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  • #32
    xi5yvm0owc1s2b
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    racso1975 wrote: »
    That's not fair. She outlined why they started anal and its obvious she believes the fact its tighter there should make it easier for him to cum

    I think the OP is too focused on creating physical stimuli that she believes should make her partner ejaculate, when the underlying cause is potentially psychological.

    It's probably a vicious cycle. She feels frustrated and inadequate because he can't finish inside her, especially because he could manage it with his ex. Aware of her feelings, he probably experiences stress and performance anxiety during sex that is only compounding the problem. Both of them probably come away from a sexual encounter feeling like failures.

    I think they both need to shift perspective. Just try to relax and enjoy each other without focusing on whether, where, and how he finishes. If they can create an atmosphere of mutual support, understanding, and comfort -- as opposed to anxiety and frustration -- it's all the more likely that the problem will resolve itself.


  • #33
    Neyite
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    Slow it right down.

    Right now you are flinging every sex trick you can at the end result and for him the pressure is on. You do [thing] to try to encourage him to climax and all the while you are doing [thing] his brain is going climaxclimaxclimaxpleasepleaseletmeclimax. Which of course is NOT going to make it happen.

    Maybe he's just one of those guys that climaxes when he gets to know someone on an emotional level. A boyfriend of mine was like that - the early days he found it hit and miss but he knew that it usually resolved itself as he got to know his new partner better. So we had dates. Wore the faces off each other snogging. Fooled around with no 'finish' required. And then it all fell into place and there was never any issues from that point on, ever. I'd say if I had thrown moves worthy of the Kama Sutra at him when he was struggling to climax it would have only made things worse and prolonged the issue. So maybe try to ease off a bit on making his climax a big deal and see what happens?


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