What is your hopes for your children's future?

lulu1

Would you like your child to get a good education get a good job and would you want them to stick at the job even though they hated it ?
Or would you be happy if they just scraped through secondary school, and became a jack of all trades earning enough money just to get by but as happy as Larry.

I know parents who would opt for the first every time. I tell mine that it dosen't matter how much you earn or what job you do if your not happy doing it

failinis

Just to see them happy, and so long as that was not hurting other people or themselves, then thats the best for them.

osarusan

lulu1 wrote: »

Would you like your child to get a good education get a good job and would you want them to stick at the job even though they hated it ?
Or would you be happy if they just scraped through secondary school, and became a jack of all trades earning enough money just to get by but as happy as Larry.

Are they my only choices?

My hope is that they wouldn't be my children's only choices.

judeboy101

That they reach reproductive maturity and pass on their genes to the next generation.

eviltwin

All I want is that they are happy. I don't care what job they do or how much they earn but I do tell them no amount of money is worth it to do a job that makes you miserable.

Ginny

Happy and fulfilled in whatever they choose to do, I hope I can provide for them so they can choose a job/life they enjoy.
I think any parent wants their children to do better than them, I'm in a job I hate, with a commute that's killing me but it provides for the family, I just hope work wise they're happier than me.

Happy and healthy.

Presume former covers relationships, education, career etc.

andekwarhola

Obviously just that they are healthy: mentally and physically.

Career wise, obviously you want your kids to achieve their full potential and 'do well' but whatever they do in life or what they earn isn't really important to me as long as they don't sponge off other people.

As said already, the only real disappointment I'd envisage is if they ended up as bad people: snobs, bullies; dodging their responsibility to their kids or other family etc.

Duckworth_Luas

To grow up not knowing I am their father and then, after a light saber duel with the boy, tell him the truth.

The girl can marry a Tinker for all I care.

johnny_tractor

i hope my daughter will be a world and Olympic and professional champion boxer,

i named her after katie taylor at the time,

sh'e been training 7 years, and is hard as nails

Brian?

Ninjas.

I want them both to be ninjas.

Samsgirl

I hope my 4 year old gets to live her dream of being a superhero acrobatic Guard.

EIRE forever

lulu1 wrote: »

Would you like your child to get a good education get a good job and would you want them to stick at the job even though they hated it ?
Or would you be happy if they just scraped through secondary school, and became a jack of all trades earning enough money just to get by but as happy as Larry.

I know parents who would opt for the first every time. I tell mine that it dosen't matter how much you earn or what job you do if your not happy doing it

want my kids to be free from slavery, plus not being owned by a sick twisted system known as "government". that's what ill be educating my kids on.

enzo roco

That my child gets rich and looks after me.

Everyone thinks it, but wont say it.

jester77

I'm hoping they can support my extravagant retirement.

xzanti

I want them to create a life that they never feel they need a 'break' from.

Wanderer78

EIRE forever wrote:

want my kids to be free from slavery, plus not being owned by a sick twisted system known as "government". that's what ill be educating my kids on.

Maybe the sick twisted system is our financial system?

AndrewJRenko

eviltwin wrote: »

All I want is that they are happy. I don't care what job they do or how much they earn but I do tell them no amount of money is worth it to do a job that makes you miserable.

I agree with you, but we need to balance this stuff too. Money certainly makes life comfortable. Lack of money makes life very difficult.

I fear that the next generation will not have the same opportunities for decent employment and the decent housing that requires decent employment.

IvyTheTerrible

That they are happy people and decent to themselves and to others. It's all I want for them.

Dtp1979

I fear for the world my child will grow up in. We're in a time now where social media is taking over, idiots are running around after imaginary Pokemon, you can't have a conversation with a teenager cause they're being distracted by their phones, and where the likes of kim Kardashian/Miley Cyrus are role models. What's it gonna be like in 15 years?
Other than that I hope my child is happy, well grounded and doesn't get sucked in by all that shjte

Estrellita

Dtp1979 wrote: »

I fear for the world my child will grow up in. We're in a time now where social media is taking over, idiots are running around after imaginary Pokemon, you can't have a conversation with a teenager cause they're being distracted by their phones, and where the likes of kim Kardashian/Miley Cyrus are role models. What's it gonna be like in 15 years?
Other than that I hope my child is happy, well grounded and doesn't get sucked in by all that shjte

While I completely agree, it's desperately hard to make sure they have a good head on their shoulders. They just want to be like everyone else their age, which is a difficult force to beat. First and foremost, my teenagers don't own phones. I don't allow any technology during meals, and any WiFi privelages are cut off at a certain time of the evening. Once that happens the older one listens to music or watches something for a while before bed, the other hops into bed and reads for a while. I hate how technology has taken over family lives, and often the parents are just as bad. If there is one thing in this world that I wish would just fcuk off and die it's the life-leech that is Facebook.

I'm not saying there aren't strops over wi-fi being cutting off, but it's the only hope I have of keeping them from floating off I to virtual world permanently. When all is said and done, keeping up with The Talentless and getting a high score in a game won't give them a job or pay their bills when they are older. A lot of teenagers now are spoiled little snowflakes, and it's bloody worrying for the future.

I've fought hard over the years for them to achieve the very best the can academically, but I never knew how hard this would be in secondary. You worry about who their influences are and if they are heading for a slippery slope. To say I worry myself sick at times would be a fair statement. I worry about them taking up smoking, bullies and all the usual s.hit a parent does.

I realise I can only guide them, and only hope for them to come out of school without too much mental bomb damage. I've always wanted them to aim high, and the only reason for that is because I've never wanted them to struggle as adults. But the reality of it is quite different. Coming out of it all with a head on their shoulders and achieve a career in something they don't hate is all you can hope for.

jamesbere

I hope they continue my plans for world domination

MadDog76

I, personally, believe that children are our are future. We should teach them well and let them lead the way, whilst also showing them all the beauty they possess inside and give them a sense of pride just to, you know, make it easier.

Basically we should let children's laughter remind us all of how we used to be ......... as kids ourselves.

hairyslug

When I was young I wanted to be a tractor but my parents stood in my way, I will not do the same to my kids. As long as they are happy, I'll be happy

76544567

I read about someone doing this as a way of ensuring a pension is started young.

So I was thinking of starting a pension fund for my preschooler now.

The only problem is that since the Michael Noonan raided my own pension fund I don't trust that the money is safe from future raids anymore, so I don't even fund my own pension anymore.

However if the day came when pension funds were fully protected from government raids I might condiser funding my own and my kids pensions again.

76544567

I read about someone doing this as a way of ensuring a pension is started young.

So I was thinking of starting a pension fund for my preschooler now.

The only problem is that since the Michael Noonan raided my own pension fund I don't trust that the money is safe from future raids anymore, so I don't even fund my own pension anymore.

However if the day came when pension funds were fully protected from government raids I might condiser funding my own and my kids pensions again.

My hope is that I never have children.

I've done ok for myself, but by Christ I took a long and hard route. I would like my daughter to reach a similar destination in an easier way, and I know I can help her with that

SEPT 23 1989

I just want them to be happy with no fear whether thats in a caravan or a mansion

storker

Jobs they like.

Lives they're happy with.

Patners they are happy with...or none, if they're happy with that.

Finally...that other people will say, "My life is the better better for having <storker's kid> as my girlfriend/lover/spouse/friend/colleague/boss..."

Oh, and finely-tuned bullsh1t detectors.

AndrewJRenko

76544567 wrote: »

The only problem is that since the Michael Noonan raided my own pension fund I don't trust that the money is safe from future raids anymore, so I don't even fund my own pension anymore.

However if the day came when pension funds were fully protected from government raids I might condiser funding my own and my kids pensions again.

You can do that today by starting an ordinary investment account - one of the ones that doesn't get the benefit of very generous tax relief to funds going in. That way you can avoid any risk of future raiding taxation on pension funds.

76544567

AndrewJRenko wrote: »

You can do that today by starting an ordinary investment account - one of the ones that doesn't get the benefit of very generous tax relief to funds going in. That way you can avoid any risk of future raiding taxation on pension funds.

Well i do have an investment property specifically for that I was planning to hand on but the government have put paid to that as well. I'm selling that now and investing the money elsewhere.
Too much interference in investments from our government. The money is safer elsewhere.

celligraphy

Having grown up in a crap area with rude ignorant people , I just want my daughter to be happy healthy safe and to be kind .....

AndrewJRenko

76544567 wrote: »

Well i do have an investment property specifically for that I was planning to hand on but the government have out paid to that as well. I'm selling that now and investing the money elsewhere.
Too much interference in investments from our government. The money is safer elsewhere.

If by 'interference', you mean 'reasonable taxation on assets and income arising from those assets', I'd rather that the world we hand over to the next generation has a bit of interference.

76544567

AndrewJRenko wrote: »

If by 'interference', you mean 'reasonable taxation on assets and income arising from those assets', I'd rather that the world we hand over to the next generation has a bit of interference.

No that's not what I'm talking about, but that's for a different thread.

AndrewJRenko

76544567 wrote: »

but that's for a different thread.

Fair point.

fg1406

That they don't exist. I'm allergic to kids

s4uv3

My week old baby is out cold on my chest, and right now my biggest hope is that she stays this small forever

Estrellita

[Deleted User] wrote: »

My hope is that I never have children.

I swore blind I'd never have children when I was older. There came a divide in the road I was taking and I did. What I will say for them is this; while they do come with their worries and stresses they are the most amazing thing to have ever happened to me. I simply wouldn't be without them in my life. They do make me laugh every day in different ways, and the amaze you with how smart they can be too. To say they add colour to your life is an understatement.

By the way, my comment is merely a discussion point, and in no way am I judging you for your choice, or indeed attempting to sway you on it. I understand people take different paths in life, it's just an observation of my own how different those paths can be.

storker

Estrellita wrote: »

What I will say for them is this; while they do come with their worries and stresses they are the most amazing thing to have ever happened to me. I simply wouldn't be without them in my life. They do make me laugh every day in different ways, and the amaze you with how smart they can be too. To say they add colour to your life is an understatement.

Very true. There was a lot I was unprepared for when becoming a parent, but I think what's surprised me the most is the entertainment value, even as they become older. I think part of it is fascination as you see them develop their abilities, knowledge and personalities. Some if it is also seeing them try out the same dodges I did myself when I was a kid, heh heh.

whoopsadoodles

That they have enough of a foundation that they can be whatever the hell they want to be.

That their education gives them a choice in what they do for the rest of their lives.

That if they want to be an architect that they can, but can still choose to be a nail technician if that's what makes them happy but at the same time not working as a nail technician wishing they'd had an education that allowed them to be an architect. Does that even make sense?

Lucyfur

I'd love them both to have happiness and contentment and live their lives surrounded by good friends, lots of love and laughs and fcuk all drama

I don't have kids, but above all else I hope they have happiness and love in their lives. After that, I'd like them to have a good education, be able to provide a comfortable life for themselves, and be decent and honorable people who do right by themselves and others.

Neames

I hope that she will find contentment at work and happiness in life.

Robsweezie

teach them well and let them lead the way, show them all the beauty they possess inside, give them a sense of pride.

freshpopcorn

I don't have kids but if I do I'd just want them to be happy and respectful to others.
I often see threads over in the parenting/leaving cert forum and I really see the pressure that's put on people to live out their parents dream!

AndrewJRenko

whoopsadoodles wrote: »

That if they want to be an architect that they can, but can still choose to be a nail technician if that's what makes them happy but at the same time not working as a nail technician wishing they'd had an education that allowed them to be an architect. Does that even make sense?

I get this, and it makes sense - but there is another side of the coin.

If they choose to be a happy nail technician, they're going to end up living in crappy house shares for the rest of their life, or depending on someone like, like a partner or a parent to provide their housing.

If there is to be a hope in hell of them being financially independent, they really need to be more architect than nail tech.

Turtyturd

[Deleted User] wrote: »

I've done ok for myself, but by Christ I took a long and hard route. I would like my daughter to reach a similar destination in an easier way, and I know I can help her with that

Somewhat similar to this. I just want them to build upon what I managed to do. When I finished school the expectation was that you just go out and get a job. I did that for almost 10 years and while I had a good ten years, when it came time to let people go I was up near the top of the list. Went back to college and got a degree and am enjoying the fruits of it now.

Hopefully they manage to do it in the first place, or at least understand it's an option and go on that bit further than I did.

Your Face

I hope someone raises them well

Andrewf20

We have just 1 young daughter so far.

My hopes are to simply have them happy and well rounded individuals. All will be going through the beavers / scouts. They will be also be kicked outside to enjoy the great outdoors as much as possible and to engage in social activities in general.

I've seen too many professional adults burned out with big corporate jobs leading to great pay but misery due to long hours and massive stress so I'll be happy with whatever job they like. I'll push for a good education none the less.

EIRE forever

Wanderer78 wrote: »

Maybe the sick twisted system is our financial system?

an you trust that?? how many times have they been found to be involved in corruption,kidnap,murder,abuse,fraud but nothing happen to them? if you looked at the history of the so called "government" you would see who they actually represent, and it surely isn't the people of this country. but you'll need to take the blindfold off to see the reality.
the Irish are so weak when it comes to standing up for their freedom, your lives has been fabricated into worrying about paying the extortionist rates of everything that they have control over. but yet most of you complain about it but wont do sweet F all about it. the only ones who has done something about it was the ones who committed suicide just so they can get out of the mental pain and suffering of being forced into poverty and left with nothing after paying off the demands of the corrupt ones.

but hey, its grand, everything is ok. keep living your lives as a slave to the system