Guys describing previous sexual encounters, so to speak

29-09-2021 12:38am #1

I’m of the cisgender female persuasion, so to speak; have a similar friend who encountered an otherwise perfectly decent etc cisgender heterosexual male, somewhere in his 30s during lockdown. Was surprised to hear from her that the guy had said during a “romantic encounter” “ I thought girls like that sort of thing”’ when it came to describing how he had interacted with a quite series of previous encounters with females, with each detailed as per name, nationality, what happened etc.

Bit of a fetish, my friend thought.

tdf7187 · 29-09-2021 12:44am

What?

lintdrummer · 29-09-2021 12:47am

I'm not up to speed on all this woke terminology. Is a cisgender female a straight woman?

green daries · 29-09-2021 12:55am

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117952491#Comment_117952491

What he said!

Atlantic Dawn · 29-09-2021 12:56am

There's some people can be going in to their 30's and still waffling out of them like Jay from Inbetweeners about their escapades with females.

mrmorgan · 29-09-2021 12:58am

this makes no sense

Ficheall · 29-09-2021 1:00am

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058210898/guys-describing-previous-sexual-encounters-so-to-speak

This sounds like you're complaining about something, but it's unclear what it is.

29-09-2021 1:00am

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117952493#Comment_117952493

I’m just in training myself, lol! I’ll translate as this: I’m female and my female (non romantic) friend encountered a guy in his 30s who reckons women love above all to hear of the litany of previous sexual partners of her new male one. That’s basically it.

Girls are generally turned on by detailed intimate talk of the previous encounters. I think I got that right.

Dont quite know if my friend agreed about this, but Whole I might find it kinky I’d have my serious reservations about break-down of discretion, re h that name etc were disclosed. Think that was part of the kink/pleasure.

green daries · 29-09-2021 1:08am

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117952514#Comment_117952514

Right well explained cheers.

Jasus hes weird kink wouldbe a mild descriptionin my view

29-09-2021 1:24am

Correct me if I'm wrong, but "guys" of the adult persuasion don't describe their previous sexual encounters in any detail. Full stop.

highdef · 29-09-2021 1:27am

Does cisgender female persuasion mean straight woman? What is cisgender? Sounds like a marketing term.

I'm a male who is sexually attracted to males only. What's the term of the day to describe me? I'm fine with short and sweet "gay". Do I now need to describe my sexual orientation with a plethora or multi syllable words, some recently invented, to avoid being classed as homophobic, hetrophobic, sexist or some other popular sociatal classification that I've perhaps never known to have existed?

Ficheall · 29-09-2021 2:52am

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117952514#Comment_117952514

Maybe he encountered one girl who enjoyed it, and then extrapolated to girls in general. Might sound unreasonable of course, but you've extrapolated from this one guy you heard about to "guys", when "people" or "cisgender people" would have done as well, or even "people from Tipperary*", or "people who drive Toyotas*", or "people with blue* eyes" (*adjust as appropriate) which would have been less generalising...

CGI_Livia_Soprano · 29-09-2021 9:22am

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117952529#Comment_117952529

Not that you'd know, mate.

Fandymo · 29-09-2021 9:30am

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117952491#Comment_117952491

I believe OP is a woman who has a friend, who is also a woman, who was riding a lad who was telling her about past women he had rode, from around the world, as some kind of foreplay/dirty talk during sex.

29-09-2021 9:36am

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117952529#Comment_117952529

Can’t say that’s the case, dude. A bit of idle boasting about prowess when it comes to the old ‘beast with two backs’ is part and parcel of male culture. Perfectly normal. I suppose a lad might be hesitant to describe previous sexual encounters when his previous sexual encounters involve having a wänk sock like a leprechaun’s surfboard stored under the bed.

spurious · 29-09-2021 9:39am

I bet that has the ladies lining up, knowing he will be waffling about you to the next one.

whisky_galore · 29-09-2021 9:42am

Does this anecdote have a point?

faceman · 29-09-2021 9:45am

On the plus side, at least we are clear on the gender and sexual preference of the people involved. That's the most important bit.

But yeah, it sounds like this lad is a tad young and immature. Maybe the OP is too if they're asking the internet.

Ah life, just wait till you get older and you realise we learn nothing in life, bar the best places to get coffee and tacos.

Ash.J.Williams · 29-09-2021 9:58am

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117952493#Comment_117952493

Cis is what woke people call normal people these days 😊

Gregor Samsa · 29-09-2021 10:05am

@[Deleted User]

I might find it kinky I’d have my serious reservations about break-down of discretion, re h that name etc were disclosed. Think that was part of the kink/pleasure.

Yes, this is part of the whole new GDPR fetish scene. One of you plays the Data Controller, one of you plays the Data Subject, and you disclose personal data such as names, email addresses - and if you're particularly kinky, the last 4 digits of credit cards. Just remember to have a safe word in case anyone takes it too far and utters a PPSN.

Skyrimaddict · 29-09-2021 10:14am

Cisgender means you identify as your assigned birth gender.

Basically, I was born a man and I identify as a man. Or a woman born a woman who identifies as a woman.

Or as I like to say, a sit down wee, or a stand up wee.

highdef · 29-09-2021 10:23am

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117953096#Comment_117953096

Cisgender is a horrible world. I find it derogatory and insulting that I am being labelled with this new word to describe being a male who identifies as a male. Fair enough if I get my micky and balls removed and replaced with some sort of fanny plus get breast implants, then it would be reasonable enough for me to identify as a female but I could never describe myself as being female when I still have my meat and two veg.

For me to identify as a female is like me saying that I identify as a cat. Can I be legally recognised as being a cat if I truly believe that I am a cat, even though I'm not biologically a cat?

EmmetSpiceland · 29-09-2021 10:52am

I’ve never known of womxn to enjoy hearing, lurid, tales of a man’s previous, sexual, “encounters”. Just as guys don’t want to hear too much about their’s. The only detail I, personally, would be interested in is getting confirmation that I am, in fact, bigger that the rest. If you know what I mean. Very good batting average there, make no mistake.

I, myself, would have had a, quite, considerable number of “conquests” and would never dream to talk about any of them with the previous ones. The only time it might come up is if 2 of them knew each other. You might get a couple of curious enquiries but nothing too “graphic”.

I don’t mind lads sharing “stories” of what they’ve gotten up to but, on the whole, no names are given out to respect the other person’s right to anonymity. The only time you might signal to a pal that you’ve bagged someone is if you heard than wishing they’d got their hands on “so and so” in college, you know? A wink and a little nod let’s them know you’d already been there.

Bit of a weird one alright, OP.

Sonics2k · 29-09-2021 10:56am

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117953127#Comment_117953127

Cisgender isn't really a new word, and has been around for a few decades now. It's just that it's used a bit more on the internent than previously. I love that you find it derogatry though, had such a tough life that a technical description is hurtful but okay.

As for the rest of your gibberish, clearly there has been zero research done into being Trans, and that's fine. It's not something that impacts your life, but if you're going to get involved in a topic, do some research on it because all it does is lower the tone, cause pointless bickering and also has nothing to do with this actual thread.

GerardKeating · 29-09-2021 10:59am

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117952493#Comment_117952493

A "CISGender Female" is a female who is born female, and is still female. This relates to gender and not sexual orientation.

Wibbs · 29-09-2021 11:02am

"Cisgender" just another label to add to the pile, brought to you by people who claim they hate labelling people. They don't get irony either. Though of course the data miners for advertising love all this nonsense. The reason Arsebook has dozens of "genders" is nothing to do with being inclusive and more that they can target services and products and dopamine hits for the dopes ever more precisely. "Non binary twin spirit trisexuals" click on ads for wine more than others, flog them more wine.

Though these Yank loan words go beyond the cis fúckwittery. "Female" instead of woman, girl is a one(male instead of man, boy is less seen). "I saw some females at the bus stop" sort of thing. Usually makes people come across as... well if you can't say something good...

"like a leprechaun’s surfboard" 😂 I am most certainly stealing that Dr P.