Best dating sites??

lalababa

What are the best dating sites? Tinder, POF, match, bumble etc ?? And why? And how much?
What are yeer experiences?

kapisko1PL

So I was on Tinder and started dating this girl. Fast forward one year we are happily married. Definitely recommend. I am serious

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Tig98

It'll be the same people on them so it doesn't really make a difference. If you choose an out of the way app with few users you'll probably have better chances of matching and chatting with people (yanno, desperation) so avoid the likes of tinder

cena

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Has this happened to you?

Temptamperu

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PM sent

Pauliedragon

Temptamperu wrote: »

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Fancy a threesome?

Capt'n Midnight

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JasonStatham

Match isn't great - it's like a wasteland. People say Ok Cupid and eharmony are good.

No one talks on Hinge i find....Bumble had a great idea of the women initiate the conversation but the majority of mates and myself who are on it or have used it say its just a vanity thing...you get the match but no chats

POF is the cultchies who are desperate to get married

Tinder is better if your in mid 20's but its full of bots or the global thing theyre doing where your now being viewed by those on the other side of the world.

I don't know, but we can probably rule out the worst. An acquaintance of mine (a woman) joined Elite Singles. I don't know if it's an app or a website, but you hear them being advertised all the time. It all sounds like the most cynical, self-regarding nonsense, really. She said there's a lot of questions about your salary and even things like race and the races you're willing to choose a partner from. Everything about it stinks.

However, I support this app in principle if it keeps the same people out of general circulation.

cena

cena wrote: »

Has this happened to you?

Sadly not.

Riley Shallow Celebration

Riley Shallow Celebration wrote: »

No one talks on Hinge i find....Bumble had a great idea of the women initiate the conversation but the majority of mates and myself who are on it or have used it say its just a vanity thing...you get the match but no chats

POF is the cultchies who are desperate to get married

Tinder is better if your in mid 20's but its full of bots or the global thing theyre doing where your now being viewed by those on the other side of the world.

That is Tinder perfectly summed up. I was on it a few months back and didn't last 24 hours.

Pauliedragon

Pauliedragon wrote: »

Fancy a threesome?

Let's get one of those great big Roman orgies going.

Pauliedragon

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Let's get one of those great big Roman orgies going.

I'm into this type of stuff myself.
https://www.independent.ie/irish-news/woman-who-denies-running-club-where-naked-man-on-crucifix-was-whipped-to-appeal-decision-striking-out-bid-to-join-legal-proceedings-39366679.html

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That is Tinder perfectly summed up. I was on it a few months back and didn't last 24 hours.

i go on and off it, delete after a few days after realizing its the same people and same bot's or some one in Australia (the globe thing is the crappiest addition to it....im sorry im in cork i have no interest in matching with someone based on the other side of the planet) and end up back on it a few days later....im not sure has it died due to covid stuff or are people just irritated of the vanity of getting matches and not talking

chrissb8

Tinder is fit for purpose. Most used one and if you put an effort into your profile and put a good intro in your flying off to a good start. Most, don't want a penpal, they want to go on a date so don't go on forever chat for 2-3 days and then ask if you would like to meet up.

Not too hard, just a nice way of seeing if you can get an initial connection going doesn't have to be more complicated than that.

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chrissb8

chrissb8 wrote: »

Tinder is fit for purpose. Most used one and if you put an effort into your profile and put a good intro in your flying off to a good start. Most, don't want a penpal, they want to go on a date so don't go on forever chat for 2-3 days and then ask if you would like to meet up.

Not too hard, just a nice way of seeing if you can get an initial connection going doesn't have to be more complicated than that.

probably didnt help with covid - got a few numbers off it but couldnt meet up as covid issues/couldnt get a good place to go to meet up

derfderf

Bumble sounds like a terrible idea for men. I was reading some analysis on the flow of messages on dating apps. They said there are some women received a lot of messages, some that received less, but there's always a steady flow.
For women messaging men, there's like a bilderberg group of men that receive 80% of the messages (less than 20% of the men).

It's been a few years, and I'm in Australia, but i found POF decent. You just have to accept a lot will ignore you.

Tinder has added video chat now, maybe because of Covid. Just saw it earlier.

I've only ever used Tinder and I've only been on it a few days. Fine so far. Been chatting to one nice girl a few miles away.

Filmer Paradise

What's the craic with AnotherFriend or Maybefriends nowadays?

I met loads of girls on these back in the day. This is 15+ years ago.

Anyway, I met my Missus on AnotherFriend in 2004.

Internet dating worked well for me with those sites.

Is the Buy and Sell still on the go?

Apparently they used to do classifieds.

-Where did you meet Mammy, Da?
-Got her off the Buy and Sell, along with two Charolais heifers

Filmer Paradise

A Tyrant Named Miltiades! wrote: »

Is the Buy and Sell still on the go?

Apparently they used to do classifieds.

-Where did you meet Mammy, Da?
-Got her off the Buy and Sell, along with two Charolais heifers

You must be thinking of the Ireland's Own magazine.

Either that or the Farmers Journal.:rolleyes:

Filmer Paradise

Filmer Paradise wrote: »

You must be thinking of the Ireland's Own magazine.

Either that or the Farmers Journal.:rolleyes:

No, the Buy N Sell was a widely circulated magazine when I was a kid, it was very popular for things like farm machinery and livestock, much better than The Journal, and they even had a penpal section. Yes, children would leave their addresses in and ask for letters. I must have written to a lot of bad creeps.

I'm sure there was a dating section beside it.

.anon.

A Tyrant Named Miltiades! wrote: »

No, the Buy N Sell was a widely circulated magazine when I was a kid, it was very popular for things like farm machinery and livestock, much better than The Journal, and they even had a penpal section. Yes, children would leave their addresses in and ask for letters. I must have written to a lot of bad creeps.

I'm sure there was a dating section beside it.

The Buy & Sell definitely had a personals section. I remember someone ringing Liveline way back in the '90s (when Marian Finucane presented it) to complain that they had a 'men seeking men' section, God forgive them.

Tell me how

I have used various ones over the years and agree that, certainly in Ireland, the same faces appear on different ones. Don't think you can say that in the case of ones like Hinge/POF/Match one versus the other is for people looking to get hitched quick or anything, Tinder definitely originated out of a desire for more casual hook ups but the profiles which state they are not looking for ONS outweigh those stating they are there to have fun at this point in my view. In my target age group anyway (mid 30's+ female). But stage of life is probably a huge factor in that also. My tinder experience in the US has involved a disproportionate number of bot accounts compared to back home and plenty more who lose interest when they hear I am not a citizen. I'm quite popular on Hinge for ladies 3-8 years older than me

In general, all dating sites have become severely impacted by 'the paradox of choice' more and more as time has gone on in my view.
If their popularity had been delayed by ten years, they'd be going through an actual explosion in popularity right now but think a lot of people are now bored with the novelty of something at a time when they are unlikely start anything with a new person given restrictions, lack of things to do, places to go, etc.

Hard to know what the future of dating is going to be like. Professional matchmakers never really grabbed a lot of attention in my lifetime as people aren't generally comfortable with the idea of it being a cold/calculated process and we all desire at least some sense of butterflies in a new relationship as opposed to something more like a business arrangement of sorts. Maybe Covid will in time be shown to have overcome some of that paradox of choice I mentioned earlier as people invest more in getting to know one person and being comfortable with getting close to them. All of the above is heavily influenced by my age and those of the people I am interested in. I suspect those in their 20's who think Covid-19 is a hoax, old person thing or whatever are carrying on as they can. Going to be an interesting newspaper article and 8 min chat show conversation in early 2022 when the numbers for pregnancies, STD's etc for quarters 2, 3 and 4 of 2020 are available for analysis.

What do bots do? Send a couple of messages and then link to some spammy site?

Tell me how

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What do bots do? Send a couple of messages and then link to some spammy site?

Yep.

Bot: Hello. I have recently moved here from Denmark/France/Hungary for my job as dentist/paralegal etc
Me: That's interesting. How long have you been here.
Bot: I have all my information here. Please read it and let me know what you think because I think we might be a really good match. (Link: https://www.givemeyourcreditcarddetails@thisisBS.nowhere)

Ok, cool. Haven't come across that yet.

Only had a good conversation with one girl so far in the few days I've been online dating. If I get to meet her, I'll be sold on the idea of this online stuff, but would still rather do it for as little time as possible.

JasonStatham

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I have used various ones over the years and agree that, certainly in Ireland, the same faces appear on different ones. Don't think you can say that in the case of ones like Hinge/POF/Match one versus the other is for people looking to get hitched quick or anything, Tinder definitely originated out of a desire for more casual hook ups but the profiles which state they are not looking for ONS outweigh those stating they are there to have fun at this point in my view. In my target age group anyway (mid 30's+ female). But stage of life is probably a huge factor in that also. My tinder experience in the US has involved a disproportionate number of bot accounts compared to back home and plenty more who lose interest when they hear I am not a citizen. I'm quite popular on Hinge for ladies 3-8 years older than me

In general, all dating sites have become severely impacted by 'the paradox of choice' more and more as time has gone on in my view.
If their popularity had been delayed by ten years, they'd be going through an actual explosion in popularity right now but think a lot of people are now bored with the novelty of something at a time when they are unlikely start anything with a new person given restrictions, lack of things to do, places to go, etc.

Hard to know what the future of dating is going to be like. Professional matchmakers never really grabbed a lot of attention in my lifetime as people aren't generally comfortable with the idea of it being a cold/calculated process and we all desire at least some sense of butterflies in a new relationship as opposed to something more like a business arrangement of sorts. Maybe Covid will in time be shown to have overcome some of that paradox of choice I mentioned earlier as people invest more in getting to know one person and being comfortable with getting close to them. All of the above is heavily influenced by my age and those of the people I am interested in. I suspect those in their 20's who think Covid-19 is a hoax, old person thing or whatever are carrying on as they can. Going to be an interesting newspaper article and 8 min chat show conversation in early 2022 when the numbers for pregnancies, STD's etc for quarters 2, 3 and 4 of 2020 are available for analysis.

Ah yes, the mid 30s washed-up stuck-up female, still looking for the George Clooney-esque clone. I've come across plenty of them. They're hardly "lookers" themselves. Haha.

JasonStatham

JasonStatham wrote: »

Ah yes, the mid 30s washed-up stuck-up female, still looking for the George Clooney-esque clone. I've come across plenty of them. They're hardly "lookers" themselves. Haha.

reminds me of a girl i worked with in retail years ago, who would just whinge about no good man for her, bla bla bla and went on these apps....she went on dates and came back and told us stories why they didnt work out, like, he didn't make enough money, didn't like his job, his hair was a bit off, didnt like a mutual friend, his appearance was bland....and all these ridiculous reasons and became more insufferable...she's still at the same job and apparently still whinging and coming up with these bizarre reasons why she turns them down and constantly whines about being single

Limpy

Riley Shallow Celebration wrote: »

reminds me of a girl i worked with in retail years ago, who would just whinge about no good man for her, bla bla bla and went on these apps....she went on dates and came back and told us stories why they didnt work out, like, he didn't make enough money, didn't like his job, his hair was a bit off, didnt like a mutual friend, his appearance was bland....and all these ridiculous reasons and became more insufferable...she's still at the same job and apparently still whinging and coming up with these bizarre reasons why she turns them down and constantly whines about being single

Sounds like she needs a good ride.

Tinder.....by sheer weight of numbers


Im a pure munter,and used get matches/messages etc.......its what ya make of it i guess

Limpy

Tinder would be grand if you could block people near you. I'd be afraid the misses would match me.

Deleted User

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Tinder.....by sheer weight of numbers


Im a pure munter,and used get matches/messages etc.......its what ya make of it i guess

im guessing people just got sick of it during the lock down....id go on and off it and lately the matches are dwindling....except the bots or the ones 3300 miles away from Cork ....The bumble app is dreadful as women do not engage on it

Riley Shallow Celebration

Riley Shallow Celebration wrote: »

im guessing people just got sick of it during the lock down....id go on and off it and lately the matches are dwindling....except the bots or the ones 3300 miles away from Cork ....The bumble app is dreadful as women are too

Tbh i kinda dipped in and out during lockdown

Wouldnt be fan of dating personally,but found ya get maybe 8 or 9 matchs a day and 2 or 3 of that would message ya (clearly desperation was setting in for them,during lockdown :pac: ).....

personally found it a bit over whelming.....i could not fathom how or why young wans would entertain 20 plus people messaging same time or hundreds of matches

Tell me how

JasonStatham wrote: »

Ah yes, the mid 30s washed-up stuck-up female, still looking for the George Clooney-esque clone. I've come across plenty of them. They're hardly "lookers" themselves. Haha.

I might be single so what do you I know but I wouldn't think refering to them as wasehed up, stuck up is going to make them look more favourably on someone.

I can understand their desire to focus on long term potential. The clock is literally ticking and why should they have to settle.

Deleted User

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Tbh i kinda dipped in and out during lockdown

Wouldnt be fan of dating personally,but found ya get maybe 8 or 9 matchs a day and 2 or 3 of that would message ya (clearly desperation was setting in for them,during lockdown :pac: ).....

personally found it a bit over whelming.....i could not fathom how or why young wans would entertain 20 plus people messaging same time or hundreds of matches

women are the one's in power on these apps...but the majority of fellas will swipe right/chance their arm with any female.......

Purple Mountain

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Tbh i kinda dipped in and out during lockdown

Wouldnt be fan of dating personally,but found ya get maybe 8 or 9 matchs a day and 2 or 3 of that would message ya (clearly desperation was setting in for them,during lockdown :pac: ).....

personally found it a bit over whelming.....i could not fathom how or why young wans would entertain 20 plus people messaging same time or hundreds of matches

If you're referring to women as 'young wans', that might go some way towards explaining why you're still single.

Limpy

Surely nice looking women would meet people easily in there own social circles.

SusieBlue

JasonStatham wrote: »

Ah yes, the mid 30s washed-up stuck-up female, still looking for the George Clooney-esque clone. I've come across plenty of them. They're hardly "lookers" themselves. Haha.

You’re hardly much better yourself if you’re talking about them like that. There is nothing wrong with having high standards. Or would you prefer being with a partner who ‘settled’ for you, because that’s the alternative?

Riley Shallow Celebration

Riley Shallow Celebration wrote: »

women are the one's in power on these apps...but the majority of fellas will swipe right/chance their arm with any female.......

It would seem so

But lookit,thats life and way it is....let them.at it,i wouldnt want hassle of reems of people msging me/repetive conversations either....


Life is forevér too short for that sh1te

Purple Mountain

Purple Mountain wrote: »

If you're referring to women as 'young wans', that might go some way towards explaining why you're still single.

Young wans/women i know refer to men as young fellas....its hardly worth getting bogged down over??

Church on Tuesday

Good to see there is a bit more common sense on this thread than the other one, where some people got there noses out of joint because they randomly happened to meet their other half through online dating and therefore it must be great for everyone else as well and anyone else who calls it out for the self esteem killing cod it really is "cynical" :rolleyes:

As for the best dating site? well it's all relative. If you're in your 20s then Tinder is prob your best bet, if you're over 30 then there's the rest of them, many of them, incidentally, want your money. POF is now virtually unusable since the new layout change and they want money for it too.

The Covid pandemic has rendered dating as more or less a secondary concern at this stage anyways but there is still chances for interactions in real life.

Purple Mountain

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Young wans/women i know refer to men as young fellas....its hardly worth getting bogged down over??

No woman in her 30s/40s wants to be described as a young wan.
Try calling us ladies and you might get a foot in the door

Church on Tuesday

Church on Tuesday wrote: »

Good to see there is a bit more common sense on this thread than the other one, where some people got there noses out of joint because they randomly happened to meet their other half through online dating and therefore it must be great for everyone else as well and anyone else who calls it out for the self esteem killing cod it really is "cynical" :rolleyes:

As for the best dating site? well it's all relative. If you're in your 20s then Tinder is prob your best bet, if you're over 30 then there's the rest of them, many of them, incidentally, want your money. POF is now virtually unusable since the new layout change and they want money for it too.

The Covid pandemic has rendered dating as more or less a secondary concern at this stage anyways but there is still chances for interactions in real life.

I'm sad to hear that POF has fallen. A sad day for the parish. Was always the old reliable dating site that guaranteed plenty of conversation.

Purple Mountain

Purple Mountain wrote: »

No woman in her 30s/40s wants to be described as a young wan.
Try calling us ladies and you might get a foot in the door

Il keep it in mind.


If i should ever venture onto such apps again

Purple Mountain

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Il keep it in mind.


If i should ever venture onto such apps again

Try with 'hello ladies'

Church on Tuesday

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I'm sad to hear that POF has fallen. A sad day for the parish. Was always the old reliable dating site that guaranteed plenty of conversation.

It was more in depth in terms of what you could write in your bio and interests and the like and you could get a better impression of the other person but it's gone to total **** now.

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