Cheated - [mod warning post 1]

FortySeven

Yellow pack crisps wrote: »

I presume you were in the room when it happened to know such specifics? Either that or your mind is just wondering a little too much! Not a nice comment tbh.

Op stated mutual oral sex?

No, it's true that it doesn't sound nice when you say it without pussyfooting around the issue. It's cheating, it's not nice.

daisybelle2008

This thread is getting very judgemental, the OP is a young girl who is very distressed and wracked with guilty over a minor indiscretion well in the past.

People casting aspersions on the 'type of person' she is and suggesting she is not to be trusted should take a look at themselves. It's like they are projecting and want her punished.
Jesus would ye like a bag of stones to fling at her?.

Well she has suffered enough and has been very hard on herself. She is not some sleazy serial cheater.

OP relax, enjoy your relationship and the future with your boyfriend. Forget about what happened before the breakup, it meant nothing, good luck in the future.

Pawwed Rig

Yellow pack crisps wrote: »

they have 'The talk' and they agree to enter into a relationship and all that comes with a relationship. But until that talk then either was pretty much free to do as they wanted. .

The What? Too much TV being watched lads.

As others have said if it is no big deal then let the OP unburden herself and he will shrug his shoulders and echo what is being said here. Why would he dump her for something that doesn't matter????

Answer anyone?

daisybelle2008

Pawwed Rig wrote: »

The What? Too much TV being watched lads.

As others have said if it is no big deal then let the OP unburden herself and he will shrug his shoulders and echo what is being said here. Why would he dump her for something that doesn't matter????

Answer anyone?

The same reason you don't discuss the details of every sexual conquest you had before you committed to your partner, because it has no relevance to your relationship now, but would likely be upsetting and cause completely unnecessary drama. It is out of context, telling it would give it relevance when their is none.

The OP sounds very committed to her partner. She is a young girl give her a break. She was not married conducting a clandestine love affair, why should she act like it meant something, it meant nothing to her.

Pawwed Rig

daisybelle2008 wrote: »

The same reason you don't discuss the details of every sexual conquest you had before you committed to your partner, because it has no relevance to your relationship now, but would likely be upsetting and cause completely unnecessary drama. It is out of context, telling it would give it relevance when their is none.

The OP sounds very committed to her partner. She is a young girl give her a break. She was not married conducting a clandestine love affair, why should she act like it meant something, it meant nothing to her.

But you realise that that is your opinion and not every bodies right? It certainly is not the OPs opinion or else she wouldn't be feeling guilty. It may or may not be the bfs opinion which is why he should be given the opportunity to decide for himself if he was cheated on or not so can make an informed decision on his long term future.

Taltos

Mod Note
Dial it back all please. A few posts have been actioned/deleted/updated and that's more than has been needed in a long time in PI.
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Rekop dog

Your boyfriend is the only other person who will know where you were at that point. As others have pointed out if it was only casual dating he should brush it aside and you'll rid yourself of the burden all in one- great yeah? If it was more than that and (perhaps the reason you're so afraid to say) you're being more and more cruel to the guy with every passing day as he could be setting up a new life with a faithful partner instead of potentially heading for potential heartbreak at x point down the line if someone blurts the truth to him. Any other conclusion is selfishly motivated.

daisybelle2008

Pawwed Rig wrote: »

But you realise that that is your opinion and not every bodies right? It certainly is not the OPs opinion or else she wouldn't be feeling guilty. It may or may not be the bfs opinion which is why he should be given the opportunity to decide for himself if he was cheated on or not so can make an informed decision on his long term future.

Of course I do, all anyone can offer is opinion on the OPs situation, but this thread is taking a very judgemental tone about the 'type' of person she is. Some of the posts are getting unnecessary graphic and personal, to her and other posters. She does not deserve that when just looking for some advise. I wish the OP well whatever she does.

Pawwed Rig wrote: »

Tell him and be done with it. At least he will know the type of person you are and can decide if you are the type he is interested in.

Taltos

Thread closed.
Despite 2 mod warnings we still have posters insistent on derailing the thread.
OP I hope you got the advice you need from this.