Does this happen anyone else?

Homelander

That goes beyond bad form, that's actually verging on mentally ill territory. I've met loads of people and to be really honest they were all really normal people, no weird stuff, no no-shows, nothing really. Some good dates, some great, some less so, but like....everyone turned up at least. I can't begin to wrap my head around someone just not turning up after arranging something specific, let alone get into that whole "Yeah almost there" bit you've mentioned above, that is actually disturbing.

Calypso Realm

What you've written about your flatmate Porklike is truly incredible! Don't blame the poor guy for feeling upset. And the fact she made a comeback at a later point. Jeez.

What I can't understand is why on earth not just shoot off a text to say you can't make it, for whatever reason, instead of this ridiculous charade? Nowadays it's just so easy compared to years ago when they had to pick up the phone and actually speak to someone to cancel!

skallywag

Porklife wrote: »

Thanks Calypso.. it was the first and hopefully last time that happens to me.

Nothing worse that getting a fifty to be fair.

I had my first taste of the pain when I was 17, took me a while to recover from it!

Lily_Aldrin7

I can’t imagine going out with someone I met online ! I imagine the “date” to be like a job interview and I’d be nervous that we won’t have what to talk about or something. Don’t you go out with friends ? I think it’s so much better meeting someone in a bar or the library/work/gym than online. I’ve always met guys at school/college/work or through friends. I’m lucky I met my partner when I was young and didn’t want to meet anybody, it gets so hard when you want to!
Have you watched How I met your mother ?

Porklife

Lily_Aldrin7 wrote: »

I can’t imagine going out with someone I met online ! I imagine the “date” to be like a job interview and I’d be nervous that we won’t have what to talk about or something. Don’t you go out with friends ? I think it’s so much better meeting someone in a bar or the library/work/gym than online. I’ve always met guys at school/college/work or through friends. I’m lucky I met my partner when I was young and didn’t want to meet anybody, it gets so hard when you want to!
Have you watched How I met your mother ?

What a strange post. What relevance does how I met your mother have?
It's not that easy to meet someone you click you be it online or in real life. Online dating is just an additional avenue and it works for a lot of people. You have never done it so you really aren't in a position to comment on it tbh.

Porklife

skallywag wrote: »

Nothing worse that getting a fifty to be fair.

I had my first taste of the pain when I was 17, took me a while to recover from it!

Nothing worse that getting a fifty to be fair.

I have no idea what that means Skallywag!!

LegacyUser

Hi guys,

Sorry haven’t been back..
I’m very confused with dating and what goes/what doesn’t.
I am looking for dates and see how I get on with someone and if all good, move forward. Simple. But it seems so complex now to even get a date.
I rejoined the apps and here we are again, plenty of matches, radio silence and feeling crap..
Do I stay on them or do I go?
The apps have only damaged my self confidence really. But at the same time, I don’t meet anyone in real life so I’m at a loss??

I don’t want to hit 30 and still be in the same position looking for a first date?!? I want to make some progress in my dating life..my end goal is a relationship but I just wanna meet someone and see if I like them to start off but can’t even do that??

Help !!

S.G.M.

Putting too much pressure on yourself and the situation. Apps should only ever be used as a bit of fun. A bit of fun as in having the flirty chats and maybe getting a date (I don't mean just for casual)
Apps can work but I think if you're on them really hoping you'll meet your perfect partner then you're only gonna be in for some hurt.
I'm 26 and in a similar position and was where you were about 2-3 years ago with regards online dating. I'm on tinder and POF but don't take them seriously.
My main aim is to get out and do things that I enjoy and want to do. I'm working hard to better myself in all aspects of my life this last year and if I meet my Mrs Right in the process then great, if not, then that's ok too.
You have to work on yourself first imo. If you're beating yourself up over not getting a date then I think that shows that you have to focus on yourself more OP.
Hope any of this helps.

woodchuck

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The chan chan man

Met my wife online years ago and baby no. 3 is due in 2 weeks. Its not all bad on there!

LegacyUser

skallywag wrote: »

I think that the catchment area is massive these days.

With the dawn of dating apps, it is very likely that the person you have arranged a date with on a Tuesday may have found someone who they find more interesting or attractive by Thursday, hence you get canned in favour of them.

This is my fear when dating now. I’ve done a lot of self improvement in the last year, lost weight, look great, good job and good personality, never been married and no kids..
I’m not arrogant or a narcissist but I do believe I am somewhat decent and a catch.
But men my age and older are not interested and only seem to be interested in younger girls...
This has happened me a couple of times..

I don’t think it matters if you are a supermodel these days, men just keep swiping and swiping...


How is anyone meant to find someone and build a life with someone if men keep swiping, swiping and swiping... it’s hollow, shallow and dull.

I want more than the odd text and snapchat. I want to have fun and go on dates.


S.G.M talked about using the apps for fun. I’m not looking for a husband there but I would like to date someone, have fun and if it leads to a relationship, that’d be nice if we were a good match.
The trouble is, I’m not having fun? I’ve put my best foot forward each time, had chats that went nowhere, flirty chats that faded out, flirty chats that ended with requests for sexts and nudes, maybe 3 or 4 fellas I liked whom looked to organise a date, I agreed and they were either cancelled or I was stood up and they all disappeared afterwards..and as said, the other 90 odd matches - radio silence!
Maybe lads are having fun somewhere with nudes etc and they may be satisfied with that exchange but I’m not.

I mean, are 90 odd men between the ages of 27-37 all just happy with an ego boost and swipe?
In real life, their heads are in the phones so no luck there either?

What do men want exactly?
I just can’t get my head around any of it and don’t understand what game men are playing these days.

achmairt

Get a part-time job in a pub. Its like the university of life. It teaches you a lot about people. You can see who is putting on an act and who is genuine. You're in control of your own life and don't let anyone make you feel inadequate. Go girl !!!

wiggle16

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Thanks & GRMA all who posted.