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What do you think I should do here?

Broken Hearted Road · 2017-03-17 21:13:46

I live at home with my mother. Some people think if an adult is living at home, they get everything done for them and bills paid and food cooked and laundry done. For me, none of that and I'm good with that. I pay my way and took some of the house hold bills under my wing. It's just rental properties in my area are limited…

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#32 18-03-2017 9:56am
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Broken Hearted Road wrote: »

We went to the cinema already and hopefully we'll go again. You know, it would be great to stay in and have some drinks and not worry about driving just to mix things up a bit.

Get a hotel room.

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#33 18-03-2017 9:59am
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Theres only one thing you can do.

Make the "problem" eh "disappear".

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#34 18-03-2017 10:07am
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Broken Hearted Road wrote: »

That is so funny. Belly full of laughs here. I'm very sure I wasn't conceived on that sofa. Bought the couch around about 10 years ago.

...did you ever think of the reasons for that particular couch ?(and not the other identical ones )

Who delivered the couch?..it all starts there

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#35 18-03-2017 10:17am
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Ask your mother first. If she has a problem just move out, simples.

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#36 18-03-2017 10:20am
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If my daughter wanted to bring a fella over to stay the night I wouldn't have it. So I understand where ur ma is comin from.

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#37 18-03-2017 10:55am
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smelly sock wrote: »

If my daughter wanted to bring a fella over to stay the night I wouldn't have it. So I understand where ur ma is comin from.

Riding in alleys is more fun anyway.

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#38 18-03-2017 10:59am
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Riding in alleys is more fun anyway.

Ur wife would know.

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#39 18-03-2017 11:08am
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smelly sock wrote: »

Ur wife would know.

Is she some kind of alley expert?

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#40 18-03-2017 11:20am
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I doubt he'd take you up on the offer of the couch anyway why wouldnt he just get a taxi if you arent going to sleep together. Sleeping on the couch in your mams house would be quite uncomfortable for him and probably disappointing because in most peoples books a night in means one thing it obviously doesn't to you but just giving you a heads up you might want to manage his expectations.

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#41 18-03-2017 11:20am
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KERSPLAT! wrote: »

Is she some kind of alley expert?

No yours is.

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#42 18-03-2017 11:25am
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Carry wrote: »

You pay your way, you live your life. Period.

Better pick a different night

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#43 18-03-2017 11:43am
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smelly sock wrote: »

No yours is.

Yours is called "cockmaster 2000"

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#44 18-03-2017 11:48am
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And she smells

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#45 18-03-2017 11:49am
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Of socks.

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#46 18-03-2017 11:51am
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Winterlong wrote: »

Of socks.

Of sock jizz.

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#47 18-03-2017 11:58am
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If you're not able to have a mature conversation about this with your mother, then maybe you shouldn't have people staying over?

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#48 18-03-2017 12:01pm
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Seen this exact scenario as the plot for a 70's filth flick that someone upload to xHamster.

Sex happens. To everyone.

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#49 18-03-2017 12:03pm
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MarkR wrote: »

If you're not able to have a mature conversation about this with your mother, then maybe you shouldn't have people staying over?

Maybe she could join in.

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#50 18-03-2017 12:05pm
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It's not always possible to have a mature conversation with a parent. It's not necessarily about maturity. The relationship between adult child at home and parent can be a tricky one. It's your home and I think it's reasonable enough to have friends over. But it's your mother's house and ultimately her rules. They can be unreasonable as she likes, it's her house.

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#51 18-03-2017 12:31pm
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What should you do? Move out. You may be saving money but the cost of reduced freedom is too high. I can't understand why an adult would live with their parents, unless in a caring capacity. Cost of rent is only an excuse. Struggling financially is a part of growing up for most people.

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#52 18-03-2017 12:41pm
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http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?p=102897098

Well, I'm glad he decided to give it a shot.

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#53 18-03-2017 12:41pm
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When my lad was 18 he asked if his 18 year old girlfriend could stay over in his room. I said ok as long as her parents agreed that he could stay over there in her room and that contraception was organised. It took about 6 months for her to pluck up the courage to ask her mom and was delighted when she agreed. She was a regular in our house every weekend after that until they moved in together.
What kids forget is that their mammies and daddies were hormonal teenagers too at one time!

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#54 18-03-2017 9:05pm
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When my lad was 18 he asked if his 18 year old girlfriend could stay over in his room. I said ok as long as her parents agreed that he could stay over there in her room and that contraception was organised. It took about 6 months for her to pluck up the courage to ask her mom and was delighted when she agreed. She was a regular in our house every weekend after that until they moved in together.
What kids forget is that their mammies and daddies were hormonal teenagers too at one time!

You had a son, sons don't get pregnant, you had it easy.

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#55 18-03-2017 9:43pm
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I talked to my mam about this and she's cool with it and the conversation just came about. I didn't bring it up at all. It was mam who did. He was parked up outside and mam asked why don't you invite him in? I can't says I. The sitting room is a bit of a mess. I'll need to clean it up, says I and find another place for the clothes horse. She agreed. I said I would like to invite him in sometime for a movie night and a drink or two. She's cool with it. Bless her.

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#56 18-03-2017 9:45pm
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There's a hotel trip planned for another weekend but that's costly and can't be done every week.

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#57 18-03-2017 9:46pm
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Nocrac wrote: »

What should you do? Move out. You may be saving money but the cost of reduced freedom is too high. I can't understand why an adult would live with their parents, unless in a caring capacity. Cost of rent is only an excuse. Struggling financially is a part of growing up for most people.

My pay is too crap. It really is. I do hope to make some changes this summer. New job and move into the city.

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#58 18-03-2017 9:52pm
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Broken Hearted Road wrote: »

My pay is too crap. It really is. I do hope to make some changes this summer. New job and move into the city.

Best of luck with new job and move.

Hope everything works out for you and this boy. You seem to like him.

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#59 18-03-2017 10:57pm
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Fair play to you OP for being so respectful towards your mam, it's lovely to see! I never used to ask, used to just land them home, mother despised every last one.

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#60 18-03-2017 11:06pm
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Is there anyone over the age of 12 in this thread??

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#61 21-03-2017 2:24pm
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kittensmittens wrote: »

Is there anyone over the age of 12 in this thread??

12 and a half......... that half makes all the difference :pac:

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