What are these people clogging up tinder for?

josephryan1989

I joined tinder and bought a month subscription and started swiping.
There were a lot of very attractive women so I was swiping right quite a bit and then I got a few matches.
Happy days?
These women want to meet up for a nice date or casual sex or they want a boyfriend or meet prince charming and ultimately marry the man of their dreams?
Right?
Wrong!
Once you get past the "Hi any craic?" "Where are you from?" etc and then start having a conversation and try to move things along to meeting up it starts getting weird.
These women say they don't meet strangers on social media and they find it "creepy" that you would ask them out!
Tinder is a DATING app!
What are these people going on tinder if they don't want to get together?
Are they insane?
I did date one or two women and had some fun but tinder seems infested with idiots who seem to be okay with likes and then get annoyed when you actually use the app for what it was designed - ask them out!
The mind boggles!
It really does!
You have to literally wade through all these people who are on a dating app but not interested in actually dating before you meet the women who do!
Imagine you went to a restaurant to get a meal or a drink but all the tables were full but none of the people clogging the tables were there to have any food and the owners couldn't kick them out?
That is exactly what tinder is like!

frag420

No idea OP, I completed tinder months ago!!

Lights On

Just an idea, but maybe they just didn't want to go on a date with you? You're not going to get everyone who swipes!

Mint Sauce

Its an ego trip for some, to see how many matches they can get.

the evasion_kid

one word....VALIDATION

NomadicGray

Its just that youre not attractive is all

josephryan1989

Lights On wrote: »

Just an idea, but maybe they just didn't want to go on a date with you? You're not going to get everyone who swipes!

If you are not interested don't swipe!

It's that simple.

Azalea

Lights On wrote: »

Just an idea, but maybe they just didn't want to go on a date with you? You're not going to get everyone who swipes!

Not really relevant. He's talking about when they say they don't meet people through social media and think it's creepy to be asked out through Tinder - yet that's the whole purpose of Tinder so what are they doing there in the first place?

As Mint Sauce says, it's probably just an ego trip for them to set up a profile and get likes.

Fleawuss

Tinder didn't ignite with your spark.

josephryan1989

NomadicGray wrote: »

Its just that youre not attractive is all

If they swipe they are supposed to be interested but then they get upset when a guy gets the wrong idea?

If she doesn't want unwanted attention then don't swipe me back!

Mourinho

There's loads that swipe right on everyone just to see how many matches they get and sit there giggling to themselves thinking "look how many people want to fcuk me" but have no intention of meeting anyone off it. Both men and women do it, lots of girls mention it when I'm chatting to them that they get a lot of of the same.

The latest update apparently stops showing your profile to people if you swipe right on everyone as it assumes your a bot or what Tinder have called "the indiscrimate narcissist"

Nodin

josephryan1989 wrote: »

If they swipe they are supposed to be interested but then they get upset when a guy gets the wrong idea?

Yep. They're notoriously contradictory like that.









I'll be in hiding if anyones looking for me.

smurgen

josephryan1989 wrote: »

If they swipe they are supposed to be interested but then they get upset when a guy gets the wrong idea?

If she doesn't want unwanted attention then don't swipe me back!

You're right it's bollocks.I met my missus off tinder when I was at the end of my patience with it.I think there's a lot of time wasters on it!women who want to be complemented etc.best bet is to give your phone number quickly and to move away from tinder and start texting.it sorts the messers out fairly quickly

smash

You have to pay for tinder now?

josephryan1989

Mourinho wrote: »

There's loads that swipe right on everyone just to see how many matches they get and sit there giggling to themselves thinking "look how many people want to fcuk me" but have no intention of meeting anyone off it. Both men and women do it, lots of girls mention it when I'm chatting to them that they get a lot of of the same.

What is the point of that if they don't actually fcuk any of them?

It reminds of that scene in a Ricky Gervais show Extras where Ben Stiller sends himself up by saying he kissed Cameron Diaz and Gervais responds that it wasn't real because There's Something About Mary is just a movie. Stiller walks off fuming that it "still counts!"

I can't get my head around why someone would join a dating app just to refuse to date anyone and then get annoyed when people using the app for the purpose it is intended respond by agreeing to go on a date with them!

MilesMorales1

smash wrote: »

You have to pay for tinder now?

Well its full of microtransactions now. You only get a certain amount of likes per day.

Women, men, etc, like to be wooed OP. Maybe don't rush it into.

Fox_In_Socks

I reached level 106 when I played it, which I hear is a record.

Then angry birds took over.

Which is what I call my wife and my mistress

josephryan1989

smash wrote: »

You have to pay for tinder now?

For unlimited likes and to roam internationally you do.

darkpagandeath

http://www.quickmeme.com/img/80/80df50544bd550c08e1f4dc667b8751d05fee5346d7195bea422e91a0485f078.jpg

That is all.

maudgonner

What are your conversations like? Do you actually chat to them for a while before asking them out, or jump straight to proposing a date.

Swiping right on someone isn't necessarily an indication that they're willing to date you. Some of us women actually like to get to know someone a little bit first. I might like the look of you, but if you can't string two words together or make me laugh, forget about it.

Also, there are loads of weirdos on internet dating site, so the get-me-the-f**k-outta-here metre is normally set to hairtrigger sensitivity for internet dating (moreso than it might be in a pub/nightclub). So phrasing something in a slightly creepy way (even if you don't mean to, or don't realise you're doing it) might be enough to send them running for the hills.

Having said all that, sure there are timewasters on Tinder, and people who aren't 100% rational too. Just like there are girls in pubs who just want to get you to buy them drinks with no intention of anything more.

recylingbin

I just spoke to the girls on tinder, op. They reckon you look a little rapey.

henryporter

Maybe OP needs to change his handle to josephryan69 instead?

thee glitz

Because people. Chris O'Dowd put it well.

josephryan1989

maudgonner wrote: »

What are your conversations like? Do you actually chat to them for a while before asking them out, or jump straight to proposing a date.

Swiping right on someone isn't necessarily an indication that they're willing to date you. Some of us women actually like to get to know someone a little bit first. I might like the look of you, but if you can't string two words together or make me laugh, forget about it.

Also, there are loads of weirdos on internet dating site, so the get-me-the-f**k-outta-here metre is normally set to hairtrigger sensitivity for internet dating (moreso than it might be in a pub/nightclub). So phrasing something in a slightly creepy way (even if you don't mean to, or don't realise you're doing it) might be enough to send them running for the hills.

Having said all that, sure there are timewasters on Tinder, and people who aren't 100% rational too. Just like there are girls in pubs who just want to get you to buy them drinks with no intention of anything more.

The whole purpose of tinder is to remove any ambiguity.

A person joins tinder to date.

By swiping right who the girl is supposed to be interested and wants to meet up.
End of.

Instead if she swipes right and wastes her time and his talking and then gets annoyed when he asks her out she can't justifiably be surprised.

If she doesn't want any unwanted attention or conversation then don't swipe right.

At least the women in the pubs who pretend to be interested get something out of pretending to be interested - a free drink.

The women who swipe right on tinder - get nothing.

It makes absolutely no sense whatsoever.

Fox_In_Socks

josephryan1989 wrote: »

The whole purpose of tinder is to remove any ambiguity.

A person joins tinder to date.

By swiping right who the girl is supposed to be interested and wants to meet up.
End of.

Instead if she swipes right and wastes her time and his talking and then gets annoyed when he asks her out she can't justifiably be surprised.

At least the women in the pubs who pretend to be interested get something out of pretending to be interested - a free drink.

The women who swipe right on tinder - get nothing.

It makes absolutely no sense whatsoever.

People are complicated. They are vain and like to be complimented, liked, whatever.

C.K Dexter Haven

josephryan1989 wrote: »

By swiping right who the girl is supposed to be interested and wants to meet up.
End of.


If she doesn't want any unwanted attention or conversation then don't swipe right.

Maybe these women get their right and left mixed up- it's a known phenonomen you know, just think of women and giving directions- hopeless they are!:pac::pac:

the evasion_kid

one thing i have noticed with it,women will never message you first on it when you match,they still like to sit in that seat of power of rejecting you if you send the first message.

josephryan1989

recylingbin wrote: »

I just spoke to the girls on tinder, op. They reckon you look a little rapey.

So if I look rapey why swipe right and then have a conversation at all then?

If they are not interested at all then don't swipe back.

josephryan1989

the evasion_kid wrote: »

one thing i have noticed with it,women will never message you first on it when you match,they still like to sit in that seat of power of rejecting you if you send the first message.

So they join a dating app for the sole purpose of swiping right and rejecting guys on purpose? Utterly bizarre.

tomwaterford

the evasion_kid wrote: »

one thing i have noticed with it,women will never message you first on it when you match,they still like to sit in that seat of power of rejecting you if you send the first message.

I got msgd first a few times on it....though never really lead anywhere...much like any Msgd first :pac:


*dont use tinder anymore

Ally Dick

I don't bother with Tinder and swiping. I prefer Pornhub and tugging

recylingbin

josephryan1989 wrote: »

So they join a dating app for the sole purpose of swiping right and rejecting guys on purpose? Utterly bizarre.

Who could work out the mind of a woman?

the evasion_kid

josephryan1989 wrote: »

So they join a dating app for the sole purpose of swiping right and rejecting guys on purpose? Utterly bizarre.

its like when your bopping away on the dancefloor and a girl starts eyeing you up and dancing beside you,rubbing up against you suggestively,so you think youre in and start making moves only for her to run back to her friends tithering like an idiot....makes no sense to us men!

Ally Dick

I was in a pub in Liverpool queuing for the bar, and I felt a hand touching off my backside. I took a sly look around and saw a nice blonde hairdo. I turned back around. Then it happened again. I said to myself, ok she wants it bad. I'll turn around and start chatting her up. When I turned around, there was a girl with a handbag, and a small umbrella poking out the back, that had been rubbing against my ass

Fox_In_Socks

Ally Dick wrote: »

I was in a pub in Liverpool queuing for the bar, and I felt a hand touching off my backside. I took a sly look around and saw a nice blonde hairdo. I turned back around. Then it happened again. I said to myself, ok she wants it bad. I'll turn around and start chatting her up. When I turned around, there was a girl with a handbag, and a small umbrella poking out the back, that had been rubbing against my ass

Imagine if ye hit it off and went home together and she brings the umbrella into the bedroom?:eek:

IvaBigWun

frag420 wrote: »

No idea OP, I completed tinder months ago!!

For you http://cdn.meme.am/instances/56047364.jpg

Ally Dick

Fox_In_Socks wrote: »

Imagine if ye hit it off and went home together and she brings the umbrella into the bedroom?:eek:

Can't figure out what use an umbrella would be in the sexual act

tomwaterford

Ally Dick wrote: »

Can't figure out what use an umbrella would be in the sexual act

:pac:

Fox_In_Socks

Just don't unfold it!:eek:

recylingbin

Ally Dick wrote: »

Can't figure out what use an umbrella would be in the sexual act

Uncertain watersports enthusiast?

Ha.

You paid for Tinder.

quadrifoglio verde

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Ha.

You paid for Tinder.

That was my first thought as well
You'd want to be one ugly bollox to get no right swipes back from your selection of 100

December2012

josephryan1989 wrote: »

The whole purpose of tinder is to remove any ambiguity.

A person joins tinder to date.

By swiping right who the girl is supposed to be interested and wants to meet up.
End of.

Instead if she swipes right and wastes her time and his talking and then gets annoyed when he asks her out she can't justifiably be surprised.

If she doesn't want any unwanted attention or conversation then don't swipe right.

At least the women in the pubs who pretend to be interested get something out of pretending to be interested - a free drink.

The women who swipe right on tinder - get nothing.

It makes absolutely no sense whatsoever.

It makes perfect sense. Lady is interested in dating so joins tinder. She indicates that she might want to get to know somebody and maybe go on a date with them. At a certain point she does not want to go on a date with the Op, or wants to take more time before going on a date.

If the chemistry was right then it will work.

Swiping right us not a blind commitment to date

Ally Dick

Is speed dating still all the rage ? I did it once. Wasn't very successful. I reckon if you were good looking, you'd get more rides than Shergar

Dyr

smurgen wrote: »

You're right it's bollocks.I met my missus off tinder when I was at the end of my patience with it

Were you not both suprised that find each other on it?

Senna

What's the old saying.....if you think everyone else is the problem, then more than likely they are not, YOU are the problem.

Mister Vain

josephryan1989 wrote: »

The whole purpose of tinder is to remove any ambiguity.

A person joins tinder to date.

By swiping right who the girl is supposed to be interested and wants to meet up.
End of.

Instead if she swipes right and wastes her time and his talking and then gets annoyed when he asks her out she can't justifiably be surprised.

If she doesn't want any unwanted attention or conversation then don't swipe right.

At least the women in the pubs who pretend to be interested get something out of pretending to be interested - a free drink.

The women who swipe right on tinder - get nothing.

It makes absolutely no sense whatsoever.

Not true, they get a big ego boost.

josephryan1989

December2012 wrote: »

It makes perfect sense. Lady is interested in dating so joins tinder. She indicates that she might want to get to know somebody and maybe go on a date with them. At a certain point she does not want to go on a date with the Op, or wants to take more time before going on a date.

If the chemistry was right then it will work.

Swiping right us not a blind commitment to date

The whole purpose of tinder is to cut out all that crap.

You swipe right if you want to hook up.

josephryan1989

Mister Vain wrote: »

Not true, they get a big ego boost.

Since when is not getting laid an ego boost?

Fleawuss

josephryan1989 wrote: »

The whole purpose of tinder is to remove any ambiguity.

A person joins tinder to date.

By swiping right who the girl is supposed to be interested and wants to meet up.
End of.

Instead if she swipes right and wastes her time and his talking and then gets annoyed when he asks her out she can't justifiably be surprised.

If she doesn't want any unwanted attention or conversation then don't swipe right.

At least the women in the pubs who pretend to be interested get something out of pretending to be interested - a free drink.

The women who swipe right on tinder - get nothing.

It makes absolutely no sense whatsoever.

Maybe they're just trolling you for the lolz. :eek:

Iwasfrozen

josephryan1989 wrote: »

I joined tinder and bought a month subscription and started swiping.
There were a lot of very attractive women so I was swiping right quite a bit and then I got a few matches.
Happy days?
These women want to meet up for a nice date or casual sex or they want a boyfriend or meet prince charming and ultimately marry the man of their dreams?
Right?
Wrong!
Once you get past the "Hi any craic?" "Where are you from?" etc and then start having a conversation and try to move things along to meeting up it starts getting weird.
These women say they don't meet strangers on social media and they find it "creepy" that you would ask them out!
Tinder is a DATING app!
What are these people going on tinder if they don't want to get together?
Are they insane?
I did date one or two women and had some fun but tinder seems infested with idiots who seem to be okay with likes and then get annoyed when you actually use the app for what it was designed - ask them out!
The mind boggles!
It really does!
You have to literally wade through all these people who are on a dating app but not interested in actually dating before you meet the women who do!
Imagine you went to a restaurant to get a meal or a drink but all the tables were full but none of the people clogging the tables were there to have any food and the owners couldn't kick them out?
That is exactly what tinder is like!

That's your problem right there.