What to do with a talker that goes on an on and on

Boom_Bap

Hector Savage wrote: »

That can be true, when they are interesting or funny at least, but the guy I previously referenced was literally as boring as that priest in Father Ted.

Sometimes he would drag you out for a drink after work and I would actually get depressed listening to him - and think "What the actual f*ck am I doing here???!!"

fortunately there would be other colleagues there and he would usually start to "chat up" the barmaids.

you sure are going on about this guy.

Jakey Rolling

Give them a lunchtime show on Newstalk?

nullzero

enfield wrote: »

You know the type, you say hello and you need not open your mouth for the rest of the night. They hardly pause for a breath. Trying to get away from them is the most difficult thing. Have you any suggestions guys and gals. Sensible ones, that might work.

I once knew two of these incessant talkers. They did not know each other. One night they just happened to be in the same place as myself and I introduced them to each other and waited to see what would happen.
Well would you believe it they had a fantastic time together and got on like a house on fire.
Now back to my query, how do you stop these people when they are talking at you incessantly?
Kind regards.
Tom.

Yeah, yeah yeah yeah yeah, now I've listened to your nonsense we get to the good bit, where I talk.
Those type of people are even worse.

Skylinehead

We can't bust heads like we used to. But we have our ways. One trick is to tell stories that don't go anywhere. Like the time I caught the ferry to Shelbyville. I needed a new heel for my shoe. So I decided to go to Morganville, which is what they called Shelbyville in those days. So I tied an onion to my belt, which was the style at the time. Now, to take the ferry cost a nickel, and in those days, nickels had pictures of bumblebees on 'em. "Gimme five bees for a quarter," you'd say. Now where were we... oh yeah. The important thing was that I had an onion on my belt, which was the style at the time. They didn't have any white onions, because of the war. The only thing you could get was those big yellow ones...

Your Face

Depends on the person.

An acquaintance of mine goes off on steam-of-consciousness lectures about politics and other low-brow topics. He also he assumes he knows more about everything than anyone.

In reality, he is a bit of a loser and I think he acts like this out of insecurity and as a means to protect his ego from the reality of his situation.

Contrast the above with friend of mine I used to work with. This fella is similar in their verbiage but are interesting and good company.

Hector Savage

Boom_Bap wrote: »

you sure are going on about this guy.

Yeah, in a thread about people who go on and on .... the irony!!

Trigger Happy

I have a buddy and if he spent 30 minutes watching a tv show he would spend 45 telling you about it.

Hotblack Desiato

Hector Savage wrote: »

I would put on headphones , hide my face behind my monitor and he would just stand up so he could see me and continue talking ....

WTF is it with people who talk at you when you're wearing headphones.

At lunchtime I usually go for a walk and listen to podcasts on headphones.

So I'm heading out taking the lift and some randomer gets in. I see lips moving.

Take out phone.
Take phone out of phone sleeve.
Unlock phone.
Open podcast app.
Pause podcast.
Take headphone off one ear.

"Sorry, what was that?"
"I said, nice day isn't it?"
"Yeah, grand"

:rolleyes:

Then I have to do all the above in reverse, plus I have to wind the podcast back because I'm not just listening to music, I actually wanted to hear what was being said.

Y'know, if someone has headphones on that means they're listening to something. These are not earbuds that you might not see, these are big-ass headphones. They've chosen to listen to something on their big-ass headphones. You can SEE that they've chosen to listen to something on their big-ass headphones. Why are you interrupting them over trivial crap? And make THEM feel like they're the ones who are being rude?

Fcuk sake.

DEFTLEFTHAND

They're just trying to be social Hotblack.

It's kind of sad the way people walk around glued to phones or whatnot these days.


Nobody talks anymore.

uncommon_name

Hector Savage wrote: »

I remember I worked with a guy who just didn't seem to be able to sense other peoples discomfort or take a hint.
He would just talk and talk at you - conversations for him were one way, he would even interrupt you to tell you what he wants to tell you.
Let's call him Glenn

Glenn : "Morning Hector, have a good weekend...?" (this was insincere , it was a way for him to get going)
Me : "Fine Glenn yeah ... I went to .... "
Glenn (interrupting - could see the disinterest and impatience on his face) : "Yeah ... what I did was ........ " < insert essay here... >

I would put on headphones , hide my face behind my monitor and he would just stand up so he could see me and continue talking ....

He also had an obsession with women, and actually would harass colleagues (only reason he didn't get fired was he was so good at what he did they couldn't let him go...)

But thats another story, jesus I should start a thread on him ...

Once I was at a party that he was invited to ... and walked by him talking to the hosts wife .... "My wife, she doesn't give me blow jobs" ... was the line I heard.
Apparently the host got a dressing down from his wife - "I never wanna see that pervert in this house again" or words to that effect.


Been thinking of writing a sitcom on the guy ....

It's **** you just could not make up!!

Brilliant, I would watch it.

bodhrandude

Hector Savage wrote: »

That can be true, when they are interesting or funny at least, but the guy I previously referenced was literally as boring as that priest in Father Ted.

Sometimes he would drag you out for a drink after work and I would actually get depressed listening to him - and think "What the actual f*ck am I doing here???!!"

fortunately there would be other colleagues there and he would usually start to "chat up" the barmaids.

The one in the clip posted or are you referring to Father Stone as he doesn't say anything at all.

enfield

What I have used, to their surprise is say " You are going to have to stop talking, you are frying my brain!
Another which worked for a short time is hold up your hands and say "Whoaaaa...information overload!

Hotblack Desiato

DEFTLEFTHAND wrote: »

They're just trying to be social Hotblack.

Yes I know.

The bastards :pac:

AndyBoBandy

AndyBoBandy wrote: »

just unzip the trousers, start playing the fiddle, and that usually seems to work!!

Whose trousers? Your own or theirs?

Oops69

Just smile and walk off when you've had enough, these talking addicts always find some one else to assault and get their high so don't be afraid of offending them , they're oblivious , all they care about is the next ear.

Oops69

Hotblack Desiato wrote: »

WTF is it with people who talk at you when you're wearing headphones.

At lunchtime I usually go for a walk and listen to podcasts on headphones.

So I'm heading out taking the lift and some randomer gets in. I see lips moving.

Take out phone.
Take phone out of phone sleeve.
Unlock phone.
Open podcast app.
Pause podcast.
Take headphone off one ear.

"Sorry, what was that?"
"I said, nice day isn't it?"
"Yeah, grand"

:rolleyes:

Then I have to do all the above in reverse, plus I have to wind the podcast back because I'm not just listening to music, I actually wanted to hear what was being said.

Y'know, if someone has headphones on that means they're listening to something. These are not earbuds that you might not see, these are big-ass headphones. They've chosen to listen to something on their big-ass headphones. You can SEE that they've chosen to listen to something on their big-ass headphones. Why are you interrupting them over trivial crap? And make THEM feel like they're the ones who are being rude?

Fcuk sake.

maybe they're not looking at your ears ,you're not the centre of the universe , people have other things to look at .

the_pen_turner

these people wreck my head.

i know 6 people like this.
one lives in england and must save up his words for when he comes home
3 are english that retired to the area.
one is english and married a local guy

the other is irish

i wonder is it something to do with england. they all seem to be like that

all of them are to be avoided if at all posible.
2 of the above are maried to each other and are called the gramafones . all you do is wind them up and let them go until they tire them selves out

fryup

the other extreme is this.....

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wR81LAiLjN8

uncommon_name

Oops69 wrote: »

maybe they're not looking at your ears ,you're not the centre of the universe , people have other things to look at .

Wow someone is having a bad day!!
I would hope they aren't looking down at the ground while trying to talk to you. If you are talking to someone you look at them, therefore you would see the headphones.

Hector Bellend

enfield wrote: »

You know the type, you say hello and you need not open your mouth for the rest of the night. They hardly pause for a breath. Trying to get away from them is the most difficult thing. Have you any suggestions guys and gals. Sensible ones, that might work.

I once knew two of these incessant talkers. They did not know each other. One night they just happened to be in the same place as myself and I introduced them to each other and waited to see what would happen.
Well would you believe it they had a fantastic time together and got on like a house on fire.
Now back to my query, how do you stop these people when they are talking at you incessantly?
Kind regards.
Tom.

Either punch them in the face or tell them to stfu

Bigbagofcans

People that talk at you are a pain. They've told their longass story and you proceed to tell your story and their eyes glaze over waiting in anticipation till they can take over again.

Oops69

uncommon_name wrote: »

Wow someone is having a bad day!!
I would hope they aren't looking down at the ground while trying to talk to you. If you are talking to someone you look at them, therefore you would see the headphones.

maybe you're really ugly and they've no choice especially when you have that cold sore or spot on you're nose , lol.

uncommon_name

Oops69 wrote: »

maybe you're really ugly and they've no choice especially when you have that cold sore or spot on you're nose , lol.

Maybe, but then I wouldn't be talking to someone unnecessarily and drawing attention to myself.

McMurphy

Send them to the politics cafe.

That'll soon take the wind out of their sails.

Boom_Bap

Johnny Dogs wrote: »

Send them to the politics cafe.

That'll soon take the wind out of their sails.

never heard of it

Beasty

Oops69 wrote: »

Just smile and walk off when you've had enough, these talking addicts always find some one else to assault and get their high so don't be afraid of offending them , they're oblivious , all they care about is the next ear.

Pretty much what I do. Although if someone is trying to talk to a group of us I may just wander away, do some other stuff, and come back for the climax. The person doing the talking might not even notice my absence.....

the_pen_turner

Beasty wrote: »

Pretty much what I do. Although if someone is trying to talk to a group of us I may just wander away, do some other stuff, and come back for the climax. The person doing the talking might not even notice my absence.....

In my experience there never us a climax. It's a series of tangents and you are told 75% of the story before some detail has to be explained from a different angle to truly understand it

Oops69

the_pen_turner wrote: »

In my experience there never us a climax. It's a series of tangents and you are told 75% of the story before some detail has to be explained from a different angle to truly understand it

ny experience as well, it has to be an as yet un- named medical condition as it does seem to have a similar pattern of behaviour amongst 'sufferers'.... either that or its the same annoying nut job going around terrrorising the lot of us .

Capt'n Midnight

Yeah but no but yeah but

Zero Point

Some time ago a guy asked me out. He wasn't particularly physically attractive but I thought sure why not, it's just a date and he might turn out to be good in the sack at some stage. During the date he just sat there practically poker faced the entire time and seemed to have very little conversational skills.

I like to have really engaging conversations and with most people there's a natural ebb and flow, and you try to find common ground. With this guy I would talk about a topic, trying to keep it interesting ask him his opinion, ask him questions about himself etc. He would give very short answers and I waited for him to reciprocate but nada. This same pattern was repeated throughout the date with me having to carry the conversation the whole time and him just staring at me like a big gormless child. Honestly it felt draining but if I hadn't put the effort in there would have been just long, awkward silences which is fine if you're in an established relationship but not exactly endearing on a first date.

We agreed to meet again as in some cases I will give someone a second chance just on the off-chance it was understandable first date nerves and he might have some magical personality transplant. But no! Exact same situation second time round. If anyone sitting near to us on both times had overheard us, it could have appeared that I was the one entirely dominating the conversation. He did hint about his wife having left him/cheated and made indirect references about him being boring. Didn't surprise me in the least.

I got a passive aggressive message from him later about not getting the ride. I very politely made sure that he knew to jog on.