Anybody spending Christmas Day on your own?

zerosugarbuzz

Weltsmertz wrote: »

You know what. All the people on this thread saying how wonderful and enjoyable it is to spend Christmas day alone, eating dinner alone and watching telly alone. I don't believe you. Not having anyone to spend Christmas day with is not the wonderful experience you are claiming.
It makes one feel more alone than usual and a bit of a social failure.

I disagree with you. I have never spent Christmas alone and when I was younger I would have dreaded the thought. Now I think it depends how evolved and mentally mature you are. It is one day, a grown up adult that isn’t ruled by their emotions should be able to deal with spending it alone, either by choice or circumstance. I am very impressed by the people on here. If the need arises I think I would enjoy the day just like you have 🎄

splinter65

Weltsmertz wrote: »

You know what. All the people on this thread saying how wonderful and enjoyable it is to spend Christmas day alone, eating dinner alone and watching telly alone. I don't believe you. Not having anyone to spend Christmas day with is not the wonderful experience you are claiming.
It makes one feel more alone than usual and a bit of a social failure.

See, here you are assuming lots of things. First of all you are assuming that the people who are spending Christmas Day alone are doing so because they have no one to spend it with. What you have to realise is that some people, for many reasons, wish to be alone on Christmas Day despite being invited to be part of a group. In actual fact for some people Christmas Day is an opportunity for some alone time.
Just because you would feel a social failure if you were alone at Christmas time doesn’t mean that others would, or that being considered a social failure would be important to them, as it clearly is to you.
I would say that if your only reason for being in a group at Christmas is to be seen as a social success then you need to review your priorities.
Lots of people consider quite rightly that Christmas has now become extremely over commercialised, and the pressure to join in in the illusion of togetherliness and peace and love to all mankind is not for them.
For some people it is primarily a religious feast and all the food and tinsel is too tacky.
Just because not everyone views Christmas as you do doesn’t mean that they are lying.

Weltsmertz

Be honest. Christmas was never really a religious feast. Even for those that are religious. Since the rise of Black Friday and January sales I'm not sure that it really about consumerism or commercialisation either. The impression given is that it's about getting together with loved ones and close family. If you don't have any well then you either spend it alone or force yourself into the company of semi strangers you don't really want to be around.

Sorry. I just don't buy all the protestations from posters on this thread that they are alone on Christmas day out of choice and preference because spending it with others is too much hassle or too stressful or that they need "alone" time It can be the loneliest day of the year. And claims by posters here that having dinner alone or watching telly all day alone are empowering and wonderful experiences come across as false.

Graces7

Oh just ignore him! Look at some of his other posts; same style same technique.. eg Lorenzo on the weather forum!

I have had the most fulfilling and peaceful Christmas ever, alone, through circumstances that I chose. And as for several reasons eg no immune system, I cannot be along folk. But also I find peace in solitude.

If you cannot be happy in your own company you can never be happy

My faith in the real Christ-Mass is strong and intact, as I have written there already. it being a religious celebration does not mean no special food. Someone once referred to it all as " The biggest birthday party in the world"!

We should thank this jaundiced poster for helping us to reaffirm all the positivity, caring and love expressed in this thread.

Oh mr WM? Welcome to my ignore list!

splinter65 wrote: »

See, here you are assuming lots of things. First of all you are assuming that the people who are spending Christmas Day alone are doing so because they have no one to spend it with. What you have to realise is that some people, for many reasons, wish to be alone on Christmas Day despite being invited to be part of a group. In actual fact for some people Christmas Day is an opportunity for some alone time.
Just because you would feel a social failure if you were alone at Christmas time doesn’t mean that others would, or that being considered a social failure would be important to them, as it clearly is to you.
I would say that if your only reason for being in a group at Christmas is to be seen as a social success then you need to review your priorities.
Lots of people consider quite rightly that Christmas has now become extremely over commercialised, and the pressure to join in in the illusion of togetherliness and peace and love to all mankind is not for them.
For some people it is primarily a religious feast and all the food and tinsel is too tacky.
Just because not everyone views Christmas as you do doesn’t mean that they are lying.

Posy

I think this thread has been summed up perfectly.

I hope everyone had a lovely day, be it alone, with excited kids, with the in-laws, with adults sitting around the TV in a food coma, or on holidays by a pool just enjoying your own company.