First date nerves

shamrock2004

So have a first date coming up. Bit nervous. What do you normally do to settle those pre-first-date nerves?

quad_red

mahoganygas

Tactical ****

silverharp

imagine her naked...oh wait that's audiences and public speaking...ignore advice

Buona Fortuna

Failing the two excellant ideas above.

A couple of large ones and a line of charlie.

MagicIRL

There's two people on this date, and both are as nervous as each other.

Relax, be grand.

Bottle of frosty jack. Then ask if she wants a cheeky finger behind the protestant church.

Jawgap

shamrock2004 wrote: »

So have a first date coming up. Bit nervous. What do you normally do to settle those pre-first-date nerves?

Make sure the wife is out of town.....

.....works for me

Kimbot

My AH Answer: Dont go on date with a loaded weapon and load up on Dutch courage.

My real answer: http://www.thedatereport.com/dating/advice/1622-15-tips-for-easing-first-date-jitters/

Tilly

Have a drink while getting ready to calm your nerves and you'll be grand.

Saipanne

Turn up drunk.

dulpit

Post on AH and follow a minimum of 50% of the posts advice. Livestream the date for our enjoyment.

Dixie Chick

There is nothing you can do really, just go and remember that she is also feeling similar and if you act awkward etc then you will put her at unease. Just focus on making her feel at ease and it is a good tactic to make you not think of yourself and your own nerves

shamrock2004

Dixie Chick wrote: »

There is nothing you can do really, just go and remember that she is also feeling similar and if you act awkward etc then you will put her at unease. Just focus on making her feel at ease and it is a good tactic to make you not think of yourself and your own nerves

I like it! Dont normally get nervous. No booze whatsoever anyway. Going for some coffee the sweat patches under my arms are a bit of an eye sore however.

Mightydrumming

shamrock2004 wrote: »

the sweat patches under my arms are a bit of an eye sore however.

Bitta Mitchum always does the trick

frutierutie

Personally I always get there first and grab a table and sit down so you don't have the awkwardness of meeting each other outside or trying to figure out where the other person is sitting.

If you're there first you can tell them where you are and sit down and relax and wait for them to come to you. Not sure if it's the done thing but it's the done thing for me!!

whiskeyman

If you're nervous about small talk etc..., just keep asking different questions.
This will initiate more conversation and you'll feel more at ease, while also showing an interest in your date.

It's win - win!

Maximus Alexander

Get yourself one of these.

Shint0

OP, have you met them before in person or was it through online dating? I would think it's more nerve-racking if you haven't met them before.

If it was me, I would do same as you. Very casual, coffee/drinks. Definitely not dinner. Then after take them for a spin in my car up the mountains

shamrock2004

frutierutie wrote: »

Personally I always get there first and grab a table and sit down so you don't have the awkwardness of meeting each other outside or trying to figure out where the other person is sitting.

If you're there first you can tell them where you are and sit down and relax and wait for them to come to you. Not sure if it's the done thing but it's the done thing for me!!

Literally just plonked my ass in the chair. The wait begins. God damn it's warm. Cant stop sweating...

shamrock2004

Argh feel like am gonna poop

Hellrun

Get there early and have a pint. Easy

Pac1Man

Hellrun wrote: »

Get there early and have a pint. Easy

He's there already. This is now a live update feed.

frutierutie

Oh good luck. At least when you're sitting down you can kind of act casual as I always think people will cop that I'm going on a first date if I'm waiting outside.

Worst case scenario, you have one coffee and you leave. Nothing ventured nothing gained! And I speak from having a few first dates recently!!

Also it's the waiting that is the worst, once the person arrives then half the nerves go away instantly

Cerisepink

Awh I'd love to be going on a first date again but my boyfriend probably wouldn't be too happy about it!ha enjoy it! It's ok to be nervous but try look at it as being excited instead. Good luck! Let us know how it goes

hairyslug

get absolutely sh1tfaced, it can only go well from there

hairyslug

on the first date with my now wife, I went to lean back against a big window, turns out I was about 2ft away from it and fell through it, good times

The_Valeyard

Make sure to ask her how her bra is.

Tell her she is free to take the bra off if she wants.

Shint0

hairyslug wrote: »

get absolutely sh1tfaced, it can only go well from there

That actually did happen me on a first date. We had lunch which turned into a longer lunch and I kept knocking back the vino. He left me to fend for myself to get home but we still ended up going out together for a few years. He's still a miserly c*nt, though. Still posting miserly advice on here although we didn't meet through Boards. Most memorable first date for all the wrong reasons.

fancy pigeon

Tell her her rumps as big as the queens.... And twice as fragrant!

The_Valeyard

Shint0 wrote: »

That actually did happen me on a first date. We had lunch which turned into a longer lunch and I kept knocking back the vino. He left me to fend for myself to get home but we still ended up going out together for a few years. He's still a miserly c*nt, though. Still posting miserly advice on here although we didn't meet through Boards. Most memorable first date for all the wrong reasons.

Oooohhh juicy. Looks at the posters, I wonder who....

Shint0

The_Valeyard wrote: »

Oooohhh juicy. Looks at the posters, I wonder who....

Did you recognise yourself from that description?

No, you're safe enough. It definitely wasn't you.

pxdf9i5cmoavkz

If you mess up this first date you can always fall back on 'ol reliable. Miss Palm and her five daughters.

recylingbin

Go in and throw your fork on the ground.
Chicks dig bad boys
She'll be putty in your hand after that.

Father Hernandez

Jagerbombs

FizzleSticks

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The_Valeyard

FizzleSticks wrote: »

I suppose this is no longer a live update thread. Posting on boards while sitting across from your date wouldn't go down too well...

Unless they were another boards user and communicated through a thread or PM

TerrorFirmer

I've gone on quite a few first dates that were supposed to be an evening pint but ended up as a session. Not ideal, but never had a bad experience either, if I genuinely didn't like the person or didn't get on with them I'd find a polite excuse to cut it short. Definitely a drink or two before the meet (if it's an evening meet-up) is good for me.

shamrock2004

All done! I never take my phone out on a date... tut tut. I met her on a night out. Lovely girl. Conversation flowed and had a really nice afternoon. Just didn't feel that spark though onwards and upwards!

Aint Eazy Being Cheezy

shamrock2004 wrote: »

All done! I never take my phone out on a date... tut tut. I met her on a night out. Lovely girl. Conversation flowed and had a really nice afternoon. Just didn't feel that spark though onwards and upwards!

You don't need to feel a spark to put your penis inside her. You don't fool me, she ditched your ass.

shamrock2004

Aint Eazy Being Cheezy wrote: »

You don't need to feel a spark to put your penis inside her.

Ah here ted bundy..!

Shint0

What an anti-climax!!

Is that the end of the thread, so? Years ago these type of threads would just run on and on...The quality just isn't there anymore *shakes head sadly from side to side*

ToddyDoody

shamrock2004 wrote: »

All done! I never take my phone out on a date... tut tut. I met her on a night out. Lovely girl. Conversation flowed and had a really nice afternoon. Just didn't feel that spark though onwards and upwards!

I was gonna suggest bringing a friend along but glad it didn't work out, but in a pleasant way.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

I'm usually drunk on first dates

Buona Fortuna

LexieOnRale wrote: »

I'm usually drunk on first dates

The last first date I went on was with my wife. It was pretty awful. Part through she let out a huge yawn (nerves probably). I said "Are you bored?" but it kind of broke the ice

frutierutie

shamrock2004 wrote: »

All done! I never take my phone out on a date... tut tut. I met her on a night out. Lovely girl. Conversation flowed and had a really nice afternoon. Just didn't feel that spark though onwards and upwards!

Aw that's a pity. Was hoping it would go well for you. I've had lovely dates but no spark. Somethings you can work on but if there's no spark to begin with then I don't think there's anything you can do.

Oh well onto the next date!

corner of hells

Is that it , date over ?
I've a first date on Thursday and was hoping for tips from the OP.



It's not the same girl as the OPs date..... I hope.

shamrock2004

corner of hells wrote: »

Is that it , date over ?
I've a first date on Thursday and was hoping for tips from the OP.



It's not the same girl as the OPs date..... I hope.

Tips wise - just be yourself. Listen to what she's saying. Get there maybe a little early and settle in. Wear deodorant. Have a sh1te before you leave the house. Will it be a boozy first date?

Howard the Duck

Do a hybrid cough/sneeze and snot all-over yourself. worked for me, she wanted to see me again but i decided against it.

OldNotWIse

I'd have a drink beforehand to take the edge off the nerves.

JeffKenna

shamrock2004 wrote: »

Tips wise - just be yourself. Listen to what she's saying. Get there maybe a little early and settle in. Wear deodorant. Have a sh1te before you leave the house. Will it be a boozy first date?

This is actually really good advise. You need to listen to what she's saying, place the attention on her as opposed you doing the talking about yourself. Listen to her.