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Being cast aside by friends?

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  • #32
    Big Bag of Chips
    Administrators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 15,611 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭Big Bag of Chips


    OP, Personal Issues is an advice forum, where posters post looking for advice and opinion from impartial people. You may not always agree with what is posted. The basic rule of Personal Issues is mature, civil posting. We expect that from all posters, even OPs.

    Telling another poster to 'jog on' falls short of that.


  • #33
    diusmr8a504cvk
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,959 ✭✭✭diusmr8a504cvk


    Big Bag of Chips wrote: »
    OP, you seem to want to be asked just so you can say you can't. It's a silly way to look at things. You are the one who lives away. You are the one least likely to be able to go out midweek. Going out, for them, involves no planning, no organising. They just decide and go. Chances are the night they went out, you were already gone home, and they just decided to go out. It happens.

    If you want to go out with them, it really is up to you to involve yourself and organise it.

    You speak of maturity but your reaction to this and your decision to not bother going out with them in a preplanned night doesn't come across as very mature.
    To be honest I just want to be asked, I've said it umpteen times before on here that I can get a roof for the night. Everything else I somewhat agree with.


  • #34
    December2012
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,695 ✭✭✭December2012


    OP that's not really on though is it? You want to be asked fair enough I guess.

    But I don't ask out somebody who won't, didn't or can't come out.

    I think you're being very unfair on yoir friends and putting a lot of pressure on your friendship. Honestly it shouldn't be this intense. You don't need ride or die friends, you need people to have a laugh with.

    Try to relax about it.


  • #35
    Pawwed Rig
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 22,448 ✭✭✭✭Pawwed Rig


    If I ask someone to go out and they can't for whatever reason and ask them another time and get turned down again the ball is now in their court. I neither want to harrass someone into doing something they are reluctant to do nor do I want to be the seen as begging for their company. If you say no once then it is on you to make plans imo


  • #36
    Bobtheman
    Site Banned Posts: 2,799 ✭✭✭Bobtheman


    Friendships are complex. They are entitled to meet up without you. You keep in touch. Don't go off sulking. Invite them out when it suits you.
    Broaden your social circle. Get involved in stuff
    I'm much older than you but it takes a long time to find real friends. People will suit themselves first. By the time you are 30 you should have 3 real friends.
    You seem to have too much time to think about this and need some hobbies. Sport or whatever. Get busy man.


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  • #37
    lawred2
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,750 ✭✭✭✭lawred2


    Aubrielle Icy Babble wrote: »
    To be honest I'd rather just be to myself at this stage and let them have at it for now, not in a spiteful way but just out of not really caring at the moment. I'll probably sit out Thursday. I've enough on my plate and to be honest I don't even know what to think anymore.

    You clearly do care so no point trying to fool yourself.

    Chill out and knock the taking offence on the head or you'll find yourself on your own a lot more than you do now.

    Nobody owes you anything.


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