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Ex reaching out to me at a stressful time

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  • #32
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,005 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    It is nice that they thought of you on your birthday (Belated Happy Birthday btw!), and Im sure you miss them a lot, but I agree with the majority. I think you know too that it is well past time that you broke off contact with all of them, especially seeing as you keep zero contact with your actual ex.
    How long ago is it since you broke up?
    You're not going to be able to move on properly if them getting in contact every few months is giving you pangs of guilt.
    It is very sad when a relationship is over, and when you get on well with their family, it's like breaking up with each of them too. It's for the best that you all move on, sooner rather than later.


  • #33
    antix80
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,417 ✭✭✭antix80


    PolkaDancer11 wrote: »
    I got birthday messages from her family recently, and even though i love hearing from them and enthusiastically reply, i feel so terrible when my ex then sends her birthday wishes and I have to blank her. I feel very down and guilty about it.


    The family probably don't realise you're ghosting her. They probably talk to her about you and she has to pretend you're still friends.

    As part of the breakup, she gets her family. You need to untangle yourself from her life.

    I was in a similar situation where my ex blanked me but kept pally with my family. My family would talk about my ex as if we were still on friendly terms when in reality i was being blanked. I felt anguish to be honest

    In the end, i plucked up the courage to ask my family to delete my ex on social media and they all did with no questions asked.

    You're being really awful. You can't have your cake and eat it.


  • #34
    Hannibal_Smith
    Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators, Paid Member Posts: 7,588 Mod ✭✭✭✭Hannibal_Smith


    Mod Note

    Folks enough of the loss of pet vs lost of child discussion. It is of absolutely no relevance to the advice the OP is seeking.

    If you have no advice to offer the OP then, as per the Charter, please move to another thread.

    Thanks

    HS

    ETA - I've deleted a a couple of off topic posts. Please remember when replying to a thread in PI/RI you must do so in a manner that offers advice to the OP.


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