American girl comes to study in Ireland, leaves after 12 days and blames the country

My name is URL

http://www.xojane.com/relationships/i-moved-around-the-world-for-graduate-school-and-then-dropped-out

This bit is just great

Until the bomb dropped: that Master’s degree that I thought I was getting? Turns out I was registered for something else.

What a silly ****. She completely failed to plan accordingly for a move to a different country yet somehow manages to blame everything but that on why she didn't have a good experience here.

Fcuking rage inducing!

Some of the comments below the article are golden

Wonderful. You seem really intelligent and circumspect and like you totally learned something from your carefully-considered decision to "move to Ireland" for twelve whole days. The best part of this article was your critical examination of the white privilege dripping off of you like agave syrup down the side of a Pumpkin Spice Latte. As you said in the article, this experience definitely helped you "stretch your boundaries" and "grow as a person," but I'm glad you finally made it back to the safety of the Minnesota coffee shops where you belong!

Red Kev

She was living in Cork.


'nuff said.







(TBH she sounds a bit nutty)

Sounds like she freaked out and blamed the university, her apartment and our lack of cafe culture instead of just saying "I was scared and then homesick." Nothing wrong with that.

The Backwards Man

I wouldn't be too hard on her. She's not the first person to have an idea of a place in their head that was completely different from reality

shruikan2553

Sounds about right. Should have done a bit of research about life in cork if she needed a pumpkin spice latte so badly.

kearnc25

Chill dude she got crucified in the comments section of her article.

Tedddy

Culture shock as Cork is not like a generic US city.

the dark phantom

This part is fair funny..

"I was treated to my first glimpse of the city that I would be living in: it was small, cramped, and very gray. Concrete buildings, graffiti, and the smallest sidewalks I had ever laid eyes on made up most of the city."

Venus In Furs

City being small in mostly rural country of 5 million shocker!

harney

In all fairness, was it too much to add

tl;dr she moved to Cork.

Seriously!

/shakes head and wanders off mumbling expletives

RDM_83 again

Its hard to feel that annoyed about a young women that has depression not handling moving to cork well, that articles just a bit depressing to me really, yeah she is really arty in the worst kind of way and seemingly overpriviliged but its hard being on your own and in a new place.
Hell I found living a youth hostel for two months in cork a tough lonely stretch and I was a 30 year old (fairly) mentaly stable Irish guy that knew a few people there

My name is URL

The Backwards Man wrote: »

I wouldn't be too hard on her. She's not the first person to have an idea of a place in their head that was completely different from reality

It's one thing to have unreasonable or misguided expectations of a place, but quite another to completely fail to do any research before heading off to a new country and then blaming others when you don't like it. Moaning about timezone differences ffs!

She doesn't even try to aknowledge the fact that she failed so miserably to do any research

There are some things you know in ways you can’t express with logic. Did I come home because the program wasn’t what I thought it was? Was it because my eating disorder was kicking up again in nasty and unexpected ways? Had I finally realized that I had an utterly kickass life back in Minnesota and I wanted it back? There were elements of all of these things, but what it came down to was certainty.

I feel sorry for the person that likely missed out on a college place because of her.

kearnc25

In her defense she apologized in the comments and stated it was her own mental health that was the problem.

Egginacup

The Backwards Man wrote: »

I wouldn't be too hard on her. She's not the first person to have an idea of a place in their head that was completely different from reality

OMFG you're so totally right! I went to Morocco one time. They didn't speak English and my lawsuit for getting, like, sunburnt, is still, you know, happening.

ireland.man

She's an adult starting a masters programme (or yoga lessons or whatever the hell she managed to sign herself up for), she put a lot of blame on her father for getting them lost. It's a small bit but I'm struck by how she didn't say "we got lost" but "he managed to get me lost". After reading it I'm pitying the poor dad...

Egginacup

RDM_83 again wrote: »

Its hard to feel that annoyed about a young women that has depression not handling moving to cork well, that articles just a bit depressing to me really, yeah she is really arty in the worst kind of way and seemingly overpriviliged but its hard being on your own and in a new place.
Hell I found living a youth hostel for two months in cork a tough lonely stretch and I was a 30 year old (fairly) mentaly stable Irish guy that knew a few people there

Stop apologising for a retard.

Angry_Mammarys

She comes across as incredibly spoilt and immature, Whilst I acknowledge she suffers from mental health issues, all her grievances just seemed to be petty and materialistic, also LOL at 'the Irish like horrible coffee and not getting work done':pac:

TheLastMohican

Minnesota is famous for bland cheeses. A lump of Carrigaline Farmhouse Cheese in a french stick after a feed of pints would be the right job to calm her heaving breasts. Bless.

Pat Mustard

She wanted a café with WiFi. Apparently UCC has WiFi.

She says that her degree course wasn't a masters but then she said that she could get a masters after a further 6 months:

that Master’s degree that I thought I was getting? Turns out I was registered for something else. And the Master’s degree would require an additional six months in Ireland.

The day after she discovered this, she booked her ticket home.

The whole thing sounds like she hadn't prepared adequately or researched her degree course, had a depressive episode, wasn't handling things too well, and went home after 12 days.

yabadabado

fruitcake.

Angry_Mammarys

She sounds a tad bit up her own bum bum.

kneemos

Can't see how it makes a blind bit of difference if a young won doesn't like it here and returns home.
Are Irish people really that insecure?

Nodster

Minnesota sounds like a proper sh1thole

shruikan2553

kneemos wrote: »

Can't see how it makes a blind bit of difference if a young won doesn't like it here and returns home.
Are Irish people really that insecure?

Nah, she went to cork. Plenty of Irish people wouldn't last 12 hours there.

The_Valeyard

Talk about shot down by those commenting on her article.


More about mental health than anything else. Didn't work out for her, these things happen, we all make mistakes when we are young.

I made the mistake of visiting Cork when I was young. I joke, but seriously, sh*t happens.

kearnc25

TheLastMohican wrote: »

Minnesota is famous for bland cheeses. A lump of Carrigaline Farmhouse Cheese in a french stick after a feed of pints would be the right job to calm her heaving breasts. Bless.

How dare you sir Minnesota will always be famous for the mighty ducks and the legend that is Marshall Erickson

astonaidan

The Backwards Man wrote: »

I wouldn't be too hard on her. She's not the first person to have an idea of a place in their head that was completely different from reality

I would say from my personal experience Toronto fits this with me

Highflyer13

Meh wouldn't be too annoyed with her. She seems to have a few issues going on.

The other fella

The whole area around UCC and into city center is like little Americatown with coffee shops and nerdy "using a laptop in public while drinking that coffee" types everywhere.Whats her problem?

Highflyer13

astonaidan wrote: »

I would say from my personal experience Toronto fits this with me

Im moving there next year to pick up a professional career which will hopefully last for a long time. What was wrong with it out of interest? I've heard loads of good things about it.

A Neurotic

Strongly reminds me of a Valley Girl who was in my Masters class. Had patronisingly romanticised notions of Dublin/Ireland and seemed to have a terrible time adjusting to the reality of the place. Also had the maturity of a 15 year old.

Magico Gonzalez

Spent a year in minneapolis, joyless turdbucket of a place. Would take Cork before any where in minnesota all day long. Cold, boring people.

The other fella

Magico Gonzalez wrote: »

Spent a year in minneapolis, joyless turdbucket of a place. Would take Cork before any where in minnesota all day long. Cold, boring people.

Dont they have a shopping center there with a roller coaster going through it?

Tarzana2

My name is URL wrote: »

Fcuking rage inducing!

No it's not.

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

So, 19-year old goes abroad in badly reserched trip and doesn;t enjoy herself. I did the same thing myself at that age (although not halfway roudn the world).

Is she unprepared for life in a foreign country? Absolutely.

Is she a "friutcake"? ****, no. Stop being silly.

Are people overreating because someone didn't **** glitter about their time in Ireland? Yes, Kent, yes they are.

Karl Stein

"This isn't 'Disney-Ireland', I don't like what's happening, and it's everyone else's fault".

I feel sorry for her that her blog is now immortalised on the internet.

My name is URL

Karl Stein wrote: »

"This isn't 'Disney-Ireland', I don't like what's happening, and it's everyone else's fault".

I feel sorry for her that her blog is now immortalised on the internet.

It's not her blog. It's one of the most popular female lifestyle and feminist websites online


Good to see they have such strong and independent contributors

d.pop

Ahh, hold on now.
Last week there was a thread on here about how crap a whole country was, Australia, based on people's accents, the beer and lack of culture and nobody bats an eyelid.
Today somebody from overseas with some issues comments that a part of Ireland was crap and people are out for a lynching.
I can't keep up....

Tombi!

I got to something like "in quaint Irish fashion there was no Wi-Fi".

Hi, from someone that lives in Ireland: Please, f**k off.

Sincerely, f**k you

It's a blog site, I hope... or at least akin to a tumblr ranting about the latest next generation of oppresion

Rhys Essien

RDM_83 again wrote: »

Its hard to feel that annoyed about a young women that has depression not handling moving to cork well, that articles just a bit depressing to me really, yeah she is really arty in the worst kind of way and seemingly overpriviliged but its hard being on your own and in a new place.
Hell I found living a youth hostel for two months in cork a tough lonely stretch and I was a 30 year old (fairly) mentaly stable Irish guy that knew a few people there

You could be the loneliest man in the middle of Manhattan.Its all down to what way your head is.She later admitted her mental health wasnt great.Its just a pity she had to go bashing the place.

Karl Stein

My name is URL wrote: »

It's one of the most popular female lifestyle and feminist websites online

How the fuck do you know that?

Boskowski

Jesus guys calm down. I read stuff here all the time where boards people rip the pi$$ out of other (non-Irish) places. I actually read that and I get some of her points.

Someone didn't like a place in Ireland. Big deal. Get over it.

My name is URL

Karl Stein wrote: »

How the fuck do you know that?

http://www.forbes.com/pictures/lmj45fmhi/xojane/

Bipolar Joe

I don't buy her disorders for a second. She's just another spoiled little child born into the Tumblr age.

Karl Stein

My name is URL wrote: »

http://www.forbes.com/pictures/lmj45fmhi/xojane/

Huh?

For the second consecutive year, ForbesWoman today releases its list of the Top 100 Websites For Women in 2011 to spotlight the best the Web has to offer.

ForbesWoman?

2011?

How do you know all this?

Tony EH

After perusing swiftly through that link, she just comes across as yet another self entitled, spoiled, American cunt, that's going to, lamely, use "depression" as an excuse for her own inability to manage her inflated expectations from life. Just another precious soldier in the increasingly vast "me, me, me army" that stinks up the world.

A Veruca, feckin, Salt who's "I want it now" attitude is destined to fail her every single time, unless someone or something wakes her up to the realities of the planet she's living on.

ardle1

I read her blog and I dont find it to insulting, she could have said a lot worse especially about the mix up at the university,
But I don't get why she put a photo of Harry Potter at the end of her post!?

RayM

If a person is alone, mentally ill and facing the prospect of a long stay in a strange city (and Cork is a very strange city), thousands of miles from their comfort zone, I think it's understandable that they might be incapable of viewing the place in a positive light. You don't have to be 'spoilt', 'a retard' or 'a self-entitled cunt' (just some of the unpleasant phrases posted on this thread) to feel that way. When you're depressed, everything seems shit. It's not a 'reasonable' illness.

I know some people get a bit hysterical when their precious country is unfairly criticised, but some of the comments on this thread are a bit fucking grim, to be honest.

Irish Guitarist

I find the confusion between 'trolled' and 'trawled' and her idea that travel takes on a new meaning when the T is capitalised the most annoying parts of that article.

DoYouEvenLift

It's hilarious seeing all these people who want to be and claim they're independent but as soon as something even slightly negative and inconvenient happens to them which they could've prevented they still point the finger at whoever they can.


What kind of fuking kunt travels to an entirely different continent and complains that it is different to whatever they're used to back home?

salamanca22

Princess Consuela Bananahammock wrote: »

So, 19-year old goes abroad in badly reserched trip and doesn;t enjoy herself. I did the same thing myself at that age (although not halfway roudn the world).

Is she unprepared for life in a foreign country? Absolutely.

Is she a "friutcake"? ****, no. Stop being silly.

Are people overreating because someone didn't **** glitter about their time in Ireland? Yes, Kent, yes they are.

24 year old*