Fallen for a girl at work

A Pint of Goo

So I met this girl at work and we instantly clicked. Unfortunately she has a boyfriend. I know she likes me too.

I'm really digging this chick so I need some proven, effective strategies to win her over.

Thanks.

retro:electro

There are none. She has a boyfriend.
Find another chick to dig.

A Pint of Goo

retro:electro wrote: »

There are none. She has a boyfriend.
Find another chick to dig.

Very defeatist attitude. I like her and she likes me. What if I never meet one like her again?

retro:electro

A Pint of Goo wrote: »

Very defeatist attitude. I like her and she likes me. What if I never meet one like her again?

What do you want people to do? Give you advice on how to break up a relationship? If she liked you enough she’d be with you.

Mongfinder General

A Pint of Goo wrote: »

Very defeatist attitude. I like her and she likes me. What if I never meet one like her again?

Chicks dig me because I rarely wear underwear and when I go it’s something unusual. But now I know why I’ve always lost girls to guys like you. It’s the stories you tell. Like that other guy who comes in here. When his friend stole that cow and his friend tried to make it with the cow...I wanna party with him.

A Pint of Goo

retro:electro wrote: »

What do you want people to do? Give you advice on how to break up a relationship? If she liked you enough she’d be with you.

Exactly. I need to know how to win her. She probably feels guilty about liking me. She's leaving the office soon so I need to make an all out effort on this.

Dravokivich

A Pint of Goo wrote: »

Exactly. I need to know how to win her. She probably feels guilty about liking me. She's leaving the office soon so I need to make an all out effort on this.

She's not a trophy.

begbysback

A Pint of Goo wrote: »

So I met this girl at work and we instantly clicked. Unfortunately she has a boyfriend. I know she likes me too.

I'm really digging this chick so I need some proven, effective strategies to win her over.

Thanks.

Best thread ever

How do you know she likes you - examples please?

A Pint of Goo

begbysback wrote: »

Best thread ever

How do you know she likes you - examples please?

She spends her free time at work with me. She suggest we hang out after work. She laughs at my jokes Seems genuinely interested in what I get up to.

So she either likes me or is leading me on.

Esse85

How old are you?

Have you even considered the feelings of her bf here?

How would you feel if you had a girlfriend and another guy where she worked started a thread on the internet about how to break up the relationship to win her over?

A Pint of Goo

Esse85 wrote: »

How old are you?

Have you even considered the feelings of her bf here?

How would you feel if you had a girlfriend and another guy where she worked started a thread on the internet about how to break up the relationship to win her over?

I am 30. Why would I care about his feelings? He's not my friend. Ive never met him.

I have met a woman who seems to be perfect for me, who actually gets me. If you met someone who seems perfect for you, would just let them go?

liam7831

Grow a pair and ask her if shes interested in you

CulptPrit

I would say go for it, and the sooner the better. You're not going to get much advice here for God's sake. Just be funny, and maybe start by keeping the chit chat more so about her, as this will allow you to poke fun at her.

Don't prepare, and don't worry if perfectly smooth words don't to come to mind. And after you've made your move, just continue on talking about whatever like it wasn't a big deal. If you're the nervous sort, then when asking her, just be sure your voice doesn't go higher, that your shoulders stay relaxed, as well as eye contact.

Of course she'll still say 'no', even if there is a chance, however you might get a few questions about yourself, and why you asked her, etc. These questions mean she curious, and you can bring it out of her if you play your cards right. If you get any "but you know I've a boyfriend" type questions, just ignore them and keep showing the same intent. However, if she does mean no, then she'll act quite different!

When around her, you need to be the one that sets the pace... deciding when the interactions end, and so on. You cannot be the guy who's waiting for her. Your time is valuable! If ye're about the work place, and you sense she's enjoying your company, that might even be a good time to (& it's the last thing you'll think to do), get up and leave, saying you've to go somewhere. That would sort of be like an ultimatum for your company, while also showing her that talking to a pretty girl isn't a big deal to you.

But if you're trying to pull off any tricks, be weary in case such things contradict your character, or previous things you've done and said. But above all, try not to want this too much. The chances are nothing will happen.

Mods - ye can close the thread now!

lawred2

A Pint of Goo wrote: »

She spends her free time at work with me. She suggest we hang out after work. She laughs at my jokes Seems genuinely interested in what I get up to.

So she either likes me or is leading me on.

Or ye know she's a friend

A Pint of Goo

lawred2 wrote: »

Or ye know she's a friend

I have no female friends so I doubt it.

Anyway we'll be out next weekend. My plan is to wait until we're both drunk (we both like to drink) and then grab her and kiss her. Then we'll know.

Ultimate Seduction

A Pint of Goo wrote: »

I have no female friends so I doubt it.

Anyway we'll be out next weekend. My plan is to wait until we're both drunk (we both like to drink) and then grab her and kiss her. Then we'll know.

So basically you are going to get her drunk an take advantage of her. What a creep you are. That can be considered sexual assault or rape of it goes further.

jimbobaloobob

Your on a wind up here Casanova or else delusional.
If your well able to read her signs you should need no help.
What happens though few years down the line and she's hanging out with a lad from work because she get him and finds his jokes funny. Don't get too jealous.

A Pint of Goo

Ultimate Seduction wrote: »

So basically you are going to get her drunk an take advantage of her. What a creep you are. That can be considered sexual assault or rape of it goes further.

Oh come off it. I'm not going to 'get her drunk' we're going to get drunk together because we enjoy each other's company and I'm going to make a move. Last time we were in that situation I had my arm around her rubbing her back and she didn't object. Should have kissed her then.

And having reread your post, <SNIP>

CulptPrit

A Pint of Goo wrote: »

Anyway we'll be out next weekend.

And the bf won't be there?

A Pint of Goo

CulptPrit wrote: »

And the bf won't be there?

Nope and not the first time we've hung out without him being there.

Esse85

Your 30 years of age and your on here looking for "some proven, effective strategies to win her over", a girl currently in a relationship.

And a couple of hours later your declaring to get the two of you drunk and go for a kiss then.

Best of luck in life.

OldMrBrennan83

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conor05

Esse85 wrote: »

Your 30 years of age and your on here looking for "some proven, effective strategies to win her over", a girl currently in a relationship.

And a couple of hours later your declaring to get the two of you drunk and go for a kiss then.

Best of luck in life.

I have to laugh at that myself.
He is on boards at 30 years of age trying to find out how to pull a girl that has a boyfriend.

I’d say he is on a wind up but if he is not I am worried for both of them later in life 😂

A Pint of Goo

Patww79 wrote: »

He might have low morals when it comes to a woman in a relationship but this post is absolute bull**** and a sad reflection on thinking these days. He didn't say that at all and it's ridiculous to imply he did.

Thank you. I may be clueless about women but that person is clueless about people in general if he doesn't realise people get drunk and hook up all the time.

OldMrBrennan83

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Bmw123d

A Pint of Goo wrote: »

I am 30. Why would I care about his feelings? He's not my friend. Ive never met him.

I have met a woman who seems to be perfect for me, who actually gets me. If you met someone who seems perfect for you, would just let them go?

This is the most childish answer I’ve ever heard.
If u have to come onto a forum to ask people how to win a girl over ur clearly not the datable type.

Sorry to be the bearer of bad news but if she was into u so put some actions into words and u wouldn’t need to be on hear asking how I’d win her over.

A Pint of Goo

conor05 wrote: »

I have to laugh at that myself.
He is on boards at 30 years of age trying to find out how to pull a girl that has a boyfriend.

I’d say he is on a wind up but if he is not I am worried for both of them later in life 😂

You laugh now but you might find yourself in the same situation. To be clear I'm only doing this because I really like her. This is a girl I can spend hours talking to. I don't meet ones like this very often. If I only wanted her for sex I wouldn't bother but this is love we're talking about!

Sam Quentin

Go for it. Just be funny in front of her and stuff.
I find if you stand in front of 'them' with your right arm in the air and cup your left hand and place it under your right armpit, then sharply bring your right arm down to your side, it makes a BIG fart sound...
Women love that and you become irresistible

Esse85

A Pint of Goo wrote: »

I have no female friends so I doubt it.

Anyway we'll be out next weekend. My plan is to wait until we're both drunk (we both like to drink) and then grab her and kiss her. Then we'll know.

I wonder why you've no female friends :O

Maybe the answer is contained within your plan.

Ultimate Seduction

You said your plan is to wait untill she's drunk then grab her and kiss her. That is creepy!! Why not do it when she's sober, she likes you after all?

Gorgeousgeorge

Word of advice. Cheat with me cheat on me!
if she cheats with you then a few years down the line it will happen to you when the next best thing pops up

Mongfinder General

Patww79 wrote: »

He might have low morals when it comes to a woman in a relationship but this post is absolute bull**** and a sad reflection on thinking these days. He didn't say that at all and it's ridiculous to imply he did.

Agree 100%. I really fear for my young lad when he grows up. He’ll need his lawyer to hold his Mickey on a night out.

Ultimate Seduction

Mongfinder General wrote: »

Agree 100%. I really fear for my young lad when he grows up. He’ll need his lawyer to hold his Mickey on a night out.

Rare a young fellow that doesn't plan on getting a girl (who has a boyfriend) drunk then grab her an kiss her.

Esse85

A Pint of Goo wrote: »

Oh come off it. I'm not going to 'get her drunk' we're going to get drunk together because we enjoy each other's company and I'm going to make a move. Last time we were in that situation I had my arm around her rubbing her back and she didn't object. Should have kissed her then.

And having reread your post, **** you you utter cretin.

OP got to rub her back previously and she didn't tell him to stop

A Pint of Goo

Bmw123d wrote: »

This is the most childish answer I’ve ever heard.
If u have to come onto a forum to ask people how to win a girl over ur clearly not the datable type.

Sorry to be the bearer of bad news but if she was into u so put some actions into words and u wouldn’t need to be on hear asking how I’d win her over.

What's childish about It? I'm 30, my best years are behind me, the only love I've experienced is unrequited love. Now I've meet an amazing girl but she has a bf. If she rejects me i will respect that, lick my wounds and move on, but i'm not letting her go without a fight.

TomOnBoard

Ultimate Seduction wrote: »

So basically you are going to get her drunk an take advantage of her. What a creep you are. That can be considered sexual assault or rape of it goes further.

OP sounds a lot like he has Bill Cosby's tactics mixed with Donald Trump's attitude...

Sephiroth_dude

You sound deluded and when you make your "move" I hope she slaps you one.

lawred2

Gorgeousgeorge wrote: »

Word of advice. Cheat with me cheat on me!
if she cheats with you then a few years down the line it will happen to you when the next best thing pops up

My thoughts exactly. Hardly the best footing to start a relationship on.

dudara

@ANDREWMUFC - warned and post deleted for not being up to standard

@A Pint of Goo - warned for uncivil language. Watch it in future please

All posters - watch the standards please

dudara

Mrtestosterone

If you can pull it off then awesome and don't blame yourself. She has a boyfriend and it is solely on her to control herself. If my girlfriend cheated on me, I wouldn't blame the guy, I would blame her because she was the one that's in a relationship. She'll probably cheat on you as well at some point so best to use her in a friend with benefits kind of way.

fin12

I think you should just tell her how you feel and then at least you will know where you stand. I wouldn’t get involved unless she feels the same and has ended her relationship. Plenty of genuine single people out there so you don’t need to get involved with people already in relationships.

Esse85

Going after someone else's girlfriend is a real scummy thing to do.

If a girl went after another another girls boyfriend she'd be called all sorts and rightly so, same rules should apply here.

A Pint of Goo

Anyway i'll update next week. Keep the advice coming. Even if most of it is negative I still appreciate people taking the time to write a message.

Telling ye though, the Gods want this to happen. I have next week booked off from work. That means a week of her not seeing me and realising how much she misses me. Then It's showtime on Saturday night. I didn't plan this.

Bmw123d

A Pint of Goo wrote: »

You laugh now but you might find yourself in the same situation. To be clear I'm only doing this because I really like her. This is a girl I can spend hours talking to. I don't meet ones like this very often. If I only wanted her for sex I wouldn't bother but this is love we're talking about!

This just proves ur childishness and that fact that u haven’t had many girls. “This is love”. U don’t even no the girl ffs

A Pint of Goo

Ultimate Seduction wrote: »

You said your plan is to wait untill she's drunk then grab her and kiss her. That is creepy!! Why not do it when she's sober, she likes you after all?

Because I'd never have the bottle to do it sober. Lets be clear, we're two adults who are going to get drunk because we like each other. I'm not grooming a child here.

If she rejects me that's fine and I will respect that 100%.

Greybottle

Man the fcuk up and ask her out to dinner, or something that doesn't involved getting her so plssed that she has her guard down.

Tell her how you feel and tell her you'd like to go out with her. Give her time to think it over. Be prepared to be rejected.

Getting her drunk first is sly, creepy, seedy, dishonest and dangerous. Its an appalling way to start a relationship and an immature and nasty way to behave.

You need to grow up, you sound immature.

Bmw123d

A Pint of Goo wrote: »

What's childish about It? I'm 30, my best years are behind me, the only love I've experienced is unrequited love. Now I've meet an amazing girl but she has a bf. If she rejects me i will respect that, lick my wounds and move on, but i'm not letting her go without a fight.

Ur delusional u know that. U have no female friends u haven’t had love before. Ur in ur 30s and ur going to wait till she’s drunk. If u ask me I’d say u sound like a physco

Ultimate Seduction

A Pint of Goo wrote: »

Anyway i'll update next week. Keep the advice coming. Even if most of it is negative I still appreciate people taking the time to write a message.

Telling ye though, the Gods want this to happen. I have next week booked off from work. That means a week of her not seeing me and realising how much she misses me. Then It's showtime on Saturday night. I didn't plan this.

I admire how determined you are, she must be nice! I have no problems with trying it on with a girl in a relationship, she's the one in the realationship so she has to decide weather to be loyal to bf or break up with him or cheat.

I do have a problem with "waiting till she's drunk then grabbing her and kissing her" when she mightn't be thinking straight, I've often tapped people I wouldn't want to with beer goggles on. If ye are clicking like you say, you should have no problem talking about it or getting romantic while sober.

A Pint of Goo

Bmw123d wrote: »

This just proves ur childishness and that fact that u haven’t had many girls. “This is love”. U don’t even no the girl ffs

I've been with tons of women but the 3 that I've been in love with I blew it.

You're a very negative person, you know that?

A Pint of Goo

Ultimate Seduction wrote: »

I admire how determined you are, she must be nice! I have no problems with trying it on with a girl in a relationship, she's the one in the realationship so she has to decide weather to be loyal to bf or break up with him or cheat.

I do have a problem with "waiting till she's drunk then grabbing her and kissing her" when she mightn't be thinking straight, I've often tapped people I wouldn't want to with beer goggles on. If ye are clicking like you say, you should have no problem talking about it or getting romantic while sober.

I get you but I'm not the type to do these things sober, I just can't. I'm sorry I cursed at you but your comment really annoyed me because I hate men who prey on women.

Fact is though women are not victims. They like to go out and drink and screw as much as men do.

And yeah, she is great.

A Pint of Goo

Greybottle wrote: »

Man the fcuk up and ask her out to dinner, or something that doesn't involved getting her so plssed that she has her guard down.

Dinner as first date is an awful idea.