Men of After Hours, can you see when a man is attractive?

garrixfan

I am very comfortable wit my sexuality and will openly comment and admire a handsome face. I notice a lot of me however are incapable of doing so, and mention stuff like they don't know if girls find a particular guy attractive to the opposite sex? Is the wool really so much over their eyes? It is is plain to me to see when a man is attractive and I am comfortable saying it, in fact I have great admiration for handsome men, and what makes them so attractive to females.

I do not find overly macho men attractive, or least their stature/physique has no influence on me, I'm strictly talking about the face, for example the likes of David Gandy, Francisco Lachowski, Yoann Gourcuff, James Dean, Clint Eastwood etc.
It seems men have an easy time saying someone like Beckham or Ronaldo are attractive but a harder time distinguishing what makes a non celebrity everyday man attractive?

Mother Brain

Can't say i've ever wasted any time thinking about it.

NachoBusiness

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sSQ85ryb2Q0

DoYouEvenLift

'Attractive' - no
'Good looking' - yes


All human beings can tell when someone is good looking, same way we can tell when someone is not. Anyone who says they can't is probably insecure about admitting it. Just watch how lots of guy's body language changes when they walk on the street with their girlfriends/partners and pass another good looking man.

Senna

I don't normally go around or be asked my opinion on the beauty of other men.
OP, who is asking you to comment, or do you run up to other men and say "fabulous darling!!" if you think they are handsome?

The Backwards Man

Every time I look in the mirror

The Backwards Man

Not the paper!

siblers

Was in a restaurant at the weekend, one of the waiters there was ridiculously handsome. He should have been a model. This was while I was on a date with a girl, I told her and all. She didn't seem to mind.

PARlance

DoYouEvenLift wrote: »

'Attractive' - no
'Good looking' - yes


All human beings can tell when someone is good looking, same way we can tell when someone is not. Anyone who says they can't is probably insecure about admitting it. Just watch how lots of guy's body language changes when they walk on the street with their girlfriends/partners and pass another good looking man.

They cover their partners eyes?
Interested to know this body language tell.

FloatingVoter

siblers wrote: »

Was in a restaurant at the weekend, one of the waiters there was ridiculously handsome. He should have been a model. This was while I was on a date with a girl, I told her and all. She didn't seem to mind.

Thanks, she gave me her number on the back of a €50 tip. I'm going steady so I only slipped her a quick ride for pities sake. She thinks you're alright except maybe a little insecure.
Oh, and eh....sorry about the incoming credit card bill.

garrixfan

siblers wrote: »

Was in a restaurant at the weekend, one of the waiters there was ridiculously handsome. He should have been a model. This was while I was on a date with a girl, I told her and all. She didn't seem to mind.

Dammn that must have been brutal for you! Interesting approach you took, are you good looking? Seems like a risky move if not. Did she try to make a move on this hunk?

siblers

garrixfan wrote: »

Dammn that must have been brutal for you! Interesting approach you took, are you good looking? Seems like a risky move if not. Did she try to make a move on this hunk?

Why would it be brutal? :pac:

PARlance

garrixfan wrote: »

Dammn that must have been brutal for you! Interesting approach you took, are you good looking? Seems like a risky move if not. Did she try to make a move on this hunk?

^^^^
Doesn't stack up with

garrixfan wrote: »

It is is plain to me to see when a man is attractive and I am comfortable saying it, in fact I have great admiration for handsome men, and what makes them so attractive to females.

Unless you're pretty damn insecure with, or have a weird view, of wimin.

My name is URL

I can see when paintings and cars and things are 'attractive', doesn't mean I want to stick my noodle in them

Of course I can see when a man is 'attractive'. Finding things aesthetically pleasing has very little to do with sexuality... there's a bit more to it than that like!

Tbh I find it a bit odd when people go on about being comfortable with their own sexuality and then start talking about how they can find members of the same sex attractive, as if it's some kind of superpower that they've just discovered in themselves.

HalloweenJack

Yeah, I can and will tell people too.

I have quite a few gay friends and they tend to go on about hot lads and will ask my opinion so I just got used to saying it. Same if I'm out with my GF and her mates.

Hammer89

Olivier Giroud would get it.

That is all.

garrixfan

Hammer89 wrote: »

Olivier Giroud would get it.

That is all.

Giroud is an overrated 7/10 hahaha. He is far from best looking French player(Costil,Gourcuff,Zidane)

garrixfan

Oh and of course Ribery hahahahaha

Niemoj

As a Bi guy I most definitely can haha :pac::pac:

Pink Lemons

I'm 100% straight but I can say without any doubt that Ryan Gosling & Tom Hardy are a pair of rides :pac:

FloatingVoter

Niemoj wrote: »

As a Bi guy I most definitely can haha :pac::pac:

That's just cheating. I'll **** anything with a pulse or a battery too but I picked sides and pretend to abide by it.

cantdecide

The top and bottom 30% of guys I'd get right I'd say but that the bunch in the middle I'd rarely be able to call right.

Niemoj

FloatingVoter wrote: »

That's just cheating. I'll **** anything with a pulse or a battery too but I picked sides and pretend to abide by it.

I'm Bi, not pan

But anyway, even before I realised I'm the fabulous mess that I am if I'd see a handsome guy I would always point it out.

"You are very attractive" ≠ "I want to have sex with you".

FloatingVoter

Pan ?


Sweet Loretta Fart thought she was a cleaner
but she was a frying pan, yeah

The Beatles had me pegged in "Get Back" before I was born.

Amazing what a drunk troll can learn on AH.

Niemoj

FloatingVoter wrote: »

Pan ?


Sweet Loretta Fart thought she was a cleaner
but she was a frying pan, yeah

The Beatles had me pegged in "Get Back" before I was born.

Amazing what a drunk troll can learn on AH.

Bisexual is attraction towards biological males and females whereas pansexual is attraction towards biological males and females AND trans males and trans females.

Love however, remains blind:pac:

FloatingVoter

Niemoj wrote: »

Bisexual is attraction towards biological males and females whereas pansexual is attraction towards biological males and females AND trans males and trans females.

Love however, remains blind:pac:

So "he gets around" still stands. You need a degree these days to go on the pull.

biko

I saw a very attractive man yesterday in a window.



Turned out it was a mirror.

DareGod

You have great admiration for handsome men?

What a bizarre thing to have great admiration for.

Anyway, yes, anybody can tell when someone's face is stereotypically aesthetically pleasing to the eye. Your question should be Will they admit it?

Btw your thread title should say "Straight men and lesbians of AH" instead of saying "Men of AH."

Billy86

Yeah, sometimes it's obvious like a Ryan Gosling type. Then again sometimes it's a bit of a "really?" situation, struggling to think of an example off the top of my head.

Would love to see women's reactions to lads going on about weird looking fellas being "gorgeous" and really attractive guys being "ugly" though, see how they like it! :pac:

justchecked

well you dont get many ancient carved Greek statues of hairy ugly fckers with beer guts hanging out.

FloatingVoter

justchecked wrote: »

well you dont get many ancient carved Greek statues of hairy ugly fckers with beer guts hanging out.

Look up Poseidon or Zeus. Neither the king of the sea or the King of the Gods was into slimming contests.

garrixfan

Billy86 wrote: »

Yeah, sometimes it's obvious like a Ryan Gosling type. Then again sometimes it's a bit of a "really?" situation, struggling to think of an example off the top of my head.

Would love to see women's reactions to lads going on about weird looking fellas being "gorgeous" and really attractive guys being "ugly" though, see how they like it! :pac:

LMAO ryan gosling's looks are hailo'd because of his fame but he has great image.

suicide_circus

For the men who claim not to be able to figure out if another man is sexy or not, I have a simple foolproof formula to help you;

Does the man look in any way like Rod Stewart?

Yes: sexy
No: not sexy

Course men can tell if another man is good looking, and they can tell if they themselves are good looking or not too.

Riskymove

garrixfan wrote: »

Interesting approach you took, are you good looking? Seems like a risky move if not.

are you saying I am ugly or something?

Whitewinged

garrixfan wrote: »

I am very comfortable wit my sexuality and will openly comment and admire a handsome face. I notice a lot of me however are incapable of doing so, and mention stuff like they don't know if girls find a particular guy attractive to the opposite sex? Is the wool really so much over their eyes? It is is plain to me to see when a man is attractive and I am comfortable saying it, in fact I have great admiration for handsome men, and what makes them so attractive to females.

I do not find overly macho men attractive, or least their stature/physique has no influence on me, I'm strictly talking about the face, for example the likes of David Gandy, Francisco Lachowski, Yoann Gourcuff, James Dean, Clint Eastwood etc.
It seems men have an easy time saying someone like Beckham or Ronaldo are attractive but a harder time distinguishing what makes a non celebrity everyday man attractive?

You can be aware that someone is good looking and attractive more to other people or not goodlooking and still attractive to other people. Your just aware of it and its just what you believe in your head that other people find attractive.

If you are actually attracted to someone it means they turn you on.

Ignatius in bloom

garrixfan wrote: »

I am very comfortable wit my sexuality and will openly comment and admire a handsome face. I notice a lot of me however are incapable of doing so, and mention stuff like they don't know if girls find a particular guy attractive to the opposite sex? Is the wool really so much over their eyes? It is is plain to me to see when a man is attractive and I am comfortable saying it, in fact I have great admiration for handsome men, and what makes them so attractive to females.

I do not find overly macho men attractive, or least their stature/physique has no influence on me, I'm strictly talking about the face, for example the likes of David Gandy, Francisco Lachowski, Yoann Gourcuff, James Dean, Clint Eastwood etc.
It seems men have an easy time saying someone like Beckham or Ronaldo are attractive but a harder time distinguishing what makes a non celebrity everyday man attractive?

I always tend to think people secure in their sexuality never really have to say it.


If you find men attractive you are obviously not, however there is nothing wrong with having admiration for the physical looks of another person.

One eyed Jack

garrixfan wrote: »

I am very comfortable wit my sexuality and will openly comment and admire a handsome face. I notice a lot of me however are incapable of doing so, and mention stuff like they don't know if girls find a particular guy attractive to the opposite sex? Is the wool really so much over their eyes? It is is plain to me to see when a man is attractive and I am comfortable saying it, in fact I have great admiration for handsome men, and what makes them so attractive to females.

They're probably being more honest with you than you are with yourself really. What you're doing, it isn't admiring handsome men, it's looking at men and suggesting that you can see why women would find them attractive. Other men are telling you that they can't pretend to speak for what anyone else finds attractive. Me personally, I don't particularly care to comment on ordinary people's looks to other people because it's usually just impolite to do so.

garrixfan wrote: »

I do not find overly macho men attractive, or least their stature/physique has no influence on me, I'm strictly talking about the face, for example the likes of David Gandy, Francisco Lachowski, Yoann Gourcuff, James Dean, Clint Eastwood etc.

It seems men have an easy time saying someone like Beckham or Ronaldo are attractive but a harder time distinguishing what makes a non celebrity everyday man attractive?

I'd say it's more likely they have no interest in trying to read other people's minds is all. It's also possible they simply have no interest in men.

One eyed Jack

One eyed Jack wrote: »

Me personally, I don't particularly care to comment on ordinary people's looks to other people because it's usually just impolite to do so.

My friends never tire of telling me I'm an ugly SOB, that my wife is beautiful, then the "how did you do it" line.

ancapailldorcha

Yes, of course.

sbsquarepants

I have no trouble whatsoever in telling (and saying) if a guy is good looking or not. I'm not attracted to men in any way (except maybe an inexplicable man crush on Brian Cox - fúck me he's a handsome divil:D) but if someone is particularly good looking it's pretty obvious whether you're inclined that way or not.

Sam Kade

The Backwards Man wrote: »

Every time I look in the mirror

But you have your back turned to it;)

Of course you can tell whether a guy is attractive or not. Anyone that says otherwise just feels insecure about admitting it.

seamus

DoYouEvenLift wrote: »

'Attractive' - no
'Good looking' - yes

I think this probably sums it up really. It's pretty easy to spot people who are conventionally good looking. We're all humans sharing a common culture at the end of the day, so what we consider to be "beauty" falls within in a relatively common scope.

But there's always variation, other factors to attraction and that's usually what the opposite sex can't spot.

Daniel Craig is a good example. If he was just your mate's mate Danny down the pub, you'd think, "Nice guy, but the poor fella's been hit by the ugly stick a couple of times." He looks like he played too much rugby in school and got in too many fights in college.

But other factors are in play. He's wealthy and famous, which improve his attractiveness anyway, but this also gives him more control over his image by way of personal trainers, and stylists and such. Making ugly Danny from the pub someone that millions of women swoon over.

That's the bit that I think both sexes struggle with - identifying those of the same sex without conventional good looks who still carry enormous amounts of sex appeal.

Saipanne

I can say a man is attractive, I just don't find them sexually attractive.

ThinkProgress

Health is the biggest indicator of attractiveness to our brains.

We are all capable of seeing people who are healthier/fitter/stronger... It's just that we call it something else. We label it beauty.

Just like we're all hyper sensitive to the signs of the aging process... as this is a visible sign of decline in health. (and hence beauty)

Things like facial structure, space between the eyes, size of ears... general proportions etc are all things we subconsciously associate with different degrees of beauty - but these are also the key signs of a stronger/healthier person too!

Greenmachine

I would see certain guys and recognise straight away, that a lot of girls would find them attractive. Other times I would miss it altogether, case in point: herself was watching "take me out", when an Irish lad came on, who looked like he had more make up, on t the 30 girls combined. Figured it would be a turnoff for a load of them, to date a guy, who was so image conscious, result no lights offs.

Wibbs

Has anyone said "no homo" yet?


I can tell the hard on the eye and easy on the eye extremes easily enough, but overall not so much. That's just on looks, other attractive qualities I'd be adrift on.

starling

garrixfan wrote: »

Dammn that must have been brutal for you! Interesting approach you took, are you good looking? Seems like a risky move if not. Did she try to make a move on this hunk?

What a weird thing to ask. Are you saying that if you were on a date with a woman, and she pointed out another woman who she thought was good looking, you'd say "Thanks for pointing her out, nice one" and then get up from the table and try to ride the other woman?

Brian from Bray

OFC I can recognize if another man is good looking and I'm sure most can too but are to afraid to admit it.

Kev W

I don't care how straight you are, if you look at Jon Hamm and your first thought isn't "Good Christ that's a good loooking man" there's something wrong with you.