How many friends have you got?

Zippie84

Dozen Wicked Words wrote: »

Zero, same as last time this question was asked, but I'd hope a few people I work with might go to my funeral and a few people I used to work with will say"ahh shame", before going back to discussing what happened in eastenders last night.

That sounds really tough. Are you happy with that or would you like it to be different? If you don't mind me asking, is there any particular reason things are that way?

Aineoil

Littlekittylou wrote: »

I wonder how many people consider me their friend. Sometimes it's not reciprocated.

Very good point.

Joeseph Balls

3 best friends (one a cousin if that counts). 3 that have stayed with me years. Do anything for each other. I have kids now, they are still single but have taken to my family like it was their own. Ones soon to be my best man, another soon to be godfather to my youngest. If we are away for a year we can take up where we left off. Everyone needs one or two of those friends, I'm lucky to have 3.

LucidLife

I just found out I am at zero.

Littlekittylou

LucidLife wrote: »

I just found out I am at zero.

Hug friend.:o

Aineoil

LucidLife wrote: »

I just found out I am at zero.

Another friend hug here.:)

Duke O Smiley

5 pretty close friends and then a few acquaintances etc

Tarzana2

5-10, just riiiiggght. I'm Goldimates.

crasy dash

Zero as well and very happy gave up on friends long time ago.
Finished school in 2004 never spoken to any of my" friends" since then.

Quite happy if I'm honest never bought into the whole you have to have friends to be accepted shyte.

Joeseph Balls

crasy dash wrote: »

Quite happy if I'm honest never bought into the whole you have to have friends to be accepted shyte.

Who the fug says that?

Lia_lia

I have 4 very close friends and then a few others who I wouldn't be that close to anymore. A few have moved to other countries, quite common at the moment with people my age!

Zippie84

crasy dash wrote: »

Zero as well and very happy gave up on friends long time ago.
Finished school in 2004 never spoken to any of my" friends" since then.

Quite happy if I'm honest never bought into the whole you have to have friends to be accepted shyte.

I never really thought of it as needing friends to be accepted, more about having connections, support in life, etc. But if you're happy that's what matters.

Dozen Wicked Words

Zippie84 wrote: »

That sounds really tough. Are you happy with that or would you like it to be different? If you don't mind me asking, is there any particular reason things are that way?

I'm happy enough. Laziness is the main reason.

Tarzana2

anncoates wrote: »

Excluding family, 8 very close /hardcore friends

Look, nobody needs to know what you get up to with your friends.

:pac:

Fuzzy Clam

I used to have quite a few friends but time has sorted the real friends from the rest. Only about 5 true friends now but also a couple who I know, but have never met, through work work I do for them.

Duggy747

I have a decent few but I rarely see them these days, so it'll be months before anyone talks to me.

Unless someone needs something fixed then they'll call.

Meangadh

I honestly have 25-30 close friends- that I can genuinely call on any time of the day or night. I never ever take for granted how insanely lucky I am. Within that number, there are probably around 5 I would talk to more often (as in every day), so yeah I'd definitely be closer to some.

I know it might seem like a big number, but between school, college, hobbies and just people I know from home, I've become friends with the best gang I could ever ask for.

Friendships do take work- on both sides- but so long as it's equal on both sides, like with any relationship, it's worth it.

Pwindedd

I guess the only person I could ring if I needed to get rid of a body is my husband. If it's his body I'm fücked!

Would like a close female friend but I've had a couple of female friends in the past screw me over so I don't let anyone too close now. Prefer the company of men TBH.

conorh91

Zippie84 wrote: »

one of them 'became nuts' in what way?

Off the rails. Drugs, violence, criminal offences, and last I heard is living in another part of the country under an assumed name, being in and out of psychiatric care. The smart, outgoing guy I played Xbox and rugby with is not recognizable today. Some people think something bad happened. I feel bad not trying to get in contact, but I just don't recognize the guy at all.

Actually the way I just described him doesn't say much for me as a friend, before anyone points that out. I know.

take everything

The only person you can truly count on is yourself. (/channeling Annette Being in American Beauty, the real hero of that film).

I don't have any friends and I'm pretty amazing.
I see people's flaws and go off them.

Weak enmeshed humans.

Melisandre121

I have an Italian friend whose lived in Ireland a few years now, she told me she really misses her friends back home and has noticed friends in Ireland aren't really that close. She said it seems to her that Irish friendships can be quite superficial and she can't understand why people aren't closer.

It's interesting to look at it from a cultural perspective, I know I don't have as many friends as I used to.

Galwayguy35

None, just people I know.

Jesus Wept

To those who said none, I'll be yeeera pal. :-)

Midkemia

Does my other half count :P

PLL

Desolation Of Smug wrote: »

Probably 2 or 3. Tops. Loads of pals, but I wouldn't count on them to tow me out of a ditch with a dead body in the boot and not judge me badly.

This. Lots of people I socialise with. Barely a handful I could tell my deepest darkest secrets too.

beks101

I've had friends come and go over the years. I've lived a transient life though, went to college on the other side of the country and have lived in 2 different countries since, so the friendships can be hard to maintain. I've been surprised at how some very close and very solid friendships fell by the wayside though, with both of us being to blame usually.

It can make you a bit jaded. I've found it can be harder to make friends once you're older because you sort of know how it goes - eventually you become less of a priority to one another, or one of you changes, or moves, or a new partner comes along and so the story goes.

To answer the question, I'd say I have three very close friends. People who have stood the test of time. Four if I were to include my younger sister. The rest I'd call acquaintances or people that I meet once every while when we're both in the same country/city and life isn't too busy.

zcorpian88

Well on Facebook I have 263 friends, out of all of them I would say I hang out with about 15-20 of them regularly and am close with.

Plenty of others I see now and again, would consider them friends but they are busy doing their own thing and they would have their own group of friends, some made up of people I don't like, that being more the reason I don't hang out with some, but I'd still acknowledge them.

Happy with the group I regularly hang with, I'd rather a smaller group of friends I'd see regularly than being constantly on the go seeing different friends all the time, not that I'm a snob but I like my down time and space sometimes plus I don't have the money or time to be engaging in activities that a large friend circle would want.

Zippie84

conorh91 wrote: »

Off the rails. Drugs, violence, criminal offences, and last I heard is living in another part of the country under an assumed name, being in and out of psychiatric care. The smart, outgoing guy I played Xbox and rugby with is not recognizable today. Some people think something bad happened. I feel bad not trying to get in contact, but I just don't recognize the guy at all.

Actually the way I just described him doesn't say much for me as a friend, before anyone points that out. I know.

that's a bit more like it. Better perhaps to describe him as a person and his situation, and try to understand rather than use a derogatory term that means nothing, except causes and re-enforcing mental health stigma.

pauliebdub

One really good friend and a fairly large family support network, and quite a few acquaintances who drift in and out of my life.

Frigga_92

I voted "just one" in the poll.
I don't really have friends in the traditional sense of the word.
My sister is my friend but that's a different type of friend.
I have a lot of male acquaintances because I drive a motorbike but they're not real friends.

I'd love to have a few female friends, even just 1 or 2, to socialise and do activities with.
I hate watching rom coms or tv shows that centre around a group of friends because it just makes me long for what I'm missing out on. There's no particular reason why I don't have female friends, I have tried but I just seem to pick the wrong type of people and that's made me very untrusting of people.