My neighbour said I've done nothing with my life and that I have no life. Ouch...

5rtytry56

Over 21 years ago, mum had a neighbour like that who thought the same of me. I needed to stretch my wings more. The same neighbour liked to remind my mum that her husband got paid more. blah blah blah. live with it op and don't give a ****

Sun in Capri

It is what you want, what you are comfortable with, how you want to live your life that is important - not how your neighbour thinks you should live your life. If we were all to live our lives how others wanted us to and to be like others because others think that is the "right" way to be, then there would be twice as many unhappy people in the world as there already are.

Be yourself and enjoy living the way you want.

milehip

pathetic2017 wrote: »

My neighbour, who happens to be my mums best friend,


told me I'd achieved nothing in my life and that I have no life.


She's a very extroverted woman and not afraid to speak her mind.



I can't help but feel there must be some substance behind it.

Tell your mum to get better friends.

You have achieved plenty by the sound of it

Extroverted and not afraid to speak her mind is just nice way of saying -obnoxious wagon - empty vessels and all that.

The substance behind it is a deep rooted self loathing on her part and an attempt to upset you for no good reason other than her own sick indulgence, don't let her be successful.

Avoid her in future she sounds like piece of work.

Good luck.

LimeFruitGum

Out of interest, does your mother know her 'best friend' said all this to you?

professore

Tell her to mind her own business. What do you care about some loud mouth low IQ nosy neighbour? Live your own life and be happy in your own skin.

CorkFenian

What kind of significance does the guest name pathetic2017 have for you OP?

Is that how you see yourself?

Walter H Price

I don't get the whole neighbors thing like , I've never introduced myself to anyone who lives near us , like i'm not looking for them for anything i have mates i have my family and my Finace i don't need a "community" i ... To be honest if a Neighbor or friend of my Ma's came out with something like that she'd be rightly told to go and get Fcuked , and id be telling my Ma that she wouldn't be hearing from me either until she severed ties with said Neighbor / Friend

dd972

OP, that woman sounds like a f***ing dick of the highest order, as a previous poster mentioned these types of people think they're sages of life because they've had kids and 'fit in' in some nomark, one horse town.

suicide_circus

You can often substitute "extrovert" for "loudmouthed prick". Ignore her.

Strawberry Swan

The neighbour probably thought she was being cruel to be kind but she was just being very cruel and that says a lot more about her than you.

Whether what she said is true or not is beside the point. It is whether you believe it to be true or not. I personally don't think so but then what is my opinion worth? It's only yours that counts. But having low self esteem means you automatically think the worst of yourself so let this incident be the catalyst for you to make the changes in your life that you want/need to make, specifically improving your mental health so you can have a fuller social life. I'd start with a good therapist. Look at getting help with the anxiety in particular. You already have the determination to teach yourself a musical skill, now concentrate on learning to improve your mental health. No reason why you can't. And perhaps in future you'll feel good enough about yourself to tell the neighbour to stuff her opinions where the sun don't shine