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  • 07-05-2016 2:55pm
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    racso1975
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    Was out for a few pints the other night with a friend. Just catching up and general chit chat. Got to asking him how the brother was etc turns out they had a falling out cause the brother was posting pics and videos online of girls he was having sex with!!!!!!

    I thought this was so fuked up but according to the friend there is a few of them at it!!!!

    Like what the fuk is wrong with people that you cant enjoy a shag without having to record it and post the girl all over the place? Obviously the worst part of it all is that they dont have the permission of these women I assume


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    Your Face
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    I knew one lad that used to do something like that. He had pictures on his phone to show people.


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    Penny Tration
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    Nasty, sh!tty thing to do. sounds like someone desperate for attention.

    There are laws against this in the UK, I think they made revenge porn illegal lately. wonder what the legal situation is here?


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    armaghlad
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    I was with a girl recently who thought it would be hot to video proceedings... I said **** it why not; I haven't heard from her in weeks now. Was really odd


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    racso1975
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    Penny Tration wrote: »
    Nasty, sh!tty thing to do. sounds like someone desperate for attention.

    There are laws against this in the UK, I think they made revenge porn illegal lately. wonder what the legal situation is here?


    I dont know much about that while having heard a lot about it. Is there a particular definition of revenge porn as had always assumed it was ex partners pissed that they had been dumped posting that stuff as opposed to one night stands?


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    PandaX9
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    racso1975 wrote: »
    I dont know much about that while having heard a lot about it. Is there a particular definition of revenge porn as had always assumed it was ex partners pissed that they had been dumped posting that stuff as opposed to one night stands?

    It's kind of an umbrella term encompassing any sexually explicit material be it photos/videos etc taken of an individual which may or may not have been taken with their consent.. Which is then uploaded online or otherwise publically distributed without their consent.

    So could happen to anyone really and for a multitude of reasons, but it is most often done to shame, embarrass or harass the people portrayed.

    Absolutely despicable thing to do.


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    Penny Tration
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    racso1975 wrote: »
    I dont know much about that while having heard a lot about it. Is there a particular definition of revenge porn as had always assumed it was ex partners pissed that they had been dumped posting that stuff as opposed to one night stands?

    Nope. It's the posting of sexual content publicly, without the participant's consent, generally with the intent of causing distress or embarrassment.


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    _Whimsical_
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    armaghlad wrote: »
    I was with a girl recently who thought it would be hot to video proceedings... I said **** it why not; I haven't heard from her in weeks now. Was really odd

    Does she have the video?
    There have been 3 or 4 cases in the Irish media recently of men who have agreed to this and who then received threats to post the videos to social media and were blackmailed for money over it. I think there have sadly been 2 suicides of men who couldn't cope with the stress of it whose families have spoken out afterwards. It's really not smart for men or women to do this, particularly with strangers or people they don't know well.


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    lawlolawl
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    I fell out with a group of friends i'd had for over 15 years over this kind of thing. One fella was casually riding one of the girls in the group who had just gotten out of a serious long term relationship (kid, engaged, etc) and there was pictures taken and videos made as a kinky bedroom thing between the two of them.

    Yer man was a barman and it turns out he was showing the videos and pics to half the town and now the girl can't show her face around there any more. It was a co-worker of hers that told her about it in the end because she felt so bad for her because she didn't have a clue what was going on.

    I was ****ing raging over it (she has a kid and her family live in the town) and confronted the guy and the attitude was pretty much: "we were only **** buddies and it was a bit of fun, what's her problem?". The rest of the group backed him and basically said yer one was stupid for letting him take pics and video so she was in the wrong.

    I don't talk to any of them any more, unsurprisingly.


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    racso1975
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    _Whimsical_ wrote: »
    Does she have the video?
    There have been 3 or 4 cases in the Irish media recently of men who have agreed to this and who then received threats to post the videos to social media and were blackmailed for money over it. I think there have sadly been 2 suicides of men who couldn't cope with the stress of it whose families have spoken out afterwards. It's really not smart for men or women to do this, particularly with strangers or people they don't know well.


    I saw a case of that where it was online stuff recorded then blackmail threats to pay or it gets posted sure a NI 16yr old killed himself over it!!!! There was an report on it during the week seems to be an escalation of the scammers

    Just mad to think there could be a load of unsuspecting people out there who are actually up on porn sites.


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    My name is URL
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    lawlolawl wrote: »
    there was pictures taken and videos made as a kinky bedroom thing between the two of them.

    Yer man was a barman

    http://i.imgur.com/Q1T9prZ.png


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    armaghlad
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    _Whimsical_ wrote: »
    Does she have the video?
    There have been 3 or 4 cases in the Irish media recently of men who have agreed to this and who then received threats to post the videos to social media and were blackmailed for money over it. I think there have sadly been 2 suicides of men who couldn't cope with the stress of it whose families have spoken out afterwards. It's really not smart for men or women to do this, particularly with strangers or people they don't know well.
    Yeah she does..but so did I, now deleted. It wouldn't really bother me to be honest. I'd be embarrassed, yeah, but at the end of the day it's just two adults having sex. We aren't from the same town or anything and sure we aren't even in contact any more. I do trust her enough though not to do anything sinister


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    biko
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    It's a really douchebaggy thing to do.
    Unfortunately some guys are douchebags so they probably think it's a normal thing to do.

    The funny thing is that if it happened to someone they care about they'd be up in arms over it, double standard dickheads.


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    Ruu
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    What?! I only tape for purely scientific purposes!


    But really, sex is a private moment between me and the other imaginary girl in the room.


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    Penny Tration
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    lawlolawl wrote: »
    I fell out with a group of friends i'd had for over 15 years over this kind of thing. One fella was casually riding one of the girls in the group who had just gotten out of a serious long term relationship (kid, engaged, etc) and there was pictures taken and videos made as a kinky bedroom thing between the two of them.

    Yer man was a barman and it turns out he was showing the videos and pics to half the town and now the girl can't show her face around there any more. It was a co-worker of hers that told her about it in the end because she felt so bad for her because she didn't have a clue what was going on.

    I was ****ing raging over it (she has a kid and her family live in the town) and confronted the guy and the attitude was pretty much: "we were only **** buddies and it was a bit of fun, what's her problem?". The rest of the group backed him and basically said yer one was stupid for letting him take pics and video so she was in the wrong.

    I don't talk to any of them any more, unsurprisingly.

    you'd be surprised how often that happens.

    When I was 19-21, male friends of a similar age took joy in showing the friend group nudes of women they were with.

    My boyfriend's friends (two lads out of a group of 7) have shown everyone who'll look videos of their long term girlfriends. Scumbags.


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    racso1975
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    armaghlad wrote: »
    Yeah she does..but so did I, now deleted. It wouldn't really bother me to be honest. I'd be embarrassed, yeah, but at the end of the day it's just two adults having sex. We aren't from the same town or anything and sure we aren't even in contact any more. I do trust her enough though not to do anything sinister

    True and its the right attitude to have but i suppose in your case it was both consensual recording of the act


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    armaghlad
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    racso1975 wrote: »
    True and its the right attitude to have but i suppose in your case it was both consensual recording of the act
    Recording without someone's knowledge is scummy. If you agree to someone videoing you, you sort of have to be somewhat open to the idea that people you might not feel comfortable viewing it will see it at some time in the future.


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    qo2cj1dsne8y4k
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    What about people who send you unsolicited pictures of their dicks? Are females still under obligation not to share those around?


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    armaghlad
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    LexieOnRale wrote: »
    What about people who send you unsolicited pictures of their dicks? Are females still under obligation not to share those around?
    They should. They should tag the owner on Facebook!


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    racso1975
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    LexieOnRale wrote: »
    What about people who send you unsolicited pictures of their dicks? Are females still under obligation not to share those around?

    I think those people should be reported to be honest!!!! Its kinda like the old flasher in the park. Like who the fcuk thinks a randomer wants to see a dick pic or its all of sudden gonna lead to a hook up!!!!


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    Penny Tration
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    LexieOnRale wrote: »
    What about people who send you unsolicited pictures of their dicks? Are females still under obligation not to share those around?

    I wouldn't share it myself, but no issues at all with women or men who share unsolicited pics they've received (i, a straight woman, even received unsolicited pics from another woman!).

    If you're going to sexually harass someone, you've kinda given up your right to privacy.


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    lawlolawl wrote: »
    I fell out with a group of friends i'd had for over 15 years over this kind of thing. One fella was casually riding one of the girls in the group who had just gotten out of a serious long term relationship (kid, engaged, etc) and there was pictures taken and videos made as a kinky bedroom thing between the two of them.

    Yer man was a barman and it turns out he was showing the videos and pics to half the town and now the girl can't show her face around there any more. It was a co-worker of hers that told her about it in the end because she felt so bad for her because she didn't have a clue what was going on.

    I was ****ing raging over it (she has a kid and her family live in the town) and confronted the guy and the attitude was pretty much: "we were only **** buddies and it was a bit of fun, what's her problem?". The rest of the group backed him and basically said yer one was stupid for letting him take pics and video so she was in the wrong.

    I don't talk to any of them any more, unsurprisingly.
    Jesus...that guy should be in prison, can totally ruin someones life with stuff like that.

    That people backed him up as well - and I bet many of those people, would have seemed otherwise ok/normal - goes to show you too, just how stupid and fallible (probably otherwise normal) people can be, to the point of backing something that malicious.


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    B.A._Baracus
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    I reckon this happens all the time.
    All one has to do is go to the amateur section of certain porn sites and the amount of phone recorded porn is something else :pac:

    Has to be a large amount posted without consent, or let's be honest, recorded without the knowledge of the other party knowing in some cases.


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    LightsStillOn
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    There's a forum I was told about which is full to the brim of this kind of thing. Mostly from the UK but there's an a few Irish threads on there with 20+ pages of pictures & videos. Fairly scummy thing to do, if someone is kind enough to send me naked pictures the least I can do is keep them to myself :pac:


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    Lia_lia
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    A friend of my boyfriend was showing us topless pictures of this girl he was sleeping with before. I thought it was ridiculous that he was showing people these pictures, he was just like "she shouldn't have sent them to me then". :rolleyes: I have personally never sent or received these kind of pictures, seems like a pretty stupid thing to do really. They could easily get in the wrong hands.


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    One eyed Jack
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    racso1975 wrote: »
    Like what the fuk is wrong with people that you cant enjoy a shag without having to record it and post the girl all over the place? Obviously the worst part of it all is that they dont have the permission of these women I assume


    This kind of thing has been going on ever since people had the ability to document their sex lives. There's nothing new about it, and most people are already conscious of the consequences. Fortunately, it doesn't happen very often in reality.


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    lawlolawl
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    Penny Tration wrote: »
    you'd be surprised how often that happens.

    When I was 19-21, male friends of a similar age took joy in showing the friend group nudes of women they were with.

    My boyfriend's friends (two lads out of a group of 7) have shown everyone who'll look videos of their long term girlfriends. Scumbags.

    Doesn't surprise me in the slightest.

    If i was a young woman today i wouldn't allow any pics or vids of me to be taken. Young lads nowadays are arseholes who will show them to their friends.


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    moc moc a moc
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    biko wrote: »
    douchebaggy

    Have I stumbled onto boards.us by mistake? :confused:


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    tritium
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    One eyed Jack wrote: »
    This kind of thing has been going on ever since people had the ability to document their sex lives. There's nothing new about it, and most people are already conscious of the consequences. Fortunately, it doesn't happen very often in reality.

    Pretty much this, though the fear of it has been a pretty useful scare tactic in recent times (agsoc 200 anyone?)


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    PandaX9
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    tritium wrote: »
    Pretty much this, though the fear of it has been a pretty useful scare tactic in recent times (agsoc 200 anyone?)

    Which turned to be based solely on hearsay about a vague yik yak post that referenced a non existent group chat. But in general yes, as old fashioned :rolleyes: as this sounds, the onus is on you to protect your intimate identity. The only 100% foolproof way to ensure that photographs of you in the nip don't do the rounds is don't take any or don't permit anyone to take them of you. But obviously this is difficult what with tales of people taking sly photographs of their one night stands etc


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    biko
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    moc moc a moc wrote: »
    Have I stumbled onto boards.us by mistake? :confused:
    Yeah, it's awesome :)


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