Cannot afford any more

Ultimate Seduction

troyzer wrote: »

That is the advice!! Get a better job!! That's the only solution here. He might very well to court and get a reduction in his payments but then his kids lose out.

The "genuine" responses here amount to pats on the back and telling him to shaft his kids?

Not one person said "shaft my kids".

Ultimate Seduction

Ultimate Seduction wrote: »

Not one person said "shaft my kids".

Just ignore him.

troyzer

Ultimate Seduction wrote: »

What is your issue? I'm looking for a bit of advice, or even just letting off some steam by sharing my thoughts and you come along and accuse me of all sorts and tell me to 'man up' like it'll fix everything.

My issue is that I've seen this before. I do genuinely feel for you, it must be enormously stressful. But a close friend of mine was struggling with her kid, Dad was struggling as well and successfully managed to get a reduction in his payments. The result was she often had to choose between eating and feeding her kids.

It's an awful situation. But there's only one solution. You have to get a better job. She can't work full time, you can. So stop feeling sorry for yourself, think about your kids and do the right thing.

troyzer

Ultimate Seduction wrote: »

Not one person said "shaft my kids".

By reducing your payments, they get less = shafting your kids.

King of Kings

Dont mind the begruders on this thread.
Ive been in your situation and through the whole family court bs and i find many people who have experience are too eager to offer opinions and judgement.
G0b****es seem to forget you need a life too rather than an existance.

I think you are paying too much and you need to go to court and apply for reduction in maintenace.ignore your ex if she goes bananas cos she prob will.

Keep chin up man. I know its not easy.

Ultimate Seduction

troyzer wrote: »

My issue is that I've seen this before. I do genuinely feel for you, it must be enormously stressful. But a close friend of mine was struggling with her kid, Dad was struggling as well and successfully managed to get a reduction in his payments. The result was she often had to choose between eating and feeding her kids.

It's an awful situation. But there's only one solution. You have to get a better job. She can't work full time, you can. So stop feeling sorry for yourself, think about your kids and do the right thing.

You cannot even fake being sincere. If any mother in Ireland has to choose between food for herself or kids then there is something seriously wrong with the parents ability to budget.

punisher5112

€450 in the country isn't bad money at all.

Cheaper living such as rent and some other things too.

I don't know distance travelling too, so not sure if car is suitable or not for your mileage.

Could you try getting a credit union loan to maybe save on fuel etc. With a better suited vehicle if applies to my question.

Try citizens info or other agencies for advice which may be able to help.

woodchuck

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