How long is long enough?

WhiteWalls

I have recently moved from Ireland to Canada. I don't like it here at all and I'm only here 3 weeks. How long more should I give it? Very tempted to book a flight home

SPM1959

6 months.

stimpson

Go home stimpson. You're drunk.

The Backwards Man

Three months at least for me. I've sometimes been in the pub for longer than youve been innn Canada.

Lando Griffin

WhiteWalls wrote: »

I have recently moved from Ireland to Canada. I don't like it here at all and I'm only here 3 weeks. How long more should I give it? Very tempted to book a flight home

I know its very cold this week for March but if you could last till the weekend it should warm up a bit.
St Patricks day is soon as well worth waiting for.

Berserker

SPM1959 wrote: »

6 months.

Would have said that too.

Eutow

WhiteWalls wrote: »

I have recently moved from Ireland to Canada. I don't like it here at all and I'm only here 3 weeks. How long more should I give it? Very tempted to book a flight home

Cold weather putting you off?

Lapin

Stick with it OP.


It's only first twenty years are the hardest.

SoftMicro

3 weeks is way too long. You should have your mind made up in 24 hours. Use any savings you have and go to Las Vegas

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

More a case of trying to work out why you don;t like it and why you wnet in the first place.

Can you fix it or is it a lost cause? If the former, do it and stay. If the latter, not much point in hanging around.

Is heading somewhere else like the US ar Australia an option, or would that just be a sideways move?

Mint Aero

2 months OP.

dodderangler

What have ya done since you got there? Have you explored it abit?
My mate is over there and doesn't wanna come home. There's always something to do there. He's there 4 years now.
Does rafting, hiking, hill climbing. All outdoors stuff and then in winter does snowboarding.
Living the life over there

Lapin

The Backwards Man wrote: »

Three months at least for me. I've sometimes been in the pub for longer than youve been innn Canada.

Yeah, you saw an ad on the side of a bus saying "DRINK CANADA DRY".

Desolation Of Smug

1 hour could do it for me. Feck what anyone else thinks, do what suits you. If you genuinely don't like it, leave. Only you know, and only you should decide. Feck public opinion.

Pinch Flat

6 inches

uck51js9zml2yt

You've not been there long enough unpack and find local local 24 hour shop.

You really need to give it a few months.

How old are you OP?

Kovu

Thought this would be about willies.

Thread is disappointing

WhiteWalls

Maryam Clever Hairline wrote: »

You've not been there long enough unpack and find local local 24 hour shop.

You really need to give it a few months.

How old are you OP?

24

fergaldevlin

Just 6 small questions. You say you "MOVED" there 3 weeks and you don't like it and want to come back....
Q1 Where did you get the money to move out there?
Q2 What are you living on for the last 3 weeks?
Q3 Where are you living...house, hut. shack. tent, room with wall padding.?
Q4 Who are you living with.?
Q5 Where did you get the money so you can move back?

Q6 Are you sure you actually "Left Ireland" or is it just a dream, sounds like it to me fella.

Kevin McCloud

When you are sick shit of the craic.

DoYouEvenLift

What made you emigrate from Ireland? I'm presuming it was no job opportunities in your line of work and you moved to Canada to find work? If so, what good will returning home do? Sure you mightn't like the place but you've hardly lived there at all and need to try settling in for at least a few months.


This mightn't be your situation at all OP but I don't understand people who have no chance of getting work in Ireland that emigrate only to want to return home and be unemployed at the first sign of homesickness within a few weeks. That's not long enough to even make some good friends which are what would really help. Why do so many people seem to give up at the first sign of difficulty nowadays?

Ruu

At least 3 months. Are you on a working visa or something? Would be a shame to waste it.

Frigga_92

I'd say give it between 3 and 6 months. If after 3 months you are still feeling the same way then get out of there, if you're feeling better than you do now, give it another 3 months.
Get to know people, make friends, do things that you wouldn't be able to do in Ireland.
Remind yourself why you moved there in the first place.

Daenarys

What is it you don't like about the place? IME It takes a while to settle in somewhere new OP.

You're probably only getting the basics set up, tax, bank, accommodation etc. so you'll feel very unsettled for a few weeks because everything is new and takes getting used to. It is hard going when you don't know many (or any!).

Try to give it 3 months, once you start working and meeting other people, get used to your own living space, you'll feel a lot better.

Don't isolate yourself when you're feeling homesick though, worse thing you could do.

Lenny Lushlips

They say 42 days, fours and seven minutes.

But it depends.

Why leave Canada?

Answer that, and you'll have answered the question, 'why leave Canada?'

BorneTobyWilde

Where are you located. I could guess and offend a lot of people .
Rather you say it .

Benteke

You're not missing much the place is still a kip

biko

Canada ain't for sissies.

Tbh, going in the dead of winter it'll be a bit different from here.
Stick it out until autumn at least.

Longer than that, when I made an actual move, it was pretty tough at the start. Took a couple of months to settle in.

donegaLroad

which part of Canada are you in OP? Im over and back to Canada all the time and been to most parts, except Calgary.

Mysterypunter

Stick around for a while.cant be much worse than Ireland. This country is in bits. Its boring too. Water charges, economy,banks, dole queues, sick of it all. Stay where you are. It doesnt matter where you live. Were all doomed anyway.

SadieSue

I'm in the same boat but I have been here way longer than you :pac: Montreal is the pits.

iamstop

Canada is pretty massive eh.
Where about are you OP? I'm in Winnipeg. Meet up for pint on Friday?

Judge Mental

The winter here can be a bit rough and isolating, wait till it warms up a bit at least. 3 weeks is too soon as well, you'll regret not giving it a go.

COYVB

Anywhere between Jan-March is a dreadful time to move out here with the weather, really (unless you're out west). Suck it up and give it a few months at least, otherwise you WILL spend the rest of your life wondering what would've happened if you stayed.

I arrived in Canada in August 2009, and I'm still here. It's worth sticking with it

coopdog85

WhiteWalls wrote: »

I have recently moved from Ireland to Canada. I don't like it here at all and I'm only here 3 weeks. How long more should I give it? Very tempted to book a flight home

I emigrated the first week of January, had a few setbacks when I first arrived and was very close to booking a flight home after a week but I was determined to stick it out for at least a month. I'm finally starting to feel a bit settled but it takes time. I'm here almost 2 months now & although I'm still not fully settled I feel I am getting there slowly.

I moved to North America & found it incredibly difficult due to the weather, I still find the weather to be the hardest to adjust to. Look OP, nobody can make up your mind only you. It's your life & you can do what you want.

Just try and remember why you moved in the first place and think of returning to Ireland without giving it a proper try. That's what I did and it helped me a great deal. If you want to give me a PM then fire away and I'll try to give you a bit of help because I only went through all this a few weeks ago. Best of luck anyway, hope everything works out for you whatever you decide to do.

Buona Fortuna

Give it time OP. I'm always facinated about "what makes us happy".

I can recall being unhappy and happy at the oddest of times.

Like being up to my nuts in mud clearing a ditch - but happy. Being surrounded by friends and family all ripping the $hit out of each other but the job clearly being worthwhile and going well.

Then arriving to somewhere on the Med on holiday. Group of good friends. But the flight was delayed about 3 hours and I don't like flying anyway. And then the receptionist being a total cvnt. Result - very pi$$ed off for the rest of the day.

Go figure. Start making a few friends, getting a bit settled in accomodation, job, hobbies, love life.

tl:dr - abourt 6 months

circadian

WhiteWalls wrote: »

I have recently moved from Ireland to Canada. I don't like it here at all and I'm only here 3 weeks. How long more should I give it? Very tempted to book a flight home

Where in Canada are you? If it's coastal BC, it'll be ok the rain will stop in about a month. Then it's summer which is all BBQ and beer.

Are you alone or living in an apartment with 20 other Irish people?

I doubt you're even over the jetlag!

Streetwalker

Give it a year and man up. You are a man right?

Lived in Toronto for years and when the spring hits it's plain sailing my friend. Oh and the wimmins love Irish men even I managed to get laid once or twice lol

Streetwalker

Mysterypunter wrote: »

Stick around for a while.cant be much worse than Ireland. This country is in bits. Its boring too. Water charges, economy,banks, dole queues, sick of it all. Stay where you are. It doesnt matter where you live. Were all doomed anyway.

Thing is you actually get something for your taxes in Canada so I didn't mind paying a high enough rate of tax whilst I lived there. In Ireland it goes towards keeping Wacko on the long term dole, Bertie with the long term pension and Thomas with the long term golden PS pension. Not to mention the bank debt tax.

handlemaster

WhiteWalls wrote: »

I have recently moved from Ireland to Canada. I don't like it here at all and I'm only here 3 weeks. How long more should I give it? Very tempted to book a flight home

two years

The Corinthian

WhiteWalls wrote: »

I have recently moved from Ireland to Canada. I don't like it here at all and I'm only here 3 weeks. How long more should I give it? Very tempted to book a flight home

Important question you need to ask yourself; you don't like it there or you don't like it not being home? If you've never lived abroad before, you may not be able to answer that, BTW.

It's an important question, because if it's just Canada you don't like, then the problem is that Canada may not suit you, but somewhere else might. If it's being away from home you don't like, then the problem is more to do with you and either you try to deal with it or you can go home to the village you came from and spend the rest of your life there, where you will be comfortable.

Depends on what you want in life.

HIB

The Corinthian wrote: »

Important question you need to ask yourself; you don't like it there or you don't like it not being home? If you've never lived abroad before, you may not be able to answer that, BTW.

It's an important question, because if it's just Canada you don't like, then the problem is that Canada may not suit you, but somewhere else might. If it's being away from home you don't like, then the problem is more to do with you and either you try to deal with it or you can go home to the village you came from and spend the rest of your life there, where you will be comfortable.

Depends on what you want in life.

Did the OP say he was from a village?

The Corinthian

HIB wrote: »

Did the OP say he was from a village?

He may not be literally, but if his issue is with being away from home, then he is metaphorically.

Kev_2012

What part are you in? Vancouver drove me nuts after the first month for about 2/3 months and then I loved it and don't wanna be back! You need to give it a few months. Pints/Battered Sausages/Hot Chicken rolls crap weather and negativity will always be here. You can only get the Working Holiday Visa once.

You need to YOLO Swag the sh!t out of it #hashtag m9

DarkyHughes

WhiteWalls wrote: »

I have recently moved from Ireland to Canada. I don't like it here at all and I'm only here 3 weeks. How long more should I give it? Very tempted to book a flight home

Go find the Trailer Park Boys, I''m sure Bubbles would have an extra shed you could sleep in, just take all the the bottles down to the dump & watch out for bees + snakes. And you'll have to use piss jugs, when they start to fill up just throw them on other peoples trailers.

Kev_2012

fergaldevlin wrote: »

Just 6 small questions. You say you "MOVED" there 3 weeks and you don't like it and want to come back....
Q1 Where did you get the money to move out there?
Q2 What are you living on for the last 3 weeks?
Q3 Where are you living...house, hut. shack. tent, room with wall padding.?
Q4 Who are you living with.?
Q5 Where did you get the money so you can move back?

Q6 Are you sure you actually "Left Ireland" or is it just a dream, sounds like it to me fella.

He's not your fella guy!

everlast75

WhiteWalls wrote: »

I have recently moved from Ireland to Canada. I don't like it here at all and I'm only here 3 weeks. How long more should I give it? Very tempted to book a flight home

Who says we want you back, huh?

HUH?

Caovyn Lineah

Have you made any friends?
Have you sorted a job?
Decent place to live?

All of these things will make your stay much better, believe me. If you are alone and missing home then try to get out and get involved in activities to take your mind off Ireland. I always say that its much better nowadays compared to when our parents and grandparents had to emigrate. Your family are only a phone call or a Skype call away.

denhaagenite

In all honesty it took me almost three years, but I had another language and migration within the country to deal with aswell so just my objective experience. Having said that, I'm doing a six month stint in Ireland at the moment and I am desperately homesick for NL

LorMal

Desolation Of Smug wrote: »

1 hour could do it for me. Feck what anyone else thinks, do what suits you. If you genuinely don't like it, leave. Only you know, and only you should decide. Feck public opinion.

Best post I have seen in ages. You are spot on DoS. I have spend far far too much of my time worrying about what other people think.
Op, if you hate it, come home - with your head held high - you made a decision about your own life. Nobody elses business.