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How to be successful without hurting men's feelings

  • 08-06-2019 4:42pm
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    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,810 ✭✭✭take everything


    Just browsing in a bookshop earlier and this title caught my eye.

    I can only imagine the furore and Twitter mobs if this was "How to be successful without hurting women's feelings".

    Why is this kind of thing not called out for the bull**** it clearly is.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,523 ✭✭✭Sonny noggs


    Because making an issue of it means you must be a woman hating misogynist. Are you?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,155 ✭✭✭blackcard


    Were your feelings hurt when you saw the title of the book?


  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    Just browsing in a bookshop earlier and this title caught my eye.

    I can only imagine the furore and Twitter mobs if this was "How to be successful without hurting women's feelings".

    Why is this kind of thing not called out for the bull**** it clearly is.

    The premise of this book is that men are idiots. But, we get used to that narrative and don't fight every battle. We die young enough as it is.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,299 ✭✭✭hairyprincess


    Did you actually read anything regarding the book or did you just get outraged at the title?

    It’s comedy. Relax and have a glass of wine. Maybe a bath.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 8,474 ✭✭✭Obvious Desperate Breakfasts


    Just browsing in a bookshop earlier and this title caught my eye.

    I can only imagine the furore and Twitter mobs if this was "How to be successful without hurting women's feelings".

    Why is this kind of thing not called out for the bull**** it clearly is.

    Publishers will publish things they think will make money. I guess they figured there was a market for that topic. I’m not sure what we should be calling out really? Shïtty books get published all the time.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,536 ✭✭✭Silentcorner


    Just browsing in a bookshop earlier and this title caught my eye.

    I can only imagine the furore and Twitter mobs if this was "How to be successful without hurting women's feelings".

    Why is this kind of thing not called out for the bull**** it clearly is.

    Its just publishing companies taking money off of women....years ago it was "how to bag a husband" or some such. They should do one on "Patriarchy chicken"...its a thing apparently...they'd make a fortune. https://www.newstatesman.com/politics/feminism/2019/02/how-play-patriarchy-chicken-why-i-refuse-move-out-way-men

    They take cheap money off men too, in the form of sports autobiographies.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20,592 ✭✭✭✭kneemos


    Maybe someday we'll learn to celebrate difference.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 3,246 ✭✭✭judeboy101


    Know how to swallow?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 26,658 ✭✭✭✭OldMrBrennan83


    Reverse sexism is all the range now. We just have to live with it and ride it out, at least there's no big immediate danger to us.


  • Administrators, Computer Games Moderators, Sports Moderators Posts: 32,532 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭Mickeroo


    The book seems to be a satire or am I missing something?


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,737 ✭✭✭Yer Da sells Avon


    Sounds like a book that you'd find stacks of in one of those discount bookshops that sell books for a fiver each, or three for ten euro. Satire, presumably, designed to hurt the feelings of the type of men whose feelings get easily hurt by trivial stuff like that.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 525 ✭✭✭Jupiter Mulligan


    Mickeroo wrote: »
    The book seems to be a satire or am I missing something?

    I've just ordered it online so I'll let you know after the missus has read it and told me what to say.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 9,078 ✭✭✭IAMAMORON


    Set up a crowd fund to purchase every copy in circulation, globally.

    Rent an outdoor swimming pool and throw every copy in there, add petrol and ignite. Maybe keep a copy to read or as a souvenir.

    Keep me updated please.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 9,078 ✭✭✭IAMAMORON


    Make sure you empty the pool first.....


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,523 ✭✭✭Sonny noggs


    IAMAMORON wrote: »
    Make sure you empty the pool first.....

    Of water or people? Or both? :)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,055 ✭✭✭conorhal


    Mickeroo wrote: »
    The book seems to be a satire or am I missing something?


    The hilarious, unintentional irony of an immediate pearl clutch at 'muh sexism'?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,969 ✭✭✭✭alchemist33


    Still waiting for an answer to the question posed in the OP...


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,814 ✭✭✭harry Bailey esq


    Did you actually read anything regarding the book or did you just get outraged at the title?

    It’s comedy. Relax and have a glass of wine. Maybe a bath.

    You forgot the Yankee candles!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 8,474 ✭✭✭Obvious Desperate Breakfasts


    Still waiting for an answer to the question posed in the OP...

    The question of why this stuff isn’t called out? People have addressed it in various ways. What do you think yourself? Why wait for others to answer?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,034 ✭✭✭mad muffin


    It’s pretty simple really.

    White heterosexual male bad.

    Everyone else good.

    Some are more good than others.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,969 ✭✭✭✭alchemist33


    The question of why this stuff isn’t called out? People have addressed it in various ways. What do you think yourself? Why wait for others to answer?

    The question of how to be successful without hurting mens feelings


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,583 ✭✭✭✭kowloon


    Do you think the below is insensitive to victims of maritime collisions?

    Bookcover_-_how_to_avoid_huge_ships.jpg


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,628 ✭✭✭klaaaz


    Still waiting for an answer to the question posed in the OP...

    Do men have feelings? (of course they do). I've often wondered why some men rather moan about women having their annual day but this chunk of men do not promote the yearly men's mental health day(sometime in Nov) which helps men!

    Vulnerable men need to open up about their feelings as it's men who have that tragic high suicide rate, it's ok to talk about your difficulties in life and other men who see a man showing their feelings as a weakness are the danger.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,969 ✭✭✭✭alchemist33


    Apologies folks, I was being sarcastic with my comment, but I appreciate its pretty much impossible to tell sarcasm from genuine comments these days.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 530 ✭✭✭Hedgelayer


    This reminds me of the advertisements I'm hearing on the radio lately with the ladies with the soft tones with a hint of southside Dublin wrapped up in an image of pure class...

    She sends the guy out for say Polish and he comes home with two flight tickets to Poland for a long weekend....

    Then you hear his side of the story and he sounds like a real twat with a knuckle dragging voice....

    Then they'll have a narrative of someone advertising hearing aids.

    Not only are they undermining the poor guy but they're making deaf people sound like complete and utter twit's....

    Such vvankers whomever are coming up with these scripts.

    Shows the marketing creativity in this country, undermining men and deaf people all at once and women for not realising their partners are deaf and maybe the women should be more clear with the neanderthal....

    So that's an own goal in itself....

    You couldn't make it up


  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    mad muffin wrote: »
    It’s pretty simple really.

    White heterosexual male bad.

    Everyone else good.

    Some are more good than others.

    Prefix with privileged and you're there.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,034 ✭✭✭mad muffin


    Prefix with privileged and you're there.

    What other prefix has “privilege”?


  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    mad muffin wrote: »
    What other prefix has “privilege”?

    You've heard of privileged white male surely.




  • klaaaz wrote: »
    Do men have feelings? (of course they do). I've often wondered why some men rather moan about women having their annual day but this chunk of men do not promote the yearly men's mental health day(sometime in Nov) which helps men!

    Vulnerable men need to open up about their feelings as it's men who have that tragic high suicide rate, it's ok to talk about your difficulties in life and other men who see a man showing their feelings as a weakness are the danger.

    Men just need to feel respected in society and that they have a purpose in life. Its not natural for a man to be emotional like a woman. Men are not women, they are both very different. Society is making women compete with men, instead of them both complementing their differences


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20,727 ✭✭✭✭El_Duderino 09


    To be fair, if you're upset by that title alone, then I'd say you're fairly easily upset. So, unfortunately, you're kinda validating the premise of the book

    Women aren't half as scary as you seem to think. They're almost, like, normal people.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,034 ✭✭✭mad muffin


    You've heard of privileged white male surely.

    If there are any… I don’t know them.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,877 ✭✭✭BENDYBINN


    My new is book is out next week .....Best kitchen sinks for tall women
    It’s only a bit of fun...


  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    mad muffin wrote: »
    If there are any… I don’t know them.

    You don't understand. Being white and male is automatically the golden ticket. Any achievements you have is largely down to this privilege. Please keep up.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 530 ✭✭✭Hedgelayer


    If you don't want to Hurt guy's feelings find a guy who's feelings don't hurt....

    Stay away from the cucks


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,211 ✭✭✭✭ILoveYourVibes


    Just browsing in a bookshop earlier and this title caught my eye.

    I can only imagine the furore and Twitter mobs if this was "How to be successful without hurting women's feelings".

    Why is this kind of thing not called out for the bull**** it clearly is.

    But what if you are a secretly evil woman like me who wants to rule the world by being super agreeable and fake!

    Don't JUDGE ME!


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,211 ✭✭✭✭ILoveYourVibes


    Hedgelayer wrote: »
    If you don't want to Hurt guy's feelings find a guy who's feelings don't hurt....

    Stay away from the cucks


    What if you really don't want to hurt people's feelings though? What if you are really hyper sensitive to other people's feelings??


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,211 ✭✭✭✭ILoveYourVibes


    BENDYBINN wrote: »
    My new is book is out next week .....Best kitchen sinks for tall women
    It’s only a bit of fun...
    What if your second wife is a shortie??


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,690 ✭✭✭✭Skylinehead


    kowloon wrote: »
    Do you think the below is insensitive to victims of maritime collisions?

    Bookcover_-_how_to_avoid_huge_ships.jpg

    The front fell off. I would just like to make the point that that is not normal.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,211 ✭✭✭✭ILoveYourVibes


    judeboy101 wrote: »
    Know how to swallow?


    Gotta give head to get ahead! ;)


  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    kowloon wrote: »
    Do you think the below is insensitive to victims of maritime collisions?

    Bookcover_-_how_to_avoid_huge_ships.jpg

    If you drop the first S you'd have a guaranteed best seller on your hands to the same target market.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,737 ✭✭✭Yer Da sells Avon


    What if you really don't want to hurt people's feelings though? What if you are really hyper sensitive to other people's feelings??

    What sort of a cuck doesn't want to hurt people's feelings?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,211 ✭✭✭✭ILoveYourVibes


    What sort of a cuck doesn't want to hurt people's feelings?
    THIS CUCK! :P




  • Hedgelayer wrote: »
    If you don't want to Hurt guy's feelings find a guy who's feelings don't hurt....

    Stay away from the cucks

    Damn, too many cucks can spoil the broth!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 530 ✭✭✭Hedgelayer


    What if you really don't want to hurt people's feelings though? What if you are really hyper sensitive to other people's feelings??

    There's no cure, just embrace the narcissism and live a life of carnage....

    Hyper sensitive isn't funny that's for sure, I have been at the helm of a Narcissist and it's constant storms and misery.

    Even when there's a calm spell they're looking for a sledgehammer to smash hole's in the hull while nobody's looking....

    I listened to an interesting YouTube video where a young lady openly admitted she's suffering from border line personality disorder.
    And she just can't help being nasty and manipulative.....
    At the same time looking for sympathy.

    I empathize with her, it's hoffific she says she even goes into blackouts forgetting the carnage left behind her....

    So in effect I cannot give you a logical answer, sorry.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 530 ✭✭✭Hedgelayer


    Damn, too many cucks can spoil the broth!

    I hear you brot HER


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20,727 ✭✭✭✭El_Duderino 09


    BENDYBINN wrote: »
    My new is book is out next week .....Best kitchen sinks for tall women
    It’s only a bit of fun...

    OK. Should I be triggered the way the OP was triggered by the book title?

    I don't think kitchen sink books are in high demand. Books about how to succeed are big business though. But best of luck with your book.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 473 ✭✭Pissartist


    Toxic femininity


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,844 ✭✭✭py2006


    Reverse sexism is all the range now. We just have to live with it and ride it out, at least there's no big immediate danger to us.

    Doesn't that mean no sexism at all?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,624 ✭✭✭✭meeeeh


    I feel for the op. It must be terrible to be so sensitive and live in today's world. It's impossible to get through the day and not feel like a victim.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20,727 ✭✭✭✭El_Duderino 09


    meeeeh wrote: »
    I feel for the op. It must be terrible to be so sensitive and live in today's world. It's impossible to get through the day and not feel like a victim.

    #Triggered #snowflake #whatistheworldcomingto


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