The missus, the mother

Wesser · 13-08-2017 4:53pm #1

Does anyone else think that these terms are slightly derogatory?

As in... it's an object that kind of..... has to be put up with?

Ah jaysus the missus wouldn t go out with out fixin' up d' nails wha!!??
Ah jaysus I'm only here coz d mudder made me....

bmwguy · 13-08-2017 4:55pm

More people taking offence, excellent. Cop on snowflake.

alberto67 · 13-08-2017 4:55pm

Wesser wrote: »

Does anyone else think that these terms are slightly derogatory?

It depends on which forum you post that request...

GBX · 13-08-2017 4:56pm

No .. get over it

Wesser · 13-08-2017 4:57pm

Ah come 'ere!! I'm only opening up a thread for a bit of bants!! Its just a bit of fun!!!! I'm not actually offended!

Are Am Eye · 13-08-2017 4:58pm

"Ah jaysus, the Bmwguy called out The Snowflake"

alberto67 · 13-08-2017 4:58pm

Wesser wrote: »

Ah come 'ere!! I'm only opening up a thread for a bit of bants!! Its just a bit of fun!!!! I'm not actually offended!

I think you are...

Senna · 13-08-2017 4:59pm

My 3 year old called me daddy last week, I quickly beat that out of her, it's father or Mr Senna.

Sleeper12 · 13-08-2017 5:02pm

I'm "the hubby". I don't see the problem

eeguy · 13-08-2017 5:02pm

Don't mind the missus.

When people refer to their gf as "herself", that really annoys me.

Senna · 13-08-2017 5:04pm

alberto67 wrote: »

I think you are...

Of course he isn't offended, but just like many others, he goes around looking for things that he thinks MIGHT offend someone else, even thought no one ever is.
It's just the pathetic moral outrage generation.

alberto67 · 13-08-2017 5:06pm

Senna wrote: »

Of course he isn't offended, but just like many others, he goes around looking for things that he thinks MIGHT offend someone else, even thought no ever is.
It's just the pathetic moral outrage generation.

Thanks Daddy :pac:

Academic · 13-08-2017 5:09pm

Senna wrote: »

Of course he isn't offended, but just like many others, he goes around looking for things that he thinks MIGHT offend someone else, even thought no ever is.
It's just the pathetic moral outrage generation.

Hmm. I vaguely recall there's a word for that but I can't remember what it is. I think it might start with the letter "T." Anyone remember?

alberto67 · 13-08-2017 5:11pm

Academic wrote: »

Hmm. I vaguely recall there's a word for that but I can't remember what it is. I think it might start with the letter "T." Anyone remember?

Trama queen?

Barry Badrinath · 13-08-2017 5:15pm

Wesser wrote: »

Ah come 'ere!! I'm only opening up a thread for a bit of bants!! Its just a bit of fun!!!! I'm not actually offended!

Im offended by your use of the noise "bants".

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1 · 13-08-2017 5:23pm

Wesser wrote: »

Ah come 'ere!! I'm only opening up a thread for a bit of bants!! Its just a bit of fun!!!! I'm not actually offended!

Start again so.

Panthro · 13-08-2017 5:28pm

I'm after blinking, like an absolute boss.
Just saying

Wesser · 13-08-2017 5:37pm

Jaziel Powerful Self-deception wrote: »

Wesser wrote: »

Ah come 'ere!! I'm only opening up a thread for a bit of bants!! Its just a bit of fun!!!! I'm not actually offended!

Start again so.

Ok!!!

Maybe I'm.not expressing myself properly?
I suspect sometimes... when a man uses this phrase.... that he feels that his head is slightly wrecked by a woman....who is ' at him in some way , or maybe he is a bit hen pecked.....

I just thought people might have some funny stories.... you hear the phrase often in Dublin.

I am not is the slightest offended.... and always smile to myself when I hear it.... but I always wonder is the man .... little bit demented!!??? ðŸ™‚ðŸ™‚ðŸ™‚ðŸ™‚

I mean it in the nicest possible way and I'm not offended!!!!

Tin Foil Hat · 13-08-2017 5:39pm

Google 'hubby meaning' and 'wifey meaning', to see a simple demonstration of how absolutely obsessed we currently are at finding misogyny in every possible place.

hubby - a husband
wifey - a condescending way of referring to a man's wife

5uspect · 13-08-2017 5:40pm

eeguy wrote: »

Don't mind the missus.

When people refer to their gf as "herself", that really annoys me.

Why?

Barry Badrinath · 13-08-2017 5:43pm

You think someone is demented if they use those phrases?

Do you know what 'demented' means?

Wesser · 13-08-2017 5:51pm

Yes I know what demented means.

In my post I mean it as people use it casually... ......as in they feel slight annoyance.... this is they way people use this term in everyday speak.

13-08-2017 5:58pm

I find it dismissive.

Does every single thread where someone says "I don't like..." get a snowflake reference?

biko · 13-08-2017 6:04pm

Snowflake search engine

www.google.ie/search?q=hubby
a husband.

www.google.ie/search?q=wifey
a condescending way of referring to a man's wife.

Wesser · 13-08-2017 6:11pm

Thanks Conor.
That's a much better word!!!
Dismissive I should have said. !!!
Not derogatory.

Academic · 13-08-2017 6:11pm

alberto67 wrote: »

Trama queen?

Nice one, but no. I think the second letter might have been "r" ...

eeguy · 13-08-2017 6:13pm

5uspect wrote: »

Why?

I just think it's dismissive and impersonal.

Yakult · 13-08-2017 6:13pm

"Heres the missus.. For my sins"

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1 · 13-08-2017 6:15pm

Wesser wrote: »

Yes I know what demented means.

In my post I mean it as people use it casually... ......as in they feel slight annoyance.... this is they way people use this term in everyday speak.

People use those terms regardless of their frame of mind at the time. Demented or not, annoyed or not, the terms are used. And no harm in them other than a poor vocabulary.

alberto67 · 13-08-2017 6:26pm

Academic wrote: »

Nice one, but no. I think the second letter might have been "r" ...

That's very academic... Traumatised?

100 posts! I'll be a legend of Boards soon :pac:

Senna · 13-08-2017 7:16pm

Tin Foil Hat wrote: »

Google 'hubby meaning' and 'wifey meaning', to see a simple demonstration of how absolutely obsessed we currently are at finding misogyny in every possible place.

hubby - a husband
wifey - a condescending way of referring to a man's wife

Who uses the term "Wifey"? cannot say I have ever heard anyone use it.

Irish Guitarist · 13-08-2017 8:53pm

'She who must be obeyed' is far better. It sounds like they're married to a dominatrix.

FTA69 · 13-08-2017 9:04pm

There's a common cockney saying where a wife or girlfriend is referred to as "her indoors" which is hilarious when you think about it.

TheRiverman · 13-08-2017 9:08pm

I remembering hearing Pat Kenny referring to Kathy,his wife as "the other half" at an awards ceremony.I thought it was very disrespectful hearing a professional broadcaster say it.

andekwarhola · 13-08-2017 9:13pm

Asked the missus here and she said chill out, Sir Lancelot.

Widdershins · 13-08-2017 9:27pm

It's the ''The'' bit that I dislike. ''My missus' or ''my mother'' is ok. ''The missus'' sounds like they're distancing themself from her. I think immature men do it more than most.

Ficheall · 13-08-2017 9:35pm

Pretty sure you'll find some who would whinge about "My", too - they're not a piece of property, etc, etc.

freshpopcorn · 13-08-2017 10:12pm

Wesser wrote: »

Does anyone else think that these terms are slightly derogatory?

As in... it's an object that kind of..... has to be put up with?

Ah jaysus the missus wouldn t go out with out fixin' up d' nails wha!!??
Ah jaysus I'm only here coz d mudder made me....

Is that you Louise O’Neill?

Widdershins · 13-08-2017 10:33pm

Ficheall wrote: »

Pretty sure you'll find some who would whinge about "My", too - they're not a piece of property, etc, etc.

''My'' doesn't always imply ownership though. And if it did, you're equally theirs.

Conor Bourke · 13-08-2017 10:34pm

OP what are your thoughts on people who refer to their dad as "Th'oulfella"?

Ficheall · 13-08-2017 10:42pm

Widdershins wrote: »

''My'' doesn't always imply ownership though. And if it did, you're equally theirs.

And "the" doesn't always imply 'distance'.
I wasn't suggesting the whingers were logical.

FanadMan · 13-08-2017 10:56pm

Still think that the term "She who must be obeyed" is the best one.

maudgonner · 13-08-2017 11:02pm

Personally I prefer to be called by my official title: The Wicked Bitch of the West.

Widdershins · 13-08-2017 11:03pm

Ficheall wrote: »

And "the" doesn't always imply 'distance'.
I wasn't suggesting the whingers were logical.

Well, ''the'' isn't the correct way of referring to someone so it's open to interpretation. ''My'' on the other hand is the usual and accepted way to refer to a relative, partner or acquaintance. Or even a boss or superior of some kind, which goes to show that it isn't intended to suggest ownership or domination of the other person.

RayM · 13-08-2017 11:19pm

Better to use "the" and sound dismissive than to use "my" and accidentally lead people to believe that you're referring to someone whom you deeply love.