Are You Hated ?

PTH2009

Are you hated by anyone that is/was previously apart of your life ??

My 2 exs and a huge % of there family/friends dispise me and would walk over me if I was in pain

Anyway when I see any of them on nights out I try and show that I'm enjoying my life

harry Bailey esq

PTH2009 wrote: »

Are you hated by anyone that is/was previously apart of your life ??

Very much so.Im afflicted by chronic flatulence,a fussy eater and a very opinionated drunk.

farmchoice

PTH2009 wrote: »

Are you hated by anyone that is/was previously apart of your life ??

My 2 exs and a huge % of there family/friends dispise me and would walk over me if I was in pain

Anyway when I see any of them on nights out I try and show that I'm enjoying my life

would you put this down to you being an unrepentant prick, or do you think they all just brought out the worst in you.

PTH2009

farmchoice wrote: »

would you put this down to you being an unrepentant prick, or do you think they all just brought out the worst in you.

I'm a prick in there eyes but I'm the only that knws the truth??

If karma is real it caught me as 2014/early 2015 were horrible years for me, family deaths, drink problem, work issues and on top of that finding out I'm on the autism spectrum. Them issues were my downfall with my exs but they won't talk to me so I have to try and move on and live with there and all the people around thems hate

whoopsadoodles

Only by a couple of lunatics that I banned from boards who took it fierce personal. I think they hate life in general though.

In real life, nope.

Mr. CooL ICE

No one knows what it's like to be hated, to be fated to telling only lies.

Nicolas Cage

Nicolas Cage wrote: »

No one knows what it's like to be hated, to be fated to telling only lies.

Who are you behind those blue eyes? A lyric to match your identity crisis avatar.

hairyslug

Only 1 person and I worked damn hard to make sure they hated me.

valoren

Oh yes I am. With a vengeance.

I've written about this before here;
http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showpost.php?p=99293343&postcount=39

As an addendum to the above;

My brother and his wife had their child. He was true to his word. I was not told anything about it. I have never met her and have only seen photos of my niece on my older brothers phone and my wife and I were not invited to the christening last August.

Alas yes - when I entered into the relationship I am in now - a lot of people hated me for it. Most of them got over it. But a couple of friends - a minority really - were lost forever and they are the kinds who would cross the street if they say me on it and just glare over as we pass - and we have heard second and third hand the kind of things they say to others behind our back. And if we ever enter the same pub or location together - you can almost feel the temperature in the room drop a few degrees - it is that palpable.

I guess they are in the "anyone who reacts like that was never really your friend anyway" category - but it certainly hurts all the same.

MeatTwoVeg

There was one particular guy that I had to deal with due to work, who seemed to really despise me.

I was never clear why and I would get on very well with most people.

This particular guy was constantly trying to provoke me in meetings, accused me of lying and professional misconduct on numerous occasions and twice stormed out of meetings, on one of these occasions he pronounced I was 'stuck up my own arse'.

I always remained really calm during these tantrums, which I think used to annoy him even more.

Haven't seen him in a couple of years but his behavior was certainly out of the ordinary. Very strange guy.

Winterlong

I doubt anyone actually hates me.
Probably a few reckon I am a pain in the arse...but not hatred. I hope.

5rtytry56

I am hated:

- by a former boss who got his way and got me kicked out of work.
- 3 or so boardsies. (They are on my Ignore List and it's easier than that to get on my Ignore List)
- by a relative.

BrokenArrows

valoren wrote: »

Oh yes I am. With a vengeance.

I've written about this before here;
http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showpost.php?p=99293343&postcount=39

As an addendum to the above;

My brother and his wife had their child. He was true to his word. I was not told anything about it. I have never met her and have only seen photos of my niece on my older brothers phone and my wife and I were not invited to the christening last August.

When you typed TLDR at the top of that post you really meant it. Jesus, dont think ive ever seen such a long boards post.

The flying mouse

I am sure I am, but its not my problem.


That's some story Valoren, Any follow ups or is it still all ****.

andekwarhola

Not that I'm aware of. It would depress me a bit.

Anybody that appears to be boasting about being hated is at least offering a pointer of sorts to the side on which blame falls.

irishguitarlad

I'm hated by the local scumbag in the small town I come from. I supposedly said something about his girlfriend at the time at the debs and he has hated me every day since. Last year he said some **** to me on the street when I was back home, he was with his drug dealer friends so I just ignored him. He has stabbed someone before so I generally avoid the town when Im home, which is kind of a pity as I had lots of friends there. The funny thing is, is that this happened about 9 years ago now but he still remembers me and wants to do me in.

Saipanne

Yes, I never, ever take the high road in a quarrel. I don't conform to the etiquette that the rest of you do, with your little subtext comments and hidden meaning. If I think you're even remotely trying to be underhanded with me I'll rip you in two. Straight up.

Understandably, this leads to hatred to me.

nkav86

Pahahahaha most likely yeah

theteal

One bint. . .and I've no clue where it stems from. She even told a girl I was seeing at the time (10 years ago) to swerve me. Needless to say, my opinion of her wouldn't be the best as a result.

osarusan

I can think of one person who I worked with in the past who probably did.

He thought I was out to get him and deliberately making life harder for him.

He was eventually transferred to a different branch and after he started saying all the same stuff about somebody there, he got fired.

the evasion_kid

An ex...I'm at a loss as to why...all the sh!t she put me through she should be doing time...

Saipanne

the evasion_kid wrote: »

An ex...I'm at a loss as to why...all the sh!t she put me through she should be doing time...

Seeing you reminds her of how much she hates herself. She projects that onto you.

The flying mouse

andekwarhola wrote: »

Not that I'm aware of. It would depress me a bit.

Anybody that appears to be boasting about being hated is at least offering a pointer of sorts to the side on which blame falls.

Didn't see anyone boasting about it here ? OP asked a question and its being answered, imo anyone who things there liked by everyone is living in a bubble, that hurts a lot when burst.

valoren

The flying mouse wrote: »

I am sure I am, but its not my problem.


That's some story Valoren, Any follow ups or is it still all ****.

I haven't spoken to him since and have never met his daughter, who was born in June.

I'm not sure I ever will either.

DredFX

Friend from childhood.

We were separated for several years after my family had moved counties, but we reconnected in fifth year of secondary school. We got along well, visited each other's neck of the woods, and met new friends. Our rekindled friendship proved to be better than our older one.

But, as fate decreed, crap had to happen. We were chatting on Facebook and I made a snide comment about some dickhead I'd known from primary. Turned out that they were good friends and he didn't take it well. We exploded into a text argument. Plenty of skeletons and true colours were exposed in those few minutes. He logged off and hasn't spoken to me since, despite my repeated attempts to reconcile.

It's been six years. Teenage fights suck.

MilesMorales1

I don't think enough people know me or are aware of my presence to hate me. Mind my own business and keep quiet I do.

midnight city

irishguitarlad wrote: »

I'm hated by the local scumbag in the small town I come from. I supposedly said something about his girlfriend at the time at the debs and he has hated me every day since. Last year he said some **** to me on the street when I was back home, he was with his drug dealer friends so I just ignored him. He has stabbed someone before so I generally avoid the town when Im home, which is kind of a pity as I had lots of friends there. The funny thing is, is that this happened about 9 years ago now but he still remembers me and wants to do me in.

That is so f**king Irish. There was one in my locality that took a dislike to me. I would try and avoid him but there wasn't one single pub that you could go to safe in the knowledge that he wouldn't come in. He was everywhere.

givyjoe

harry Bailey esq wrote: »

Very much so.Im afflicted by chronic flatulence,a fussy eater and a very opinionated drunk.

Exactly like me, except I dont need to be drunk.. :eek:

Goya

Saipanne wrote: »

Yes, I never, ever take the high road in a quarrel. I don't conform to the etiquette that the rest of you do, with your little subtext comments and hidden meaning.

The rest of who?

Rubberlegs

I don't think I have ever done anything to warrant being hated, I hope not anyway. Likewise I don't hate anyone, dislike maybe, but not hate. I avoid them like the plague, it's easier as I can't even begin to pretend to be friendly. My face would ache.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

Maybe, maybe not. I only worry about myself though so I don't care

KERSPLAT!

I'm sure there is at least one but that's their issue not mine. I don't hate anyone and I'm happy with that

Advbrd

valoren wrote: »

Oh yes I am. With a vengeance.

I've written about this before here;
http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showpost.php?p=99293343&postcount=39

As an addendum to the above;

My brother and his wife had their child. He was true to his word. I was not told anything about it. I have never met her and have only seen photos of my niece on my older brothers phone and my wife and I were not invited to the christening last August.

Hesus, that's a long post.

There's definitely people who dislike me but I'm no sure about hating me. Perhaps. I'd say there are a few boardsies alright who I drive bonkers but again hate is a very strong emotion.

pragmatic1

Saipanne wrote: »

Yes, I never, ever take the high road in a quarrel. I don't conform to the etiquette that the rest of you do, with your little subtext comments and hidden meaning. If I think you're even remotely trying to be underhanded with me I'll rip you in two. Straight up.

Understandably, this leads to hatred to me.

I think you'll find that a lot of people actually prefer that approach to passive aggressive shyte.

beks101

Not that I'm aware of. I don't think it's possible to hate me. I'm totally grand and benign and avoid confrontation at all costs.

Actually I'd say that guy that I yelled at and sweared at down the phone when my Lloyds Bank card failed to deliver several times doesn't like me so much. Yeah he might hate me alright.

Galwayguy35

I was by the person I was supposed to marry, hopefully she's cooled down a bit in the 10 years since.

Wanderer78

Thank God I'm perfect

Gleefulprinter

My fields are bigger than my neighbours. He hates me.

beks101

beks101 wrote: »

Not that I'm aware of. I don't think it's possible to hate me. I'm totally grand and benign and avoid confrontation at all costs.

Actually I'd say that guy that I yelled at and sweared at down the phone when my Lloyds Bank card failed to deliver several times doesn't like me so much. Yeah he might hate me alright.

You'd be surprised. I don't mean that personally but how we feel towards ourselves doesn't always translate in to how others view us. There are lots of irrational reasons why people say "I hate her/him". Contrary to my previous post the more I think about it the more it's very possible I am hated by the odd one.

andekwarhola

The flying mouse wrote: »

anyone who things there liked by everyone is living in a bubble, that hurts a lot when burst.

Assuming there's nobody out there on a message board talking to strangers about how much they detest you doesn't equate to saying everybody likes you.

Butters1979

Do the other posters on after hours count?
:eek:

_Whimsical_

Possibly by one person. An ex friend who was going to do something I thought was pretty awful and would seriously affect two other people.
I told her in a polite way that I thought she needed to rethink. All hell broke lose.

Grayson

I have an ex that probably hates me because I called her up on a lot of immature crap. I actually get on well with nearly all my ex's. Most I've grown apart from.

There's a few others but generally it's because I did something I considered right and they disagreed.

I think there's one or two from like 15 years ago because I fecked up. I've been a far more conscientious person since then. I think everyone fecks up a bit during their teenage years.

beks101

Deleted User wrote: »

You'd be surprised. I don't mean that personally but how we feel towards ourselves doesn't always translate in to how others view us. There are lots of irrational reasons why people say "I hate her/him". Contrary to my previous post the more I think about it the more it's very possible I am hated by the odd one.

True enough. I guess my experience of being with and around people has never been of being disliked or hated for any reason.

Hate is a strong word too. I'm sure I wreck multiple people's heads, people at work, the OH, family members and friends from time to time. And I've certainly met certain people and there's been a stalemate - just no click, no areas of compatibility and no interest in each other as people at all. Hate though? I'm probably not a strong enough personality to summon up that emotion in anyone.

I stand to be corrected though

MilesMorales1

beks101 wrote: »

Not that I'm aware of. I don't think it's possible to hate me. I'm totally grand and benign and avoid confrontation at all costs.

Actually I'd say that guy that I yelled at and sweared at down the phone when my Lloyds Bank card failed to deliver several times doesn't like me so much. Yeah he might hate me alright.

How dare you be benign and grand? I hate you for your easy going attitude! *glowers*

Fleawuss

I hope so. I'd be disappointed if the fcukwits I've taken on over the years didn't realize how deeply I hate them and their bullying arrogant Shyte and reciprocate the feeling. Because I truly hate some people.

mansize

I hope we've all moved on. I don't hate anyone. Fifes too short. And they are no longer part of it.

whoopsadoodles

beks101 wrote: »

True enough. I guess my experience of being with and around people has never been of being disliked or hated for any reason.

Hate is a strong word too. I'm sure I wreck multiple people's heads, people at work, the OH, family members and friends from time to time. And I've certainly met certain people and there's been a stalemate - just no click, no areas of compatibility and no interest in each other as people at all. Hate though? I'm probably not a strong enough personality to summon up that emotion in anyone.

I stand to be corrected though

Same as.

It'd be really very odd for anyone to hate me? I've never done a think to be hated for. If anyone did hate me it would very much be something wrong with them and not me. I don't really care how that sounds tbh.

Dislike me? That's an entirely different thing and there's bound to be folk who do, but meh. C'est la vie!

Pherekydes

Apart from the kids, I don't think so.

The wife swears she doesn't hate me (much).

The ex probably doesn't think about me, so she doesn't hate me.

It's probably just down to the dog and Trump supporters...