Oversleeping problems

thepikminman

linpoo wrote: »

Hi, did you ever get your melatonin levels checked. The pineal gland is responsible for your body's "night and day" rythyms and a lack of melatonin can affect this.

I'm not a doctor but studied reflexology where we learnt this.

On another note, reflexology is great for helping the body to balance itself which could help your situation. Worth a try.

Thanks I'll look into both of those things!

thepikminman

zoobizoo wrote: »

Hey Op, I've been there but not as bad as you.

I would need to nap at lunchtime in my car to get through the day.

It's boredom mainly.

On the days that I was doing something fun or exciting, I could get out of bed early, get on things, get through the day without being tired and be buzzing til late evening.

Is the engineering something you really want to do?

Were you like this in school?

Hi, thanks for the response. I was like this since around 4th year in secondary school. I missed near 200 days of the leaving cert. because of it.

Yeah, engineering has always been my ideal job to have. I feel like I was born to be an engineer, and I always remind myself how lucky I am to have the chance to do the thing I want to do most in the world. Music is also a thing I would love to do, like start a band in college, but unfortunately, that needs some social skill/too be in some social circle.

thepikminman

Jerome77 wrote: »

Volunteer, be there for someone else regardless of how you feel. That will lift your spirits

It's pretty hard to volunteer when I have a full-time course to do. But I did try multiple times to volunteer during summer, but the process they make you go through is amazingly difficult. You have to get a Gardai statement or something like that, along with other stuff. You'd think they'd make it easy to volunteer seeing as they need the help, but they treat the position like a job, like they're doing me a favour.

thepikminman

Scarinae wrote: »

OP, what do you enjoy doing, hobbies etc? What would you do for fun?

I like music, writing, guitar, gaming.... usually not much like what most be enjoy doing though.

batmanrobin

The one thing that stood out for me is your attitude. As another poster said it's quite defeatist, not to mention dismissive. You don't seem to want to really try, what seems to come across is that you don't want to have to actually do anything to fix it, you just want it fix right now. Snap your fingers and it's sorted.

You expect to be approved for volunteering straight away. If your volunteering would have you working with animals and vulnerable people then of course you would have to be vetted. Vetting takes times, it's a process like anything else.

I would strongly encourage you to go back to CBT and give it a proper go. Hell even try something like yoga which can be very calming (and cheaper).

There are no quick fixes. Everything takes time. Everything has a process. If it's not showing results fast enough you seem too quick to give up. Doesn't it take something like 6 months for your brain and body to be conditioned to a new way of thinking and being?

Change your diet. Opt for healthy, clean, green foods. Blend them into a smoothie if you can't physically stand eating them.

You gave an example of being out all day and coming home say at 9 and being tired. Honestly OP that it normal! It's a long day to be out and active. The vast majority of people I know are in bed at about 9:30/10:00. Maybe they'll read or watch something for a little while but for a lot of them it's lights out. Granted we're all in our 30s, but for most people a long day means an early night.

Also, I'd say stop going to your brother. You'd be better off with independent advice.

zoobizoo

Buy a book called The Feeling Good Handbook by Dr Robert Burns.

It's a practical guide that should help you with some of your social issues.

Are your parents in a position to help pay for therapy?

Sleeping can be an avoidance strategy....

thepikminman

thepikminman wrote: »

For example, if I was really trying to fix my sleeping routine, I'd get up at say 8am, have breakfast and a shower and leave for college, that'll fill the time until around 4 or 5pm. Then maybe I'd go to the gym to fill more time, maybe go to a sports club for an hour, but I'd be back home at 9pm at the latest, and after such an energy-draining day, I can't think of what else I could do for the next 3/4 hours.

When you are back at 9 would you not cook dinner that would kill at least 30 mins or most likely longer between cooking and eating. Then sit down and watch some tv shows, once you are hooked on one you won't be able to stop watching or read/watch the news or follow sports if you are into anyway. Once it gets to 11pm or so that's a perfectly reasonable to head to bed and sleep.

9 is realitavely late to be getting back every evening so you could cook for longer, watch more tv etc to get you through the evening.

thepikminman

Loveinapril wrote: »

You wrote the post to say you sleep too much. You could easily spend that time, even a half day at the weekend volunteering.

You- "I sleep because I am bored with nothing to do"
Advice- "Fill your time doing other things"
You- "I can't, I am too busy"


You sound pretty defeatist. You are shooting a lot of suggestions down or giving reasons why you think it won't work. YOU are doing this to yourself. You are putting blocks in your own way. A 'garda statement' is essentially one form you fill out with all your addresses so the company can check your criminal record. It really isn't as big of a deal as you make it sound. Getting out and meeting people in a new environment would help you so volunteering WOULD be doing you a favour!

If you said walk to the shop, or do some one hour activity that would be fine, but doing volunteer work on top of a (third year) engineering degree is too much altogether, especially seeing as I can't do the degree by itself.

But yeah, I do actually shoot a lot of things down, but that's because I used to try so many new things, and they usually ended up being a waste of time and having a negative impact on my social skills/confidence.

thepikminman

batmanrobin wrote: »

The one thing that stood out for me is your attitude. As another poster said it's quite defeatist, not to mention dismissive. You don't seem to want to really try, what seems to come across is that you don't want to have to actually do anything to fix it, you just want it fix right now. Snap your fingers and it's sorted.

You expect to be approved for volunteering straight away. If your volunteering would have you working with animals and vulnerable people then of course you would have to be vetted. Vetting takes times, it's a process like anything else.

I would strongly encourage you to go back to CBT and give it a proper go. Hell even try something like yoga which can be very calming (and cheaper).

There are no quick fixes. Everything takes time. Everything has a process. If it's not showing results fast enough you seem too quick to give up. Doesn't it take something like 6 months for your brain and body to be conditioned to a new way of thinking and being?

Change your diet. Opt for healthy, clean, green foods. Blend them into a smoothie if you can't physically stand eating them.

You gave an example of being out all day and coming home say at 9 and being tired. Honestly OP that it normal! It's a long day to be out and active. The vast majority of people I know are in bed at about 9:30/10:00. Maybe they'll read or watch something for a little while but for a lot of them it's lights out. Granted we're all in our 30s, but for most people a long day means an early night.

Also, I'd say stop going to your brother. You'd be better off with independent advice.

I don't expect an immediate result, but I tried for months, fixed my diet, exercised regularly, tried to socialize, went to most lectures, but got no results.

If people go to bed at 9 or 10 then they definitely have some sleep problem too because sleeping 11 hours in NOT normal. I'm guessing the people you are talking about are the people who wake up at six, but if I woke up at six, I'd be asleep by 6 or 7pm, which isn't normal.

So you're saying I'm just unlucky that I have all these horrible problems, and that I have to go through horrible times and effort to fix this, for months? And that's not even definite. [mod snip. In light of this update we have to now close this thread and instead direct you to the resources here.]

thepikminman

It's good to know there are some decent people out there at least. Thanks for the efforts guys!

batmanrobin

thepikminman wrote: »

So you're saying I'm just unlucky that I have all these horrible problems, and that I have to go through horrible times and effort to fix this, for months? And that's not even definite. [mod snip]. Thanks for the advice.

Re-read what I posted rather than overreacting to it. I didn't say you were unlucky, you do however come across as defeatist.

OP getting to the root of our issues IS painful! Working through IS painful. But when you come out the other side is when you realise it was worth the short term pain.

Your anxiety is the issue. Go back to therapy, but you need to find a therapist who works well with you. They can't and aren't all bad. Take up yoga, you would be hugely surprised by the benefits. Meditation also works wonders.

You say you don't have time to volunteer. I have friends who are running their own business, married, have their own kids and still find time to commit to volunteering. You seem to set yourself up for a fall with your thinking. If you focus on changing your thinking, therapy will help, you'll see the difference. Can I just say, as someone who does volunteer work, it is life saving. I come back from it refreshed, my thinking is healthier and I feel happier.