girlfriend saying she will break up with me if I go on weekend away with the lads

huggy15

well a group of friends have decided to go away to Amsterdam for a lads weekend at the end of April. I've been with my girlfriend 9 months now and everything is great although I do sense she has a few security issues. well anyway there is about 10 of us going including me, most of them are single except 1 or 2. I'd only be goin over for a bit of craic and a few pints but as soon as she got wind of it she went off her head. now she is saying if i go that we are finished! is it just me or is this a bit much? I really don't know what to do now I do like the girl but I think she is being a bit controlling...

SteelyDanJalapeno

Bit much

Fr_Dougal

Tell her you'll miss her, then download Tinder.

Surreptitious

She only knows you 9 months, it's none of her business.

Conor Bourke

Invite her to come with you. The lads won't mind.

seamas

If you're not fishing here I'd strongly recommend you wear a life jacket in The Dam in case you fall in the canal or drown in your pint.

SarahSTARRR

She sounds insane TBH. Cut your losses now and go enjoy your lads holiday!

Firewalkwithme

Ditch the bitch.

If she's trying to manipulate and control you like this after only nine months things are going to get a lot worse.

nullzero

Enjoy your weekend away.

gifted

Oh she sounds like super fun...your very lucky to have found the girl that's looking out for you after 9 months...........run like the wind ffs

CINCLANTFLT

You're in AH so expect some odd answers... all jokes aside, there has to be trust in situations like this... my OH went on a Uni trip to Holland when we were going out a similar length of time... I just had to trust her like she trusts me when I go away on trips...

Also she might think everyone in Amsterdam is a drug addled prostitution user... I went there a few years for a lads trip... I just got blind drunk and left the other elements of such a trip to others!

hungry hypno toad

DO IT!!!

Colser

Tell her that she should trust you and that you're only going for the pints and craic....and that you'll wrap up well ect...

gw80

Go, if you dont you,ll be setting a presidence and probably end up resenting her witch will probably end the relationship any way,

Call her bluff, she will get over it, if not you have probably dodged a bullet

mohawk

Go for your weekend away with the lads. Have a bit of craic for yourself. Why are you even thinking about not going?

MrKingsley

Yeah go and enjoy the weekend.

If this is what shes like after 9 months what will she be like after a couple of years when you want to go out for a night out with the lads

huggy15

thinking I'd be stupid not to go tbh I know if it was her goin for a weekend away with her friends id have no problems...starting to think she can like it or lump it

gramar

If it's the 27th week in a row you're going away with the lads then she might have a point.
Also 9 months in she might be about to pop your first born and would like you around for the birth.

Kenny Powers

That's all you have to do??? You are a lucky man do it

2006

Just book it..after only 9 months why would you hesitate. Trust issues on her side.. have fun in the dam

Winterlong

Looking for relationship advice? This is After Hours, you have come to the right place.

Go on your trip with the lads. Get high, be merry and catch an STD. Give it to her as a present.

Sonics2k

So the good news is that you'll be single on your weekend holiday with the lads.

DrumSteve

Go to Amsterdam because Amsterdam is the best.

Ben Gadot

Laugh in her face and ditch accordingly would be the advice I'd give.

Richard Hillman

You have no long term future. Dump her. Your friends will still be there long after she has gone.

red ears

Has she been away.. I'll bet she has.

Ben Gadot

Laugh in her face and ditch accordingly would be the advice I'd give.

Ursus Horribilis

Serious answer: Go because if you give in to this, you're rewarding her neediness. It'll encourage her to pull the same stunt again and again in the future. Time to lay down a marker.

Then go to Amsterdam and come home with no memories to speak of but your mates' phones full of plenty of incriminating videos and photos.

suicide_circus

Your options are;

1. Pander to her childish insecurities and manipulation in the knowledge that she dosnt really trust you. Let her wreck your chance to go away with the lads for which you'll almost certainly hold a grudge against her.

2. Stand up for yourself. Go on the holiday. Have fun. Hopefully rid yourself of a control freak.

Start as you mean to go on. If this succubus is forbidding trips away after 9 months together who knows what other rules she's gonna be laying down after she sees your such a pushover on this occasion.

The Raptor

Let her break up with you and enjoy your holiday carefree and single. She sounds like a crazy bitch.

Mr.Plough

Get out now

Annasopra

Tell her you are going and she needs to trust you and you would trust her with a group of her female friends.

Graces7

Sounds like SHE wants rid of YOU and has found a way to do it Knows you well enough to be sure that you will take the bait. Clever lass.

Pkiernan

It's a win win.
You get to go away for the weekend, and you'll be single.

This is the very definition of a no brainer.

derfderf

Get a hooker at home tonight so she sees how pointless it is to stop you.

Tramore Tilly

Go. If she breaks up with you, fair enough, her choice, not your fault. If she doesn't break up with you, dont accept any guilt trips she may chuck at you!

Enjoy the weekend!

rustynutz

Move on, give in to this and it will get worse, trust me! Enjoy Amsterdam, has to be done at least once in a lifetime

TheAnalyst_

Amsterdam with "the lads" is a pretty crap weekend btw.
Expect to be ripped off, hated by locals, feel sick for most of it and you won't have a sniff of a girl unless you're paying.

.G.

gw80 wrote:

Go, if you dont you,ll be setting a presidence and probably end up resenting her witch will probably end the relationship any way,

Call her bluff, she will get over it, if not you have probably dodged a bullet

Exactly this. You'll be making a rod for your own back if you relent on this one OP. She clearly has trust and security issues but that's for her to sort out. She has to trust you and you have to prove that her trust is not misguided. Without trust you have very little worth holding onto.

Cee-Jay-Cee

Tell her seeing as she has no trust in you after 9 months then it doesn't bode well for the future so maybe this is for the best. You can tell her you don't want her to finish with you but your going and she has to learn that she is not going to control your life just because she has trust issues.

Samuel T. Cogley

Make sure to drop the pet rabbit around to someone for safe keeping.

Penny Tration

I agree with those saying to go and she can deal with it or dump you.

But I'd add that you should dump her before you go, too. Don't let her have the control like that. She's shown you she doesn't trust you, so why would you want to stay with her? End it, then go have fun with your mates.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

Go. She sounds like a dose

huggy15

huggy15 wrote: »

well a group of friends have decided to go away to Amsterdam for a lads weekend at the end of April. I've been with my girlfriend 9 months now and everything is great although I do sense she has a few security issues. well anyway there is about 10 of us going including me, most of them are single except 1 or 2. I'd only be goin over for a bit of craic and a few pints but as soon as she got wind of it she went off her head. now she is saying if i go that we are finished! is it just me or is this a bit much? I really don't know what to do now I do like the girl but I think she is being a bit controlling...

Your answer is there. You "like" her, not love her. Time to move on.

Alf Stewart.

Send her a selfie of your smiling head, sandwiched between a Venezuelan hookers breasticles as a way of telling her you're missing her.

Then go to the dam and smoke doobies.

marklazarcovic

Change your number before you go too coz she will plague you when your there,still together or not,guilt tripping.

Your too young for that crap,your not married

BBDBB

It's a shame she chose to give you such an ultimatum rather than talking with you openly about her fears

The_Kew_Tour

Dump Her.

What would she be like if ye were married?

Plenty of fish in the sea.

blaze1

Yeah, wouldn't wait to see how that one plays out pal... Cut her loose now

nice_guy80

bring her back a present, like a dildo

then dump her.

gw80

nice_guy80 wrote: »

bring her back a present, like a dildo

then dump her.

A used one