Were you planned?

When the Sun Hits

Someone in another thread said most pregnancies are accidents. I have no idea whatsoever, so I thought I'd start a thread. Did your parents plan to have you? Or were you a pleasant surprise?

I was the first and last son of a couple who would have been on the older side of average for having children. The biological clock was ticking. I guess you could say I was the trophy at the end of a grueling series of practise runs and failed attempts. :pac:

kneemos

Son of Arthur.

Sheep Lover

I was a Word Cup baby... Thank feck we don't get to many World Cups or we'd have a huge family.

deise08

I doubt it.
All i know is they stopped after me!


(i keep telling myself that they stopped having sex after having me too.)

I've 3 siblings all born in the mid to late 70's and I showed up in 1989. I'll let you figure it out

One eyed Jack

I have no idea tbh whether I was or wasn't planned, it was just something I was never actually interested enough to ask my parents, though when my parents used say to me "You'll wish you'd never been born!", it confused me greatly, because at that moment was that not them wishing I'd never been born?

Give a fcuk tbh, I'm here now and there's sod-all they can do about it :pac:

Mugatuu

Nope I definitely wasnt planned! There's 6 kids in the family. Four years between me and my youngest brother, he was the biggest surprise apparently!

My mother thought she went into menopause the year after she had me. Three years without any periods after that and she was somehow pregnant with my little brother. I can only imagine the look on my Dads face when she told him she was expecting!!

rainbow kirby

21 year old parents and I was born 9 months after the Dubs won the 1983 All-Ireland. I really don't think there was much planning there.

Thespoofer

My Mother was 16 when she discovered I was on the way, so no, I don't think I was planned ( lucky I didn't end up in one of those laundry places back then ).

anncoates

Snotaul Goodman wrote: »

I've 3 siblings all born in the mid to late 70's and I showed up in 1989. I'll let you figure it out

Postman?

whatdoicare

I was definitely planned as my mam was one of the lucky few who had a brother living in UK forward thinking enough to agree to smuggle contraceptives to her back when they were illegal here.

She had huge health concerns that pregnancy would have been pretty risky for her and even at that her doctor wouldn't prescribe them :eek:

She finally decided to change doctors (or actually, I think he died and the new guy was his successor) and with his help she had me and my sister but for her it was nearly living in a hospital both times for the whole pregnancy and being monitored very closely for a long time after. Brave woman, my mum.

Hans Bricks

I was a "Beer Baby" according to the 'aul fella.

anncoates

anncoates wrote: »

Postman?

My best mates family is nearly exactly like mine. He is only a few weeks older than me and has 3 siblings all the same age as mine. Our brothers even have the same first name and went to school together. His aul lad was actually a post man so he's referred to as the post mans child at any given opportunity. I even have him saved as "post mans baba" in my phone

hairyslug

I was an accident, my ma called me a gift cause of the age of my parents.

Out of the 3 of ours, the 1st was an accident, the 2nd was planned (nothing as sexy as planned sex) and the 3rd just came earlier than planned, we had agreed that we wanted another and a few days later I came home to find a positive test and an emotional wife in the house

whatismyname

When the Sun Hits wrote: »

Did your parents plan to have you? Or were you a pleasant surprise?

Or a nasty, unwelcome surprise...?

WoolyJumper

Yes according to my Dad and no according to my Mam. Not sure what to make of that.

SMJSF

Nope! Mum never wanted kids, and I ended up being a product of my dads affair!

Manach

I am sure some dark prophecy harkened to mine coming.

catallus

Well, we're all created by God, so none of us are unplanned, in that sense....

pq0n1ct4ve8zf5

Nope, definitely not planned.

My mam's story of breaking the news to her mother (this was in the late 80s, they weren't married, and her mother is a super conservative Catholic, although she has mellowed a bit now) is great.

She and my dad went down for the weekend, my mother was terrified of her mother and she kept putting off the conversation. A few hours before they were supposed to be leaving she got my dad to take my aunt out for a walk so she could face my grandmother alone. Cue roaring and shouting and what did I do wrong rearing you that you turned out like this, how could you do this to me etc etc.

Then my dad lands back "Well Mrs McCarthy did she give you the news?"

"Ah she did, sure it's not the end of the world. These things happen, don't you be worrying. Sit down there now and have a cup of tea"

mikom

catallus wrote: »

Well, we're all created by God, so none of us are unplanned, in that sense....

So for instance.....god planned children born out of rape?
What a dick.

Feckthis

My friends dad told him one time when he was drunk "the best part of you David ran down me leg" ha

UpCork

Planned.

I think it must be terrible for any child to be told, even if they were, that they were an accident. I know someone this happened to and it is something that has always coloured her relationship with her Mum and Dad.

JupiterKid

Yes, I think I was planned. This was the mid 70s and my Mum was very fortunate to have had access to the pill. In fact quite a few forward thinking doctors in Ireland at the time prescribed the pill "to regulate periods" as opposed to the real reason - contraception. Where she managed to buy the pill is a mystery. Perhaps the doctor had them smuggled in.

I'm the youngest of 3. My older sister is 5 years ahead of me.

LizT

Yep, I'm the 2nd child of 3. My mum once told me 'we did a lot of trying for you'

Which, frankly, was more information than I ever needed to know

Witchie

My older brother wasn't planned, in fact from my calculations there may have been a shotgun at the wedding. I was planned though as my mum even told me that she was into horoscopes back in the day and knew that a Virgo (me) and a Taurus (my brother) would get on well so she planned me almost to the very date.

My younger brother 10 years later wasn't planned. Nor was my sister another 7 after that!

My dad always jokes that if he had gotten the finger out earlier he could have had a child born in the 60's, 70's, 80's and 90s, but the eldest was born in 1970.

KKkitty

I most certainly wasn't planned. I have 9 siblings so doubt any of us were planned.

WoolyJumper

catallus wrote: »

Well, we're all created by God, so none of us are unplanned, in that sense....

I don't think God fully thought it through when he planned some people.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

Wasn't planned either and dont think my little brother was either, concieved 6 months after I was born

When the Sun Hits

whatismyname wrote: »

Or a nasty, unwelcome surprise...?

I wanted to be nice about it. :P

UpCork wrote: »

Planned.

I think it must be terrible for any child to be told, even if they were, that they were an accident. I know someone this happened to and it is something that has always coloured her relationship with her Mum and Dad.

It seems like an awful trivial thing to be concerned about. I don't think I'd care. I'm not in that situation so I can't really say with certainty how it would affect me though, maybe it would?

Totally pointless thing to tell a child if it's likely to upset them though, one of those situations where a lie really has no negatives and may be the best option. Provided there is no question over who is the father.

corner of hells

Manach wrote: »

I am sure some dark prophecy harkened to mine coming.

Nigerian postman ?

Chain Smoker

Way too much so; four kids in quick succession after getting married was the plan, two boys and two girls so they'd each have someone to play with. I was supposed to be a girl but I dunno whether they were actually doing anything to ensure that, would not be surprised.
Always a bit wary of people who have this kind of stuff planned out too much before they even start.

According to whenwasiconceived.com, Tim Burton's Batman may've been what got them in the mood the night I was conceived, so that part's pretty cool.

UpCork wrote: »

I think it must be terrible for any child to be told, even if they were, that they were an accident. I know someone this happened to and it is something that has always coloured her relationship with her Mum and Dad.

Hugely disagree with this! How the parents deal with the child after they're born is far more important than how carefully things were planned out in advance, some plans are always gonna have to change and some people are gonna be better at adjusting to changes. It's gotta be better to be a conceived accidentally in a loving relationship than being used as a way to try and repair cracks in a deteriorating one too.
Now, if it's an accident that they did not genuinely want to keep, there's a very good chance that's going to colour their relationship with the child on the whole.

UpCork

True but from the experience of my friend she saw it as 'well if I was an accident, they musn't have wanted me'. Doubt everything thins like that, but it's how she sees it

micar

I'm a twin.

Does that make only one of us planned?

I think 95% of people that have ever lived on this planet have been "happy accidents"

Sir Osis of Liver.

Just checked that whenwasiconceived.com and to my horror this was No.1 that week.

deise08

Ha ha ha apparently i was conceived around April fools day ha ha ha

LadyAthame

I was planned. But what if that's something they say?

Scarinae

I was definitely planned, as were my siblings. Whenwasiconceived.com suggests that my parents may have watched Rocky IV to get in the mood ()

Galwayguy35

Don't think so, my mother was nearly 44 when I was born.

Antar Bolaeisk

I assume I was planned as there was bugger all happening at the time.

Although it was around the time that radiation from Chernobyl made it's way to Ireland so that might explain a few things...

lulu1

I would say I was a complete accident 10 years difference between myself and elder brother

Lia_lia

I doubt it, never asked!

Lia_lia

Scarinae wrote: »

I was definitely planned, as were my siblings. Whenwasiconceived.com suggests that my parents may have watched Rocky IV to get in the mood ()

I got Beetlejuice

eviltwin

We weren't planned but as good Catholics my parents were against contraception and willing to accept however many gifts God sent them. Only one of my two were planned.

Ilyana 2.0

I definitely was, firstborn of the marriage. My sister came along three years and twelve days later.

Quasi-military precision, by the looks of things.

Turtyturd

Ilyana 2.0 wrote: »

I definitely was, firstborn of the marriage.

Same here. I'd guess I was a honeymoon child by a rough calculation.

zcorpian88

My folks let slip after a few drinks and a game of cards that I was the only planned one, I got 2 sisters, one older and one younger, which would make me the middle child.

We all laughed about it with me laughing the most, because I felt a bit special.

Was a bit obvious anyway with my older sister because my mam was 16 when she had my sister 30 years ago, then again people in those days had kids a bit younger.

Peist2007

When Beckham named his kid Brooklyn my dad looked at me and said "we should have called you Sevilla". Sevilla was their honeymoon

petrolcan

Four of us.

First one in '70, born six months after they married.

Second 13 months later.

Third (me) 16 months after that.

Then a gap until '76 when the fourth appeared.

We always told him he was the accident.

We were bad people.

Rubberlegs

There's only 2 of us, and we were both planned. I'm the eldest and my mother tells me she thought I was never coming. Bleurrrrgh! My eldest is 21, and most definitely unplanned. She loves to tell me she is the unwanted one. I get a kick out of it when she has taken her 3yr old sister out, and someone has assumed she is her mother, ha !