Right to Block Him?

LegacyUser

YellowLead wrote: »

I don’t agree with ****ty behaviour by men or think it’s a valid excuse - but some would say they are often afraid to be open with women because they are afraid of crazy dramatic reactions. If I were him I’d be worried you might pop up in another 6 months time, this time outside his door!

The 'crazy dramatic reactions' that women have are normally not in any way crazy, they're a human reaction to something that happened.

YellowLead

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The 'crazy dramatic reactions' that women have are normally not in any way crazy, they're a human reaction to something that happened.

Admittedly it was a really bad generalisation to make - I should have said ‘some people’ rather than ‘some women’ - apologies to everyone for that. Six months after a break up though as adults we should try and keep those emotions under control, even if it’s just to recognise they are still there.

I have a friend whose ex kept ringing him from different phone numbers long after they split and in my mind texting to say you are blocking six months down the road when he didn’t try to make contact could be viewed as similarly odd behaviour - albeit far less severe.

OP just to clarify I am not calling you crazy at all, just some of the actions you took. Not you.

When you ask people for advice and they answer in a different manner than expected - usual feelings can be of surprise or disappointment, but it shouldn’t really invoke anger. The being cheated on is still making you angry and you are lashing out in general.

Remember you are not the first person this happened to and you won’t be the last, it’s happening all over the world right now. But its not the norm - you’ll find somebody else. Now breathe 😊

YellowLead

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I don't know why you are angrily directing this at me, as I didn't ask you any questions?

But once again, good luck.

To be fair to the OP, I think it is because you said this: ‘You're also dropping quite a bit of personal information now that could make everyone involved identifiable. Ireland is a small place.’

YellowLead

YellowLead wrote: »

To be fair to the OP, I think it is because you said this: ‘You're also dropping quite a bit of personal information now that could make everyone involved identifiable. Ireland is a small place.’

Its an Irish forum - I think its fair to assume the posters are in Ireland first and foremost? Nor was it a question about where she was located.

It was more about the rant she went off on after that, about about stuff I never asked about?

Anyway, hopefully the thread gave her some new perspective.

YellowLead

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Its an Irish forum - I think its fair to assume the posters are in Ireland first and foremost? Nor was it a question about where she was located.

It was more about the rant she went off on after that, about about stuff I never asked about?

Anyway, hopefully the thread gave her some new perspective.

Agree

LegacyUser

Deleted User wrote: »

Its an Irish forum - I think its fair to assume the posters are in Ireland first and foremost? Nor was it a question about where she was located.

It was more about the rant she went off on after that, about about stuff I never asked about?

Anyway, hopefully the thread gave her some new perspective.

I'm good thanks.

Do you know how many horses and how many yards there are in Ireland? It wouldn't even have been in the slightest bit identifying if it was in Ireland!

I am so glad that I told a cheating man exactly what I thought of him. Never, ever let anyone persuade you that eroding your boundaries to accept cheating is ok or to accept what a cheater says at face value. As I've pointed out many times, I sent the text 6 months later because he has previous form for dumping me then coming back and pretending he has changed.

I'm so sorry for posters who can only empathise with women who present as victims or as being suitably needy.

spaceHopper

Long distance relationships aren't easy, he meet somebody else developed feelings for the them, started a relationships and then ended the yours. It was probably going to end anyway as he'd feelings for somebody else. Telling you over the phone wasn't great but it's a log distance relationships and with covid it was probably the best he could do. At least he phoned you he could have string you along or texted you. What good could have come from meeting up, it was over he tried to make it as clean a break as possible.

I think you should consider counseling. None of your behaviour is healthy. You were no contact for long time then you contacted him out of the blue, incase he were to respond you changed your number and dumped a perfectly good phone, you could have just blocked his number on phone. You don't want your stuff back but you want to get it back to dump it, thats petty. You've also been checking up on his possible new woman on facebook. Just unfriend her.

Hannibal_Smith

Mod Note

Yeah, I think we're done here. OP, its completely up to you what advice you take on or not, but the Forum Charter applies to you too and turning on posters who took the time to help is bad form.

I hope you eventually get the peace of mind with all this that you're looking for and you manage to move on in a healthy way.

Thank you everyone who took the time to respond and offer help.

HS