Trying to Conceive 2016 onwards Chat Thread

Millem

MIrrorwall I am delighted for you

CCCHIA

mirrorwall14 wrote: »

BFP. I have been in a fog all day and now it’s finally sinking in I’m crying. Can’t decide if it’s happinrss or fear but gonna roll with the first for now!

Nothing different this cycle and tbh it’s easily been one of the most stressful in real life so I’m stunned

Congratulations Mirrorwall14!! Brilliant news xxxx

Roma2020

Hi All,

Just looking for some advise. Myself and my partner are TTC with over a year. I am 35 and he is 37. I have PCO and went for a scan and nothing major came up, cysts are not that bad. My periods are approx 35 days apart. The doc took my hormone levels and they all seem ok, I was ovulating pre clonmid at 9, took my first 50mg of Clomid and went back for day 21 test and it had dropped to 7. Gyn then put me on 100mg of Clonmid this week so hopefully this works.

I must go for a hysterosalpingogram this week to see are my tubes blocked, my partner did a sperm sample and it came back a little low...

She said at this stage she would recommend a fertility clinic.. does that seem very fast or is there more options I can explore. I was taken back a bit, she said "just with your age and partners results I would recommend it"

Sorry its baby number 1 so I am clueless to a lot of tests etc.

I thought the very LAST route would be IVF.

bee06

Fertility clinic doesn’t mean IVF straight away unless tests indicate it’s needed. I have PCOS and got pregnant on my 9th cycle of ovulation induction (first 8 were with clomid and last one was with FSH). Next step would have been IUI and then IVF. I think better to go to the fertility clinic now and start the process rather than potentially wasting another few months.

LCD

Everything in the clinic takes a long long time. Considering typical cycle is give or take 30 days, you can easily take a medication & be told to wait 6 months plus to see if it works. A year passes in them in the blink of an eye.

Best go as soon as you can.

squigglyd

The fertility clinic is where the fertility experts are so don't worry - it's the best place to be. As bee06 said, a fertility clinic doesn't mean IVF there are other options that might be suitable for you to try first.

Roma2020

Thanks all,

I have booked my appointment for next month so at least I am heading in the right direction. If I do have to go for IUI does it require some time off? With scans etc? I live over an hours drive from the clinic so going before work wouldn't be an option and I think they would get suss if I kept asked to start late on certain days.

Any advise is welcome. I know I might not be taking that road yet.

Neyite

I was luckily very local to the clinic but my GP at the time very kindly offered to re-write any absence notes I needed on her headed paper, rather than hand in a cert from the fertility clinic which would kind of give the game away at work. Never needed to do that as I was usually able to get appointments at 8am but it was nice to have one less worry heading into it.

You could pass it off as gynae investigations maybe?

I've never done IUI, so not sure how long it takes to do. Mine was just scans and meds so it was short appointments.

angeldelight

Got my coil out on Friday - it’s a bit of a surreal feeling really! Having withdrawal bleeding at the moment so will be interesting to see how things pan out

Roma2020

Thanks all, I have booked an app with RePormed in Dublin - anyone any experiences?

GaGa21

Sims have an offer on for National Fertility Week for a free AMH blood test. Book by the 28th of July and they will contact to arrange a date. Check their website/ Facebook for details.

squigglyd

GaGa21 wrote: »

Sims have an offer on for National Fertility Week for a free AMH blood test. Book by the 28th of July and they will contact to arrange a date. Check their website/ Facebook for details.

More info there http://events.r20.constantcontact.com/register/event?llr=69gsnveab&oeidk=a07efgh4d83ace76846

angeldelight

angeldelight wrote: »

Got my coil out on Friday - it’s a bit of a surreal feeling really! Having withdrawal bleeding at the moment so will be interesting to see how things pan out

9 weeks later had my positive pregnancy test... absolutely crazy as it took us over 18 months to conceive our first

GaGa21

angeldelight wrote:

9 weeks later had my positive pregnancy test... absolutely crazy as it took us over 18 months to conceive our first

Wow! That's great news. Congratulations.

Millem

Hi All,

Can anyone recommend ovulation tests? I am still breastfeeding around the clock and haven’t had my period back yet.

Tried the dealz one before and found them rubbish!!

Thanks a mil

angeldelight

Millem wrote: »

Hi All,

Can anyone recommend ovulation tests? I am still breastfeeding around the clock and haven’t had my period back yet.

Tried the dealz one before and found them rubbish!!

Thanks a mil

I got mine from Access Diagnostics - very reasonable and because they’re cheap I didn’t mind using them from pretty much day one of cycle to make sure I didn’t miss it!

Nerd Queen

Hi All, Can anyone recommend a good fertility lubricant? I had bought preseed a few years ago and now its out of date without even being used! Finally into serious ttc mode after 3 years of frustration, medical issues and stress.

LizzieE88

Hi all,

As you can tell by the title myself and my husband have just started our baby journey. This is the first month we have tried so very early days but I already feel that this month it hasn't happened and I am so dissapointed.

I know that this is completely irrational as it takes time etc but I just can't help feeling very down about it. Just wanted to share in case anyone had / is having a similiar experience and any tips etc would be most appreciated.

Also thought it might be good for any of us starting our journey to have a place to chat

cnlbel

Hey LizzieE88,

We are in exact same boat. Didnt really think it would happen in first month but then was sad to see I got my period. Trying to get as healthy as possible this month now and looking into plenty of vitamins etc. would v much like any tips or advice from people too!

Thanks!

Nerd Queen

Don't go too heavy into tracking every little thing as your body can start to mimic symptoms (As per my gynae). Try temping its great. Make time for each other to do fun things and have good honest conversations about how you are both feeing.

LegacyUser

I’m in the same boat. We’re only really trying since after Christmas. My cycle exactly 26 days after coming off the pill but since we started trying I’ve been 1 day late Jan & Feb and 2 days late this month.

Every time I’m late I get my hopes up so even though logically I know it’s very early days I can’t help but feel disappointed

LegacyUser

Hi

First time posting here. We've been trying for over a year now. We'd been to fertility clinic and they said both of our counts were normal for our age and to keep trying for a while longer before going the IVF route.

Thought we had left it too late, we've both turned 38 recently. The clinic visit was in December. We said we'd give it 6 more months before paying for IVF.

Posting anon as it's far too early to tell anyone this in real life but my wife took a pregnancy test the other day and it showed as positive immediately. She had it confirmed at doctors too. She's been told to arrange a meeting with her GP.

Feel excited but also trying to temper that because I know how early it is, only a couple of weeks at this stage.

Sorry, just had to type this somewhere. I think it's too early for the "Expecting in..." thread.

Fingers crossed everything is ok :-)

Good luck to everyone trying!

LegacyUser

Myself and the boyfriend decided to try starting this whole making and growing another person I came off the pill in Dec after many years on it and my periods have been a bit all over the place but hopefully starting to get a bit more regular now.
I’ve been using the Flo app to track things so hopefully that gives some good guides. Anyone use any others?

I’m also finding it awkward planning things like holidays/events etc as I’m wondering will I be pregnant or not then? I probably just need to relax a bit more about all that stuff, once you start ttc its dissapointing each month when it doesn't happen!

LegacyUser

gmcidev wrote: »

Myself and the boyfriend decided to try starting this whole making and growing another person I came off the pill in Dec after many years on it and my periods have been a bit all over the place but hopefully starting to get a bit more regular now.
I’ve been using the Flo app to track things so hopefully that gives some good guides. Anyone use any others?

I’m also finding it awkward planning things like holidays/events etc as I’m wondering will I be pregnant or not then? I probably just need to relax a bit more about all that stuff, once you start ttc its dissapointing each month when it doesn't happen!

My wife came off the pill ages ago, a couple of years, I'd say. We weren't really trying at first, just seeing what happens. When it wasn't, we went to a fertility clinic for tests. As I said above, we were told to keep trying naturally for another 6 months. We started timing it better around her ovulation, and now she's pregnant.

If you're in your mid to late 30s and it's not happening (it can take a good few months to become regular after coming off the pill), then maybe consider having tests. It's worth it to know if you need help or even to be told everything is fine.

But don't let it rule your life with regards to planning things. You don't know how long it will take, and even when it does, you can still do everything for a good 7 months or so (that's a guess, this is my first child).

It is disappointing each month, but you're not the only one in this situation. Hopefully it'll happen for you.

Mubre

Hi everyone! We are into our third year of fertility treatment. We have had three failed IUI’s. We then started IVF last May but none of the eggs made it to blastocysts. We did a fresh embryo transfer in September and we got pregnant with twins but unfortunately miscarried in December. I have a frozen embryo transfer today so fingers crossed everything goes okay this time round.

angeldelight

Mubre wrote: »

Hi everyone! We are into our third year of fertility treatment. We have had three failed IUI’s. We then started IVF last May but none of the eggs made it to blastocysts. We did a fresh embryo transfer in September and we got pregnant with twins but unfortunately miscarried in December. I have a frozen embryo transfer today so fingers crossed everything goes okay this time round.

Will have fingers crossed for you - good luck!

squigglyd

gmcidev wrote: »

Myself and the boyfriend decided to try starting this whole making and growing another person I came off the pill in Dec after many years on it and my periods have been a bit all over the place but hopefully starting to get a bit more regular now.
I’ve been using the Flo app to track things so hopefully that gives some good guides. Anyone use any others?

I’m also finding it awkward planning things like holidays/events etc as I’m wondering will I be pregnant or not then? I probably just need to relax a bit more about all that stuff, once you start ttc its dissapointing each month when it doesn't happen!

Fertility Friend is another good app to use, you can record ovulation, symptoms, etc. and after a few months it'll be very accurate at preducting your expected period dates and ovulation.

What you said about finding it awkward to plan holidays etc, struck a cord with me - try your best not to stop living your life. This ttc journey could last longer than you think and in the meantime you'll have paused your whole life for it - take it from someone who has been there and done that, just keep living your life as normally as you possibly can. Maybe leave off the bungee jumping type stuff

Mubre

I completely understand what you mean about not being able to plan stuff. I feel like our life has been put on hold because of fertility treatment. We have to be close by for treatment during my cycle and because of the costs we are trying not to spend money. But it will all be worth it...eventually!!

GaGa21

Mubre wrote:

I have a frozen embryo transfer today so fingers crossed everything goes okay this time round.

Fingers crossed for you x

squigglyd

Not much chat in here these days, how is everyone doing? We're currently concentrating on losing a bit of weight and making our diet more healthy before we take any more steps, hopefully a bit of weight loss will help things, I probably need to lose about 2stone :eek: