Is this just lad banter?

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Dash1993 wrote: »

My boyfriend and his workmates I've noticed are laddy but I  I know I shouldn't have,  I recently found texts on my boyfriends phone when he was talking to a mate about a new girl from work who he had been out  drinking with  for eight hours at a work event with their other colleagues. He said he had fell a bit in love with her. should I be worried about this? He backtracked the next day and said that he fell a bit in love with her, but that he supposes that's what happens after 10 pints. I later found some messages kind of Bantery  with two of his other friends about the girl being one of the top three in the office  and all three of his mates were engaging in sexualised banter about her . Is it just the word 'fell in love with.' His use of the word 'fell in love with' im not sure what to think. Whether it was just an inapprorpriate word he used to mean he was crushing on her or if he was hyperbolising.

As a side note, nothing has changed in our relationship he is still loving and makes effort and he's actually taken the initiative to ask me to move in with him which I dont think you'd do if you werent a complete moronif and he was actually in love with another girl I feel . Looking for some help to understand this and what is to be expected with lads and their ridiculous office / women banter

err. i used to feel guilty for snooping in ppl's phones and this thread is giving me morale.
Anyway, i advice you to stop looking into his matter. be very observant anyway but just stop i am speaking from experience. you may develop a jealous attitude and start comparing yourself to her and what he does to you to what he does to her. Meanwhile he doesnt know you are comparing yourself to her so to him, you would be getting cranky. so technically, you would be pushing him away by your attitude.
Except you want to tell him you were snooping in his phone and you saw the message and tell him what it makes you feel like. he will def apologise but it can cause trust issues in the relationship.
My advice is to ignore the matter and be observant anyway. he doesnt seem like the cheating type but if he is, the you have sth to worry about. if not, live your life.
btw. i think girls focus on their boyfrien fancying other girls to rthe point that they forget they too can be fancied by other boys. girl live your life and if he does ****, then you can get rid of him.

Go Tobban

From my experience, I wouldn't take anything said in group/work chats seriously at all

Some of my best friends, who are as loyal as they come, post crazy stuff about other women in our whatsapp groups etc. It's almost like they're trying to stay in the group as one of "the lads" but we all know they are faithful to their girlfriends