Advantages of being single

Smidge

osarusan wrote: »

Ok, i'm convinced.

I'm calling a divorce lawyer.

While you're there will you make an appointment for me?
After the shenanigans of my oh lately it's either that or I will have to buy a shovel and I really despise manual labour.

Miley30

Smidge wrote: »

While you're there will you make an appointment for me?
After the shenanigans of my oh lately it's either that or I will have to buy a shovel and I really despise manual labour.

Is it that bad ?

wakka12

Miley30 wrote: »

Less money ?

One income instead of two.

Diamond Doll

I'm probably too recently out of a break-up to be posting here, but I find it so hard to think of advantages of being single. I'm certainly not looking at my most recent relationship with rose-tinted glasses - it wasn't a relationship anymore at all, for a long time before the end - but even with that, I'd never have wanted it to end, but to get better again. Because being in a happy secure long term relationship is so nice, that the advantages definitely outweigh the disadvantages. (I'm not saying I'd like to go back to an unhealthy relationship, just that I'd have liked to have been able to fix it so that things were back as good as they had been at the start.)

OK. Advantages of being single.

- More motivation to meet new friends, try new activities, etc
- More motivation to look after myself and get fit
- Bedsheets don't have to be changed as often. And no fighting over the duvet
- Financial independence
- No shortage of alone time or personal space
- Being able to make major life decisions (such as where to live) by myself, to suit myself
- Not having to plan meals to suit someone else's tastes (I can finally eat mushrooms again!)

I don't know. For every advantage I can think, there's about ten advantages of being in a relationship that would outweigh it! Having said that I've decided not to rush into trying to find a new relationship too soon. I amn't sure that my attitude towards relationships/singledom is all that healthy, and I guess I really need to get to a place where I'm completely happy on my own with my own life, before even thinking of starting something new.

kylith

For those who find themselves arguing over the duvet:

The best thing I ever did was to buy a king size duvet for a double bed. It hangs down well over the edges and makes it much harder for someone to hog the whole thing.

The Corinthian

kylith wrote: »

The best thing I ever did was to buy a king size duvet for a double bed. It hangs down well over the edges and makes it much harder for someone to hog the whole thing.

Two single duvets also works well.

Smidge

Miley30 wrote: »

Is it that bad ?

God yeah!
Have you ever tried digging a human sized hole in six inch heels?
Like I said, manual labour is the worst :P

ThinkProgress

On paper there are lots of advantages to being single, but in practice most of those things are more enjoyable and fulfilling when shared with someone else! (the right someone else)

SillyBeans

When I was single I really wanted to be in a relationship for the company, yet I still loved my lifestyle. Now that I have a boyfriend, I miss the freedom, having my own money to do what I like (relationships are expensive!), having my own bedroom, my house being clean and tidy and not covered in socks EVERYWHERE, only having to worry about my own financial situation, not having to take his opinion/job prospects into account if I want to move. Basically I need a long distance boyfriend who's never there :P

suicide_circus

It gives you more time to read things you find on the ground

SillyBeans

Being single has the advantage of going out on the pull too! Nothing like the thrill of the chase

Mister Vain

SillyBeans wrote: »

Being single has the advantage of going out on the pull too! Nothing like the thrill of the chase

I'd actually see that as a disadvantage. The thrill of the chase can be fun if it actually leads somewhere, but if you're constantly been rejected or treated rudely when you try and approach people then there's nothing advantageous about it.

kowloon

Candie wrote: »

And if you do for any reason, you can stop at the knee.

Like having mohair shorts?

kylith

The Corinthian wrote: »

Two single duvets also works well.

Nah. Twice as many bedclothes to change

Spanish Eyes

I'm probably a bit older than many on here. I have been with OH for - yikes.... 20 years now.

We each have our own houses, we get together three or four times a week with sleepovers etc. and it works for us. Each of us has our own "single" lives, and yet the times we get together are great too.

We have spoken lots of times about moving in together. Maybe we will some day, but for now, we have the advantage of both single and coupled lives.

I know that can't happen for everyone these days with the cost of accommodation and all the rest of it.

But I can certainly recommend it! For me (and it's not for everyone, I now that), it is the recipe for a FANTASTIC relationship.

And yes, of course we are always asked when will we get married, move in, etc. We just shrug. I reckon some of those asking that question are a ttttteeeeeennnnnyyyy bit envious of our set up.... maybe, maybe not. But being under pressure to conform is a bit tedious now. But we ignore that.

It's not perfect, but it works for us.

As that former TD Liz Mc Manus said of her partner.... he is the love of my life, but we do not, and probably will not ever live together" or words to that effect.

Slightly different generation here which I fully acknowledge.

So I don't know how many of you feel about this, would be interesting to find out!

Fox_In_Socks

Spanish Eyes wrote: »

I'm probably a bit older than many on here. I have been with OH for - yikes.... 20 years now.

We each have our own houses, we get together three or four times a week with sleepovers etc. and it works for us. Each of us has our own "single" lives, and yet the times we get together are great too.

We have spoken lots of times about moving in together. Maybe we will some day, but for now, we have the advantage of both single and coupled lives.

I know that can't happen for everyone these days with the cost of accommodation and all the rest of it.

But I can certainly recommend it! For me (and it's not for everyone, I now that), it is the recipe for a FANTASTIC relationship.

And yes, of course we are always asked when will we get married, move in, etc. We just shrug. I reckon some of those asking that question are a ttttteeeeeennnnnyyyy bit envious of our set up.... maybe, maybe not. But being under pressure to conform is a bit tedious now. But we ignore that.

It's not perfect, but it works for us.

As that former TD Liz Mc Manus said of her partner.... he is the love of my life, but we do not, and probably will not ever live together" or words to that effect.

Slightly different generation here which I fully acknowledge.

So I don't know how many of you feel about this, would be interesting to find out!

Apparantly, Tim Burton and Helena Bonham Carter have this arrangment where they live close to each other but in seperate houses.

Are you Helena Bonham Carter? I liked you in Frankenstein.

Spanish Eyes

Fox_In_Socks wrote: »

Apparantly, Tim Burton and Helena Bonham Carter have this arrangment where they live close to each other but in seperate houses.

Are you Helena Bonham Carter? I liked you in Frankenstein.

I think they are separated now, but what the heck, if it works, it works, if it doesn't, go yer separate ways.

And anyway, them slebs never seem to be happy anyway.