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Odd Neighbours

  • 06-07-2020 8:58pm
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    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,067 ✭✭✭


    I moved into new house about 8 months ago, it's semi detached.

    The week I moved in I couldn't take time off work during the week and I had a bed ordered so one of my friends came round and let the delivery guys in....and my new neighbour (the one im attached to) questioned her as to if it was her that was moving in.

    When he heard it was a single, male in late 30s he was apparently horrified as he thought it was a family moving in and obviously thought I'd be having raves every weekend.

    I met him myself at the weekend.....I had left the house at 9am to go collect my nephew and was back around 11.30am....I had left the outside light on by mistake and the first thing he said to me was I need to turn my light off as we are all trying to conserve energy and save the planet.
    Then he told me that everyone in the cul de sac were there about 15-20 years and they all got on well and it's v quiet (which is true)...so if I was any trouble "we'll come around to your door with hoods on". He's in his 50s and in the army.
    I passed no remarks really and laughed it off as he's obviously a bit of an eejit....I've had a lot worse said to me in my time...and in the 8 months I've been here there's a lot more noise comes from their house than mine.
    He's so odd though, one day will say hello the next would walk past you.....I'm used to it now but thinking back it was a horrible way to welcome a new neighbour. Ive spoken to a few others around and they're all v nice, it's just unfortunate that this asshole is right beside me. I was talking to someone at the weekend who knows him and couldn't praise him enough which is why it's come to mind again.....he is obviously someway personable!

    Has anyone else any similar experiences or odd neighbours and how did it turn out?


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,644 ✭✭✭✭punisher5112


    Go about your business, keep to yourself and live your life.....

    No time for tools like that.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,612 ✭✭✭bassy


    i would just ignore him and carry on with your own business,pay no heed and he will soon get fed up of hes stupid mind games and remarks.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 30,439 ✭✭✭✭Wanderer78


    People can be a little odd alright, some army types can be a little odd, unsure if it's their environment that brings out the oddness or if it was already there. Have worked with a couple of ex army, mental health and addiction problems, particularly alcoholism, would be common enough, add in suck it up army attitude, strangely enough produces odd behaviour, oh ive also experienced bullying from such types. Of course there's also the types of true gents. I'd continue to be pleasant and respectful, you're not the arsehole


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,178 ✭✭✭✭billyhead


    As already said just go about your day say hello when you see him and that's all you can do. Ignore his bull**** if he stops and chats. You get gob****es everywhere.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,346 ✭✭✭TheW1zard


    My next door neighbour thinks he owns the space outside the house, hes knocked in twice now asking me to move it!


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 30,439 ✭✭✭✭Wanderer78


    TheW1zard wrote:
    My next door neighbour thinks he owns the space outside the house, hes knocked in twice now asking me to move it!


    Did you ask him, how do you move space?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 16,059 ✭✭✭✭Spanish Eyes


    You sound like you would be a good addition to the neighborhood, no mad noise, no mad stuff, etc.

    Give it a few weeks and see how things pan out.

    Do not be bullied though, stand your ground. In a past life I had to deal with odd neighbours, they were there forever and did not like new blood.

    I charmed the life out of them like giving a box of biscuits and a hello how are you. Some people just don't like change. But they were ok in the end. First things first, no hassle and back off. Plenty of time for that if needs be, but not at first.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,644 ✭✭✭✭punisher5112


    You sound like you would be a good addition to the neighborhood, no mad noise, no mad stuff, etc.

    Give it a few weeks and see how things pan out.

    Do not be bullied though, stand your ground. In a past life I had to deal with odd neighbours, they were there forever and did not like new blood.

    I charmed the life out of them like giving a box of biscuits and a hello how are you. Some people just don't like change. But they were ok in the end. First things first, no hassle and back off. Plenty of time for that if needs be, but not at first.

    It's 8 months he is there..... He needs to continue with his life and give a rat's a#s what your man thinks....


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 16,059 ✭✭✭✭Spanish Eyes


    It's 8 months he is there..... He needs to continue with his life and give a rat's a#s what your man thinks....

    Uh, OK, but the point still stands. Start as you mean to go on :p


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 112 ✭✭newaccount2017


    I moved into a new house recently and a few of the neighbours are nice and friendly... apart from the ones who are right next to me. I spotted them spying on me through gaps in the fence 3 times now. I give a friendly hello when I pass them, I don't really want to be best buddies with neighbours to be honest but they definitely have something against me for some bizarre reason even though we haven't chatted since I introduced myself on the first day. Some people are just weirdos.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,346 ✭✭✭TheW1zard


    Wanderer78 wrote: »
    Did you ask him, how do you move space?

    Sorry i meant the car space on the public road outside the house!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,853 ✭✭✭messrs


    TheW1zard wrote: »
    Sorry i meant the car space on the public road outside the house!

    Did you actually move the car? can he not park his car in his front garden?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,644 ✭✭✭✭punisher5112


    I moved into a new house recently and a few of the neighbours are nice and friendly... apart from the ones who are right next to me. I spotted them spying on me through gaps in the fence 3 times now. I give a friendly hello when I pass them, I don't really want to be best buddies with neighbours to be honest but they definitely have something against me for some bizarre reason even though we haven't chatted since I introduced myself on the first day. Some people are just weirdos.

    Fill up the cracks or put in a hedge


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,644 ✭✭✭✭punisher5112


    TheW1zard wrote: »
    Sorry i meant the car space on the public road outside the house!

    People become very protective and in many cases believe they own everything out front....

    Wouldn't entertain that.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,346 ✭✭✭TheW1zard


    messrs wrote: »
    Did you actually move the car? can he not park his car in his front garden?

    It gets better. Its 1 and a half spaces really.
    So he wanted me to move and block my driveway, so he could park there and not block his driveway!
    We both have 2 cars


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 30,439 ✭✭✭✭Wanderer78


    TheW1zard wrote:
    Sorry i meant the car space on the public road outside the house!


    Sorry I was only taking the piss, couldn't resist


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,346 ✭✭✭TheW1zard


    People become very protective and in many cases believe they own everything out front....

    Wouldn't entertain that.

    I didnt, i said if the spot is free id park there as its a public road. Only moved in, nice way to introduce yourself alright


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 30,439 ✭✭✭✭Wanderer78


    TheW1zard wrote:
    It gets better. Its 1 and a half spaces really. So he wanted me to move and block my driveway, so he could park there and not block his driveway! We both have 2 cars


    Get the fcuk, first come, first served


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,853 ✭✭✭messrs


    TheW1zard wrote: »
    It gets better. Its 1 and a half spaces really.
    So he wanted me to move and block my driveway, so he could park there and not block his driveway!
    We both have 2 cars

    Thats crazy!! Not sticking up for him but maybe previous tenants to you didnt have car so he was used to having it for himself and now doesn't like that he has to share!!
    As above poster said first come first served - if you get there first take the spot he will just have to park somewhere else! Its a public road so spot doesnt belong to anyone regardless of whose house its directly outside


  • Posts: 8,856 ✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    If he threatened you, report him to the defence forces


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,067 ✭✭✭368100


    If he threatened you, report him to the defence forces

    Never thought of that....


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,920 ✭✭✭Cash_Q


    After a few more interactions/over time you'll become less exotic and interesting. As others have said just maintain a quick hello, maybe a bit of small talk but don't indulge him too much in case it becomes a habit.

    Widow next door to us used to wait til we would arrive home to appear at her front door 'cleaning' or even lean out the upstairs window as if she's polishing the exterior window sill. I used to be nice and friendly with her but it was becoming far too regular of a deliberate thing on her part and shes not even a nice lady, gossips loudly about the other neighbours, most of whom hate her. Quick hello and into the house and she soon reduced this carry on, although she still does it if she has something specific to gossip about. If we went out the back she would pop up through a gap in the fence. We built a great strong fence, she still tried to get our attention by singing to herself out there but we just ignore her. Poor old bat must do nothing but listen to our movements so she's ready to appear when we are coming or going. It's incredibly invasive and plenty of people tell us we're just not sympathetic to her loneliness but try living next to it and you'd see how it encroaches on your privacy. Nip it in the bud before he sees you as someone who actually wants to talk to him.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,134 ✭✭✭Lux23


    There is always one on any street that you find out after a while everyone else thinks is a dose, so you were perhaps lucky to find him so quickly!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,196 ✭✭✭MonkstownHoop


    TheW1zard wrote: »
    Sorry i meant the car space on the public road outside the house!

    One of my neighbours actually leaves a bag of cement and cones, he built a driveway on the side of the road that cars park which he shouldn't have done in the first place, he's also an oddball, always one or two.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5 anton.gall


    plant a proper front/back hedge, out of sight, out of mind :-)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,337 ✭✭✭Bandana boy


    I had a neighbour in Cork back in the day I really did not like .
    Our first disagreement was on parking , each house had a driveway for one car space and everybody else parked their car in front of their house .
    The width of the house was quite small and we had a Starlet and a Corolla , If i parked the Corolla in the driveway and the starlet outside up to the boundary of my house I could get the corolla out of the driveway , if i did it the other way round the corolla outside would come over the driveway entrance and you would have to move one car to get the other out .

    he though had two cars that were too long for this to work , so as he most times got home before me would park leaving his driveway clear but coming over the boundary on my side , now meaning that if with the Starlet parked outside the driveway would be blocked.

    I mentioned this to him and he basically said tough luck pal.

    Then one night he called round saying his baby was trying to sleep and the music coming from the house was too loud and keeping it awake , I had an office at the back of the house and I often listened to music while in there , I assumed I had left the music on and apologised and ran upstairs to turn it off but I had not left music on . And we had been in the sitting room watching a documentary on spelling bees , so it could not have come from that . I went out into the garden to see if I could hear music coming from somewhere else and nada.

    He always gave me weird looks when we passed in the morning or evening glares and the like .
    About 6 months after we moved in Mrs Bandana Boy had one of her oldest friends come for a visit , she was staying for a few days and mentioned she would be going out for dinner with one of her friends from college one of the nights .
    Anyway turns out our neighbour was her friend , and she had nothing but nice things to say and could not believe the story when I told her ,we got reintroduced through her and he was very pleasant while she stayed ,but as soon as she left and for the remaining 4 years I lived there the same awkward parking and glares.

    nothing queer as folk


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,148 ✭✭✭amadangomor


    The on street parking area seems to be and issue with unreasonable neighbours taking more than is a fair compromise

    Our neighbours would park completely in front of our garden because they liked to leave total free access to their drive. We would have to park elsewhere even though there would be enough room for two cars and both driveways a little bit blocked.

    Have come to a compromise of sorts where we park halfway across our drive, leaving just enough for access in and out. They still have full access.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 831 ✭✭✭who what when



    Have come to a compromise of sorts where we park halfway across our drive, leaving just enough for access in and out. They still have full access.

    Ah, you might find that that's not actually a compromise.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,644 ✭✭✭✭punisher5112


    I find when you park arse ways it changes.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,062 ✭✭✭✭anewme


    One of our neighbours got one of those cheap fire pit things. Black Smoke billowing up like smoke signals. Whatever way the wind was blowing the smoke was going right into the house behind. Id say it was coming in through vents. Say there will be words had soon.

    I would not say they are odd....just strange that they would not see that amount of black smoke would annoy someone.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,148 ✭✭✭amadangomor


    Ah, you might find that that's not actually a compromise.

    They are nice people but obviously got used to using our side and can't see that they should stick to theirs since we moved in.

    Not worth falling out with them when we have no other issues. If they were arseholes in other ways I would be less inclined to more than meet them half way.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,346 ✭✭✭TheW1zard


    They are nice people but obviously got used to using our side and can't see that they should stick to theirs since we moved in.

    Not worth falling out with them when we have no other issues. If they were arseholes in other ways I would be less inclined to more than meet them half way.

    Do what im doing and widen your driveway (if you can)


  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    I had a neighbour drop a few tons of sheep sh!te in my garden yesterday. I thanked him :)

    But seriously, life's to short. Just live your life


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20,475 ✭✭✭✭Cyrus


    the parking out front thing always reminds me of this stretch of road, must be contagious, everyone has an idiotic no parking sign of their own design, laying claim to the area outside their house,

    https://www.google.com/maps/@53.2885523,-6.1417473,3a,68.6y,300.12h,66.91t/data=!3m6!1e1!3m4!1sB8Seoq5NM6M0HeL2UaiF2Q!2e0!7i13312!8i6656

    if you scroll along you can see


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,889 ✭✭✭SozBbz


    Ugh, we moved in before Christmas and there is one unpleasant neighbour. Thankfully shes from further down the road and we're not directly beside her but shes tough to take.

    Before moving in, I was around at the house dropping in some items, and she cought me coming out to the car. Full of questions, verging on personal for a complete stranger. Turns out she'd also managed to bump into my OH's parents who were over gawping at the house the previous day and introduced herself to them too.

    We did some work on the house when we first moved in which involved a skip. She was full of opinions on that. As happens with skips, we'd some issues with people putting their litter in it while walking past. She came up the road and made a big song and dance about a can of coke which she claimed came from our skip. My OH, said grand, its not ours but whatever, we'll put it in our bins. She then persisted to tell us that our new roof was unnecessary and that it was only done last year (not true - was fully of asbestos and hadnt been touched in 50+ years) but apparently because she'd seen someone doing a patch job on it last year, she thought it was her place to tell us that we shouldnt be getting "unnecessary" work on our roof.

    Needless to say, that was the moment I stopped trying to be polite to her - told her that her information was incorrect and we'd do whatever works were deemed necessary for our property without her input. Didnt see her for a while after that.

    A few weekends back I saw her out pulling weeds outside various neighbours houses -the area between the road and the footpath. She was absolutely myrtering herself and making a big song and dance of sighing and wiping her brow due to her hard work. Thankfully she didnt get the opportunity to do outside my house as I'd actually done it myself. IMO it was the definition of passive aggressive - trying to shame people for very minor weeds that are actually beyond their boundaries and were not causing any issues and are probably along every street in the country.

    There is always one.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20,832 ✭✭✭✭Donald Trump


    Wanderer78 wrote: »
    Did you ask him, how do you move space?




    By placing mass in it. It causes spacetime to warp. Arthur Eddington used that fact in an experiment which showed behaviour predicted by Einstein's Theory of General Relativity


  • Posts: 7,712 ✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    I’ve one beside me here that loves parking anywhere but their drive, though I suppose there’s nothing can be done as it’s all legal. Each drive can take 2 cars but they like to park on the road outside their wall and on the road outside our wall and leave the driveway free for visitors all day. There was also a period where they had 3 cars so basically scrapped one outside ours that didn’t move an inch for 7 months.
    As I said, all legal but they’re still arseholes.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,853 ✭✭✭messrs


    I’ve one beside me here that loves parking anywhere but their drive, though I suppose there’s nothing can be done as it’s all legal. Each drive can take 2 cars but they like to park on the road outside their wall and on the road outside our wall and leave the driveway free for visitors all day. There was also a period where they had 3 cars so basically scrapped one outside ours that didn’t move an inch for 7 months.
    As I said, all legal but they’re still arseholes.

    Feel like I could have written this exact same post! I just don't get people freaking out over spots on the road if they actually have space to park in their front garden


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 29,095 ✭✭✭✭looksee


    At our previous house the road was quite narrow, so if someone was parked in the road outside their house and your drive happened to be directly opposite it was a very tight squeeze to pull out.

    One neighbour across from us asked us not to park in one particular spot as it interfered with his exit, there was plenty of room in the street (a cul de sac) so we obliged by parking a bit further along.

    New people came in opposite us though and would stop the car across their own driveway, a good foot out from the kerb, which made it impossible for us to get out. Each time we had to ask them to move their car a bit - and there was loads of space for them to park a car length back, but that would have involved another six steps of walking. We never got through to them, all very pleasant and cheerful to say hello, but no cop on socially - especially when their considerable numbers of relatives completely filled the turnaround at the end of the road, they just didn't get it.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 373 ✭✭emanresu


    Cyrus wrote: »
    the parking out front thing always reminds me of this stretch of road, must be contagious, everyone has an idiotic no parking sign of their own design, laying claim to the area outside their house,

    https://www.google.com/maps/@53.2885523,-6.1417473,3a,68.6y,300.12h,66.91t/data=!3m6!1e1!3m4!1sB8Seoq5NM6M0HeL2UaiF2Q!2e0!7i13312!8i6656

    if you scroll along you can see


    What is so secret just further along the road?
    https://www.google.com/maps/@53.2885808,-6.142957,3a,75y,248.13h,78.6t/data=!3m6!1e1!3m4!1sha5F_HSUr9BHegAXEeqX7Q!2e0!7i13312!8i6656


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  • Posts: 7,712 ✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    emanresu wrote: »

    Someone with a tinfoil hat. You can request to have your house removed from street view.


  • Site Banned Posts: 461 ✭✭callmehal


    With a lot of the lads they accept into the army, let's just say, it could be far worse for you.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 622 ✭✭✭sheepsh4gger


    Funny, sounds like my experience moving into a new apartment.
    >boomers live 20 years, think they own the place
    >I move in
    >They leave me a note about turning off the light in the toilet. Even though you can't see into the apartment at all. You would need to have your ear to the wall to hear the fan the light triggers.
    >I go to work every day, 5 days a week. A month later at 23:30 the boomer is knocking on my door, I wake up check what in hell he wants - the guy says he wants to check if everyting is OK as he didn't see me in a while. This time **** is weird, I don't answer and ignore him.


    Boomers are losing their faculties.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 622 ✭✭✭sheepsh4gger


    There's also a lot of people who are nobodies but pretending to be say the landlord makes them feel important.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,059 ✭✭✭...Ghost...


    Cyrus wrote: »
    the parking out front thing always reminds me of this stretch of road, must be contagious, everyone has an idiotic no parking sign of their own design, laying claim to the area outside their house,

    https://www.google.com/maps/@53.2885523,-6.1417473,3a,68.6y,300.12h,66.91t/data=!3m6!1e1!3m4!1sB8Seoq5NM6M0HeL2UaiF2Q!2e0!7i13312!8i6656

    if you scroll along you can see

    In fairness, they must get a huge amount of people using their road as free parking being so close to the harbour. I parked down that way about 15 years back on a Sunday. Checked for parking restrictions and saw no signage. After a couple hours of fishing, car was clamped. I was furious, argued there were no signs AND it was a Sunday....free parking pretty much anywhere except paid car parks.

    I kid you not, there were dozens of cars clamped as I walked up to the clampers office. I didn't notice any signage. When I checked more carefully upon returning to my vehicle, my friend spotted a parking sign......BEHIND A LARGE BOAT!! I never went fishing there again. It was and probably still is an issue there.

    Stay Free



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20,475 ✭✭✭✭Cyrus


    In fairness, they must get a huge amount of people using their road as free parking being so close to the harbour. I parked down that way about 15 years back on a Sunday. Checked for parking restrictions and saw no signage. After a couple hours of fishing, car was clamped. I was furious, argued there were no signs AND it was a Sunday....free parking pretty much anywhere except paid car parks.

    I kid you not, there were dozens of cars clamped as I walked up to the clampers office. I didn't notice any signage. When I checked more carefully upon returning to my vehicle, my friend spotted a parking sign......BEHIND A LARGE BOAT!! I never went fishing there again. It was and probably still is an issue there.

    I’m not sure what the story is to me it’s not close enough to bother parking there but maybe it’s close to something

    The point is it’s not their space to stop people parking there unfortunately!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,887 ✭✭✭accensi0n


    Is it not a footpath?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20,475 ✭✭✭✭Cyrus


    Foot path is the outer part


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 330 ✭✭The_Fitz


    I'd definitely be organising a rave.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2 Beekeeper1


    368100 wrote: »
    Never thought of that....
    Hey OP ... have you ever considered that what he said to you that first day you met was taken completely out of context by you ? perhaps he was yknow....bantering with a new neighbour? And youre potentially gonna ruin his career by reporting him to ths army.
    i live in a cul de sac...all families...house goes up for sale and the fella selling it says its a family who has bought it (anyone who says they dont care to know who or what kinda people have bought the house you share a wall with is a liar ) after a few weeks it became apparent it was a single guy on his own. a single guy in a 4 bed house in an estate teeming with kids. OF COURSE the neighbours commented ! what added to the rumour was that from the day he moved in the guards were never away from his door. constantly calling. of course you think frig sake hes a paedo and they're checkimg on him ! the whole close was aware of him. what happened? turns out hes some kind of peace.commissioner or one of those people who signs off on stuff for the guards. you wouldn't think it to look at him ...he looks like a right wee scrote.
    my point is... you say it was a horrible way to welcome you . if i move in somewhere i dont see the onus as on my neighbour to knock into me and introduce myself. People dont like to think theyre being that kinda neighbour. i feel as the new guy the onus is on u to say....how u doing...my name is x, i just moved in next door , dont wanna be besties , but you can see im not looper lol (in the same banter he probably said listen if theres trouble the neighbours will send the boys round) why is this bothering you after 8 months...has he done anything since ?


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