recognised as being a cat if I truly believe that I am a cat, even though I'm not biologically a cat?

EmmetSpiceland

I’ve never known of womxn to enjoy hearing, lurid, tales of a man’s previous, sexual, “encounters”. Just as guys don’t want to hear too much about their’s. The only detail I, personally, would be interested in is getting confirmation that I am, in fact, bigger that the rest. If you know what I mean. Very good batting average there, make no mistake.

I, myself, would have had a, quite, considerable number of “conquests” and would never dream to talk about any of them with the previous ones. The only time it might come up is if 2 of them knew each other. You might get a couple of curious enquiries but nothing too “graphic”.

I don’t mind lads sharing “stories” of what they’ve gotten up to but, on the whole, no names are given out to respect the other person’s right to anonymity. The only time you might signal to a pal that you’ve bagged someone is if you heard than wishing they’d got their hands on “so and so” in college, you know? A wink and a little nod let’s them know you’d already been there.

Bit of a weird one alright, OP.

Sonics2k

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117953127#Comment_117953127

Cisgender isn't really a new word, and has been around for a few decades now. It's just that it's used a bit more on the internent than previously. I love that you find it derogatry though, had such a tough life that a technical description is hurtful but okay.

As for the rest of your gibberish, clearly there has been zero research done into being Trans, and that's fine. It's not something that impacts your life, but if you're going to get involved in a topic, do some research on it because all it does is lower the tone, cause pointless bickering and also has nothing to do with this actual thread.

GerardKeating

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117952493#Comment_117952493

A "CISGender Female" is a female who is born female, and is still female. This relates to gender and not sexual orientation.

Wibbs

"Cisgender" just another label to add to the pile, brought to you by people who claim they hate labelling people. They don't get irony either. Though of course the data miners for advertising love all this nonsense. The reason Arsebook has dozens of "genders" is nothing to do with being inclusive and more that they can target services and products and dopamine hits for the dopes ever more precisely. "Non binary twin spirit trisexuals" click on ads for wine more than others, flog them more wine.

Though these Yank loan words go beyond the cis fúckwittery. "Female" instead of woman, girl is a one(male instead of man, boy is less seen). "I saw some females at the bus stop" sort of thing. Usually makes people come across as... well if you can't say something good...

"like a leprechaun’s surfboard" 😂 I am most certainly stealing that Dr P.

Wibbs

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117953229#Comment_117953229

"Womxn"; please, for all that's holy, let this be parody. 😆

Riesen_Meal

This poster is very Mr Fegelian like also, hmm...

xzanti

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117953255#Comment_117953255

So now they want us to choose to remain the gender we are born as? Opt out of transgenderism, so to speak?

All this time waiting for Stranger Things 4. I'm starting to think we are IN Stranger Things 4. What a plot twist.

banie01

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117952529#Comment_117952529

This tbh. Certainly not to the new "conquest" anyway.

Unless this is some ancillary to the tinder generation that I am unfortunately 😉😳

Too old and married to have encountered in my CIS maleness!

banie01

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117953096#Comment_117953096

Now I'm totally confused! Does this sit down wee method of assigning gender take into account reading on the loo?

I thought I was CIS male and now I find out I'm trans! WTF 😳

Hah me too - I am male and have never suspected otherwise - but I almost exclusively a sitter. Should I be rethinking my pronouns? Am I one of those "They" types now?

banie01

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117953409#Comment_117953409

You, me and Luis Suarez and Lionel Messi 😉 (guess he isn't so Messi after all)

Not bad company to be keeping and certainly proves that Females can compete at the highest level!😂

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/sport/football/article-4313418/Lionel-Messi-Luis-Suarez-reveal-pee-sitting-down.html

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117952530#Comment_117952530

Cisgender means you are comfortable with the gender assigned to you at birth, so I’m told by the people on the radio and that! It means you’re not trans. I’m being careful. 😁

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117952558#Comment_117952558

It’s only that one guy, yes extrapolated to guys in case there’s a multitude of the like out there 😂 which I doubt.

highdef

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117953244#Comment_117953244

I don't get why, as a male who has always been a male (and I doubt I will change that), I can't be just called a male or a man. I am now given a newly used label of "CISGender male". I'm a man, simple as. I don't need extra labels to describe who and what I am, biologically. You can call me a gay man if you want to introduce sexual orientation into the equation (if it's fitting for the conversation being had) but I'm sticking to the biological sex that I actually am.

Should I decide in the future that I feel I should be female and wish to identify as such, I will go and get my biological sex changed to physically match my newly found identity. I think that if I identify as a woman whilst still being a biological man but then I go and sexually penetrate a woman (or man) using my male genitalia would go completely against my identity - I'm probably thinking way too much there as it's way more likely that a biological man who identifies as being a woman would never even dream of carrying out an sex act of that type as that would go absolutely and completely against their identity but I'm willing to learn.

"CISGender male" sounds like another way of saying "Non-transgender male", to me anyway. So instead of just being called a man, I'm now called a man that is not transgender. More labels! Not sure if others agree?

I've no issue if someone transitions from being a male to a female or vice versa. I've no issue with anything a person decides to do with their bodies. My only stipulation is that a person is nice to others, does not harm or harrass others and is otherwise not an arsehole.

Ash.J.Williams

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117953051#Comment_117953051

i believe there is a kink regarding handing over of your credit card, it's most definitely not something that would do it for me nor would i imagine the other party would be all that thrilled either :)

The only detail I, personally, would be interested in is getting confirmation that I am, in fact, bigger that the rest.

The irony is that fully inflated, so to speak, they are all similar size, slightly different shapes. Facial and other features vary much more.

🤣🤣🤣

mrcheez

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117952493#Comment_117952493

glad I'm not the only one... I've given up on humankind in the last couple of years, though I hear the Amazon indians are actually still capable of communicating in standard format

AckwelFoley

What?

You have a cist?

Sonics2k

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117953696#Comment_117953696

You can be called a male or a man, pretty sure nobody has said otherwise. Cisgender (a term I never really use to describe myself) is just another way for someone to say it. If you see someone say it, you know what it means and can move on. Why let it bother you in the way it clearly does?

It's not even the topic of this thread, which is already bizarre enough.

Fandymo

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117953127#Comment_117953127

100% agree.

Mad_maxx

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117953814#Comment_117953814

Because its political language and I won't be a pawn in some activists game

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117953683#Comment_117953683

It’s not necessary to use the term cisgender as liberally as you do in the OP. It’s a useful term when one wants or needs to clearly distinguish between someone who was assigned female at birth and identifies as a woman, and transgender people who identify as women (distinguishing between “women” and “trans women” is clearly freighted with the hurtful implication that trans women aren’t women).

There’s nothing in post that necessitates that, and as we see, has just invited a lot of tedious and irrelevant discussion about gender terminology.

As far as the topic goes, i think it’s weird for anyone to do that with a new partner.

EmmetSpiceland

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117953731#Comment_117953731

Haha, that may well be true, generally speaking, RTS but, let’s face it, when you’re packing both length and girth you’re going to stand out.

All that “all the same” talk is just smallies trying to reassure themselves. Like that talk that the average size, on the horn, is 4.5 - 5”. Or when you hear them say that 5’9, or 10, is “average height”. Has to be closer to 6’ by now. I wouldn’t like to be some 5’9er sporting a 5 inch horn going “out and about”. Talk about a bum deal! No, thank you.

Feisar

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117953731#Comment_117953731

More of a grower than a shower myself.

Burt Renaults

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117953096#Comment_117953096

It's a stupid word that I would only use if I wanted to annoy the kind of people who get annoyed about the existence of trans people.

85603

I am eating chips.

honeyjo

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117953051#Comment_117953051

This post made me roar with laughter. Thanks OP.

Rothko

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117953285#Comment_117953285

It probably is. The only people who use it unironically hate women.

highdef

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117953814#Comment_117953814

Yeah, it may seem bizarre that this thread is talking about people labels when the thread is supposed to be about a woman describing a strange experience of a friend with a guy but the first line of the thread was "I’m of the cisgender female persuasion" - From the onset, I couldn't understand what that term actually meant and when I was educated about it here I then couldn't understand the relevance of why the OP needed to even mention this as it's not connected with her friends unusual experience with another man.

It would be like me walking into a room full of people whom I don't know, with a task to tell them a story about two other people who they also don't know. Instead of opening with the story about the two other people, I begin with "I'm a homosexual man and was born as a male......", followed immediately by the story about the two other people. I'm pretty sure most of the audience would be thinking along the lines of "Why the hell did he tell everyone he's a gay guy and isn't trans? What has that got to the with the story he told us?"