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Alcohol Home Truths!?
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18-09-2018 2:39am#1
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Sam Quentin wrote: »Are you gonna slag me off now or are you gonna listen.
It is curious to me that you feel like the two are mutually exclusive. The material to "slag" you - which I suspect or fear is just your word for any level of robust disagreement with your position - comes very much from listening to you and your over simplification of the complex issue.
One issue that comes into play when you are Nannying at people about how they should live the good life - is that you may be better off demonstrating that you are in a position to claim to be doing so. That if only we were more like you - we would some how reap the benefit.
However you appear - on a reading of your post - to be sitting around watching re-runs of the Late Late Show with your free time in life while making screechy proclamations in posts at 3 or 4am in the morning.
If that is the representation on offer for how one spends their free time when being "T total" as you call it - then I fear you are more likely to be sending people the message that they would be much better off getting legless drunk than listen to you or be like you or take advice from you on the matter.Sam Quentin wrote: »You do realise by LETTING your kids drink eg: whiskeys, vodkas, gins(all found in shots)etc etc that one day they will wake up looking for a drink before breakfast.... So don't think it's cool to let your kids drink,.. stop them as much as you can.
Prohibition did not work at the level of societies - so I am baffled as to why you think it is likely to be useful at the level of parenting. I see no utility at all in recommending totalitarian parental approaches to alcohol. They seem to me likely to do nothing and perhaps even more likely to compound the issue.
Rather I would recommend a two part approach to it as a parent.
The first being the complete opposite of your recommendation in that I think it better than parents not only "let" their children drink alcohol but are in fact the first people to introduce it to them - consume it with them - and be the first people with whom the child is actively drunk. So that by the time children reach the point of consuming alcohol with friends - it has been normalised to them to the point it is not some holy grail to be attained and some right of passage into maturity or badge of honour at a social level - and they already know their own limits and responses to the drug.
The second is to take approaches to combat a genuine problem that you mention in your opening post but do not actually discuss. Which is that people who choose not to drink alcohol to excess - or at all even - are made to feel like they have to explain themselves or make excuses or even justify themselves as if they are committing some active wrong. As if the only reason some woman might choose not to drink is that she is pregnant - because nothing else makes sense. And this is something as parents we can also move to normalise and demonstrate to our children. We can enter social drinking situations with them and drink at them sometimes and refrain from it other times. The more of us as parents who do that then A) the more of our children will grow up not questioning why someone might not drink on any given occasion or at all and
the more other adults will also get that message too so that it is not some weird event that requires explanation or justification. 0 -
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