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Immigration of step children

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  • #62
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Emme wrote: »
    If the OP's husband wasn't from Africa but the situation was exactly the same would you still accuse people of negative stereotyping? Whatever about the children's health and no matter where this man comes from he seems to be exploiting the OP. If he grew up next door to her I'd be giving her exactly the same advice.

    I don't see where I defended the husband. Or where I said his other children should come here. If anything I agreed with everyone saying it's a terrible idea and the husband is being bullying and should take on bringing his children here himself without disrupting his wife's life (that its best they separate and she get legal advice).

    The issue was specifically mentioning HIV because the children are from Africa when simply saying medical checks would have sufficed.

    I sincerely doubt it would have bee mentioned if it was any other place.

    And that shows a great deal of ignorance both of the power of stigmatisation and of HIV stats in general. I'm unreg here but work in the development sector and can tell you straight that figures from developing countries who rely on donor funds to prop up health sectors are inflated to ensure money comes in for many other issues including maternity etc. and the situation in India is terrible.

    There are enough negative stereotypes about African men floating about without adding HIV to it. As said. His wife lived in his country. She's aware of it already.


  • #63
    Emme
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,055 ✭✭✭Emme


    culture clash wrote: »
    I'm unreg here but work in the development sector and can tell you straight that figures from developing countries who rely on donor funds to prop up health sectors are inflated to ensure money comes in for many other issues including maternity etc. and the situation in India is terrible.

    What countries are these? India?


  • #64
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    So you missed my point about associating HIV with Africans? Only? And how stigma is a terrible thing?

    India has a very serious HIV burden happening right now. Discount that if you will. I was pointing out that if the children were from there it wouldn't have been mentioned. Anyway I'm out of this conversation now since unless you've worked lived or interacted with positive patients the stigma is something that wouldn't be understood.

    OP I wish you well in whatever happens in the future. Hopefully even with a separation from your husband in the future your children may get in contact with and know their half siblings. Even if its from afar.


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