Kids hanging around me while fixing car

Adam9213

It's good the kids in your area are at least playing outside, I don't what the kids are up to in my area pretty sure they all just sit in playing video games and go to eachothers houses.

dobman88

This is really a sad situation but you're probably right to not fully engage with them. I say it's sad because we had an old man on my estate when I was a kid who was a welder. Any time we saw him out in his shed we would all go in and watch him work on whatever and he would teach us and tell us what he was doing. Unfortunately I couldnt see that happening nowadays and it's a sad reflection on society.

Even from my own pov, we have the kids from across the green knock into our house to ask can they take my dog to play with him. At first I wasnt sure what to do so went over to ask the parents was this ok. Now when they knock in I always make sure they've told their.parents first and they go off happily with the dog around the green. It's sad that I have to be so careful about something so simple as a child wanting to play with a dog.

Bobtheman

I disagree. Tying a kids shoe laces is just that no matter how social service over Lord's spin it. Perhaps move your car tinkering to another place if you want privacy

Edgware

Bobtheman wrote: »

I disagree. Tying a kids shoe laces is just that no matter how social service over Lord's spin it. Perhaps move your car tinkering to another place if you want privacy

All it takes is someone to say " that old fella is always chatting with the young kids and asking do they want a spin in his car" and you will be labelled a paedo under the " no smoke without fire" rule. Middle aged, single, no kids enough said

Bobtheman

dobman88 wrote: »

This is really a sad situation but you're probably right to not fully engage with them. I say it's sad because we had an old man on my estate when I was a kid who was a welder. Any time we saw him out in his shed we would all go in and watch him work on whatever and he would teach us and tell us what he was doing. Unfortunately I couldnt see that happening nowadays and it's a sad reflection on society.

Even from my own pov, we have the kids from across the green knock into our house to ask can they take my dog to play with him. At first I wasnt sure what to do so went over to ask the parents was this ok. Now when they knock in I always make sure they've told their.parents first and they go off happily with the dog around the green. It's sad that I have to be so careful about something so simple as a child wanting to play with a dog.

You don't have to be careful about letting a dog out for a walk. 90% of child abuse is in the home. The era where adults of a peadophilic nature got access to kids without supervision is over. Then we wonder why kids suffer anxiety because they are listening to the social worker over Lord's who see danger just around the corner

leggo

Edgware wrote: »

All it takes is someone to say " that old fella is always chatting with the young kids and asking do they want a spin in his car" and you will be labelled a paedo under the " no smoke without fire" rule. Middle aged, single, no kids enough said

Like this isn’t something that realistically happens though, is it? I’m sure people have anecdotal stories that can’t be verified, but it’s not something I’ve ever heard of in my own life happening nor do I see it on the news. If anything what I’d be more familiar with from my own experience is people who I’d consider a bit suss being allowed to actively participate in areas that’d give them access to children, rather than innocent people being burned at the stake over non-incidents. But the point is what you’re saying isn’t enough of a thing IMO to advise another person to modify their behaviour accordingly.

wiggle16

Bobtheman wrote: »

You don't have to be careful about letting a dog out for a walk. 90% of child abuse is in the home. The era where adults of a peadophilic nature got access to kids without supervision is over. Then we wonder why kids suffer anxiety because they are listening to the social worker over Lord's who see danger just around the corner

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Sandor Clegane

Id make it clear you don't want the attention or audience, spin it like you're doing something dangerous and they could get hurt.

The real issue here is not the children, its the parents.

A lot of people aren't right in the head.

suicide_circus

yeah...i wouldn't be tying any random kids shoelaces for them on the street.

It's sad but that's the way it is.

ToddDameron

I work with kids and a very small minority of parents are incredibly over protective of their kids, sometimes to the point where it interferes with me doing my job. You can never be too careful with how you interact with kids, especially when the parents don't know you. You did the right thing telling them to ask their parents to tie their shoelace, because though rare, those types of parents do exist.

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ToddDameron wrote: »

I work with kids and a very small minority of parents are incredibly over protective of their kids, sometimes to the point where it interferes with me doing my job. You can never be too careful with how you interact with kids, especially when the parents don't know you. You did the right thing telling them to ask their parents to tie their shoelace, because though rare, those types of parents do exist.

Don't the parents have any resposibility to see to it the children are not exposed to any possible danger.If they do not want them around someone working on a car shouldn't they tell them stay away and ensure they do. The man working cannot tell them F off so what can he say if they approach him?

wiggle16

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