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Wrong to break off engagement as mightn’t meet anyone else!

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  • #32
    Emme
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,055 ✭✭✭Emme


    OP well done in getting rid of the abusive fiance. He may not have liked your friends but they seem to have the same mindset as him. They are putting you down now you have done something positive with your life. You need new friends.

    You have taken one step forward now you need to take more. Try combining your weightloss and fitness with making new friends. Join a bootcamp group, a hillwalking group or a meetup group that has a fitness focus. Some bootcamp groups have a social element such as weekends away, ski trips, surf trips etc.

    I hope you meet someone and have children but it's better not to have children than to bring children into an abusive relationship.


  • #33
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    It is not easy to walk away or end an engagement but some times you have to do this. You were lucky to realise that you could have ended up in an unhappy marriage with a control freak. Some times we see and experince things that our freinds and family don't know about and it can make us realise things have to change.

    In regards to your so called freinds saying you should have married him when you know they both have unhappy relationships - well I would just ignore them. In fact I would just in a nice way get them out of your life.

    I have seen people rush into realtionships. I watched a man I know not go out with this great woman because he realised that at times she would tell him what he needed to hear and this may not have always been what he wanted to hear.
    I have seen people get into realtionships and realising early on they were not with the right person but staying with them because they did not want to be on their own.

    It is far easier to walk away from an engagement than a bad marriage where you could have a child or children involved.

    In regards to you weight I would join slimming world and a gym. Get a programe done by a personal trainer as they can take into consideration your fitness now and amend the programme as you get fitter. The gym will get you out of the house/apt also.
    I know a few years ago I was very heavy and I did this. As I started to eat better I felt better and the weight started to come off me. I will never be a size 10 but I am fitter and look better now than I have for a long time.


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