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The fear of getting naked

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  • #32
    ginandtonicsky
    Closed Accounts Posts: 710 ✭✭✭ginandtonicsky


    Snotty wrote: »
    Girls, I hate to break it too you but clothes don't "hide" anything, you do not have a different body from what your clothes sit against, men know exactly what to expect once they have seen you a few times normally.

    Not necessarily true..have you heard of Spanx?? Chicken fillets??

    Anyway OP, the advice is spot on. Men don’t scrutinise women’s bodies in the way that women do. And IME, they often love the parts we hate! I’ve had men be obsessed with the jiggly bits that I thought I had to cover!

    The idea of sex with someone new can be daunting, esp when you’ve had a long term partner previously. But guaranteed he wouldn’t be sticking around if he dint think you were hot and taking your clothes off will just make you hotter to him!

    Relax and enjoy and I agree with the idea of making yourself feel as sexy as possible! Get some sexy undies if you think it will help with your confidence :-)


  • #33
    Snotty
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,298 ✭✭✭Snotty


    ginandtonicsky wrote: »
    Not necessarily true..have you heard of Spanx?? Chicken fillets??

    Ah come on, it might make you feel better but it doesn't change your body no mater how much you want it to.


  • #34
    odyssey06
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 35,525 ✭✭✭✭odyssey06


    Theres something to be said for retaining an air of mystery. Maybe a loose babydoll negligee might help you to relax and work for your guy also... you dont have to take your clothes off to have a good time!

    See where it goes from there... to no clothes or to Ann Summers 😈

    "To follow knowledge like a sinking star..." (Tennyson's Ulysses)



  • #35
    izzyflusky
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 427 ✭✭izzyflusky


    I'm loving the positivity in this thread and I think it is helping more people than just the OP, even those in relationships.
    But I have to say, I do think clothes hide A LOT! I'm quite skinny but had children. People can't tell that I do have a soft baby belly when clothed or how bad my breasts look now either.


  • #36
    Dark Phoenix
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    look no one looks like a model naked! To be honest most models don't without filters and airbrushing either. My mindset is always there will always be someone fatter / thinner / better looking / worse looking so you can only be who you are so just get naked and enjoy yourself. if anyone ever is negative to you about it its the clearest sign ever to just dump their shallow ass anyway!!


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  • #37
    Church on Tuesday
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    HaloTop wrote: »
    So, a year ago I became single for the first time since I was a teen. Roll on to now and I'm seeing a guy casually. Just a few dates. I want to sleep with him but I'm terrified of him seeing me naked. I'm not perfect. I'm a size 14/16 and I just can't shake the fear of him seeing my wobbly belly or hips. I was seeing a guy over Christmas and we went on about 4 dates and when it started to feel like things were moving towards sleeping together I ended it. I panicked and just froze at the idea of him seeing me like that.
    Any advice? Would love some opinions I don't really know what about though

    Any mature minded man won't give a toss about any of that and if he does then he's an eejit and it's his loss.

    Man speaking here!


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