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Wedding Cost and Gifts

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    #92
    Jwacqui
    Registered Users Posts: 2,772 ✭✭✭Jwacqui


    Myself and my fiancé are planning our wedding for summer 2017.

    We are looking at about €23,000 and that's with a full spreadsheet with a budget for everything. There is nothing on the list that is extravagant. We will be having about 140-150 guests for the full day.

    We already have €15,000 saved and have another 22 months to save.

    We will be spending what we have saved and hoping to not get any loans.

    We won't be relying on presents but we will be expecting some of course! That will go back into savings and be a start on the house deposit for us.

    I am however very conscious of how much people give. It really differs on circumstance.

    From experience you can expect anything from nothing to €100-€200 per couple.


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    #93
    A_Sober_Paddy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,221 ✭✭✭A_Sober_Paddy


    Jwacqui wrote: »
    Myself and my fiancé are planning our wedding for summer 2017.

    We are looking at about €23,000 and that's with a full spreadsheet with a budget for everything. There is nothing on the list that is extravagant. We will be having about 140-150 guests for the full day.

    We already have €15,000 saved and have another 22 months to save.

    We will be spending what we have saved and hoping to not get any loans.

    We won't be relying on presents but we will be expecting some of course! That will go back into savings and be a start on the house deposit for us.

    I am however very conscious of how much people give. It really differs on circumstance.

    From experience you can expect anything from nothing to €100-€200 per couple.

    Sorry now, but your spending 23.000 on a wedding, and then saving for a house?


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    #94
    lazygal
    Registered Users Posts: 12,644 ✭✭✭✭lazygal


    A_Sober_Paddy wrote: »
    Sorry now, but your spending 23.000 on a wedding, and then saving for a house?
    That's their choice. As long as it doesn't affect you what does it matter? There's loads of things other people spend thousands on before buying a house, like trips around the world and brand new high end cars, that I'd never buy, but it makes no difference to me. Everyone has different priorities.


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    #95
    Tarzana2
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,553 ✭✭✭Tarzana2


    A_Sober_Paddy wrote: »
    Sorry now, but your spending 23.000 on a wedding, and then saving for a house?

    My sister and her husband has a modest wedding, without a lot of the trappings and with DIYing a lot of the stuff themselves, with less than 100 guests, and they hit €20,000 very easily. That included the honeymoon but anyone with a slightly bigger wedding and/or a more traditional day would hit that figure for the wedding alone quite easily. It all adds up very quickly!


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    #96
    Jwacqui
    Registered Users Posts: 2,772 ✭✭✭Jwacqui


    A_Sober_Paddy wrote: »
    Sorry now, but your spending 23.000 on a wedding, and then saving for a house?


    Yes we are. We are both young, have no children and getting married is very important to us.

    My fiancé is from Tipp and me from Dublin. We are both working and living in Dublin and we are not in a position to make a decision on where we want to live forever.

    We could choose Tipp, Dublin or somewhere in between.

    As the two previous posters have said its my decision to make and my money to choose how I spend it.

    As lazy girl says other people spend thousands on travelling or new cars. My car is nearly 10 years old and I drink about twice a year. It doesn't bother me if people want to spend thousands travelling. Doesn't impact me.

    €23,000 is not extravagant we have a careful budget. Weddings are expensive. We are not going all out but at the same time we are having what we both want.

    Also having €15,000 in wedding savings with two years to go is quite good I think, and that doesn't include our other savings.


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    #97
    fits
    Registered Users Posts: 13,297 ✭✭✭✭fits


    You dont need to justify yourself to strangers online Jwacqui. Sounds like ye are well sorted anyway.


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    #98
    stickybookmark
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,186 ✭✭✭stickybookmark


    A_Sober_Paddy wrote: »
    Sorry now, but your spending 23.000 on a wedding, and then saving for a house?

    That's her own business! Her life, her choices!


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    #99
    owen85
    Registered Users Posts: 139 ✭✭owen85


    You can cut on costs without it really damaging the joy of your wedding.
    transport.....use a family members car
    flower arrangements???
    drinks reception....make a deal with the hotel that allows you to bring the alcohol to them the day before the wedding for them and them to set it up and serve it.

    my sister in law sat around with her sisters (one of which could do a bit of basic photshopping) and made up invites.
    a drink or two per person during the meal is included, the rest they pay for themselves.

    anything more is splashing in my opinion / going back to tiger times. Youll have a nice time either way...just make sure you get to spend enough time with your wife on the day....so many newly weds regret that they didnt get a small bit of personal time in on the day..even if it was just for a stroll or a mid day romp


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    #100
    fits
    Registered Users Posts: 13,297 ✭✭✭✭fits


    owen85 wrote: »
    You can cut on costs without it really damaging the joy of your wedding.
    transport.....use a family members car
    flower arrangements???
    drinks reception....make a deal with the hotel that allows you to bring the alcohol to them the day before the wedding for them and them to set it up and serve it.

    We did all of this and it still added up. supplied a lot of booze mind.. Wedding costs add up fast. You just dont get it til you do it.


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    #101
    emzolita
    Registered Users Posts: 1,602 ✭✭✭emzolita


    owen85 wrote: »
    You can cut on costs without it really damaging the joy of your wedding.
    transport.....use a family members car
    flower arrangements???
    drinks reception....make a deal with the hotel that allows you to bring the alcohol to them the day before the wedding for them and them to set it up and serve it.

    well most venues will charge corkage fees for bringing in alcohol.
    Buying your own flowers are very expensive, then you have to buy wire, ribbon, and other florist materials.
    Invitations really add up when you DIY, buying nice quality paper, envelopes, stamps, ribbon and other appliques etc, let alone printing costs.




    23K would defo add up quickly for a modest wedding. if you're getting married in a decent venue, on a weekend in summer, youre gonna be paying peak prices for everything.
    If you want to spend a fortune on your wedding, and you have the money, go for it.


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    #102
    Second Toughest in_the Freshers
    Site Banned Posts: 1,735 ✭✭✭Second Toughest in_the Freshers


    expecting guests to pay for the wedding is one thing, but expecting them to pay for a deposit for your house, now thats going too far...


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    #103
    emzolita
    Registered Users Posts: 1,602 ✭✭✭emzolita


    Second Toughest in_the Freshers wrote: »
    expecting guests to pay for the wedding is one thing, but expecting them to pay for a deposit for your house, now thats going too far...

    who said that?


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    #104
    [Deleted User]
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    Second Toughest in_the Freshers wrote: »
    expecting guests to pay for the wedding is one thing, but expecting them to pay for a deposit for your house, now thats going too far...

    What was said was that they are going to pay for their own Wedding, THEN continue saving for a deposit on a house.


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    #105
    Jwacqui
    Registered Users Posts: 2,772 ✭✭✭Jwacqui


    Jwacqui wrote: »
    We won't be relying on presents but we will be expecting some of course! That will go back into savings and be a start on the house deposit for us.
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    Second Toughest in_the Freshers wrote: »
    expecting guests to pay for the wedding is one thing, but expecting them to pay for a deposit for your house, now thats going too far...

    Read my original post above. I am not expecting anyone to pay for a deposit for me. Do you know how much a deposit for a house is? My family and friends are not that rich.

    Everyone receives wedding presents and it's the bride and groom that get to decide what they do with it. Some people get a loan for the wedding and use presents to pay off the loan. I'm choosing to pay my wedding in full and put any cash presents into my savings.

    All presents regardless of what they are will be appreciated and I will not be relying on them as I said in my original post.


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    #106
    Toots
    Administrators, Business & Finance Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 16,909 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭Toots


    Second Toughest in_the Freshers wrote: »
    expecting guests to pay for the wedding is one thing, but expecting them to pay for a deposit for your house, now thats going too far...

    Second Toughest in_the Freshers I suggest that you have a read over the Charter, and also this announcement if you plan to continue using this forum.


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    #107
    stickybookmark
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,186 ✭✭✭stickybookmark


    Second Toughest in_the Freshers wrote: »
    expecting guests to pay for the wedding is one thing, but expecting them to pay for a deposit for your house, now thats going too far...

    Looks like they should just donate all the wedding presents to charity........

    it's the only option that would please some of the people on here it seems !!


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    #108
    Second Toughest in_the Freshers
    Site Banned Posts: 1,735 ✭✭✭Second Toughest in_the Freshers


    ah no, my post was very much tongue in cheek...

    (I knew i should have added a few of these :pac: :D :rolleyes: ;) :cool: )


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