Should I tell her?

And follows thread.....

Good luck...nothing ventured nothing gained!

Dirkziggler

Red Lightning wrote: »

Thank you folks. Exactly, it'll sting if it's not a positive response even though I'm not expecting it but it'll allow me to move on.

I stumbled across this thread rooting for you OP has the voice note went blue ticks yet?

Red Lightning

Dirkziggler wrote:

I stumbled across this thread rooting for you OP has the voice note went blue ticks yet?

Thank you Dirk. It hasn't and tbh she's not one for using her phone too often so it cud be a few hours until a reply.
Stick on the kettle folks lol

Dirkziggler

Red Lightning wrote: »

Thank you Dirk. It hasn't and tbh she's not one for using her phone too often so it cud be a few hours until a reply.
Stick on the kettle folks lol

Your bloody joking. Right what you need to do is put your phone on private ring till and hang up draw attention to the phone.

Red Lightning

Dirkziggler wrote:

Your bloody joking. Right what you need to do is put your phone on private ring till and hang up draw attention to the phone.

Haha I'd probably forget to put it on private and show up that I'm calling looking psycho lol

popcornbowl

Dirkziggler wrote: »

Your bloody joking. Right what you need to do is put your phone on private ring till and hang up draw attention to the phone.

Absolutely DO NOT do this

Geminigal

Do not listen to Dirk ha ha ha now its done just try to distract yourself... Turn off your phone or put it away for a while!! Give her time to reply!

Dirkziggler

popcornbowl wrote: »

Absolutely DO NOT do this

Hahahah what I just wanna move it along a lil quicker

Dirkziggler

Geminigal wrote: »

Do not listen to Dirk ha ha ha now its done just try to distract yourself... Turn off your phone or put it away for a while!! Give her time to reply!

I am the love god. Hahah

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Macdarack

Op, I just want to say good luck, we're all counting on you.

Bythefire

Really hoping it works out for you op.

Had to come on to comment, I fell for a good friend, took me some time to realise it, we were like a couple in every sense apart from the title. I tried to say something to him for months, one night, I told him I wanted to he more (was a bit too casual for something that went on for some time).

His reaction wasn't what I wanted, he was shocked, genuinely I don't think he expected it. I was upset for months after it. I didn't see him for about 3 months. He apologised but doesn't want a relationship with me. So I swallowed my pride and walked away. I still think about him but I'm now starting to hope there is some other guy who I will like in time, who likes me too!

If it's not what you want to hear, it's ok to be upset/hurt, in time you will look back at this and the hurt will be gone.

Red Lightning

We're not really close friends so it's definitely worth taking the risk of losing her by telling her how I feel.
Still hasn't seen the message. Honestly, can't see a positive outcome but there's nothing I can do. I'll be able to move on anyway.

Bythefire

I think its better to be honest, regardless of the outcome, it's better than having regret by not saying anything.

Don't give up hope yet if she hasn't seen it, I know I don't function the day after the previous night, she could just be hungover and not thinking about checking her phone.

Red Lightning

Bythefire wrote:

Don't give up hope yet if she hasn't seen it, I know I don't function the day after the previous night, she could just be hungover and not thinking about checking her phone.

Yeah, I'm not worried about the lack of a response cos she's is hopeless on replying to people. Just the longer it goes on, I just cringe thinking about it cos I know she's gonna send a letting me down gently message.

irishgirl19

Best of luck to you. Hope it works out.
I'd be taking it as a positive that the gym owner/her colleague told u to go for it. I think she'll say yes

Rooting for you OP.. Nothing ventured nothing gained.

Red Lightning

Really appreciate all the supportive comments folks. Thank you

milli milli

OP I hope things work out for you. Nothing ventured nothing gained, as they say. Just started to read this thread the other day and am rooting for you, now that I’ve seen the updates!

Whatever happens know that you’ve done a brave thing and asked this girl out. I know people say, it’s not a big deal, you’re overthinking it but for some it is a big deal to ask someone out. So I empathize with you.
Hope it works out and things go well and if not there’s another girl out there for you.
Best of luck!

Macdarack

The ending of this is more exciting than the final episode of Game of Throws.

bobdcow

Hey OP,

I totally fell for a female friend of mine, one night an opportunity came along and I went for it.....fast forward 10+ years and we're happily married with kids.

I hope it works out for you, if it doesn't - at least you tried

Red Lightning

Still no reply. I don't mind how it looks but I just want an answer now before I see her again.
I know this is why people felt it would be better in person but I really don't think I would have been able to do that with this one in particular and I was fed up overthinking and just wanted to get it over with.

Sardonicat

The chances are at this stage you won't get a reply.

Red Lightning

Sardonicat wrote:

The chances are at this stage you won't get a reply.

But she hasn't listened to it so she doesn't know what was said on it.

Geminigal

Try not to over think it now. Can you see if she has seen the message? There is nothing more you can do. In person she may have said yes out of awkwardness and then had to let you down gently if she wasn't interested. This way she can make a decision in her own time.

When are you back in the gym again?

Red Lightning

Geminigal wrote:

When are you back in the gym again?

She hasn't seen it but that's been the case even while we were just chatting so not really reading into it, just frustrating waiting.
I'm in the gym tomorrow but not sure if she's working or not.

Geminigal

Just keep doing your thing and being yourself. If she doesn't reply and doesn't mention it you know she is not the one for you! I know that's a pain for you but if she is interested she will let you know one way or the other! Be proud of yourself for having the guts to do it... Try not to worry too much about it for now!

Red Lightning

Geminigal wrote:

Just keep doing your thing and being yourself. If she doesn't reply and doesn't mention it you know she is not the one for you! I know that's a pain for you but if she is interested she will let you know one way or the other! Be proud of yourself for having the guts to do it... Try not to worry too much about it for now!

That's very true. Thank you for your help

Toots

If she hasn't seen it there's a chance she may be in work or off doing something and hasn't had a chance to listen to it yet. Frustrating, I know, but at least it's not that she's listened to it and isn't replying.

Red Lightning

That's true Toots and to listen to a voice note, you have to click into it so no way of knowing what's on it otherwise.
Tbh, it'll sting but it will be no big deal if it's not a positive outcome. I've had her on my mind for a while now, I'll be glad to finally have an answer. If it's not what i want to hear, no big deal. Plenty of other fantastic women out there.