To tip or not to tip?

Sebastian Dangerfield

We had an oil delivery today, the driver mentioned he's delivered to our house a few times before.

He filled the oil tank, gave me the receipt, then it got a bit awkward before I said goodbye and went inside. I found out after that the wife usually tips a fiver or tenner, so he was probably expecting the same from me -hence the awkwardness. Do people on here tip delivery drivers outside of food - e.g. Harvey Norman, Currys?

Personally I tip restaurant staff, food deliveries, taxi drivers and at the barbers. Found out today the wife tips just about every service provider who calls to the door. Whats the accepted etiquette for say a furniture delivery, or someone servicing the boiler?

I had no idea we had so much disposable income to be giving away!

Jim_Hodge

I've never heard of tipping the oil delivery man.

biko

Tell your wife she has to reel it in a bit, she make the rest of us look bad.

Atlantic Dawn

Perhaps a tip/price of a pint if it was pissing down heavy rain at the time, otherwise no, it wouldn't be expected.

kwestfan08

At Christmas I might tip an oil man but never just during the year

Trigger Happy

Here is a tip for you OP...have a word with your wife.
She cant be tipping everyone who calls to the door!

Sebastian Dangerfield

biko wrote: »

Tell your wife she has to reel it in a bit, she make the rest of us look bad.

I mention the boiler service, cos I just found out he got a 20! Mad stuff

Bob Harris

Better her tipping him than him tipping her.

I tip for food delivery only. Not worried about my oil being spat in!

Sebastian Dangerfield

Bob Harris wrote: »

Better her tipping him than him tipping her.

Id want more than 500 litres in the tank for that

Cody montana

Barber/Hairdresser-yes
Taxi driver if they aren’t racist-yes

Everyone else-no.

coastwatch

Are you sure he hasn't been giving it a bit of a service with the deliveries.;)

mr_fegelien

You sure the delivery man wasnt tipped because he gave your wife a happy ending after the oil delivery...?

theguzman

Tipping is something I only do in America and then I do it sparingly.

Cody montana

theguzman wrote: »

Tipping is something I only do in America and then I do it sparingly.

We get robbed here anyway.

Sebastian Dangerfield

mr_fegelien wrote: »

You sure the delivery man wasnt tipped because he gave your wife a happy ending after the oil delivery...?

Well whatever he was waiting for today, he wasnt getting it off me!

theguzman

Cody montana wrote: »

We get robbed here anyway.

Waitors and Waitresses earn minimum so they are not that hard up anyway. I paid for a meal in restaurant in Dublin last week and the waitress presented me the cardreader with the screen to insert my tip open on it before, I added €2 and then paid it with my meal. I thought it was very cheeky effectively asking for a tip.

Max Moment

Sebastian Dangerfield wrote: »

Well whatever he was waiting for today, he wasnt getting it off me!

Probably wanted to show you his hose!🀣🀣🀣

Oranage2

I find a good hand shake and a sincere thank you is better than a tip for most people

Redneck Reject71

I tip anyone who does a service for me.Just to let them know I appreciate them.

Strumms

We are now turning into the fuçkin US, where we are going to be expected to tip everyone, part with even more of our cash having already paid for said product and service in one of the most expensive countries going. Because people want that self pat on the back from ..’oh wow I’m so great, so generous etc’....people in the service industry will be getting paid less because the employer believes it’s in keeping with tradition now that employee get 15% of their income from tips, the customers pay 15% over the asking price for said service and the businessman is making more by paying less...

A kid waiting a table, yes, it’s an industry that’s relied on tips for centuries, taxi drivers too, but starting this US shît of basically anybody that holds a door for you, says hello or interacts with you over any transaction based situation? NO... the US can keep its culture, I’ll keep my money unless I choose to part with it.

Guffy

My new philosophy has been if they charge for miwadi they can sing, otherwise no prob tipping waiting staff

Church on Tuesday

Is tipping Taxi drivers really a thing?

I mean, I'm not tight or anything, but they are expensive enough as is...

Redneck Reject71

Is people now so tight as to show a little appreciation by tipping to someone who performs a service to them so they can continue to live a easier life as to not have to do it themselves? It's shameful how society has gone. Bash my post all you want but it doesn't change the fact of how entitled people have become.

Sebastian Dangerfield

Church on Tuesday wrote: »

Is tipping Taxi drivers really a thing?

I mean, I'm not tight or anything, but they are expensive enough as is...

I tend to add a couple of quid or round up to the nearest fiver - if the fare is 22.60 Ill tell him to make it 25.

Edgarfrndly

Tipping is for the birds.

Staff should be paid more if they rely on tips.

Abba987

Church on Tuesday wrote: »

Is tipping Taxi drivers really a thing?

I mean, I'm not tight or anything, but they are expensive enough as is...

I dont understand that one either. I dont understand tipping anyone who you are already giving money directly to.
Would tip waitressing staff and thats about it and not if they are brutal. Oh and my hairdresser.

I certainly wouldnt be tipping oil delivery man. What about tesco, dhl, postman? Where does it end

Sebastian Dangerfield

Redneck Reject71 wrote: »

Is people now so tight as to show a little appreciation by tipping to someone who performs a service to them so they can continue to live a easier life as to not have to do it themselves? It's shameful how society has gone. Bash my post all you want but it doesn't change the fact of how entitled people have become.

Surely the person expecting to be paid for the same job by both their employer and the customer is the one thats entitled, no?

I got quotes from 3 websites for the cheapest delivery. It would seem odd to then give them back the saving anyway - to me at least.

Im not exactly flush myself, so to use your analogy Id be making their life easier at the expense of my own.

Ive no problem with tipping where its the norm. The point of my post is I have no idea what the norm is anymore.

Pawwed Rig

Cody montana wrote: »

Taxi driver if they aren’t racist-yes

Why taxi drivers out of interest? Are they particularly hard up?

JustAThought

I’m trying to think of the people who come to the door and whether I tip - typically they’re self employed and I have negotiated a price ( gas boiler installation, servicing something, installing electrics, window cleaner) so no - in all these instances I don’t tip. If the price has to be raised because of something unexpected then I’ll typically agree it. Regarding cafes and restaurants I now round up a bit if its a meal but don’t give 10% - if its e22 I’ll give e25 etc - I never tip for coffees - its expensive enough and its not America where they are not paid a wage. In a restaurant or cafe If someone is clearly having a dreadful day or if everything has gone wrong despite their best efforts or if they are overwhelmed and clearly doing their hardest or someone is being cruel or they are overwhelmed and devestatingly understaffed then I will tip generously not just a few shillings.

Can I just say: we had reason to have the firebrigade out and I rang to ask what was the norm to drop in to thank them - they said noone ever did. I couldn’t believe that for men who risk their lives and rush into burning buildings and go to nasty car wrecks that noone ever tips them. So I dropped in some boxes of chocolates and a card and you never saw grown man as happy! It’s the little things that make life nice. But this hand out and self entitlement and taximen ‘ not having chagre and sitting there for 10 minutes waiting for you to leave while they scrabble around pretending to look for your fiver change - forget it.

Sebastian Dangerfield

I was in a comedy club in NYC about 10 years ago. 2 rounds of drinks came to 37 dollars. I paid the bill with a hundred - 20 mins later no change had come back.
Tracked down the server and asked where my change was. They got all smart and said something to the effect of "if you're mean enough to want change, you have to ask for it". 63 dollar tip on a 37 dollar bill!

Church on Tuesday

Redneck Reject71 wrote: »

Is people now so tight as to show a little appreciation by tipping to someone who performs a service to them so they can continue to live a easier life as to not have to do it themselves? It's shameful how society has gone. Bash my post all you want but it doesn't change the fact of how entitled people have become.

Lot's of folk simply don't have the money to be tipping anyone.

Most normal people are appreciative of the service they get and for me that was always enough.

I tip waiting staff if I can because they often get treated like **** and if there's a euro difference with the taxi driver I'd let him have it if he was sound or went out of his way to get me to where I need to be.

tuisginideach

I tip hairdresser, taxi driver (if a pleasant person) and restaurant staff. Would always give postman and beautician a decent tip at Christmas.

Butterface

Sebastian Dangerfield wrote: »

I was in a comedy club in NYC about 10 years ago. 2 rounds of drinks came to 37 dollars. I paid the bill with a hundred - 20 mins later no change had come back.
Tracked down the server and asked where my change was. They got all smart and said something to the effect of "if you're mean enough to want change, you have to ask for it". 63 dollar tip on a 37 dollar bill!

Similar thing happened to me and the OH in Paris in a pretty ****ty square-front cafe where they served us a sub-par croque monsieur each and barely tolerated our presence. Gave them 50e note for a bill of just over 20e... the waiter never came back with our change.

As we were leaving I went up to the bar and asked for my change.. the waiter in question left us standing there for about 10 minutes before coming back and throwing the change down on the counter. No words of apology, instead he spoke French to another waiter, clearly giving out about our scabbiness!

oceanman

as a rule I never tip waiting staff....not because im mean but because it simply encourages employers to pay crap wages.

Snails pace

Never heard anyone tip the lorry driver of an oil lorry. If it was a day like today I'd offer him tea. I'd give a twenty to the post man on Christmas and a few euros of a tip for food if the service was good.

lulu1

If I have a few euro change I might tip the hairdresser or the taxi driver but I wouldn't go out of my way looking for it. They are all getting paid a wage .
Years ago when working in a factory they used to lift a collection at christmas for the man who swept the floor who at the time was earning more than us

Sinister Kid

Sebastian Dangerfield wrote: »

Whats the accepted etiquette for say a furniture delivery!

I work in a furniture shop, according to our delivery guys tipping for regular deliveries is hit & miss; But If they go above an beyond for a customer, like helping them move furniture to another room or if they are delivering heavy items up to the top floor, people are more inclined tip.

Pawwed Rig

Snails pace wrote: »

Never heard anyone tip the lorry driver of an oil lorry. If it was a day like today I'd offer him tea. I'd give a twenty to the post man on Christmas and a few euros of a tip for food if the service was good.

Screw the postman. All he brings us is bills these days. Can't remember the last time I got anything in the post that was welcome in the house.
In fairness they are on a decent wage as are taxi drivers (If they want to be) so don't understand tipping them. I remember the bin collectors used to call to the house at Xmas cap in hand looking for cash!!!

Jurgen Klopp

I don't tip as it's not the US and the only people I've met who tip are elderly who lived in the US for decades or young people who watch too much American television

We have a minimum wage for a reason and what's more business here loved tippers as they were forcing employees to hand them over in the back

It's a different story if they go out of their way to do something that's not part of their job for example a young cashier's carrying some shopping or bag of coal to a car for someone from the shop etc

wally1990

theguzman wrote: »

Waitors and Waitresses earn minimum so they are not that hard up anyway. I paid for a meal in restaurant in Dublin last week and the waitress presented me the cardreader with the screen to insert my tip open on it before, I added €2 and then paid it with my meal. I thought it was very cheeky effectively asking for a tip.

That would make me so awkward

Nevin Parsnipp

lulu1 wrote: »

If I have a few euro change I might tip the hairdresser or the taxi driver but I wouldn't go out of my way looking for it. They are all getting paid a wage .
Years ago when working in a factory they used to lift a collection at christmas for the man who swept the floor who at the time was earning more than us

"lift a collection" ??? Jesus that's a new one ....down Munster way maybe ??

looksee

So all the tippers out there, do you tip the supermarket checkout person? The person who comes to read the electric meter? The bus driver on your daily commute? If not, why not?

Pauliedragon

Why is this always a big deal in newspapers, online etc? If you want to tip then tip, if you don't want to then don't. Your life wont change either way. The internet wont alter your conscience. Make your own life decisions people.

Nevin Parsnipp

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wrwQ9G4epys

This explains it all

theguzman

wally1990 wrote: »

That would make me so awkward

It made me so awkward too, and I just put down €2 as I was half shocked and she there standing over me like.

Rufeo

I always have loads of change on me. I always end up paying the exact price.

No way in Ireland would I tip. And especially if someone asked me to tip them. I mean if you got really good service you could give them an extra 5-10 euros.

But to the oil man. Haha. That.... Is generous

nocoverart

oceanman wrote: »

as a rule I never tip waiting staff....not because im mean but because it simply encourages employers to pay crap wages.

Yes, that’s a good one. I’ll tell myself that the next I don’t feel like tipping 😁

looksee

We went to a restaurant in the US, we had arrived that day and while I was aware that tipping was a 'thing' I had not fully taken on board the details. So we had a very average meal in a mostly empty very average restaurant, got the bill, added on a fairly random tip - probably around 10 or 15% and went to leave. We were ambushed at the door by an indignant waitress who wanted to know if her service was not satisfactory and if so, what was the problem. We were a bit bemused by this attack but offered a bit more, assured her the service was fine (it was average) and left. It felt very strange and, while I get the 'when in Rome' stuff, I would hate to encourage an environment like that here.

murpho999

tuisginideach wrote: »

I tip hairdresser, taxi driver (if a pleasant person) and restaurant staff. Would always give postman and beautician a decent tip at Christmas.

This seems to be the norm for many people and I don't get it.
Why tip a hairdresser but beautician only at Christmas? What's the difference?

Why tip a hairdresser and not a supermarket till operator or any retail shop assistant?
Why tip a taxi driver but not a bus or train driver?
Why tip food delivery people for food you have paid for and paid extra for delivery?
Why not tip plumbers, postmen, electricians, mechanics etc who all provide you with a service?

It's ridiculous and people need to realise that uniike the US that people earn good money here and do not depend on tips.

Atlantic Dawn

looksee wrote: »

We went to a restaurant in the US, we had arrived that day and while I was aware that tipping was a 'thing' I had not fully taken on board the details. So we had a very average meal in a mostly empty very average restaurant, got the bill, added on a fairly random tip - probably around 10 or 15% and went to leave. We were ambushed at the door by an indignant waitress who wanted to know if her service was not satisfactory and if so, what was the problem. We were a bit bemused by this attack but offered a bit more, assured her the service was fine (it was average) and left. It felt very strange and, while I get the 'when in Rome' stuff, I would hate to encourage an environment like that here.

The US situation is like employers taking on slaves and asking the public to pay their salary, it's a complete joke of a system.