Your death

Look, none of us are getting any younger.

A local woman wanted to be buried in the lough beside our home, the authorities wouldn't allow it so she had to be plopped in the deep, outside the Shannon Estuary.

This is very morbid, but when my parents bought their graves, they left space not only for one another, but the rest of us (but not the in-laws) children. It's strangely reassuring to visit a grave and know 'well I'll be there, someday'

I am sorry to be morbid, but am more morbid-curious: what are your funeral plans?

No idea. I like the idea of a family plot though. But don’t have one. A friend of mine has a family mausoleum or Tomb. His parents are in there, it’s big, they just walk the coffin in and down some steps or ramp.

Loveinapril

After my death, my brain will be donated to the Dublin Brain Bank. There will be a humanist funeral, a cremation and the ashes thrown into the sea where I am from. I don't want to take up any space after I die so cremation is the obvious choice for me. I also like how ashes are called "cremains".

Loveinapril

Loveinapril wrote: »

After my death, my brain will be donated to the Dublin Brain Bank. There will be a humanist funeral, a cremation and the ashes thrown into the sea where I am from. I don't want to take up any space after I die so cremation is the obvious choice for me. I also like how ashes are called "cremains".

Mermaid?

D3V!L

I want to be cremated with all my receipts for motorbike parts. That way even after my death my wife will never truly find out how much I really spent. :pac:

circadian

I honestly don't care, I'll be dead like.

Gregor Samsa

Is your partner ok with you being buried in a different place to them?

No matter how meticulous your plans, it will all fall on some grieving next of kin to organise, most likely at very short notice at a time of great stress. And you won’t be around to check that it’s being done the way you want it.

So I have no plans, because it’s really none of my business.

Baybay

I’d like any possible organs to be donated.
Otherwise, it’s about whatever brings comfort to those who’ll be left so they can decide.

ElChe32

In my will I am going to insist that my loved ones build a French style trebuchet to launch my corpse wherever they see fit.

shtpEdthePlum

Bin thanks

Kintarō Hattori

I haven't actually thought about it indepth but when I have fleetingly thought about it, cremation is probably the most likely route. I don't fancy the idea of rotting away in the ground.

Gregor Samsa

Gregor Samsa wrote: »

Is your partner ok with you being buried in a different place to them?
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Yep. She'll be glad of the peace & quiet

ednwireland

excarnation anyone ?

then put my bones in a large portal tomb specially built for me

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

Cremation. Knowking my luck, I'm immortal and I don't want to be locked in a box six feet under and not be capable of dying. Seen it in too many movies.

Antares35

Definitely don't want to be buried near my family that I've come from.. bad enough putting up with them in life. Prefer to start a new plot with my own family. Probably be mandatory cremation and those little ash storage tower blocks by then anyway. Don't want to be anywhere near a Catholic church, would prefer if everyone had a big session in the garden and got sh*t faced and cried and told funny stories about me. Oh and I want to be put to rest with my dog too.

Graces7

Being of an advanced age... and caring about far away family. All my affairs and my arrangements are clearly set out and they have them.

Addresses re pensions and others who need notifying.

Burial etc.

AIB were a help as they sent a booklet" what to do when someone dies" so that my family can access the account.

It is the last kindness I can do for them. I remember when my mother was killed in an RTE and suddenly I was the only person to deal with everything at a time of shock. No way will I inflict that on them.

B.A._Baracus

Put me in the dumpster and be done with it baby

begbysback

A Tyrant Named Miltiades! wrote: »

Look, none of us are getting any younger.

A local woman wanted to be buried in the lough beside our home, the authorities wouldn't allow it so she had to be plopped in the deep, outside the Shannon Estuary.

This is very morbid, but when my parents bought their graves, they left space not only for one another, but the rest of us (but not the in-laws) children. It's strangely reassuring to visit a grave and know 'well I'll be there, someday'

I am sorry to be morbid, but am more morbid-curious: what are your funeral plans?

Only make plans for living, they can do what they like with me when I’m dead

biko

Scatter me over Galway, but don't cremate me.

Graces7

begbysback wrote: »

Only make plans for living, they can do what they like with me when I’m dead

Well yes. but have you ever had to deal with all that when someone you love dies? It is really harrowing.

And now it is all done I can literally forget about it. And enjoy living to the very end. having cleared up after myself!

Fandymo

Loveinapril wrote: »

After my death, my brain will be donated to the Dublin Brain Bank. There will be a humanist funeral, a cremation and the ashes thrown into the sea where I am from. I don't want to take up any space after I die so cremation is the obvious choice for me. I also like how ashes are called "cremains".

I've heard that they don't just cremate you and give the ashes to your family. They cremate multiple people and then scoop ash from all of them and put it in an urn. Do you know if there is any truth in that??



Edit: I'd love a big pyre on the local beach where everyone has cans and has the craic as I burn.

corner of hells

biko wrote: »

Scatter me over Galway, but don't cremate me.

By explosion or would you like to be chopped up?

EmmetSpiceland

Would be nice to be disposed of in the most “eco-friendly” manner. I heard someone talking on the radio about a new way where your body is, sort of dissolved, in a liquid solution.

Like with cremation, the bones have to be crushed to dust so there’ll have to be some “scattering” or urn involved.

Purgative

If there's room in the landfill, grand, if not stick me in the freezer till next bin day.

Lollipops23

I want to be stripped for as many parts as possible and then buried in some sort of eco friendly way.

banie01

I recently gave my plot to my late wife's family.
Her mam, my pet dragon passed away suddenly last month and it was the last kindness I could pay her.
I've remarried since losing my 1st wife and at the time of her death, her dad asked me "if I had land".
It took me a while to grasp what he actually meant with that question and it was that he was happy for her to be buried "with my people".
I hadn't land, I was 27 even if I did I wouldn't have thought of it at the time and so a plot was purchased.

When my dragon passed, I had a chat with my son about Nana going down with his Mam.
The grave was never really a place for me or him anyway, it was visited weekly by his Nana and aunts but for us, we rathered remember her without being in a cemetery.

The plot was gifted to them, when my time comes I'll be cremated and scatter me to the winds.
Remember me and smile, and don't place any obligations on my son, wife or any other relatives to tend a grave or spend on a plot.

AllForIt

I would like to be put on a compost heap and eventually spread over a vegtable patch. How eco friendly is that.

Montage of Feck

As an idea it is probably for the birds, but sky burial would be the choice for me.

Cody montana

*Jazz hands*
*Death*
*Placed of a barge*
*Burning Love by Elvis*
*Fire and out to sea*
*Burnt food for the crabs and fishes*
*Rage among my family for leaving all my money to save the whales/fishes/crabs*

Burzum

Organ donation if viable and if not then leave my body to one of the medical schools for training, I feel like burial/cremation etc is just a waste of money/resources that could benefit others down the line.

Doctors room ghost

It would be nice to be taken out to sea in a boat and fired overboard with a few weights attached but knowing my luck I’d be trawlered back up and end up in a Donegal catch.
So probably just the old buried option for me.I want a very simple headstone though,none of the fancy stuff.cheap and cheerful

seamus

Whatever my family want, I'll be dead. Funerals and death rituals are for the living, not for the dead.

Organ donation is a no-brainer, but with any luck I'll be old enough that my organs are worthless.

Cremation is probably the most environmentally-friendly way, though if something else appears we can go with that. Definitely don't want a rotting corpse buried in a plot of land that either they'll feel guilty about ignoring or feel obliged to visit.

Kind of like the idea of my ashes being mixed with those of my dog(s) and maybe my wife before our kids do whatever they want with them. But that would require holding to an ever-increasing pile of ashes until we're both dead. Nice idea, but a bit weird in practice.

I want a normal funeral and buried in a plot back home, and hopefully it’s a good session. The Mrs will get all my passwords and pins after I go. No other specific plans.

gipi

Fandymo wrote: »

I've heard that they don't just cremate you and give the ashes to your family. They cremate multiple people and then scoop ash from all of them and put it in an urn. Do you know if there is any truth in that??



Edit: I'd love a big pyre on the local beach where everyone has cans and has the craic as I burn.

Absolutely no truth to it - there is a serious paper trail for each deceased person who is cremated, and lots of regulations for crematoriums including individual cremations.

Doctors room ghost

Doctors room ghost wrote: »

It would be nice to be taken out to sea in a boat and fired overboard with a few weights attached but knowing my luck I’d be trawlered back up and end up in a Donegal catch.
So probably just the old buried option for me.I want a very simple headstone though,none of the fancy stuff.cheap and cheerful

I always wanted to be buried in the Lough beside us, but apparently it's next to impossible. Even burial at sea is a bureaucratic nightmare. I agree with you, the simplest grave possible would be ideal.

I was at a funeral service recently where the dead man specifically requested no hymns at his funeral. Well he couldn't have had them anyway. It only lasted about 15 minutes. Just a few prayers. I like that.

YellowLead

Cremation all the way. Part of me to be hurried in a grave with a headstone, some to be put in an urn for my son to take with him wherever he lives, the rest of be scattered in various outdoor locations that are my favourite spots in Ireland and abroad.
I don’t want to wait in a funeral home first - laid out at home with a proper wake (open coffin)

Yester

I'm donating my body to science, just to spite the undertaker.

Doctors room ghost

Yester wrote: »

I'm donating my body to science, just to spite the undertaker.

Bitter to the end.I like it. Lol

Hyperbollix

Don't care at all. We have a family plot in a cemetery in a very scenic location and if that's where I end up, fine. If I'm on the other side of the world in xx years time and end up cremated and scattered in the sea, fine too.

Username here

Burn me. Burn me with fire. After removing any parts that might be useful for others.

Graces7

EmmetSpiceland wrote: »

Would be nice to be disposed of in the most “eco-friendly” manner. I heard someone talking on the radio about a new way where your body is, sort of dissolved, in a liquid solution.

Like with cremation, the bones have to be crushed to dust so there’ll have to be some “scattering” or urn involved.

There is a Natural Burial place in Ireland. Looks lovely.

Graces7

Talking of ashes; I once met an American lady in Killarney and she told me she had come to Ireland to scatter her brother's ashes in a place he loved.

There they were in her suitcase! Through Customs?

HildaOgdenx

Doctors room ghost wrote: »

It would be nice to be taken out to sea in a boat and fired overboard with a few weights attached but knowing my luck I’d be trawlered back up and end up in a Donegal catch.
So probably just the old buried option for me.I want a very simple headstone though,none of the fancy stuff.cheap and cheerful

CalamariFritti

I dont really care. Its not like I am ever going to know what was done with my remains. So when I die whoever has to deal with it can do whatever they like.

My flesh is to be put through a meat grinder, turned into burgers and sausages, auctioned off on e-bay, and the profits donated to PETA.

As for the bones, Viking funeral all the way, a massive burning ship pointed towards Iceland and given an almighty push.

TheBoyConor

Fandymo wrote: »

I've heard that they don't just cremate you and give the ashes to your family. They cremate multiple people and then scoop ash from all of them and put it in an urn. Do you know if there is any truth in that??



Edit: I'd love a big pyre on the local beach where everyone has cans and has the craic as I burn.

A crematorium in Cork is owned by one of the biggest wealthiest gangster businessmen families in the country. Wouldn't surprise me if there was just a skip behind the curtain and they hand people containers of kitty litter while the skip is later brought off to one of their equally shady rendering plants.

Strumms

In 2016, there for a few weeks was a reasonable chance that I’d have needed to make that decision but alas not in the end.

Thinking about it, I genuinely don’t care, I have no preference, I won’t be here...

I would like a regular Catholic burial in a cemetery or preferably a graveyard. One of those "double" graves with space for others and a nice strong monument which will last the test of time.

I'm not a fan of cremation for a variety of reasons, I want to leave some distant descendant who is into genealogy something to look at. As someone into genealogy myself I got a great kick out of finding distant ancestors graves.

A Tyrant Named Miltiades!

A Tyrant Named Miltiades! wrote: »

what are your funeral plans?

None at all. I want it entirely left to the discretion of whoever is lumped with the responsibility so they can do whatever is easiest and best for them.

I will not be there so I absolutely do not care.

I have no wish to put undue demands or responsibilities on anyone - and would prefer they do whatever is best for them at the time.

Of course the counter argument to that is said person might come under multiple conflicting demands from others as to what should be done. So my attempt not to stress or upset them could back fire. But thinking about the people in my life - I do not see that happening.

bunny_mac

Kenya Yellow Screenwriter wrote: »

I'm not a fan of cremation for a variety of reasons, I want to leave some distant descendant who is into genealogy something to look at. As someone into genealogy myself I got a great kick out of finding distant ancestors graves.

You can bury ashes. My mum was cremated but she still has a regular grave.

bunny_mac

I had it all worked out, I wanted to be buried here: https://www.memorialwoodlands.com/. I went to a wedding there and it was such a beautiful, peaceful place I instantly thought 'this is where I want to end up'. But I've since had to move back to Ireland and now I don't have a clue. I think there's only one natural burial ground in the country and it's way down south. So now I'm thinking maybe donate my body to science?! One thing I know for sure is that I don't want a Catholic funeral and I only want people close to me there, none of this local politicians and other gawpers nonsense. There were about 1,000 people at my mother's funeral and I'd say she hated 80% of them.