Am I wrong to feel this way?

professore

I see this as trying to erase history and preferring some fantasy world over reality. I don't go round every day thinking whether my wife has pictures of her exes somewhere or not!!! Having said that if she had them and was mooning over them constantly then I wouldn't be happy about it, but this isn't the case.

Pregnancy hormones can make you a bit crazy, I've seen it first hand. Don't worry about stuff like this, once the baby comes you won't have time to be worrying about stuff like this.

Good luck with the new arrival!

team_actimel

I don't think you're wrong to feel this way.

I'd have thought that people would delete profile photos of exes.
All my friends have deleted profile photos of their exes.

It's fine to still have photos tagged of both you and an ex in but to still have profile photos with an ex, for most people to see is odd.
It takes 2 seconds to delete a photo so there's no excuse.

SB_Part2

I think everyone to some degree feels a little 'ugh' when they see pics of their partner with their ex.

But asking them to delete/hide the pictures is a bit extreme.

alberto67

Pleasepostanon17 wrote: »

From reading the replies here I see that I am very much in the minority.

The majority of people don't seem to think it's a big deal to allow these photo's to remain seen by new partners.

I think personally it's strange the majority here are ok with this. You are all stronger than me.

OP here btw

- Majority of people: no, it's a forum not representative of the whole country. Sometimes posters team up too...

- You are all stronger than me: Not really, trust your feelings. Some posters just have different opinions, it doesn't mean that they are stronger.


The point about hormones and pregnancy is often exaggerated. In my opinion, your concerns are reasonable. I would feel the same and I am not pregnant!

LegacyUser

Thanks for your feedback and support alberto67!

bucketybuck

I think the OP is completely out of line, and I can understand the boyfriends reaction too. In fact, had he asked here for advice he would have been told to immediately make it very clear that such controlling behaviour is not acceptable in a relationship.

I have a history, I have old photos with ex's in them, if somebody I was dating came along and told me to delete them that would be red warning lights and klaxons sounding in my brain because who needs that sort of insecurity in their life.

ash23

I'm with current partner 4 years. Prior to him I was with someone else. There'd be a few uploaded photos of me and my ex on Facebook. Things we attended, things we did. I didn't go back through it all to delete pictures. I was with him at a time in my life, now it's over and we've both moved on. I'm not going to erase a chunk of my life on Facebook because he's mentioned or there are pictures of him.
On the other hand he erased all mention of me on his Facebook about two years after we split up. That struck me as odd but whatever.

People are different and view things differently. I don't think he's wrong to not erase photos. I don't think you're wrong if you do it. But I'm not sure this is a viewpoint you can or should force on someone else.

team_actimel

I think people are forgetting that the OP is talking about profile pics with the ex, not photos they're both tagged in.

woodchuck

team_actimel wrote: »

I think people are forgetting that the OP is talking about profile pics with the ex, not photos they're both tagged in.

OLD profile pics though. I could understand if it was his current profile pic, but Facebook just automatically puts old profile pictures into an album.

alberto67

Pleasepostanon17 wrote: »

Thanks for your feedback and support alberto67!

With pleasure, best wishes with the pregnancy and relationship.

Skibunny77

A friend had a similar disagreement with her partner - he was the one who felt uncomfortable with pics of her ex on her profile. Funnily enough, once she had their first baby, she felt uncomfortable with pics of her own ex and deleted them. I think it is a fair and reasonable request, it is showing basic respect to your current partner.