sister got no Mother's Day card

susieball

My sister's kids are 19 and 18. They take my sister for granted a lot of the time. She works full-time and takes in students to pay for everything for them, college etc. This year, as last year, they got her no card or flowers for Mother's Day. They both have part-time jobs. She came home to find the house in a mess, and they were out of the house, When she said she was upset about no acknowledgment of Mother's Day, they just shrugged and one of stated what the hell was she. on about it's only a 'blxxdy day.' I'm not that much into cards, mine just make me cards for Mother's Day, but she is upset. Any thoughts on this would be helpful. I wasn't sure what to say, as I didn't want to make her feel worse.

Wuff Wuff

susieball wrote: »

My sister's kids are 19 and 18. They take my sister for granted a lot of the time. She works full-time and takes in students to pay for everything for them, college etc. This year, as last year, they got her no card or flowers for Mother's Day. They both have part-time jobs. She came home to find the house in a mess, and they were out of the house, When she said she was upset about no acknowledgment of Mother's Day, they just shrugged and one of stated what the hell was she. on about it's only a 'blxxdy day.' I'm not that much into cards, mine just make me cards for Mother's Day, but she is upset. Any thoughts on this would be helpful. I wasn't sure what to say, as I didn't want to make her feel worse.

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Happy4all

Tell her it current times avoiding Covid 19 is more important than a card.

This is it

I do my best to acknowledge all the hard work my mam does throughout the year but at the same time I always like to treat her for Mother's Day. Had paid for a night away for her but due to C19 it was cancelled so a bottle of wine and a card did the trick.

Not with my son's mother anymore but she got a mug, socks, a painting and a card last week from him.

From my limit experience I think most Mam's just want a card, some acknowledgement, that's all. Anything else is a bonus.

Happy Mothers Day to all the Mammys, and all the best to those that find it a really tough day, for one reason or another.

Raconteuse

Aw, poor thing. Tell her the teenage years really bring out the selfish, thoughtless arsehole in many (topical right now!) and this isn't unusual.

They'll recognise what she's doing for them in time. Until then, she can tell them **** off if they expect money for non essentials.

punisher5112

Did they send a e card????

If not then yes they are complete an utter morons ..


She reared them though...

Slydice

Have a chat with the kids pronto. A late card would still be something.

punisher5112

sugarman wrote: »

Tell her to cop onto herself, its just another Hallmark holiday. Its not the end of the world.

You don't know any woman so....

fonecrusher1

This is both upsetting and shocking news. Deeply upsetting.


I'm considering making my own pizzas.

Feisar

punisher5112 wrote: »

Did they send a e card????

If not then yes they are complete an utter morons ..


She reared them though...

As my Dad would say, the mother that had them would drown nothing.

Quantum Erasure

susieball wrote: »

hey got her no card or flowers for Mother's Day. .

The U.S.-derived modern version of Mother's Day has been criticized for having become too commercialized. Founder Jarvis herself regretted this commercialism and expressed views on how that was never her intention.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mother%27s_Day

punisher5112

A mother is someone that should be appreciated and cared for... A dad would like to feel wanted but couldn't honestly give a fluck aboit a card, this is the difference..,.

Care for her....

poisonated

I rang my mother and sent her a WhatsApp for Mother’s Day. I also bought her dinner.

Jonybgud

A card isn't much to acknowledge all she does for them. OP, give one of them a quick call and put them in the picture, they can spend the next week making it up to her.

Some people are so self absorbed they think of no one else, age is no barrier to selfishness.

Raconteuse

sugarman wrote: »

Tell her to cop onto herself, its just another Hallmark holiday. Its not the end of the world.

Nah it's no fun to be the odd one out when so many mark the day by making their mothers feel appreciated.

It seems like these two never do that any time.

Raconteuse

punisher5112 wrote: »

A mother is someone that should be appreciated and cared for... A dad would like to feel wanted but couldn't honestly give a fluck aboit a card, this is the difference..,.

Care for her....

I treat my daddy the very same on fathers' day.

Jonybgud

sugarman wrote: »

Tell her to cop onto herself, its just another Hallmark holiday.

Quantum Erasure wrote: »

The U.S.-derived modern version of Mother's Day has been criticized for having become too commercialized. Founder Jarvis herself regretted this commercialism and expressed views on how that was never her intention.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mother%27s_Day

Doesn't matter a scrap what anybody else thinks in this case, this woman has confided in her sister how let down she feels.

That needs to be addressed.

Leg End Reject

It's one day of the year, a time will come when you're visiting a grave.

Don't neglect acknowledging your mother as a protest against a "Hallmark holiday".

anewme

punisher5112 wrote: »

You don't know any woman so....

Please stop generalising.

punisher5112

Raconteuse wrote: »

I treat my daddy the very same on fathers' day.

Well that's nice..... I treat everyone the same they treat me....

Disrespect me and oh boy.... Are you on for it.... But honestly my mum and dad were the best.

Lost her when we were young unfortunately

punisher5112

anewme wrote: »

Please stop generalising.

Wtf

SCOOP 64

I paid €11.50 for 2 mothers day cards in Tescos last night ,just grab 2 as people started leaning over me to get to cards!,
if i looked at the price first i would have left them.

threetrees

Personally I'm not too bothered about Mother's Day, however, if she's bothered she needs to let them know. They turn out how you rear them.

I'd be more bothered that they left a mess behind any day, doesn't matter that it's mother's Day.

Seems like she is taken for granted throughout the year and was probably looking forward to that one day where she's get a bit of recognition.

anewme

I rang my Mum today to see if she wanted anything brought for Mothers day.

Over 70, she had to stay in.

She asked for bottled water....and a large bottle of whiskey.

eviltwin

Didn't get a card from my kids either, not a bit bothered tbh. It's not a day I care much for.

Rodney Bathgate

There is a shop in Jervis Shopping Centre that sold 10 cards (with envelopes) for EUR 1.

Yes, you read that right. 10 cards for EUR 1.

I have enough generic cards for family birthdays and other events to last the next five years. Best EUR 5 I ever spent.

the_syco

susieball wrote: »

they just shrugged and one of stated what the hell was she. on about it's only a 'blxxdy day.'

She reared them. I'd wonder if that was her response to some of their important days?

Omackeral

susieball wrote: »

My sister's kids are 19 and 18. They take my sister for granted a lot of the time. She works full-time and takes in students to pay for everything for them, college etc. This year, as last year, they got her no card or flowers for Mother's Day. They both have part-time jobs. She came home to find the house in a mess, and they were out of the house, When she said she was upset about no acknowledgment of Mother's Day, they just shrugged and one of stated what the hell was she. on about it's only a 'blxxdy day.' I'm not that much into cards, mine just make me cards for Mother's Day, but she is upset. Any thoughts on this would be helpful. I wasn't sure what to say, as I didn't want to make her feel worse.

Burn the house down.

SCOOP 64

She should forget their birthdays see how that goes down.

punisher5112

Op.... Your sister is a fool, she needs to start charging them rent....

Omackeral

SCOOP 64 wrote: »

I paid €11.50 for 2 mothers day cards in Tescos last night ,just grab 2 as people started leaning over me to get to cards!,
if i looked at the price first i would have left them.

That's disgusting. Really unacceptable. I'm shocked.













Calling it Tescos. It's Tesco.

Leg End Reject

SCOOP 64 wrote: »

She should forget their birthdays see how that goes down.

And Christmas.

Omackeral

Rodney Bathgate wrote: »

There is a shop in Jervis Shopping Centre that sold 10 cards (with envelopes) for EUR 1.

Yes, you read that right. 10 cards for EUR 1.

Best EUR 5 I ever spent.

Seems like you didn't :pac:

jaxxx

Ah, first world problems eh?

Rodney Bathgate

Omackeral wrote: »

Seems like you didn't :pac:

I got more than one set of 10...

Omackeral

SCOOP 64 wrote: »

She should forget their birthdays see how that goes down.

Leg End Reject wrote: »

And Christmas.

Ah the good old treat them like Jehovah's Witnesses approach.

Omackeral

Rodney Bathgate wrote: »

I got more than one set of 10...

I know. I was having a joke. I should have known better. sorry.

Raconteuse

eviltwin wrote: »

Didn't get a card from my kids either, not a bit bothered tbh. It's not a day I care much for.

Bet they show you appreciation otherwise though.

JDMC2

Raconteuse wrote: »

Nah it's no fun to be the odd one out when so many mark the day by making their mothers feel appreciated.

It seems like these two never do that any time.

Got breakfast in bed while my kids sat on the bed with their tongues hanging out.....loved every bite

o1s1n

Omackeral wrote: »

Ah the good old treat them like Jehovah's Witnesses approach.

You joke but as someone who's parents are Jehovah's Witnesses it's bloody difficult.

I make a point of celebrating their birthdays and mother's/father's Day from my side even if they're not meant to.

Can tell under all their indoctrination that it does mean a lot to them.

chrissb8

Get a kebab

My gran and my MIL both got calls and deliveries. My own mum isn't here anymore but if she was she'd be in no doubt how much I appreciate her. Hugs to anyone else missing their mum today.

I pity any mum left out by thoughtless kids who take them for granted - any day of the year but particularly Mothers Day.

retro:electro

susieball wrote: »

My sister's kids are 19 and 18. They take my sister for granted a lot of the time. She works full-time and takes in students to pay for everything for them, college etc. This year, as last year, they got her no card or flowers for Mother's Day. They both have part-time jobs. She came home to find the house in a mess, and they were out of the house, When she said she was upset about no acknowledgment of Mother's Day, they just shrugged and one of stated what the hell was she. on about it's only a 'blxxdy day.' I'm not that much into cards, mine just make me cards for Mother's Day, but she is upset. Any thoughts on this would be helpful. I wasn't sure what to say, as I didn't want to make her feel worse.

Omackeral

o1s1n wrote: »

You joke but as someone who's parents are Jehovah's Witnesses it's bloody difficult.

Was a JW myself from the age of 4 til I was old enough to say f*ck religion. So I've been in the trenches too my friend

Leg End Reject

Omackeral wrote: »

Was a JW myself from the age of 4 til I was old enough to say f*ck religion. So I've been in the trenches too my friend

You should do an AMA. That would be fascinating.

Omackeral

Leg End Reject wrote: »

You should do an AMA. That would be fascinating.

It's basically this on any given xmas/bday/halloween morning.

Leg End Reject

A lost childhood.

It's the one day of the year when I'm glad my mother is dead. I'd hate to feel obliged to buy a card for a made up holiday.

Leg End Reject

[Deleted User] wrote: »

It's the one day of the year when I'm glad my mother is dead. I'd hate to feel obliged to buy a card for a made up holiday.

Ah here!

Leg End Reject

Leg End Reject wrote: »

Ah here!

That kinda came out wrong. I am glad that I don't have to buy a card. Not into cards at all.