I don't ever want a girlfriend(again), wife or kids

durpdurp

Does any one else find this strange? I never want a girlfriend or wife as would find it like prison. Wake up she's there, home from work she's there, having to check in with her on what I'm doing and always having her there would drive me up the wall. Im 28 now and had a few on off relationships back when I was 20 to 24 but they drove me cracked and longest one lasted three weeks and ended it then as couldn't stick having to check in, she wants a DVD night, your not going out tonight, getting annoyed over nothing etc etc. It could be rihanna, Taylor swift and I wouldn't last more than a week in a relationship without having to end it. I also never want children as they waste all your money, free time and there's more commitment in your life which I never want

I like travelling, sport and one nightstands. Anyone else like this or am I just a nut job?

Dormtrume

durpdurp wrote: »

Does any one else find this strange? I never want a girlfriend or wife as would find it like prison. Wake up she's there, home from work she's there, having to check in with her on what I'm doing and always having her there would drive me up the wall. Im 28 now and had a few on off relationships back when I was 20 to 24 but they drove me cracked and longest one lasted three weeks and ended it then as couldn't stick having to check in, she wants a DVD night, your not going out tonight, getting annoyed over nothing etc etc. It could be rihanna, Taylor swift and I wouldn't last more than a week in a relationship without having to end it. I also never want children as they waste all your money, free time and there's more commitment in your life which I never want

I like travelling, sport and one nightstands. Anyone else like this or am I just a nut job?

Makes sense. I already have a wife and kids so too late for me. I'd break up only for I couldn't afford to pay rent for an apartment and the mortgage etc.

StormWarrior

I'm female and I feel the same. Had a 2 year relationship once. Very boring and tiresome. Never again.

jester77

You just haven't found the right one. When you do, you will know. You'll come home, and the house is clean and dinner is on the table. You go out with the lads, come home in the early hours all over the place, she will put you to bed and have a good fry up ready for you in the morning. You get horny and she will satisfy your needs.

iMac_Hunt

You're meeting the wrong women if within 3 weeks they're telling you, you can't go out!

anncoates

durpdurp wrote: »

I like travelling, sport and one nightstands. Anyone else like this or am I just a nut job?

At least this kind of love is easily found in a furniture shop without recourse to human relationships.

Penny Tration

Sounds like you've just met some crap girlfriends!

I don't want kids either, but I had relationships like you described, and hated them.

Now, I'm with someone who never, ever has me check in, I never ask for permission to do anything, none of that crap. If I want a night in and he wants a night out, he goes off with the lads, and I stay in and chill. Nice and easy.

If you meet a girl who is right for you, you won't have all of that bad stuff.

kylith

anncoates wrote: »

At least this kind of love is easily found in a furniture shop without recourse to human relationships.

And if you don't have a girlfriend you only need one nightstand.

durpdurp

jester77 wrote: »

You just haven't found the right one. When you do, you will know. You'll come home, and the house is clean and dinner is on the table. You go out with the lads, come home in the early hours all over the place, she will put you to bed and have a good fry up ready for you in the morning. You get horny and she will satisfy your needs.

Yea but my point been she's still going to be around the place and sharing a bed. Would drive me cracked.

everlast75

durpdurp wrote: »

Does any one else find this strange? I never want a girlfriend or wife as would find it like prison. Wake up she's there, home from work she's there, having to check in with her on what I'm doing and always having her there would drive me up the wall. Im 28 now and had a few on off relationships back when I was 20 to 24 but they drove me cracked and longest one lasted three weeks and ended it then as couldn't stick having to check in, she wants a DVD night, your not going out tonight, getting annoyed over nothing etc etc. It could be rihanna, Taylor swift and I wouldn't last more than a week in a relationship without having to end it. I also never want children as they waste all your money, free time and there's more commitment in your life which I never want

I like travelling, sport and one nightstands. Anyone else like this or am I just a nut job?

StormWarrior wrote: »

I'm female and I feel the same. Had a 2 year relationship once. Very boring and tiresome. Never again.

Sounds like you two are made for each other

sbsquarepants

You were with some chick for 3 weeks and she was telling you, you couldn't go out?

You don't need to swear off women for life - just cúnts!

durpdurp

Jenny Thalia wrote: »

Sounds like you've just met some crap girlfriends!

I don't want kids either, but I had relationships like you described, and hated them.

Now, I'm with someone who never, ever has me check in, I never ask for permission to do anything, none of that crap. If I want a night in and he wants a night out, he goes off with the lads, and I stay in and chill. Nice and easy.

If you meet a girl who is right for you, you won't have all of that bad stuff.

Just don't want someone around sharing a bed and having to 'entertain' someone. Couldn't be bothered.

TheBeardedLady

No, I don't find it strange. It's not very strange, in fairness! Strange is carrying around a suitcase with only an onion and a biro inside, not wanting to remain single.

jester77

durpdurp wrote: »

Yea but my point been she's still going to be around the place and sharing a bed. Would drive me cracked.

Just lock her in the basement for the night!

buck65

StormWarrior wrote: »

I'm female and I feel the same. Had a 2 year relationship once. Very boring and tiresome. Never again.

ye should get together!

folan

monogamy is awesome forever.

Banjo String

 I never want a girlfriend or wife as would find it like prison

Have you ever been to prison?

FFS, last time I had a gf in prison, she had a bigger mickey than I had, and her name was Big Roy. :mad:

durpdurp

StormWarrior wrote: »

I'm female and I feel the same. Had a 2 year relationship once. Very boring and tiresome. Never again.

Wanna be sex buddies?

The Peanut

durpdurp wrote: »

Does any one else find this strange? I never want a girlfriend or wife as would find it like prison. Wake up she's there, home from work she's there, having to check in with her on what I'm doing and always having her there would drive me up the wall. Im 28 now and had a few on off relationships back when I was 20 to 24 but they drove me cracked and longest one lasted three weeks and ended it then as couldn't stick having to check in, she wants a DVD night, your not going out tonight, getting annoyed over nothing etc etc. It could be rihanna, Taylor swift and I wouldn't last more than a week in a relationship without having to end it. I also never want children as they waste all your money, free time and there's more commitment in your life which I never want

I like travelling, sport and one nightstands. Anyone else like this or am I just a nut job?

Really to the part in bold?

Many of my friends were like this. Get back to us when you're over 40. The 1-night stands get more difficult to acquire; you've the same idea of the level of women you want but you're less appealing to many as you're older yourself.

28 is young. Enjoy all the things you're doing; too young to be settling down anyway.

Penny Tration

durpdurp wrote: »

Just don't want someone around sharing a bed and having to 'entertain' someone. Couldn't be bothered.

Lots of couples don't share beds, except for 20 mins for sex, and you don't need to 'entertain' anyone once the honeymoon period has worn off!

That said, plenty of people are happily single too, so whatever works for you, do it

Banjo String

Jenny Thalia wrote: »

Lots of couples don't share beds, except for 20 mins for sex , and you don't need to 'entertain' anyone once the honeymoon period has worn off!

That said, plenty of people are happily single too, so whatever works for you, do it

Show off

Penny Tration

Banjo String wrote: »

Show off

Well, the average man lasts 3-5 mins of penetrative sex, but I was trying to be nice to all of you

Wacker The Attacker

Jenny Thalia wrote: »

Well, the average man lasts 3-5 mins of penetrative sex, but I was trying to be nice to all of you

Thats ages

Banjo String

Jenny Thalia wrote: »

Well, the average man lasts 3-5 mins of penetrative sex, but I was trying to be nice to all of you

2 shakes of the ass and it's all over for me I'm afraid. :mad:

beertons

If you were in prison, you don't have the option of a girlfriend.

ShaShaBear

My partner was sworn off women and moving to America for a life of easy sex and single life.

Until I got him into bed. Now we're engaged and have a baby, and trying for our second one. I don't think he knows what hit him :pac:

iMac_Hunt

Jenny Thalia wrote: »

Well, the average man lasts 3-5 mins of penetrative sex, but I was trying to be nice to all of you

If that is correct, I'm below average!!
Thank you for ruining my day 😞

Banjo String

beertons wrote: »

If you were in prison, you don't have the option of a girlfriend.

Palmela and her 5 sisters.

Baggy Trousers

Banjo String wrote: »

Palmela and her 5 sisters.

More like Bubba and his 5 brothers! :eek:

durpdurp

I think I'll get 10 cats when I'm 40, and people can call me crazy cat man

The Corinthian

jester77 wrote: »

You just haven't found the right one. When you do, you will know.

She'll be sitting next to Jesus when you find him too.

You'll come home, and the house is clean and dinner is on the table. You go out with the lads, come home in the early hours all over the place, she will put you to bed and have a good fry up ready for you in the morning. You get horny and she will satisfy your needs.

How's the weather in 1953?

The Peanut wrote: »

Many of my friends were like this. Get back to us when you're over 40. The 1-night stands get more difficult to acquire; you've the same idea of the level of women you want but you're less appealing to many as you're older yourself.

As someone well over 40, I wouldn't necessarily agree. Never underestimate the number of 25-year old women out there with father complexes.

But one-night-stands do get harder, more correctly, you're less willing to put in the effort to get one.

Wacker The Attacker

durpdurp wrote: »

I think I'll get 10 cats when I'm 40, and people can call me crazy cat man

pussy man

Firefox11

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lpi7r7TTxGU

Grayson

folan wrote: »

monogamy is awesome forever.

Monogamy is only sleeping with one person at a time.

Guy:Incognito

durpdurp wrote: »

they drove me cracked and longest one lasted three weeks and ended it then as couldn't stick having to check in, she wants a DVD night, your not going out tonight, getting annoyed over nothing etc etc. It could be rihanna, Taylor swift and I wouldn't last more than a week in a relationship without having to end it.

Have you tried going out with anyone older than 15?

polydactyl

Dormtrume wrote: »

Makes sense. I already have a wife and kids so too late for me. I'd break up only for I couldn't afford to pay rent for an apartment and the mortgage etc.

God you really need to do your wife a favour and leave her. Two threads now you have said you are only staying with her cause its cheaper than rent. What an awful marriage, the poor woman.

As for OP youa re 28, enjoy life and worry about being strange later on in life. My brother was like you at 28, seemed like he was walloped over the head on his 30th birthday as suddenly all he wanted was to get married and have kids.

You are not strange just young.

JohnnyChimpo

ShaShaBear wrote: »

My partner was sworn off women and moving to America for a life of easy sex and single life.

Until I got him into bed. Now we're engaged and have a baby, and trying for our second one. I don't think he knows what hit him :pac:

Poor lad, was so close to freedom.

Dormtrume

polydactyl wrote: »

God you really need to do your wife a favour and leave her. Two threads now you have said you are only staying with her cause its cheaper than rent. What an awful marriage, the poor woman.

As for OP youa re 28, enjoy life and worry about being strange later on in life. My brother was like you at 28, seemed like he was walloped over the head on his 30th birthday as suddenly all he wanted was to get married and have kids.

You are not strange just young.

I'm staying with her because I don't want to be homeless.

kylith

Dormtrume wrote: »

I'm staying with her because I don't want to be homeless.

Does she know this?

Dormtrume

kylith wrote: »

Does she know this?

I don't know.

I could break up I suppose but would have to stay living in the house.

wandatowell

Whats this "checking in" bollox I hear about?

kylith

Dormtrume wrote: »

I don't know.

Which is a no. You haven't told her that you're only staying with her because you don't think you can afford a flat. She thinks the relationship is fine, or knows that there are problems but thinks ye work through/around them.

That's a pretty shtty thing to do to someone, tbh.

K_user

OP,

I'm pushing 40 and have been in the same relationship since I was 17. Essentially I've never truly been single. What this means is that there are few moments in life that I can't happily, or not so happily, recall with the person that I shared those moments with. That trip to London when we where 18, the holiday in Florida in '99, my sisters confirmation all the way to the day she got married, my fathers death, when she got sick a few years back, we've been through it all. I believe that I am a very lucky man.

Are there disadvantages? Of course there are. But they are out weighed by the multiple advantages.

I also think your analogy about how being in a relationship is like being in prison is incorrect. From the little knowledge that I have about being in prison it is a survival of the fittest, stand your own ground, fight your own corner or get trampled environment. That sounds more like life as a single person. A better analogy about being in a relationship would be that its like being in the army. Everything is done together, you constantly work things out as a team and that you always have each others backs. Can't see how that is a bad thing.

Dormtrume

kylith wrote: »

Which is a no. You haven't told her that you're only staying with her because you don't think you can afford a flat. She thinks the relationship is fine, or knows that there are problems but thinks ye work through/around them.

That's a pretty shtty thing to do to someone, tbh.

The relationship is fine, we're generally both happy, I just want to ride other women.

triple nipple

maybe you're secretly gay

kylith

Dormtrume wrote: »

The relationship is fine, we're generally both happy, I just want to ride other women.

It's not fine if you want to move out so you can (attempt) to ride other women and you haven't told her this.

I stand by my 'pretty shtty' comment.

Dormtrume

kylith wrote: »

It's not fine if you want to move out so you can (attempt) to ride other women and you haven't told her this.

I stand by my 'pretty shtty' comment.

Overall I stand by my decision not to move out or break out as the consequences are negative for everyone involved.

bnt

I'm in a similar position, and I think this is another case where a little history helped to clarify things. The idea - that having kids is always a good thing - is founded on obsolete ideas and systems. The whole cost structure is different, and the consequences of failure are higher.

Imagine living in a tribe in the Amazon jungle. Women from different generations would stay in the village and take care of the kids while the men were off hunting. They had to be fed, and that was about it for costs. A few might toddle off in to the jungle and get eaten by jaguars, or eat something bad and die - but it was the jungle.

Now, people live in overcrowded cities. where everyone has to work to make ends meet (no stay-at-home mothers). Every kid is precious because of the sacrifices and investments of time etc. you have to make, just to keep the kid alive and safe in the concrete jungle. If your kid dies, all that investment is wasted, and if the law suspects it's your fault, you can be prosecuted.

In short looking at it from the outside: having a kid today is like willingly walking in to a minefield. One wrong step, it all blows up in your face. "It takes a village to raise a child"? The village is gone: everyone around you is fighting to survive and has no time, resources or interest in helping you raise yet another resource-munching parasite the world does not need. :cool:

catallus

Dormtrume wrote: »

Overall I stand by my decision not to move out or break out as the consequences are negative for everyone involved.

This country, indeed a lot of "civilised" countries, are so backwardly insular when it comes to affairs of the heart.

The State's inhuman view of human nature belittles us all by forcing monogamy on us through marriage. But changes are happening, maybe too late for us, but tiny steps are the way change happens.

ShadowHearth

ShaShaBear wrote: »

My partner was sworn off women and moving to America for a life of easy sex and single life.

Until I got him into bed. Now we're engaged and have a baby, and trying for our second one. I don't think he knows what hit him :pac:

You damn dream killer! Poor fella! :pac:

The Peanut

ShadowHearth wrote: »

You damn dream killer! Poor fella! :pac:

In all fairness, if you're going to have your dreams killed, it's a great way to go.