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  • 10-01-2017 9:08pm
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    Hammer89
    Registered Users Posts: 3,003 ✭✭✭


    Genuinely asking this in regards to a friend.

    So, I've got a 26-year-old female friend who will shortly be living completely on her own, for the first time in her life. She had a family home, then moved in with a friend, but now that friend is moving out and I noticed she was very anxious about it - like, very.

    Or at least, I thought she was overly anxious about it, but I'm not a girl you see so it's hard for me to gauge what's happening. Is this a pretty normal response to living on your own for the first time, or is it abnormal?


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    Pac1Man
    Registered Users Posts: 4,394 ✭✭✭Pac1Man


    Ooh I know this one but I'm not allowed answer! :(


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    The_Valeyard
    Closed Accounts Posts: 12,452 ✭✭✭✭The_Valeyard


    Pac1Man wrote: »
    Ooh I know this one but I'm not allowed answer! :(

    Did you just assume your gender.


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    IvyTheTerrible
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    What does being have to do with it?
    We're not a hivemind, you know.


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    gifted
    Registered Users Posts: 4,891 ✭✭✭gifted


    She'll be riding like a pro within a month...lol lol


    Volume on porn can be left on as well...win win


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    Outlaw Pete
    Registered Users Posts: 10,423 ✭✭✭✭Outlaw Pete


    Last night I woke up in the middle of the night to make myself a peanut butter and jelly sandwich... and ya know, it was my kitchen, it was my refrigerator, it was my apartment... and it was the BEST peanut butter and jelly sandwich that I have had in my entire life.


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    livedadream
    Registered Users Posts: 2,457 ✭✭✭livedadream


    Could she be worried about money?

    Anxious about paying bills etc alone..


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    Lux23
    Registered Users Posts: 7,134 ✭✭✭Lux23


    If I was single I would definitely live alone.


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    Hammer89
    Registered Users Posts: 3,003 ✭✭✭Hammer89


    livedadream wrote: »
    Could she be worried about money?

    Anxious about paying bills etc alone..

    No it's more about the loneliness I think.


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    hatrickpatrick
    Registered Users Posts: 17,797 ✭✭✭✭hatrickpatrick


    IvyTheTerrible wrote: »
    What does being have to do with it?

    Far too deep and philosophical for AH...


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    livedadream
    Registered Users Posts: 2,457 ✭✭✭livedadream


    Hammer89 wrote: »
    livedadream wrote: »
    Could she be worried about money?

    Anxious about paying bills etc alone..

    No it's more about the loneliness I think.
    do you think she wants to live alone...


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    Mr. FoggPatches
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    hatrickpatrick wrote: »
    Far too deep and philosophical for AH...

    As long as you understand it and can post a reply displaying your ability to understand it, placing yourself, intellectually, above the rest of the users, then I'm sure us lesser mortals will be glad that the post appeared in AH.


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    Hammer89
    Registered Users Posts: 3,003 ✭✭✭Hammer89


    livedadream wrote: »
    do you think she wants to live alone...

    She doesn't.


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    mckildare
    Registered Users Posts: 344 ✭✭mckildare


    What's the address?


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    Permabear
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    This post has been deleted.


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    livedadream
    Registered Users Posts: 2,457 ✭✭✭livedadream


    Then talk to her, have a chat and help out with the roommate search...


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    Hammer89
    Registered Users Posts: 3,003 ✭✭✭Hammer89


    Permabear wrote: »
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    I realise this but there is likely going to be a minimum of a week where she's alone.


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    coffee_cake
    Moderators, Category Moderators, Politics Moderators, Recreation & Hobbies Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 81,310 CMod ✭✭✭✭coffee_cake


    Hammer89 wrote: »
    but I'm not a girl you see so it's hard for me to gauge what's happening.
    Are you not a person? Is she not a person? Can you not talk to her since she's your friend?


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    Hammer89
    Registered Users Posts: 3,003 ✭✭✭Hammer89


    Plus, do you not think an instant room-mate is papering over the cracks of a problem she has with being alone? That's the thing - I don't know, because I've never been a girl who has had to live alone so I've got no frame of reference.


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    Mister Vain
    Registered Users Posts: 6,055 ✭✭✭Mister Vain


    Outlaw Pete wrote: »
    Last night I woke up in the middle of the night to make myself a peanut butter and jelly sandwich... and ya know, it was my kitchen, it was my refrigerator, it was my apartment... and it was the BEST peanut butter and jelly sandwich that I have had in my entire life.

    Only yanks put jelly in their sandwiches.


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    djemba djemba
    Registered Users Posts: 2,583 ✭✭✭djemba djemba


    Give it a few years when she is married, kids, pets...and she will be only delighted to be living alone


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    eviltwin
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    She's gonna have to just get over it. She will have to learn to manage on her own sometime. And stop mollycoddling her, she's an adult, she will be grand


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    Permabear
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    This post has been deleted.


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    phenom
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    Outlaw Pete wrote: »
    Last night I woke up in the middle of the night to make myself a peanut butter and jelly sandwich... and ya know, it was my kitchen, it was my refrigerator, it was my apartment... and it was the BEST peanut butter and jelly sandwich that I have had in my entire life.

    "As they say in the states"


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    Summer wind
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    Maybe she could try it for a couple of weeks. If she can't go it alone she could advertise for a new flat mate.


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    Hammer89
    Registered Users Posts: 3,003 ✭✭✭Hammer89


    eviltwin wrote: »
    This post had been deleted.

    I'm not mollycoddling her.
    Permabear wrote: »
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    That's probably why I asked if it's normal or not.


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    hatrickpatrick
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    Mr. FoggPatches wrote: »
    As long as you understand it and can post a reply displaying your ability to understand it, placing yourself, intellectually, above the rest of the users, then I'm sure us lesser mortals will be glad that the post appeared in AH.

    Just because I understood it, doesn't mean I wanted to. I don't come to AH to think, dammit :pac:


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    Permabear
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    This post has been deleted.


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    magentis
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    Outlaw Pete wrote: »
    Last night I woke up in the middle of the night to make myself a peanut butter and jelly sandwich... and ya know, it was my kitchen, it was my refrigerator, it was my apartment... and it was the BEST peanut butter and jelly sandwich that I have had in my entire life.

    Last night I woke up in the middle of the night to make myself a cup of coffee and some toast.....and ya know,it was our kitchen,it was our refrigerator,it was our house.......when I got back to bed,my wife gave me a blowjob,and it was the best blowjob I have had in my entire life.


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    #30
    whoopsadoodles
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,058 ✭✭✭whoopsadoodles


    All girls are afraid of living on their own.

    Who's going to put out the bins and kill the spiders and see if the boogey man is in the hall?

    Sh*t. I might go sleep in my Mam's tonight :(


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    silvervixen84
    Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional Abroad Moderators Posts: 6,485 Mod ✭✭✭✭silvervixen84


    I'd love to live on my own.

    But I live in London, where rent is mahoosive, so I have to share with other people.

    I seem to have the flat to myself this evening, and it's so blissful!


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