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Single, 32 and considering a vasectomy.....

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  • #62
    fits
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,058 ✭✭✭✭fits


    Just make sure you are not basing your decision on echo chambers like boards where there is a pretty negative attitude in general towards long term relationships and parenting.

    I saw my siblings go through busy times with young children and I was not broody or interested in children much at all. When you go through it yourself it’s completely different.


  • #63
    TheBoyConor
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    It kinda would be for me if I got a girl pregnant.
    I put my independence and freedom at the end of the day and the thoughts of being tied into family life really stresses me. Even if I was too walk away and not be involved I'd still have a huge financial burden to manage.
    Another thing that stresses me is how would I tell my family. I come from a rural farming background, mass every Sunday growing up and my my family would be fairly traditional. Having to tell them I got a girl I'm not even going out with pregnant would be make me feel so ashamed and foolish.


  • #64
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    At the age of 32, with 2 serious relationships under your belt, do you honestly think that your parents believe you to have been celibate the last 14 years or so? Really? And if they were that religious, would they not have been encouraging you to marry one of your previous ex's?

    As for the financial burden of having a child....it's split 50% between you& the mother. So if you choose to date wisely(someone sensible, mature, independent, with good family background& support) then that shouldn't be a huge issue.

    If you just want to sow your wild oats without any risk of repercussions or responsibilities, freeze your sperm as back up, have the vasectomy , continue to wear condoms. (Personally I'm more worried about the risk of STDs than pregnancy). Then off you go, enjoy.


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